I had an emotional affair with my ex

[Girltalker2]

Thats why am paranoid about my wife talking to her friends but anyway since i got used to the situation i think i am ready to set her free if she decides because honestly i dont get why she needs 5 set of friends and yet she opens up to her friends online.
sorry enough about me...

Ikaw ang lalaki. You only have this life. Why prolong the agony of waiting for her to decide? Alam Mong wala sa tamang disposition ang asawa mo, so most likely she won?t be in the right mind to decide.

Either you decide or be ready to forever be stuck in that purgatory.

[nerddict]

Oh Wow. You have everything. And yet, mukhang di ka kuntentado.

Why are some people like this? Bulag-bulagan sa kung anong meron sila. Pero kapag nawala na, saka ma-appreciate yung nawala. Grabe.

Makuntento ka sa kung anong meron ka. Hindi mo alam gaano ka kablessed.

[plumpolka]

tingin ko hindi ka lang maka move on na iniwanan ka ng ex mo. bitbit mo sya since then hanggang ngayon na may asawa ka na. i dont think its love. hindi mo lang talaga ma-accept na iniwanan ka nya ng walang dahilan. baka na-hurt yung ego mo na basta basta ka lang inwanan ng hindi mo alam. imagine, tinikman ka lang nya nung magulo sila ng gf nya tapos iniwanan ka na naman uli nung ok na sila and pinakasalan pa nya di ba. just goes to show kung gaano ka nya "kamahal". you say kayong 2 lang minahal ng ex mo? guess what, 2 na nga lang kayo, hindi parin ikaw ang pinili at pinakasalan nya. at ngayon na iniwanan na naman ya ng wife nya, alam nyang andyan ka naman para sa kanya. na willing sirain ang present na pamilya, mabalikan lang ng "greatest love" nya. swerte mo na sa husband mo na ikaw pinili at pinakasalan nya, babalik ka pa sa pagiging second choice dyan sa ex mo? tingin mo pag binalikan yan ng wife nya, magsstay pa sya sayo? wag masyado padala sa mga sinasabi nya. tama ka, kinakausap ka lang nya kasi malungkot sya. tingin mo naman mahal ka na agad. misery loves company. ngayon sinasama ka na nya sa magulong buhay nya, nagpapadala ka naman. kawawa naman yung anak mo na nakakita, forever na yun nasa isip nya. 10 yrs old na yan, natuto pa magsinungaling. he will always remember na nahuli ka nyang cheating. sa ngayon di pa nya alam yan pero pag tumanda sya, he will realize his mother was a flirt. gusto mo ba ganon tingin sayo ng anak mo? lalaki pa?

[lilu]

Hi TS, its been 2 months, sana nagsilbing aral sayo yan.. nauntog ka na nga ba? Nagising na sa reality? I hope maayos ka na at kung nabuking ka man ng anak mo, wag naman sana yung hubby mo.. tandaan mas mahirap pag ang lalaki ang naiputan sa ulo.. ibang level ng pain pagka lalaki ang nasaktan and ibang level ng ganti ang gagawin sayo.. kaya believe in karma. Do good and be good.

[Alyssalicious]

Weew ang haba ng post pero I read everything.

Sister kung wala naman pagkukulang sayo yung husband mo eh parang ang unfair naman sa kanya ng ginagawa mo. And sa tingin ko rebound ka lang ni ex mo because of the sadness that he feels. He's a user. Biglang lalamig tapos iinit. Biglang lulubog tapos lilitaw.

Im not in the right position to say what's right or wrong. Because to be honest, my boyfriend now is married, has two kids at magkasama pa sila sa bahay ng wife nya. But we have reasons kung bakit ganito ang situation namin sa ngayon. Pero sa tingin ko, iba yung reasons mo sa reasons ko, at iba din ang reasons ng ex mo sa boyfriend ko. Your ex is not worth fighting for lalo na at kung maayos na asawa ang husband mo.

[preciousjulia]

Im not in the right position to say what's right or wrong. Because to be honest, my boyfriend now is married, has two kids at magkasama pa sila sa bahay ng wife nya. But we have reasons kung bakit ganito ang situation namin sa ngayon. Pero sa tingin ko, iba yung reasons mo sa reasons ko, at iba din ang reasons ng ex mo sa boyfriend ko. Your ex is not worth fighting for lalo na at kung maayos na asawa ang husband mo.

