is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[vodka_ice]

yap it's very important because when you married your husband , his parents becomes  your parents too...and if ever there would be a problem they can help you to straighten things up but it can also be vise versa..they can also help break the relationship

[grace24]

korek ka jan sis sis vodka_ice...

[sexy_chille]

Well, sa akin naman ok naman kami ng mother-in-law. Di naman kasi kami sa kanila nakatira...ang alam ko nagkakaproblem talaga e kapag sa isang bahay nakatira ang mother-in-law at ang pamilya mo. Kasi basically lahat pinapansin talaga, kinukwento kasi sa akin [textspeak!] ugali na kinakaasaran ng mother-in-law dun sa asawa ng anak hehe. sabi ko buti na lang! hehe

[angeline76]

No, its not a big deal for me.As long as alam ko sa sarili ko wala akong ginawang masama sa kanila. Ayoko pagpilitan ang sarili ko sa taong ayaw sa akin. Actually,feeling ko nga kontrabida ako sa buhay nila kasi mula ng dumating ako na cut off na ang maliligaya nilang araw dahil sa sustento 

[luvmyson]

no as long as we're not living with them. and siguro pag may apo na sila they will learn na rin to like you. basta nakikita nila how you take care of their apo.

pero thankful naman ako that may in-laws likes me.

[Crystal Goddess]

 i used to, at first...
now, don't f***ing care

[can_dice]

Important sa akin.  Kasi sila ang pakikisamahan mo eh.  I mean parang ang hirap for you and your hubby of hindi magkasundo diba?  Sha yung nasa gitna.

Pero sobrang minsan ka lang ata makakahanap ng in-laws na super ok with you diba?

[hazelnut984]

It's really not that big of a deal for me but i still find myself trying my best to make them like me. From the beginning, my husband's parents never liked the fact that their only son got married to me. But i figured, it doesn't really matter. We both love each other so much and his parents should respect that. I had the most problem with my mom-in-law. She even came up with an assumption that i was pregnant and that was the reason why we got married. Well, im not. I had a hard time trying to prove myself to them. Ako pa naman yung klase nang tao na kung ayaw mo  wag mo. im not gonna force you into liking me but since they're my in-laws, i had to put some effort into it. Pero mahirap talaga sakin.

[Crystal Goddess]

case to case basis talaga... my parents-in-law and I get along fine... the problem is the (henpecked) bro-in-law the wicked wife... i haven't said a word to them in 4 years... but my husband and i are really ok with it esp. now na recently lang nagkabangga hubby ko with his evil sis-in-law over something really trivial ...

why we prefer the distance? the bro and the wife are overbearing and are constantly looking for ways to have the other in-laws hate me... my hubby is so fed up with his sis-in-law because we haven't done anything to wrong them in any way and yet they really go out of their way para gumawa ng issue... gigil na gigil yung sis-in-law kasi hindi namin siya pinapatulan... hehe...

good thing my parents-in-law are starting to see her true colors...

this setup is all for the better for us kasi hindi nila kami mapakialaman...

one thing that would really help is if you and your hubby back each other up... adapt a you-and-me-against-the-world attitude... after all, it really boils down to if you and him are really in tune with each other...

[Ethylene]

hehe la lang.. thanks in advance!

It probably would be a big deal if that ever happened to me. Thankfully, close ako sa mga in-laws ko, and I genuinely like them. To be honest, I get along better with my mother-in-law than with my mom.

 

[ravenkate]

Malaki ang family ng (future) in-laws ko.  Nung start, okay kami (nung di pa kaka-start pa lang namin ni BF).  Tapos nung matagalan, na-realize ko na medyo turned-off ako sa (future) mom-in-law ko.  Nagbigay ako ng gifts (damit) nung Christmas para sa kanila ng dad ni BF, sus, pinapalitan sa akin sa store kasi di daw kasya and di daw nila gusto.    Super pahiya ako, pero di ko ma-gets kung bakit super polite pa din ako sa kanila and sinabi ko pa na it's okay.  I guess nung time na yun, important sa akin yung good relationship namin para smooth-sailing kami ni boyfriend.

