I had an emotional affair with my ex

[Shadow Angel]

^actually di un para kay TS dun sa isang nag comment na bf nya kasama pa rin ang wife.

Iba iba man ang stories nyo mga kabit iisa lang ang totoo may nasasaktan/nasisira kayong pamilya. Sabihin mo ng judgmental ako pero alam mo sa sarili mong kung ano totoo... na  mistress ka pa rin.

[lalee888]

^^ noted sis @mysteriosa_me

^ very true sis @shadow angel

they don't want to accept the hard truth. gets ko yung naghiwalay na ang mag-asawa, at nag move-on na.. pero kung namamangka sa dalawng ilog, kahit ano pang "we have our own reasons" eh pa-epek lang yun... kabit is kabit is kabit.

[mysterioza_me]

^actually di un para kay TS dun sa isang nag comment na bf nya kasama pa rin ang wife.

Di si TS tinutukoy ko na may anak.  Yung bf ni Alyssalicious may 2 kids sila ng wife niya. Nabanggit niya dun sa pinakaunang comment niya ata yun.

[Shadow Angel]

^oo nga sis thanks may 2 kids na. Nafocus kasi ako na may wife na at ok lang sa kanya dahil may reasons daw sila basta mahal sya.

Siempre di kasali un hiwalay na bago mo nakarelasyon pero un as in may family pa na kasama tapos eeksena ka kahit pa sabi mong may problema ang mag asawa bakit hindi mahiwalayan ng lalaki un wife kung talaga ayaw na. Tipikal na dahilan ng mga lalaki gusto magkaroon ng kabit un mga babae naman sobrang uto uto. Siempre mamahalin ka nyan pumayag ka ba naman maging kabit. Gaano kaya kalalim ang pagmamamahal na yan at hindi maiwan ang wife. Kung dahil sa anak for sure willing ka rin bigyan sya ng anak.

[lalee888]

ang hindi ko maintindihan, why some women allow themselves to be kabits... as if they don't value themselves to be worth more than that...  kahit anong angle ko tignan, pag tinatago ka, pag tinatago ang relationship nyo, may mali.... may hindi "pure" and if there's impurity, it just won't ever be clean.

Mind-clean, heart-clean is a far better and more satisfying feeling than lust or attraction due to loneliness.

[Girltalker2]

kahit ano pang "we have our own reasons" eh pa-epek lang yun... kabit is kabit is kabit.

Agree sis, dagdagan ko pa na a kabit is a kabit is a kabit is a kabit is a kabit is a kabit is a kabit is a kabit is a kabit forever. 😂😂😂

[otra_vez]

to TS: i hope you're still reading this thread because a lot of members here already gave wonderful insights regarding your situation. i agree with all of them. sorry sis pero to me, not only do you not love and value your husband, even worse, you don't respect him. ultimately, i think because you don't really respect yourself either. tama sila--your affair with your ex is your way of healing your bruised ego. he rejected you twice before but now you're thinking, "oh he's come to his senses, he realized i was the one!" nope. he has always known that you're always just there, ready for his taking tapos when he's done playing with you, he can easily toss you aside.

it's truly tragic if you're in a marriage wherein you don't love your spouse. hey but it happens. i think that true healing comes when you start by being honest with yourself. if after a considerable period of soul searching, you realize that you want to be with your ex, first, do right by your husband and tell him. free him to find someone who adores him. even if it doesn't work out with your loser ex, at least you did your husband a solid.

to alyssalicious: you don't owe us any explanation nga but we judge because it's fun kidding aside, i guarantee you that what's really sad here is, we actually have your best interest at heart more than your boyfriend does. hindi ka mahal niyan. he may say it, he may even really believe it but he doesn't. if he loves you, he wouldn't put you in the situation you're in now. i'm sure he promised you a lot of things. "my kids are still young. let me wait until they finish college. and then we can be together!" something to consider: someone who truly loves you will never make it seem as if you won the jackpot by being with you, like s/he is some sort of prize and you need to be grateful. it's the opposite. someone who truly loves you will make you feel secure and will make it seem as if they won in life by having you in it.

you have time, sis. you're single and you are free to find someone worthy of you. find that great love story for yourself sis instead of trying to take away someone else's. your future self will thank you for it. best of luck!

