A married man is flirting with me.

[hushush]

^yun din pinagtataka ko sis bakit walang ibang law or amendments about the adultery/concubinage law.. Mabuti na lang at may RA 9262. Basa mga sisters...

Unfaithfulness is also punishable under Republic Act No. RA 9262 , otherwise known as the Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Law (?VAWC Law?).  Repeated marital infidelity is considered as psychological violence which is punishable with a stiffer imprisonment of 6 years and 1 day to 12 years.  Since violation of the VAWC law is a public crime, the complaint may be filed by any citizen having personal knowledge of the circumstances.

Because concubinage is difficult to prove in court, it is better to file a case of psychological violence under RA 9262

Republic Act 9262 or the ?Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004? has now come to the rescue of women. Philandering husbands can now be charged criminally even for just one incident of marital infidelity under the ?psychological violence? provision of RA 9262.

RA 9262 defines psychological violence as:

?acts or omissions causing or likely to cause mental or emotional suffering of the victim such as but not limited to intimidation, harassment, stalking, damage to property, public ridicule or humiliation, repeated verbal abuse and marital infidelity. It includes causing or allowing the victim to witness the physical, sexual or psychological abuse of a member of the family to which the victim belongs, or to witness pornography in any form or to witness abusive injury to pets or to unlawful or unwanted deprivation of the right to custody and/or visitation of common children.?

The penalty for "psychological violence" is a minimum of six years up to twelve years of imprisonment. The maximum penalty is imposed if the violence is committed by the intimate partner against the woman when she is pregnant or in the presence of the common children.
(For a detailed discussion on what psychological violence is, please read ?Hope and help for the battered woman (4): Emotional abuse/psychological violence? in my Salt and Light blog.)

https://famli.blogspot.com/2006/01/adultery-concubinage-and-psychological.html?m=1

[Girltalker2]

Kahit anong lahi basta lalake may tendency to cheat if the opportunity is there unless the guy has a moral compass and can stay away from temptation.

I like this statement. If you guys notice, I never said other lahi is faithful. I just commented on what I see. Judgemental as it may seem, sa ibang bansa kasi Hindi sisikat at di tinotolerate ang mga tulad ni erap, Revilla atbp. (Isama nyo narin dyan ang ex ko)

Sabi ko nga baka meron di ko lang alam. Pero ito kasi grabe, ina-idol pa ng ibang tao. At talagang binabandera pa talaga ang lahat ng anak sa labas.

[Shadow Angel]

Agree with kvandehaak nasa culture un hindi normal pero naging normal na sa atin. Kay dj chacha na nga lang daming caller na may 3rd party ang karelasyon. Like I said before tinotolarate kasi ng mga babae pangloloko ng lalaki bukod pa sa mga babaeng papayag na maging kabit. Agree rin ako na sa pinas kahit tambay at walang pera may kabit.

[Girltalker2]

And that is what I see as a problem in the Philippines, the lack of laws that protect women's rights and our tolerance to philandering men.

Regarding laws kasi, Sino ba kasi gumagawa nito? Di ba Yung mga may mga kabit?

Di ba nga recently, Yung mga kanya kanya pang kabit ang nag aaway sa congresso.

https://www.google.com.sg/amp/newsinfo.inquirer.net/885048/cathy-binag-gf-spat-alone-did-not-trigger-alvarez-case-vs-floirendo/amp

Sila pa mismo nag p press release.

That?s why the law for illegitimate kids to follow on their father?s surname was pushed dahil din sa mga kumag na congressman na iyan.

Just imagine you being the wife, wala kang kalaban laban. Magalit ka man or mag tantrums, wala kang magagawa.

Yes you can file, Tingin mo Oras and money also on your side? Think again.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Haha kaka mention lang ng "blanket statement" ng 1 Sis sa taas, meron na naman ako uli nabasang ganon, hay susmiyo haha!

[three8one]

Support pa more sa mga pelikulang may temang kabit kabit.  kaya rin lumalakas ang loob ng mga kabit at mga nangangabit dun sila kumukuha ng lakas ng loob at kapal ng mukha. feeling siguro nila applicable yun sa totoong buhay.

baon na baon si TS dito, siguro hindi lang 6 ft btg... pero sabi ko nga sino ako para mag judge ng kapwa ko. wag mo na lang ulitin TS. marami akong natutuhan lesson dito.

[young_maiden]

^ naka-move on na ako, bro. Hehe.

Sa mga moderators, I repeat my request na i-delete na ang thread na ito. Thank you. :-)

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^Why naman, ganda ng topic and mainit ang discussions, pero naisip ko din pano nga ba mag-delete ng thread.

[hushush]

^i think bukod siguro sa ayaw na din ni TS na maalala itong mapait na karanasan nya na kahit nakamove on na sya, it will still remind her of unhappy emotions like fear, shame, stress, sadness, etc lalo na kung hot topic nga at palaging nasa recent posts hehe..
Agree din ako madelete na to kasi nakakasawa na din yung post ng iba na paulit-ulit na. Ginawang rant thread eh..yes we heard you, we already know that you hate manlolokos, babaeros, mambabatas, pinoys, pilipinas, but please tama na..kaumay eh hay...

[kvandenhaak]

@Girltalker2: Exactly!  I read an article here in GT about Adultery and Concubinage. Aba ang mga lawmakers, pinaghiwalay pa ang adultry at Concubinate eh pareho lang naman in essence yun, NANGALIWA KA! In my understanding, it's only women who can be guilty of adultery. Men, for them to be guilty of concubinate, kelangan caught in the act and/or mapatunayan na meron kang ibinabahay na mistress. Ang galing di ba, sobrang one sided. And they won't pass the divorce law because they know dehado sila.

