Divorce in the Philippines

[Purple_Power]

Dito rin nagsisimula yan. Ang babae hindi na mahiwalayan ang bf dahil may nakuha na sa kanya at first time niya. Chances are nagiging clingy na. Titiisin rin lahat. Minsan kahit hindi bf pero may nangyari sa kanila kung para sa lalake sarap lang yung babae maghahabol aasa pa ng love.  Kaloka!  Tapos biglang magrereklamo bakit ganito mga lalake and so on. Isama mo pa yung choice rin ng ibang babae na gusto nila yung mga bad boy dahil umaasang magbabago sila lalo na kapag napakasalan? Fairy tale? Hindi kasi narerealize ng iba kaya magkakaroon ng value ang marriage o yung sinasabi nilang stay together and complete kapag nagkakasundo sila at parehong tao ang may ugali na family oriented at yung maayos na trato sa bawat isa. Kaya nawawala ang value ng marriage depende sa ugali ng kasama mo lalo na kung ano ang priority niya.

Ito nga yun eh! Sino bang matinong tao ang nag-isip na gusto niya ng divorce o yung pinangarap pa?
Sa pagkakaalam ko yung gagawa lang nito na intensyon niya ay yung mga gold digger at babaero. Pero yung ibang nakapagdesisyon for some reason nandahil hindi na talaga nila masettle ang issue for sure hindi naman nila ginusto na mapasok sa ganitong sitwasyon at lalong siempre hindi ito yung intensyon nila.

Sana maipasa na rin ito. 

[kvandenhaak]

^^The Bible clearly states that in cases of infidelity, you can divorce your spouse. This is because he/she broke the covenant. In Christian churches abroad, they also allow divorce if there's violence at home.

[rae]

Sa akin lang, ang weird. If you're a Christian who believes na hindi dapat mag-divorce. It's your right to exercise your belief.

But why do many (not all) Christians deny others of their right to exercise their beliefs.

If you want to find someone who will not divorce you, find someone with that same belief.

[Naughty^GuRu]

@rae:
agree! kung ayaw nila ng divorce huwag idamay lahat. huwag nila tayong i-deprived sa freedom at choice na yun. kung ayaw nila eh di don't, eh paano tayo na in favor diba?

[butterfly20]

I've learned that in this life, there are really no guarantees. Hindi mo masasabi na ang pinakasalan mo ay ang taong makakasama mo na talaga until the end. Of course hindi mo naman kelangan na maging paranoid. Maging realistic na lang tayo na madami talagang couples ang naghihiwalay. Kapag dumating yun point na hindi ka na masaya sa relationship nyo. Like nagkaroon na ng infidelities, pananakit, all kinds of abuses. At least may choice ka di ba. Gusto mo rin naman maging masaya kesa nakatali ka sa isang relationship na toxic.

Again, I would like to stress out, yung mga kapareho ko na may situation na dinivorced ng asawa nila na ibang citizen. Ang hirap ng dadaanin natin na filipino citizen. Para na ring nag file ng annulment. Hindi nila tatanggapin yung final decree na hawak mo, kelangan mo pang i-file sa RTO. Gastos pa. Kelangan mo gawin yan kung gusto mo ulit magpakasal sa pinas. Samantalang yun ex mo libreng libre na.

[Purple_Power]

^Yan ang masaklap. May relatives kami kasal sa Amerikana. Mahabang story pero they don't even know each other personally bago magpakasal. Ang sumusulat sa Amerikanang yun ay ang tatay niya which is yung lolo namin. Alam mo naman uso ang penpal nung araw. Eh yung tito ko hindi marunong mag English. So kinasal sila pero naghiwalay rin which is I don't know the whole story kung ano ang nangyari. Therefore si Amerikana madali lang sa kanya na makapag asawa agad. The sad part here is hindi napakasalan nung Tito ko yung dito sa Pinas which is yun ang naging hinanakit nung Tita namin hanggang sa mamatay siya.

