Using the husband's surname, will you or will you not?

[Prunella]

I'll use my h2b's surname.

[red_one]

i'm using my hubby's surname, when i got married. ayoko kasi magtampo sakin hubby ko, na parang di ko sya fully accepted as a husband. i just want to respect him. imo.

[17arci]

I'll use his surname

[mei-mei]

I'm married for more than 2 years na but until now I still use my single family name. good thing na I used my japanese name kasi it's normal naman na japanese wives don't follow the family name of their husbands thought the children MUST follow their father's surname. I just don't know why most of the filipinas who are married to japanese follow the surname's of their husbands. siguro they are following the phil. custom na you will follow the surname of your husband. btw, is there a law that states that we must do that? isa pang reason why I didn't use my hubby's surname is that ayaw ko sa surname nya.  masyado kasing ordinary. parang sa town namin andaming ganun ang apelyido tapos hindi pa lahat magkakamag anak. what more sa buong pilipinas. samantalang sa surname ko nung single ako kami lang ang ganung apelyido sa town namin at magkakamag anak lahat.

same reason as mine. sobrang ordinary ng surname ni hubby plus i dont like to be called Mrs. ___ like my MIL.  my maiden surname is unique and i'm the only person in the world with this name (first name + surname) while pag nagchange ako sa surname ni hubby, thousands na un may name na ganun.  hassle pa un pagpalit ng lahat ng docs since we're based overseas.  so after 3 yrs of marriage, still using my maiden name and no plan to change.  hubby is ok with it. he also doesn't like his mother, more than me, and also doesn't like me called Mrs. ___ like his mom.

[mommamymy!]

I'm currently in the process of changing my last name to my hubby's surname. Actually, when I got my new office ID with his surname on it, nag-light up talaga face ni hubby! Na-touch ako kasi I didn't know na it meant so much to him.

Pero, I told him na I have no plans of dropping my last name kaya sbe ko, hyphenated ang magiging last name ko. Sbe niya, "no problem as long as misis kita at naka-reflect ang name ko sa name mo for the whole world to see". Sus, napaka-dramatic talaga ng asawa ko, hahaha

[17arci]

I want to

[iam.janedoe]

Yep. I use my hubby's last name kasi un na [textspeak!] name sa Marriage Cert namin and he wants me to use it always. After our wedding last 2009, pinakuha na nya ko kagad ng maraming valid IDs using his last name including passport change last name. But my signature is still the same, I did not change it anymore, mahirap e. hehe 

[raven03]

I am not using my husband's family name, pero of course the kids will bear his last name.
I dunno, when I was younger kasi I hear stories na this and that woman is hard to track down na kasi she got married. I went to pretty good schools and I felt bad na just because she got married parang nawala na lang siya sa circulation, parang going to our school was a bragging right (naks, I'm bragging about it now) pa naman kahit pano tapos you don't get to see them sa mga homecomings just because they can't be found. (oh well, this was pre-facebook days)

Also, I read somewhere that hindi nama pala required legally yung change of name. Sabi pa nga, marriage is a change of status, not of name.

Also, I know a lot of people yet I rarely know their middle names, except na lang kapag super close ko. Parang unfair naman sa nanay and her family na hindi man lang nababanggit apelyido nila, siguro if I keep my maiden name my own kids will be "used" using it and people will know he/she is a product of myself and the hubby, kahit sa pangalan lang. 

[mei-mei]

^^ Correct yan!  Syempre I tell people parati na prefer ko lang di magpalit kasi mahirap magbago lahat docs lalo na sa abroad ako.  Pero to myself, honest ako na one of the reasons why I'm not changing is because I prefer my name talaga.  Tapos unique pa ang surname ko, sa husband ko too common.  Mahaba pa kaya di din magwork ang hyphenated.  Ako naman mapapagod kakasulat kung ganun!  Di naman sya required ng law kaya now 3 years married and I'm still using my maiden surname.  Maraming tao na hirap umintindi like when I applied for bank home loan, pilit nila na isulat yung loan sa Spouses xxx.  Sabi ko, since ako naman ang main payer, kelangan nila sundin ano legal name ko which is still my maiden name. I had to show them the RA 386 article stating this.  Marami lang kasi sa Pinas ang hindi alam dahil naging culture na talaga na magpalit surname pag kinasal.  Kaya kelangan educate yung iba na hindi sya legal requirement.  I have no plans of using my husband's surname ever.  Isa pa, ayaw ko maka-same surname ang aking MIL noh! 

