is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[justdesserts]

im not married yet but now palang I make it a point that I get along with my bf's parents..it helps that they're cool but still, they're imprtant to my bf, they're important to me too.same goes with his siblings.

[closetbabe]

NOPE.

at first, i thought it would be. i went out of my way to please my MIL. but i know she doesn't care for me at all, she only cares for my husband, her son. so now, i'm more relaxed. i'm not on tiptoes anymore. as long as i'm not doing anything wrong (not by her standards, by the way), i don't really care whether she accepts me or not. it's not my choice anyway.

if my husband would someday take sides (especially his mom's side), he already knows what would happen. i keep reminding lang my husband that we are married and that our family would always be the first priority. next na lang ang in-laws.

[dabidoo]

No!

i really dont care basta my husband and i get along well, then nothing really matters. ay, this is in regards with his side ha. so far naman my family and husband are okay. i hope it stays that way.

[yhuna]

medyo, kc mahirap din yun madalas maraming mapupuna sau.

[twix]

yes,dati di kami nagkikita for 7 years i dont care kung ayaw niya sa akin kaya lang ngayon dito na kami sa side ng in-laws, pero bihira kami magkita nasa province sila dun kasi work nila ang hirap talaga once dumating sila dito sa manila hay,naku kilos at galaw ko parang may nagmamasid di man niya sinasabi sa reaction o expression ng mukha niya na fi-feel ko, ako pa lakas ng power ko pag dating sa ganyan..hahaha 

[daphne07142005]

yup kasi family ko narin sila kaya dapat ok. kami

[redroux]

Never! Ang prinsipyo ko, if they don't like me,that's not my problem

[mayums]

yes, although i have this "walang pakialam" attitude minsan, it would still be better if i'm on my in-laws' good side.

it will also affect me if my family does not like my hubby. dapat both sides e in good terms.

[chungchuy]

Oo naman. Sino ba naman di mahuhurt kung di ka gusto ng in-laws mo? Shempre tra-try kong lambingin sila pero kung la talagang nangyari after my efforts, then bahala na sila.

[Tigershark09]

ang ideal setting talaga is you're all living in harmony and happy together. ganyan din ang akala ko noon pero hindi pala. it takes two to tango at kung yung isang side ayaw mag-exert ng effort lalo na kung binaba mo na ang pride mo, wala ka nang magagawa. you can only do so much. i realized that instead of trying to please your in-laws all the time, why not try to just be yourself as long as you are not doing anything wrong with them! kze nakakawala talaga ng self-worth at self-esteem kapag pinipilit mo ang sarili mo sa ayaw naman sa yo. basta ngayon ang iniisip ko lagi "your son is sooo lucky to have me!"  and then i focus my energy to my own family kze yon naman talaga ang pinaka-importante sa lahat 

[phoenix]

for me its a big deal... mahirap kaaway mga in-laws, you wont live in harmony with your hubby, parang yun relationship nyo may wall namamagitan palagi... tsaka how can you teach your children to love their lolo & lola's if you yourself dont like them, ironic diba? BUT case to case basis yan eh, like my mom before di nya kasundo parents ng dad ko, so iwas nalang sya para walang away.

[cati]

just be civil with them, we can't do anything they're the family of your husband.....sadly just live with it.

[keidee]

My husband knows that his mom hates me. I've been married to his son for 7 years now and yet pinagkakalat pa rin nyang pinikot ko daw yung anak nya. I used to be affected pero i'm pass that. Until now marami pa rin akong naririnig na paninira, tinatawanan na lang namin ng asawa ko. I'm civil with MIL, bilin ng mommy ko respetuhin ko pa rin kasi nanay ng asawa ko. But I make it a point na alam nyang kung ano yung mga nakakarating sa akin na paninira nya.
No big deal if she hates me still. Ang agreement lang namin ni husband, never na makikitira si MIL sa amin.
I'm ok with my sisters-in-law. Para kaming barkada. They know MIL is badmouthing me. Sila na minsan humihingi ng dispensa para sa nanay nila

[paulavalerie]

for me depende if youre staying with your in laws medyo mahirap yun. kasi kasama mo sila sa hauz then ramdam mo yung coldness nila towards you. pero if meron kayo own house,okay lang as long as di lagi nag visit in laws mo at makikialam sa kung ano anong things sa house niyo.

[maria_fides]

For me, big deal talaga [textspeak!] ayoko talagang maapektuhan si hubby if ever di kami nag-kakaintindihan ng in-laws ko.  Kase one time nung mag-syota palang kami ni hubby & na-misinterpret ni hubby [textspeak!] word ko na hindi binigay ni MIL [textspeak!] phonecall ko for him, akala nya ganun ang ngyari, at parang yaw ako ni MIL na kausapin cya. [textspeak!] that time she text me na tawagan ko raw sya sa hauz nila, & he waited for so long, tapos ganun nga, nag-text him back & sabi ko wala ka nman pla sa hauz tpos pinapatawag mo ako, sabi nya AAWAYIN daw nya si MIL kung binastos raw ako at bket di binigay sa knya ng phone, [textspeak!] ko di nman, when he approached her mom sabi ni MIL ,AY! sorry anak di ko alam na dumating kana pala...ayun, kaya napaka-importante din sken na OK kmi ng mga in-laws, [textspeak!] yoko rin na sasama ang loob ni hubby sa knila.

[pee]

I dont get along well with my sister in law...
kaya mhirap at msakit bumisita skanila every sunday.
At tuwing pauwi kmi ni hubby... plagi kmi ngaaway sa kotse
syempre [textspeak!] yung bata (hes 3 months at mkakaintindi na sya soon)
di ko maaway yung ate nya kya sya inaaway ko...

big deal yun
dati kala ko hindi

[Tigershark09]

kaya nagiging big deal ang mga in-laws because of the idea that you cant get away from them. hindi sila gaya ng kapitbahay mo lang na pwede mong hindi kausapin at pansinin habang buhay kung hindi mo sila type at kahit punong-puno ka na, hindi mo masabi ang gusto mong sabihin hindi dahil natatakot ka sa kanila but ayaw mong masaktan ang hubby mo. siguro totoong walang masamang in-laws at walang masamang asawa/misis, meron lang talagang minamalas dahil hindi pareho ng personality, beliefs, ideas, lifestyle at upbringing kaya hindi nagkakasundo. we just have to live with it. 

[enchoi]

In my case, big deal!  My husband loves his mom very much at vice versa.  Though my MIL is in Davao, never lumipas ang isang linggo na di sila nag-usap sa phone, bukod pa yung almost everyday na text nila.  Pag nagkukwento husband ko about his mom, full of praises siya kasi napakasipag at mapagmahal naman talaga ni MAMA. I know that if there'll come a time (sana huwag!) na may masabi ako bad against her, masasaktan talaga sya.  He always makes an effort na maging close kami ng mom nya.

In fairness sa MIL ko, ilang times ko na sya nakasama pero di nagbabago pakitungo nya sakin.  Mabait sya at maaalalahanin.  Maybe kaya wala kami problem kasi we don't live together.  At wala rin naman ako tutol kung pinapadalhan sya ng husband ko ng support from time to time.

[Joycy]

Not a big deal to me... but it would help if they like me.  

[gorgeous_momma]

It depends.... if ur hubby or bf is a mama's boy.. it is a prob..

if not.. ok lang