Tapos napansin ko, yung isang sister ni BF, super asar din ang ugali.  As in selfish na tao.  Feeling ko di talaga kami magkakasundo. 

Ngayon na engaged na kami ni BF (fiance na pala), nice naman sila sa akin.  Pero dami ko napapansin na little things e.  Nakaka-walang gana, pero hinahabaan ko na lang ang patience ko kasi feeling ko di naman worth it. 

[ravenkate]

^Mods, sorry.  Baka OT ito.  Meron pa kasing isang thread about in-laws dito, di ko napansin agad.  Baka mas appropriate ito for that.  Sorry.

[aymfreety]

no biggie saken coz i know naman how to play 'orocan-an' w/ them.till now i know my parents-in-law & youngest SIL hate me but i don't give a f*ck.

[mrs.BINLATEN]

^you go girl!!

me i dont care as if nman na sila ang magpapakain sakin at kung hindi sila approve sakin eh mamatay ako. duh!

bsta me and my hubbys ok, yun lang ang importante!

[honeypie10]

 I used to go all out for them to try to please them. but it's true, you just can't please anybody.  If I can't please them, I'll just please myself.  [textspeak!] ako marunong mki pag plastican, kya [textspeak!] ko n [textspeak!] sila pinapansin....bahala na silakng ano gusto nila isipin...

[ravenkate]

^You go din, sis!  I think tama yang attitude mo.  Ako din, I used to go all out for these people...kaso di naman worth it.  So tinatanggihan ko talaga pag may ask silang favors.  Lalo na kung hassle sa akin and sa parents ko (kasi minsan sa akin pa pinapadaan yung pag-request nila for favors from my parents and sisters).

[Entrepreneur]

Well its important for me that I get along w/ my inlaws as well as si hubby kasi merged na kami as a family, kaso lang iba iba talga ng ugali at yun ang di ko mako-control.

During the time that I stayed w/ them, mababait naman sila kaso si MIL laging may puna at simangot din sa kin so napaka-limited ng galaw ko sa bahay pero I made it a point na makisama tlaga at lagi kaming nagkakausap para maging at ease sya sa kin at hindi kritikal. Middle child kasi yung hubby ko at yung pnganay na bro nya at SIL ko kasundo k pati mga anak nila love ako, kasi kahit magulo yung mga bata mahaba ang patience ko pero nakikinig sila kapag sinasabihan k. Yung youngest bro ni hubby, so-so [textspeak!], di kami close, kasi tahimik, di ko lam kung inis ba sa kin or nahihiya [textspeak!].   

When youngest BIL got married, nagbukod na kami ni hubby w/c was really our plan kasi yun ang aming usapan. Dun n ko nakahinga ng maluwag coz I can be myself. Aminin man natin o hindi, minsan kailngan maging plastic para maging maayos ang lahat.

Ngayn nagrereklamo sa min ni hubby si MIL kasi nag-iba raw ng ugali ang wife ni youngest BIL, madamot daw at laging nakasimangot hindi tulad ng dati na ang bait bait Pati si youngest BIL, nahawa na. Well ako, I had a feeling na lalabas din mga ugali nila at happy naman ako na hindi kami magkakasama. Nung time na andun din ako, pag dumarating ako at nandun sila, ni hindi nila ko matingnan, akala mo may sariling mundo. Insecure kasi lalo na yung wife ni youngest BIL. Pati yung SIL k na isa(w/ oldest Bro of hubby) inaaway nila porke housewife e sya nga itong nagiging kasama ng MIL ko kapag may work sila.

Si hubby ko [textspeak!] ang ginagalang porke sya ang breadwinner before at lagi nilang inuutangan at hndi binabayaran(utang na loob!). Buti na [textspeak!] [textspeak!], hindi na ko nakatira dun. 

[maloushky]

oo naman.. big deal sakin yun.. syempre family ng asawa mo yun tapos hindi ka gusto.. sakit sa puso nun ah..

[twix]

yes, affected ako sa lahat ng bagay kaya nga kailangan ko magpaka-plastic para lang tahimik at walang gulo, ang hirap talaga....

[ice_cream]

of course yes ! pero im so lucky they like me naman..