So sis Alyssalicious tutal na-share mo na dito. Sorry OT pero ano naman kaibahan sa reason ng ex nya sa boyfriend mo if you don't mind? at ano ang worth fighting for para sayo base sa situation nyo ng boyfriend mo na may two kids at kasama pa ang wife nya sa house?

[Alyssalicious]

So sis Alyssalicious tutal na-share mo na dito. Sorry OT pero ano naman kaibahan sa reason ng ex nya sa boyfriend mo if you don't mind? at ano ang worth fighting for you?

Yung sa ex nya wala naman reasons, I bet. On my boyfriend, meron syang medium term goals at long term goals for us to be executed at the right place and on the very right time. I'm not saying pag may goal na at plano yun na yun o sya na yun. Every person has their own story to tell. Ang worth fighting for sakin? Isang reason lang ang kailangan ko, yung alam kong mahal nya ko.

[loveleah]

Honestly, I think bored lang din si ex mo sis, sorry for the bluntness. Kasi base sa history parang babalik siya sa yo kapag nag aaway sila ng gf niya, and when they get back together, mawawala ka na naman sa picture. Same yan sa Ex ko, who was my one great love, but the one who hurt me the most din.. may pag lalandi sa FB, pero kilala ko na siya eh, kaya no big deal, di na dapat pinatulan. Mas mabuti nga ipapakita mo sa kanya na you have a better life now Sis eh, na mahal ka ng asawa mo, at masaya ka na sa pamilya mo.. di ba parang bitter pill to swallow yun para sa part niya. And sa sinabi mo na na miss mo siya at minahal mo siya, siguro dahil yun sa mga "what-if's" na hanggang ngayon di ka pa naka pag move on. Panoorin mo yung movie nina Richard Gere at Diane Lane, yung "Unfaithful", baka may mapulot ka na mga aral dun. Goodluck sa yo, may you be enlightened.

[plumpolka]

^^ haha! curious din ako sa reasons nya. alam nyang very much married si bf at dun pa sa wife umuuwi, proud pa sya sa relationship nila.

[preciousjulia]

Diba sis plumpolka  medyo may konting kwestyon lang po dun sa part na yun na kung maari pong bigyan linaw.. like alam ba ni wifey yung about sa kanila and ano talaga status ni bf at ni wifey. And bakit ok lang kay sis na ganun ang set up nila.

Sorry po OT medyo na-curious lang talaga.

Back to TS. Wala na talaga. Hindi na sya nagparamdam.

[Alyssalicious]

Well I don't owe anyone explanations. Saka it's OUR choice, both of us. And sumagot naman ako dun sa taas, so enough.

Wala nang paramdam si TS, baka nag vivideo call sila ni ex nyA. Jk! xD

[Girltalker2]

Yung sa ex nya wala naman reasons, I bet. On my boyfriend, meron syang medium term goals at long term goals for us to be executed at the right place and on the very right time. I'm not saying pag may goal na at plano yun na yun o sya na yun. Every person has their own story to tell. Ang worth fighting for sakin? Isang reason lang ang kailangan ko, yung alam kong mahal nya ko.

Typical kabit mentality. Isa ka rin sa mga nagpapabola. Akala mo lang mahal ka nya. Bakit sya kelangan umuwi sa asawa nya if he loves you? Bakit ka kelangan mag antay ng right time if both of you are on the right age? Hindi naman kayo bata na.

But then what do I know. May mga happy ending din naman ang kumabit at sumira ng Ibang pamilya. It happens too. If that?s you?re counting on, not impossible. And it?s your choice ikanga.

[plumpolka]

Well I don't owe anyone explanations. Saka it's OUR choice, both of us. And sumagot naman ako dun sa taas, so enough.Wala nang paramdam si TS, baka nag vivideo call sila ni ex nyA. Jk! xD

yes sis, you dont owe us an explanation. you owe it to the wife and the kids someday. and of course andyan din yung mentality na walang paki sa sasabihin ng ibang tao kasi masaya ka sa piling ng may asawa. 


na curious lang kami kasi ni-relate mo pa situation mo sa TS e...

[plumpolka]

Diba sis plumpolka  medyo may konting kwestyon lang po dun sa part na yun na kung maari pong bigyan linaw.. like alam ba ni wifey yung about sa kanila and ano talaga status ni bf at ni wifey. And bakit ok lang kay sis na ganun ang set up nila.

Sorry po OT medyo na-curious lang talaga.

