is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[slovy]

^^hi sis, same tayo, inggit din si hubby sakin kasi last day, nagtext kuya nya, skype daw kami kasi gusto nya makita ang anak ko kung gaano kalaki na kasi ipamimili din daw nya damit, sabi ko wag na kasi marami na ibingay ang iba nilang kapatid, eh sabi nya iba daw iyon sa iba nila kapatid, iba din sa kanya, mag skype na nga lang daw kasi gusto din daw makita kung ano itsura. eh antok na ako, si hubby gusto na rin matulog, iba kasi oras natin. so nag alibi na lang ako na connect na sana kami pero biglang nagshut down ang laptop namin, sabi ko nagloko na naman yata. desktop din sira na kahit ok pa, hehe. sabi nya "ah ganun ba?" kinabukasan pagkagising ko, sunod sunod ang text, pinapili kami kung ano gusto namin brand ng laptop nasa mall daw sya, mag reply daw kami agad at may sale daw. kaya ayun tuwang tuwa ako, hehe kahit di pa naman sira laptop namin.


ang hubby naman sabi sa akin, ang lakas mo talaga. mas mahal nga din daw ako ng kapatid nya kesa sa kanya. adik!


for me naman, kung mga inlaws ko nagkataon din na ayaw sa akin, it doesn't matter too, isipin ko na lang, si hubby naman kasama ko, di naman sila. basta lagi lang din makisama ng tama, wag magpakita ng hindi maganda, I'm sure darating ang panahon after all, matatanggap din nila, wala naman na sila magagawa dun kung mahal ng anak/kapatid nila eh. Be nice lang palagi

[electricpink17]

i don't care if my in-laws doesn't like me.  i don't care din kung hindi kami masyadong close. as long as we are civil pag nagkikita o wala akong naririnig na masama from them, okay na ako don.

[cuppie_cake]

Not really.. as long as hubby and me are ok and he knows his relative's ugali naman. I've heard enough from extended relatives already (ewan ko lang anong problema ng tita niya sa akin?!!) kaya I could care less, if they don't like me then the feeling is mutual. Baligtad pa nga kasi mother in law/ father in law and me are fine naman ,di talagang close but we're getting there.

[sistah!]

i keep changing my mind about this topic. nung una, parang it doesnt matter. pero because i am so hurt about the situation i am in, i guess it matters.

my in laws dont like me, specificaly, mga kapatid ni hubby. honestly, it's still manageable pa naman. hindi naman kami parang telenovela na tinatarayan ako or inaaway. we live in our own house so we only get to spend time together during family affairs. i just try to discreetly ask my husband to leave early. the reason they dont like me? wala lang. they thought i was arrogant and condescending because i dont like the stuff that they like. im usually very quiet when im around them because i dont really talk to them. i dont know kasi usually mga topics of conversation nila. i have always been super maarte too. i am dressed up almost 90% of the time, very rarely do i go about in shorts and chinelas, im almost always made up. my line of work also requires me to be put together din kasi. i travel a lot, although mostly for work. i am also quite a huge shopper. my parents spoil me to bits dahil ako lang naman ang babae sa amin kaya pwede ako maging medyo magastos. to be fair, my family, although middle income, is medyo maluwang na sa buhay because i work and wala pinapaaral. maliit lang din ang pamilya namin.

my husband thinks her sister is a little envious and makes things out to be a bigger deal than they are. for the sake of propriety, i am polite but quiet when i am around them. they ignore most of the time too so its not a big problem to  stay quiet. it makes me sad when i think about it, how they have made judgments about me over matters that are nothing. i want them to see that i am a good person, im kind and i do a very good job keeping my husband -- their brother -- happy. HAY.

[amsalmo]

for me is big deal, lalo na sa situation ko at 1st nakasundo ko kaagad mother in low ko. akala ko kasi ng una mabait sya talaga nung nag tagal na saka ko lang nakita true color nya kunwari gustong gusto ka nya kapag kaharap ka pero pag talikod ko sinisiraan na pala ako. ang hirap makisama lalot kasama pa namin sya sa house para akong nakatuntong sa numero.gusto na sana namin bumukod ng house hindi namin magawa dahil matanda na nga yung in low ko mawawalan pa sya ng kasama sa house.kaya lahat tinitiis ko na lang.

[mishmish]

it doesn't matter to me at all.. what's important is my relationship with hubby.. as long as he keeps an open mind... syempre minsan hindi maiiwasan na may mga bangayan...

[kurengkeng]

SWERTE ako sa in-laws. 

kayosihan ko nga erpat nya e. ew. so dyologs. LOL. ;-)

they've learned to accept my kaartehan. husband comes from a simple family. kami naman medyo middle class kaya medyo sosyalin (kuno). ilocano pa sila kaya sanay sila sa damo-damo, gulay-gulay, ala pakbet, diningding etc. na for the life of me...hindi ko talaga makain. 
but they make it a point na mag ihaw ng karne, bangus, at kung ano ano pa pag dadating kami sa kanila (which happens mga 4x a year lang naman) 

but i believe na, had i been in a different situation, it will really matter to me. no matter how open minded your husband is, im sure affected yan deep inside na hindi kayo magkasundo or civil lang kayo ng inlaws....likewise, i will feel the same if hubby has negative feelings towards my family.

