When the problem are your Parents

[Girltalker2]

you have to make your decision and stick to it.  flip flopping only shows this sociopath that you are still weak and vulnerable.  don't let him get to you.

Yung Hirap na dinanas mo 2 years ago, you?ve concluded how screwed up this guy?s head is.

When you reconciled with him this time, it?s still the same him. Buti naliwanagan ka that it?s in his character and slim chance time can change him. Since nasa personality nya manisi ng iba, he won?t admit his wrongdoings ever. Eh for someone to change, need to first recognise/admit . So he will never change coz he can never recognise/admit.

fifi, ito Lang lagi ko naiisip sa situation mo:
- what made you think (few weeks back) he is capable of being a family man considering inabandon nya kayo nung nanganak ka. For me this is a mortal sin, walang kapatawaran

- tapos  2 years ago, di ka lang nya iniwan. I recall he even wants you to resign, take separation package ba? He took your savings para bayaran kotse na Sister nya and mom ang gumagamit. He even wants your savings to keep his bakery going, eh yun na yung last savings mo for your giving birth.

You?re still one lucky gal fifi since you were able to think things clearly  2 years back. Isipin mo nalang if you followed him, if you resigned and gave up your savings for his business. Tingin mo where will you be now?

Tsaka yung sinasabi nya why you?re always after your comforts. Eh naku natural! Why is he after HIS comforts and your suffering? Leche nya!

[fifi_girl]

- what made you think (few weeks back) he is capable of being a family man considering inabandon nya kayo nung nanganak ka. For me this is a mortal sin, walang kapatawaran

Iba yata TS nung nabasa mo sis we lived for 3 years, and he was there since i gave birth. We stayed at our house kase nga may baby kami. And my mom can look after our child before. He was a good father and partner.

- tapos  2 years ago, di ka lang nya iniwan. I recall he even wants you to resign, take separation package ba? He took your savings para bayaran kotse na Sister nya and mom ang gumagamit. He even wants your savings to keep his bakery going, eh yun na yung last savings mo for your giving birth.

Hindi din ako to sis hehe. He wanted me to resign so i can help with his bakery business then. After a few months, he closed down his business. Tapos eventually, nag-work na ulit siya.

You?re still one lucky gal fifi since you were able to think things clearly  2 years back. Isipin mo nalang if you followed him, if you resigned and gave up your savings for his business. Tingin mo where will you be now?

Tsaka yung sinasabi nya why you?re always after your comforts. Eh naku natural! Why is he after HIS comforts and your suffering? Leche nya!

Nakakaloka na! Hindi ko din ito masagot

i thought you already made the decision to cut him off from your lives,  so is there a change in your plans now? 
you have to make your decision and stick to it.  flip flopping only shows this sociopath that you are still weak and vulnerable.  don't let him get to you.

There are no change in plans. I already using a different number now. Except yun email talaga, hindi ko mabitawan kase andami kong accounts na naka-link sa email add. He also knows my work email. Though i already blocked him. Hindi ko na nga sinasagot mga email niya.

^He sent me an email again last night. A picture of my son posted by my sis-in-law in Social media. Friends kase sila nung SIL ko. He sent me that picture telling me that i won't let him be a father to our child. Arrghhhh! At eto pa, he dialed my direct line at 10pm! Alam na alam naman niya na regular working hours ako

[Girltalker2]

^ no wonder you didn?t respond in my earlier note! Iba yung TS sa thread that I referred back to!

So kilala pala sya talaga ng anak mo.

[fifi_girl]

So kilala pala sya talaga ng anak mo.

Yes, kilala siya ng anak ko. Nakakagulat kase ang linaw talaga ng memories ng anak ko. Naaalala niya na yung isang toy niya eh si Daddy daw niya ang bumili. There was one time na ayaw talaga niya ipahiram yun toy na yun kase binili daw yun ni Daddy niya. Take note, my son was only 5 y/o, and that toy was bought like 2 years ago pa. Even the memories when we go out of town, naaalala ng anak ko.

[Girltalker2]

^ sis sorry again I mixed you up with the other sis who posted din problem with her hubby and the hubby like yours, oblivious to her needs.

Anyway paano nya nasabi you won?t let him a father to your child, eh kung sya yung nagbitaw why should I care sa anak nyo!
Kung gusto nya naman talaga, maraming paraan.

[fifi_girl]

^okay lang Sis, no worries 

He says i don't let him be a father kase nga, ayaw ko daw sumama sa kanya

[khaleesiCersei]

Block mo na sa email yan sis. Tsaka mute mo phone mo sa gabi hehe. Regarding kids that age, matalas talaga memory nila. Siguro kung ako ikaw, yung sinasabi niyang you wont let him be a father to his kid ibabalik ko sa kanya. Sasabihin ko, you wont let yourself be a father to your own kid dahil lang hindi masunod gusto mo mag batangas. Tapos blocked na para di na makasagot hehe

[simang]

When you guys lived together, nakabukod ba kayo or you lived with your parents?