[whitelady17]

^^ Correct yan!  I have no plans of using my husband's surname ever.  Isa pa, ayaw ko maka-same surname ang aking MIL noh! 

sis mei, buti hindi nagalit si hubby mo? kasi noong nag tatanong pa lang ako kung puwedeng hindi ko i adapt last name niya in case hala sobrang grabeng away ang nangyari kaya . Ako rin eh as much as possible ayaw ko sana mag change ng last name

[barbwire]

I will change the name of my SSS, Driver’s License, TIN, Philhealth and Passport for legal purposes. But I will keep the maiden surname for my PRC ID kasi this ID is dedicated to my parents, sila ang naghirap para makamit ko ang ID na ito. Likewise, I retained my signature.
In the office I use hyphenated name: Given name Middle Initial Maiden Surname-Spouse Surname.     

[newbeymum]

I have changed my passport and US visa to my married name but my prc liscence not yet.. kung pwede lang sana wag na lang una sa lahat di naman ako gusto ng mga inlaws ko inspite the fact that ive tried to reached out.. ang apelyido naman nila ay walang dating at mga balasubas naman sila hay naku kung pwede nga lang sana si hubby gamitin na lang daw apelyido ko at sya mismo nag sabi noon kase nga inis sya sa tatay nyang ubod ng balasubas at manloloko anak, kapatid kapit bahay ay lolokohin ng todo!

[leelou]

if it were really my choice, i wouldn't change my surname. mas maganda kase yun surname ko than that of hubby's kaya nung si hubby nagtatanong kung when ko daw papalitan yun surname ko, sabi ko na lang kapag time na to renew my passport. kaso sumimangot ba naman hehe. ayaw ko naman sya magtampo so nag-update na ako ng ibang records - bank accounts, SSS, Philhealth. pero yun passport, hintayin ko na lang talaga renewal, mga 3 yrs pa. pati nga signature ko gusto ni hubby papalitan eh parang super sanay na ako sa signature ko dati at nahihirapan ako pumirma sa bago.

sa social networking sites, it's hyphenated

[pret_ty68]

I will retain my maiden name. I accomplished a lot already besides I think my maiden name is lucky for me.

[mei-mei]

sis mei, buti hindi nagalit si hubby mo? kasi noong nag tatanong pa lang ako kung puwedeng hindi ko i adapt last name niya in case hala sobrang grabeng away ang nangyari kaya . Ako rin eh as much as possible ayaw ko sana mag change ng last name

Ah wala naman issue sa kanya.  Di naman sya yung ma-ego sa ganyan.  Importante is how we are as husband & wife, and submissive naman ako sa kanya sa bahay, as a wife usually is.  Siguro nakatulong din na nasa country kami na hindi nagpapalit ang mga babae to their husband's surname kaya sanay na sya, hindi big deal yung paggamit ko ng surname nya.  And same as sis newbeymum, mas gusto nya actually family ko na kung pwede lang nga din daw na sya yung magpalit ng surname.  Hehe.

[whitelady17]

amasyado kasing conservative eh, parang minamaliit ko daw family nila, kaya ayaw ko daw gamitin ang last name nila 

[suikorayne]

ako, di ko pa na-update lahat. pero sa ngaun, hypernated ang gamit ko. most of my ID's kc bearing my maiden name pa like passport, driver's license, DTI and mayor's permit, TIN, SSS. Philhealth pa lang na update ko, siguro pag mag expire na license at passport ko, surname na ni hubby gagamitin ko.

[mom_G]

hindi ako nag-change ng last name since established na ko in my profession when we got married and ang daming paperwork aasikasuhin.  pero i think, hubby is still hoping that i would eventually take his last name, conservative kasi yun.  and when we had our baby, tinatawag siyang mr. "wife's maiden name", hehe 

[vain_kixie]

if i hyphenate my surname and my future husband's surname, what middle name should i encode on
legal documents? my maiden's middle name or my maiden's last name?

[stameygirl]

^ your maiden middle name. Your surname will be the full hyphenated surname.