[plumpolka]

sya na tuloy ang naging bagong topic dahil sa revelation nya. it's okay to be in a relationship with married men as long as hindi na to nakatira sa bahay ng asawa at talagang hiwalay na. although mas maganda na annuled na talaga kasi legally kabit ka parin kahit emotionally ikaw na ang asawa. and nakakadiri lang din isipin na nasawsaw na ng lalaki sa asawa, isasawsaw pa sayo. of course they will do what married couples do. dun sya umuuwi e. kahit pa sabihin nyan na di sila tabi matulog, the flesh is weak lalo na asawa nya yun, naanakan na nya, wala ng bago dun. tapos ikaw, waiting ka lang lagi pag tapos na sya sa hubby duties nya. always waiting and waiting never the priority.

[Alyssalicious]

Dami nyo naman agad sinabi Lol. Let me tell you:

Yung boyfriend ko naanakan nya yung wife nya ngayon and pinilit sya nung parents nung wife nya na magpakasal. With a heavy heart he married her para sa bata. Wife didn't let him finish his school. He also quitted his job as demanded by his wife to be the househusband because wife wants to pursue her career sa government. How can we be together if he has nothing? He is long lost, empty and lonely. Stagnant sa current situation nya ngayon. Though consequences yon ng sarili nyang kagagawan pero wala na ba syang karapatan? Napagkasunduan namin na wag muna magsama kasi nag iipon ako for us. We wanted to pursue abroad para maka ipon and then pag aaralin ko sya, find his own job to provide for our living and become a man once again. Pano kami magsasama ngayon kung ni isang kusing ala sya?

From the start of this thread I said I am in no position to give my opinion dahil alam ko he's a married guy. Kabit ako? Okay fine. That's a bitter pill of truth for me to swallow. Hirap din ako sa sitwasyon namin lalo na pag gusto ko syang makasama. That's the consequences of my choice. Sex with his wife? Tagal nang huminto. Annulment? Yes nag aayos na kami ng papers. Next year by August, hopefully nasa NZ na din kami. Justifying everything? Oo may part na mali, but this is our choice. Maybe there are just some things that aren't meant to be. Hate me whatsoever because Im the other woman, I dont care. Ipapakilala ko sya samin and we'll make things right.

I wouldn't say Im proud with my decisions nor say Im proud because I loved. Kaming dalawa ang nagkakaintindihan dito and that's all I'll give a damn. Now this is off topic, I stole the limelight. I'll make my exit. Back to studio, Ms Mel, Sir Mike xD

Oops, forgot on the sympathy thing, as I said this is my choice and I should be responsible with the consequences of it. I dont need someone to pat my back when things go hard. Pagtitiisan ko kasi ginusto ko. He is my first boyfriend by the way. Im 23. And enough, masyado na kong pabida. Ciao.

[bratty]

^Sis ang bata mo pa pala, please wag ka masyado mapusok. Wag ka magfocus sa bf mong may sabit. Baka mademanda ka pa dyan. Instead na gastusan mo ang annulment ng bf mo, bakit di mo i-invest mo sa sarili mo? Good luck!

[dismembered]

Ang swerte naman nung 32yo na may asawa at may anak para sya pa ang pag-aralin, at the same time alagaan ng 23yo girl. Anong pinakain nya sayo sis? Paano ka nya minahal? At paano nya napatunayan ang lahat para pasukin mo itong malaking gulo at responsibilidad? 

Yung lalake, meron syang kasalanan, meron syang pagkukulang at  meron syang desisyon na kailangan panindigan. Ngayon, willing ka kunin yon at saluhin. Willing ka din ba magsustento ng mga anak nya?