[peaches]

oks lang sa akin kung hindi nila ako gusto no!
basta hindi ko kasama sa bahay yung inlaws ko, ok ako..

[Mai]

Oh yes, it matters a lot! Unfortunately it's not in my blood maging sipsip para ma win over my MIL's attention.
There are so many advantages being loved/liked by your MIL/[textspeak!].
In our case...the other family who stays in the same house (but with different electricity/water meters), they don't have to pay whereas kami up to the last centavo, hindi makatulog ang MIL ko.

[prettyehmjay28]

It is if family oriented ka just like me. hhe, pero depende pa rin. if sa start ng relasyon nyo eh pinapakitaan mo ng maganda tapos sila panget pa din pakikitungo, aba iba na yun. ahha!!

[renata]

50 percent ng ilaws ko like me and 50 percent din ay hindi ako like.. hmmm duda pa nga ako baka yung 50 percent is umaarte lang na like ako.. pero dont care naman bahala na sila sa nararamdaman nila about sa akin. as long as nasa akin si hubby ko okey na yun.

[Crystal Goddess]

the first few years that i was married... it used to bother me a lot when i would hear somebody saying something about me behind my back...

now i don't care anymore... you can't please everybody... don't waste your time trying too hard...

what is important is that you and your husband have a great relationship... you need HAVE EACH OTHERS BACKS.... that's the only thing that matters...
if your ILs don't like you, it's their problem...   

[PrincessKitty]

I agree @ Crystal Goddess

why trying hard and waste your time if di ka nila tlaga gusto?

sabi ng hubs ko "ikaw ang pinili ko, kaya kahit anuman sabihin nila.. wala sila magagawa"

saka hindi ako manhid. nung mag bf/gf pa lang kami eh di na ako gusto.. lalo na nung MIL ko.. brinabrainwash pa mga SIL's ko.. kc mga bata pa noon.

pero ngayon? hindi na. wala na ako pakialam. pagod na din ako, mga sandamakmak silang plastik pero okay lang.

hindi naman kasi sila papakasalan ko eh.. -_-''

[cuppie_cake]

^I so agree with you! If they don't like me well I dont like them either, I'm tired of being a "good girl" na kaya I tend not to go to their house anymore since ayaw ko na magpaka-plastic..

[mishmish]

^ Ako din, I'm so tired of being a good girl, kasi kahit anong gawin ko, lagi siyang (MIL) may nakikitang mali sakin... Basta ngayon, ahh bahala ka sa buhay mo, pwes kung ayaw mo sakin, mas ayoko sayo! hmp! 

[Cryze11]

ideally, who wouldn't want to be liked by someone? Kaso in reality it seldom happens especially dito sa Pinas. So, learn ka na lang din makibagay at least mapi feel ni hubby that you are trying to reach out to his family.  but at the end of the day you would really feel and know if sincere ba sila or hindi.. if you think/feel na wala ka naman ginagawang masama laban sa kanila then its their problem anymore!

[rianne_mallows]

ako.. parang ayaw... actually bf/gf pa lang kami... parang... parang lang... 

hindi ko sure eh... kasi isa akong dakilang walang pakialam.

actually naalala ko nung bf/gf pa lang kami ni hubby, kinausap kami kasi mag nagtsismis daw sa kanya na papakasal kami.. ayong nag freak out... kung ano ano pinagsasasabi... hindi naman masama pero bottomline, may pakadisgusto (wala lang akong paki, pero hindi naman ako engs )

buti na lang, si hubby, ang sagot ng sagot hehe, actually, blessing in disguise kasi that time nakita ko talagang maprinsipyo at may sariling desisyon hubby ko.. kaya ngayon, kahit maging you and me against the world, alam ko na kaya niya kami ipaglaban

now, ok na.. parang ok lang... hehe hindi ko pa rin sure... since may baby na kasi, si baby excited sila makita kaya parang ok na rin

[lady_sunscreen]

kakatuwa naman hubby mo sis.. hubby ko hindi marunong magsalita eh.. ang lagi lang nya sasabihin, intindihin mo na lang, ganyan talaga ugali nila eh.. kaya hindi pwede sa min ang you and me against the world.. hehe..

[rianne_mallows]

^ oo nga sis.. kakatuwa siya.. 

nagulat din nun eh.. hindi ko inakala na ganun siya kapag nangatwiran.. yung pagsagot niya sa mama niya hindi pabalang at pasigaw, firm but with respect pa din kaya tameme mama niya hehe.. kaya lalo me humanga sa kanya

[lovemeagain30]

nakakapagod din [textspeak!] lagi mong iprove ang sarili mo sakanila para lang matanggap ka pati na ng mga magiging bro and sis in law mo. nuong andiyan pako sa pinas, oo masyadong deal factor pero ngayon na malayo na kami ni bf, parang wala narin akong pakialam.

nakakapagod din kaya makisama lagi kung alam mong ayaw naman nila talaga sayo.