Di ko gets ang hanash nyang mabuo ang family nyo, when he can't even marry you, or at least bumukod man lang. The house in batangas is technically still his mom's and not his. Ang daming ibang options, sa totoo lang. But since convenient nga naman sa kanya yung nasa side kayo ng family nya, yun lang ang gusto nya.

[fifi_girl]

When you guys lived together, nakabukod ba kayo or you lived with your parents?

Di ko gets ang hanash nyang mabuo ang family nyo, when he can't even marry you, or at least bumukod man lang. The house in batangas is technically still his mom's and not his. Ang daming ibang options, sa totoo lang. But since convenient nga naman sa kanya yung nasa side kayo ng family nya, yun lang ang gusto nya.

yes, we stayed with my parents that time. di din kase talaga kami financially ready nun, and since may baby, we are not open to the idea na iwanan lang sa yaya.  May plans naman to get married, kaya lang 2 of my brothers also planned to get married. So pinauna na namin sila, since sabi nga namin, hindi naman kami nagmamadali. He even wanted us to get married before i give birth, pero sabi ko nga, unahin muna lahat ng gastos sa panganganak at sa bata.

Yes, we have other options like renting here in Manila. Pero ayaw niya dahil sa anak namin, kase wala nga maiiwan. Feeling ko, gusto niya umuwi na sa batangas kase in case maisipan niya mag-resign, wala na kami iintindihin na bahay dito sa manila.

Siguro kung ako ikaw, yung sinasabi niyang you wont let him be a father to his kid ibabalik ko sa kanya. Sasabihin ko, you wont let yourself be a father to your own kid dahil lang hindi masunod gusto mo mag batangas.

ilang beses ko na sinabi yan Sis, naku, lalong humahaba ang usapan.

[ficklemind]

sis, parang yung din sinabi niya sayo last time na kesyo 'he can find another woman'  ayaw ka naman tantanan sa totoo lang

agree ako ang dami nyong ibang options pero bakit parang 'Batangas or nothing' lang.

He clearly have issues! hinde siya marunong makinig, magpakumbaba puro I, I, I nabasa ko.

[preciousjulia]

Who gave you the idea that I think the world is about me? That is a very dull argument. If life has been all about me, I would have not decided to agree to live in your house. I would have made a stand to get it my way each and every time. It?s you who have always tried to make it all about yourself. It?s about your comfort all that time. And all about how you failed to commit. It?s all about how you failed to be sensitive to what I feel. I never started this mess. You did. You were unmovable you have your options. That?s what pulled us apart. You still think it?s still the better option even if it will mean separation for me and  *****. You never did see anything outside your comfort zone. You are a coward for not making a stand. Don?t ever tell yourself that you have done everything for  *****. You did it for yourself. Because you can never live your life dealing with what you need to deal with. In time, my hatred for you will ever grow deeper because you took the one thing that made me happy. But you will be able to see that because you think that what you feel is more important than anything else. More important than  *****s well being. Let?s see what happens. If you can?t care about him, why would I? You think it?s all about the things you can provide him? Let?s find out."

Hmmm..for me lang ha..parang may hugot si kuya dito. May na-sense akong issues nya about sa pagtira nyo sa side mo. Parang nag-expect sya na eventually na magkakaroon kayo ng tinatawag na "kayo" talaga as a family. This confirm yung sinabi ni TS na feeling nya kahit na matanda na sya to decide para sa sarili nya eh parang importante pa din yung sasabihin ng parents nya sa lahat ng desisyon nya..

For me lang ulit ha..baka si ex nya nung una payag na dun sila tumira. Pero eventually na-feel nya na parang yung part nya na dapat padre de pamilya eh hindi nya magawa dahil nandun kayo sa poder ng pamilya mo..and there's no way na magkakaroon ng "kayo"

Kaya ayan si kuya, nagrerebelde. Gumagawa ng desisyon para may patunayan sa sarili nya kahit alam nyang hindi naman talaga feasible. Pinipilit yung gusto nya sa maling paraan.

Hindi ko binibigyan ng katwiran yung ex ni TS. Na-sense ko lang. Tama naman kayo mga sis sa lahat ng mga punto nyo. Yan lang na-share ko lang.

[fifi_girl]

^Yes sis preciousjulia, yan nga ang hugot niya. I know may kasalanan din ako sa lahat ng nangyari. We could have moved out and start a life of our own after ko manganak. But what's done is done. Nangyari na. My point is that, sana instead na puro sisihan, eh mag-isip ng paraan on how we can move forward after everything.

[preciousjulia]

Yes sis, I agree. Hindi nya ma-handle mabuti yung mga shortcomings nyo as a couple kaya ganyan ang approach nya.

Anyway sis.. God bless sayo at sa anak mo. Hope na maging ok ang lahat.

[fifi_girl]

Yes sis, I agree. Hindi nya ma-handle mabuti yung mga shortcomings nyo as a couple kaya ganyan ang approach nya.

Anyway sis.. God bless sayo at sa anak mo. Hope na maging ok ang lahat.

Thanks Sis. Para kaseng na-stuck na siya sa lahat ng nangyari before. Ang hirap kase alam ko naman na andun pa yung love. For now, ipagdarasal ko na lang muna