Ang dami ko kasing relatives na kinakaliwa ng mga asawa. My grandma suffered from it without any recourse, my cousins, my aunt na Principal pa naman. Ang kabit ng asawa nya ay teacher din na walang kahihiyan, saksakan ng kapal ang pagmumukha!  Ang katwiran na lang is basta sa kanya umuuwi at sa kanya binibigay ang pera. My goodness!

Bottomline here is, it's not entirely the fault of men (in this particular scenario, Pinoy men) na maraming matutukso. It's because the environment they live in is very conducive to it. The culture which says "the more, the merrier". Tayong mga babaeng nagpapabola sa mga lalake. The lack of laws protecting women. At minsan upbringing.

Hay naku, i-delete na nga itong thread na 'to. Kaka-stress lang....LOL!

[Shadow Angel]

May option naman na hindi basahin kung hindi feel or kung umay na sa opinion namin kung tingin ay rant pala ang post. 

[Girltalker2]

^ I'd rather not comment 😂

I'm sure mods will delete this soon. Sayang Lang some can really learn from this experience.

^ naka-move on na ako, bro. Hehe.

Sa mga moderators, I repeat my request na i-delete na ang thread na ito. Thank you. :-)

I thought threadstarters can delete their threads. In any case, just as you're doing, you've accepted your mistake and you're moving on.

Sometimes past mistakes can remind you the difficulty you went through and you come out stronger.

[plumpolka]

ang daming na triggered ni TS sa thread na to hahaha!


basta to TS

dont find love, let love find you

wag masyadong desperate makahanap ng mamahalin na kung sino na lang available. enjoy being single. age doesnt matter. si ai-ai nga e, si madam auring. ako pressured to get married kasi marrying age na daw ako and sabi mahihirapan na ako magkaanak, pero who cares? d ko pa makasya sa budget ko ang additional person. in god's time, in perfect timing, lahat naman dadating kung para sa atin. love yourself. enjoy being single. wag masyado magfocus sa downside ng pagiging single. masaya naman mag isa. umakyat ka bundok, explore yourself more and dont depend your happiness sa ibang tao. sabi ko nga sa blog ko, happiness is a choice. always choose to be happy

[three8one]

pwede siguro I lock na lang tong thread na ito.. suggestion lang naman.

 

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Dahil ba sa thread na'to kaya laging down ang GT? Hahahaha!  I don't see any reason para ilock or delete itong thread, wala naman nagmumurahan at nagaaway, go lang ng go, healthy discussion and exchange of opinions, we're all adults here let's agree to disagree nalang. Ok nga na iba-iba tayo ng stands, at least we hear a lot of sides to this infamous topic/issue and experiences. It's also timely and relevant, since mas dumadami ata ang species ng mga Kabit.

Kung dahil nahihiya or di na comfortable si TS makita pa to, siguro naman alam nya bago nya to ginawa na kind of forever ang posts sa social media, ambilis lang nito i screen shot and isave maski pa idelete tong thread. 

[simang]

I think may reason naman para ilock or idelete yung thread, as the discussion kasi no longer focus on TS's problem. I guess pwede sya imerge with other mistress threads na sandamakmak naman dito sa GT, if ayaw burahin.

And akala ko rin pwedeng magdelete ang TS. Hindi pala.

[bratty]

Dahil ba sa thread na'to kaya laging down ang GT? Hahahaha! 

Hahaha... Mukhang ito nga yun eh!

Madami ako natutunan sa thread na ito. Good luck again TS!

[Maldita_Princess_Bebe]

Dahil ba sa thread na'to kaya laging down ang GT? Hahahaha!  I don't see any reason para ilock or delete itong thread, wala naman nagmumurahan at nagaaway, go lang ng go, healthy discussion and exchange of opinions, we're all adults here let's agree to disagree nalang. Ok nga na iba-iba tayo ng stands, at least we hear a lot of sides to this infamous topic/issue and experiences. It's also timely and relevant, since mas dumadami ata ang species ng mga Kabit.

Kung dahil nahihiya or di na comfortable si TS makita pa to, siguro naman alam nya bago nya to ginawa na kind of forever ang posts sa social media, ambilis lang nito i screen shot and isave maski pa idelete tong thread. 

sis wag naman sana maging title na to yung girl na namentioned ko sa post ko. afraid

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Maldita_Princess_Bebe oh no, wag naman Sis, agapan mo na haha! Loko lang. 

bratty hahaha, diba, lagi nalang down ang GT, wonder what's happening.

See that's exactly the point, lahat naman ng threads eventually nagsasanga sanga ang topics, lumalayo sa main issue, kasi ganon naman talaga lahat ng healthy discussions, imposible hinde ma de-rail from the actual focus every now and then.

Pero kung idedelete or lock itong thread, it's not the end of the world too! 

[candacena]

TS, hindi ka naman nagiisa. relate ako sa part na baka wala na magmahal sakin kasi matanda na ko at ang tagal ko na single etc. pero alam kong may nakatadhana sakin kahit 30+ na ko, 4 years single. Pray ka lang and trust Gods timing. dadating yan promise. buti ka nga lawyer eh, may trabaho, maganda(based on your posts) kaya imposible wala mag kagusto sayo na single din, may kakilala nga ako CPA mas matanda pa sakin pero single. pero tignan mo naman CPA siya. sabi nga ni sis plumpolka "dont find love, let love find you" pero syempre wag na tayo maging choosy kasi tumatanda na. ako inaamin ko naman na choosy ako hahaha. pinipilit ko na lang sabihin sa sarili ko na wag maging ganun. ganun talaga yung gusto natin ayaw satin minsan. basta mahalin ang sarili. enjoy being single. pray pray pray.