[butterfly20]

@sis Purple_Power- Ok sana kung sa america sila nagpakasal. Kung sa pinas, masaklap talaga. Yung ex ko pinoy naman tsaka sa pinas kami nagpakasal. Ayun, pagkabalik nya ng Guam nakabuntis at inabandona na ako. After 3 years, email na lang ng lawyer nya na-received ko with divorce documents. Hay naku napakayabang pa porket american citizen na sya. I'm still using his last name kahit divorced na kami kasi ayokong gumastos ng 200k.

[Purple_Power]

^Sorry to hear that. Pero ikaw ba allowed mag re-married?

[butterfly20]

Sa pinas hindi pa. Bale sa US na lang kami papakasal ni bf kasi kukunin naman nya ako as fiancee..

[Irtwisted]

I hope divorce will be passed into law this year. I for one am very happy that RH is now a law, FOI and Divorce nalang total fan nako ng PNoy years. 

[molybdenumstudios]

I actually think it should be legal. The reason why it should be legal is because it promotes healthier relationships and it scares out egoistic jerks and adulteresses.

[purple.strawberry]

If a relationship is already broken, whether a divorce exists or not, the couple will separate anyway. So why make it difficult for them to start anew? Hindi lang sa cases na merong abuse of any sort. Sometimes people DO marry the wrong partners. Bakit naman sila pahihirapan pa to find someone better di ba.

[pret_ty68]

Actually parang meron na ring divorce in the Philippines in the guise of an annulment but the downside are
1. There are very limited grounds and the most common ground used is psychological incapacity so  kailangan  pang ilabas yung mga kasiraan/weaknesses nung husband/wife mo para makita nang court na psychologically incapacitated nga sya.

2. Annulment is costly so usually mga may kaya lang nakakapag pa annul.

I hope that if ever we will have a divorce law they would include irreconcilable differences as a ground just like in other countries in that way hindi na kailangan pang lumabas na may psychological problem.

I wonder why some of our countrymen are too proud that we do not have this law na  kung titingnan mo ang paligid ang daming broken families. I think that it is a form of hipocrisy. Besides naghihiwalay rin lang naman kahit walang divorce law so bakit pahihirapan pa. Irarason nang iba kawawa ang mga bata e sa tingin ko yung bata mas gusto pa ngang maghiwalay na lang parents nila kesa magkasama naman e halos magpatayan na sa kaka away. Yung contented sa married life nila na hindi nakikita ang need sa law na ito maintindihan naman sana nila yung hindi masaya Live and Let Live ika nga.

[molybdenumstudios]

I will be extremely happy if divorce will be legal in PH. It is more practical kung hindi na talaga kayo nagmamahalan sa isa't isa.

[young_maiden]

sana magkadivorce na sa bansa natin. di na dapat makialam ang state at church sa buhay ng mag-asawa. wala na sila magagawa kung di na talaga mag work [textspeak!] marriage eh.

[molybdenumstudios]

OT: I will write a book about Elitism in the Philippines and yes, I will include divorce there. Stay tuned!

[rae]

^ Nice. Let us know when it's out.
^^ I agree. I respect their beliefs. I just hope that they also respect the beliefs of other people and give them the option of divorce. If you're catholic naman, you won't be allowed divorce pa rin. So, I don't see the problem.

[angelstandingby]

i think yes. i have a happy marriage kaya lang some women are not.  some women are battered and unhappy. im in favor of divorce but on certain grounds like physical abuse.  it's still up to the couple to keep their marriage in tact with or without divorce in the philippines.

[blakesiy]

this is long overdue. stories of battered women is too many to ignore.

Altho, baka kasi maging commodity nalang ang marriage and that couples will stop trying to fix a marriage dahil alam na meron agad escape. so no motivation to work harder for the relationship

[mebpa]

some women are battered and unhappy. im in favor of divorce but on certain grounds like physical abuse.

I agree with this. I feel sorry for women (or men) who are battered but cannot leave their marriage just because there is no divorce here.

I don't believe sa "fell out of love" story, sorry. I believe in Sanctity of Marriage.