Back to TS. Wala na talaga. Hindi na sya nagparamdam.

OT lang


hahaha! true, pero anyway sino nga naman ba tayo para magtanong. we are not the wife. im sure di yan alam ng wife. the fact na umuuwi pa hubby sa kanya at sa pamilya nya, means  hindi pa nya sila maiwan kasi they share a special spot in his heart. no woman (other) can ever take that away from him, she can only share a space but not his whole heart. men will always say iiwanan ko pamilya ko for you, but come on, it's never gonna happen unless annulment is on process. opinion ko lang naman. 

[kvandenhaak]

Well I don't owe anyone explanations. Saka it's OUR choice, both of us. And sumagot naman ako dun sa taas, so enough.

Wala nang paramdam si TS, baka nag vivideo call sila ni ex nyA. Jk! xD

No one owes anyone any explanation. But you kept on justifying your action but you can't exactly tell the details. Just don't anymore. Do whatever you want with your life. It is your choice anyway, like what you said. But don't expect any sympathy from people around you.

[Shadow Angel]

Isang reason lang kailangan basta mahal ka kahit kabit ka or may nasasaktan na tao. Sana wala anak ang bf mo kasi un ang pinaka apektado at kawawa dahil sa reason na basta mahal ka. So sad naman may mga tao pala na ganyan lang pamantayan sa relatioship.

[lalee888]

Was trying to avoid this thread kasi imbyerna ako sa mga taong t**** (apologies for the bluntness), and ang reason ay ang puso nila. Naging t**** din ako (not cheating), pero deep down alam ko di magwork out relationship ko with an ex, so i gathered myself and found strength to leave a relationship that i know would never work out. So I think I expect people to pick themselves up and do the right thing.. it can be done, all it takes is courage.

To OP: dude, you are nothing but his ENTERTAINMENT. It's a known fact in life that humans need external validation, no matter what stage in life. A retired old man buys a sports car-- it validates and gets external recognition that he has achieved financial comfort in his life. For young adults, mid-life adults, and any working adult, it FEELS really good to be admired by the opposite sex. In fact, it's VERY HEALTHY to want it, and receive it. A smart person will take it to build on their confidence and have a healthier relationship with their spouse. A stupid person will not use such for positive gains.

In your case, you don't sound like a healthy person. Instead of identifying that this guy is narcissistic and is seeking you for his own validation, you are falling for his predatory ways. It's unfortunately common for people to be mis-matched and have failed marriages. That does not sound like the case here. This guy is clearly stroking his ego but keeping his family together -- using you to stroke his ego, and entertain himself.

Trying to keep this short and trying to bite my tongue. Pero walang biktima, kung walang papa-biktima. Wala kang rason maging biktima. In your original post, wala kang binigay na problem sa marriage mo, t**** ka lang na magfall sa sparkle ng attention na nakuha mo sa ex mo. Ego mo ring ang problema. Ego mo rin ang matigas na ayaw makinig sa mga payo dito na sampal sa face mo, alam mong true, pero mega-deny ka and defensive na you don't need to explain yourself.

Guess what, you put your situation out here so, don't expect all sympathies only. Instead, expect all kinds of views. Good luck.

[mysterioza_me]

^May 2 kids daw sis

[lalee888]

^May 2 kids daw sis

Sis, hindi pa rin enough na reason yun to live a lie. Honesty is truly the only best way to live. Again, biting my tongue kasi i don't want to sound preach-y but..

kung gusto maraming paraan, hindi maraming dahilan..

[mysterioza_me]

^Sis sorry para kay sis shadow angel yun hehe. Sabi niya kasi sana walang anak si guy at wife kaya sabi ko may 2 kids.

Ako naniniwala na kung mahal ni guy si mistress kahit harangan pa ng sibat yan hihiwalayan niyan misis niya para makasama si mistress (nangyayari naman ito sa tunay na buhay di ba). Paggusto maraming paraan, pag-ayaw maraming dahilan. Madali lang naman gumawa ng plano at magsabi ng i love you para makuha ng lalake ang gusto niya. Iilan babae na ba napangakuan ng lalake na iiwan nila ang misis nila pero di naman ginawa?! The fact na nagsasama pa sila ng misis niya for sure may something pa yan. Kung si mistress ang mahal pinili na agad siya ni guy. Di ako nanenermon ah sinasabi ko lang ang katotohanan. Wala ako sa posisyon magsermon for obvious reason na nabanggit ko na sa ibang thread.