Inggit much ako sa lalakeng yun. lol. haha

[plumpolka]

do you have friends? 23 ka palang. bata ka pa. dont think na sya na ang lalaking papakasalan mo forever. mas masarap magmahal ng lalaking natuto from their own mistakes by themselves kesa ikaw tong pilit ng pilit na tulungan sya. magbasa basa ka sis ng ibang thread dito about married men para di ka masyado naniniwala sa sinasabi ng bf mo. how would you know they stopped having sex e dun nga sya natutulog. LOL

[Girltalker2]

^ mukhang set na mind nya.
I guess she will just realise later that she is making the biggest mistake of her life.

Mukhang nabola ng husto. At user din pala yung lalaki. Kung ayaw na nya sa asawa nya, he can always say it at umalis sa poder ng misis. Pero mukhang nagrerelax while his cheated Wife doesn?t have a single clue na e-exit na sya (if totoo man ang kwento).
Worse, baka kupitan pa yung wife nya para may startup money abroad.

I don?t think any wife can force the Husband to be a househusband unless the husband was willing to do it for her and the family or
He was left with no choice at di sya maka diskarte makahanap ng job. There?s no such thing as ?being coerced? in a situation like that. Coz you can just leave if ayaw mo. But then may kids pa man din. Just shows na walang balls itong Guy to know what?s right and wrong. Sasama lang kung kanino convenient for him. Baka pagdating nya NZ, dun makahanap puti na puede nya bolahin.
Good luck nalang.

[plumpolka]

^ it's her lesson to learn naman din. hintayin na lang din natin sya gumawa ng thread about it. siguro ganon talaga pag 1st bf, akala mo sya na ang forever mo. but true na walang balls yung lalaki. sunud-sunuran lang sa kung ano sabihin sa kanya. walang sariling diskarte sa buhay. him not leaving his wife means he doesnt want to leave his wife.

[Girltalker2]

^ ay tsaka yung term nya pala ?naanakan? at napilitan makasal. Eh paano yung second kid? Tinutukan sya ng baril kaya ng Wife para makabuo ulit? 🤪
Obviously, so many lies.

[Shadow Angel]

Ano pinagkaiba sa kwento na napilitan na pakasalan ang wife dahil nabuntis at pinilit kuno?

Grabe naman ang pagmamahal mo sa lalaki para saluhin mo lahat ang weakness nya. Walang sarili buto so kapag sinabi ng wife na wag mag work di sya mag work. Ikaw ang nakita nya scape goat at willing na willing ka naman.

1st bf mo tapos ganyan agad ang sitwasyon you and me against pala ang gusto mong love life. Nakausap mo ba ang wife para malaman kung totoo ang sinasabi nya? Side lang ng bf mo naririnig at pinaniniwalaan mo.

Ano nagustuhan mo sa kanya? Walang work, walang pera tapos married  na may anak pa. Well ikaw ang bahala bata ka pa for sure pagtanda mo may mga bagay ka pagsisihan. Pagnakasama mo sa iisang bubong yan dun mo malalaman ang totoong pinasok mo.

Kung malalaman yan ng parents/family mo ang tunay na sitwasyon mo malulungkot yan para sayo. Ang bata at may career ka naman sa ganyan lalaki ka lang pala babagsak. Ang dami pang good catch guy dyan.

[plumpolka]

^^ true. once, pwede mo sabihing mistake pero 2x? cant say na napilitan kung may 2 ng anak. aksidenteng nabundol ng T ang P ni wiifey haha!


^sayang no, baka di pa nya naiisip sa ngayon yung longterm effect sa buhay nya sa lalaking yan.

[Shadow Angel]

Napapaisip ako kung walang pera paano sil nagdadate sagot nya lahat or may kupit sa wife or sa budget nila? Kupit kasi di naman nya sariling pera un unless nag paalam sya ipangdadate or momol nya yaman wala na raw sex life with the wife.

[bratty]

^^ true. once, pwede mo sabihing mistake pero 2x? cant say na napilitan kung may 2 ng anak. aksidenteng nabundol ng T ang P ni wiifey haha!

Nasagasaan din siguro ng rumaragasang t*ti kaya nakabuo ulit! Hahaha! 😂

Tinamaan ng swerte si bf!

[simang]

Ano nagustuhan mo sa kanya? Walang work, walang pera tapos married  na may anak pa.

Same questions...