What's your non-negotiable in a romantic relationship?

[Lira_FN]

Hi ladies,

Guada from Female Network here! Just want to ask, what's your non-negotiable in a romantic relationship? What's a deal breaker for you?

Some of the answers will be compiled in an article.

Happy sharing!

[simang]

For me, family values. Very important kasi sa akin ang family so of course I want my partner to value his family too.

[kvan]

The guy has to be financially secure. It doesn't mean he has to be rich. As long as he can keep his $**t together, then it's fine. But if the guy is broke, wag na lang!

I once met a guy who wanted to date me. Pang sine lang wala pa, susme. He said, we can watch a movie at my place, he'll just bring his laptop and connect it to my TV. Ang lagay eh, pamemeryendahin ko pa? One time, he told me, "Just let me move in and I will show you how you should be taken cared of". I said, "No thanks but I can take care of myself!" I was still nice to him. The last time I heard, he's still unemployed. Nakabuntis pa ng isang Pinay na me tatlong anak. Ang gulo at ang bopols in Pinay...lol!

[kaythrielle]

Non-negotiable? For me, it's Respect.

If you have respect, you value the person so much na ang hirap magloko or bastusin or saktan sya. You wouldn't want to do anything na makakasira sa relationship nyo. Hindi ka gagawa ng something ikakahiya nya or mapapahiya sya because you will always take into consideration your partner's feelings.


Kaya ang deal breaker is once a partner becomes physically and emotionally violent and/or cheats. That means wala na syang respect left for the other person. It would be hard to maintain a relationship once respect is gone.

[vainjinir]

Kaya ang deal breaker is once a partner becomes physically and emotionally violent and/or cheats. That means wala na syang respect left for the other person. It would be hard to maintain a relationship once respect is gone.

Same tayo sis! I told my bf nung nagsisimula palang kami, when he decides to cheat or he tries to physically hurt me then he wants us to break up na. No usap usap.

[amethyst028]

my non-negotiables:

1. sense of humor so it's never boring. we should be able to make each other laugh.

2. responsible. it shows he has direction in life.

3. smart/intelligent so our conversations will have substance and  we will never run out of things to talk about. and i can learn from him as well.

[xsugar]

My non-negotiables are:

Respect - Sa lahat, hindi yung sa kakilala or magulang lang. He has to be respectful to everyone else lalo na sa mga service providers. Ayoko ng may attitude problem!

Family Values - especially gusto kong makita how he treats/value his mother and father.

Masipag / Madiskarte / Responsible - Yung may pangarap naman sa buhay. Yung iba kasi kuntento na sa sweldo-gastos-sweldo tapos walang ipon.

[princessette]

Trust - I cannot love someone who I do not trust.  I am person who doesn't trust easily so if you have broken it then I cannot love you and be with you.  If I trust you then that means you have my love and respect.  So with trust gone, those will be eventually be gone too.

[shinies]

Honesty, Loyalty, and Compatibility

Honestly - Lies, kahit white lies, lead to distrust and I can't be with anyone I don't trust. This is the foundation of any relationship.

Loyalty - There should only be 1 special woman in his life. Cheating is unforgiveable! That's an instant relationship ender.

Compatibility - We don't have to be exactly alike but we need to be in harmony to sustain the relationship.

[lovely_carrot]

No anger issues - my current BF ilang beses ko na sinubukan, he is still patient AF 

Respectful sa parents - here you can see how someone is raised and how he will raise his wife / own family with the way he treats his mom especially

May trabaho - I don't think I will settle down with someone na ako pa ang bubuhay sa kanya. No can do.

Naliligo araw araw, gabi gabi - in UAE some people think that bathing and deodorant is optional. E kung amoy kambing sya kahit gano kapogi ay wag na..

[xsugar]

^^ sis natawa ako sa amoy kambing! parang may hugot!

[jamimi29]

Communication - This is very important for me. We should be able to communicate to one another every now and then. Hindi naman yung oras oras or maya't maya kasi sa field of work namin, madalas busy kami pareho. So yung kahit minsanang kamustahan, okay sya for me.

Time - Hindi lang basta yung kasama ko sya, dapat physically and mentally present sya. Minsan kasama mo nga pero work naman ang nasa isip yung ganun. We should be able to spend quality time together.

and yung mga sinabi din ng mga sis sa taas like Respect, Loyalty, Honesty.

[Girltalker2]

Honesty is a must. No good relationship can exist if sinungaling partner mo. At marami nyan sa pinas.

Good communicator. This is important para magkaintindihan kayo at Hindi yung nakikiramdaman lang kayo because he doesn't know how to express his thoughts.

Compatibility -
1. Exercises and lives a healthy lifestyle. Ayoko ng sakitin or lampa, ayoko ng malaki tyan at mas lalong ayoko ma byuda ng maaga.

2. Doesn't smoke and drink.
Social drinking a glass or 2 is acceptable. But not yun tipong nakikipag inuman just for the sake.

3. Religion. He has to be a Catholic.

4. Romantic. He has to be romantic otherwise how can we maintain our love life kahit na sa pag tanda namin?

Knows how to do house chores. Not that I will want him to do everything at home, but for we can live better in 1 roof if I'm with a guy who knows how maintain a household. Aside from marunong sya Hindi maging makalat, he definitely can appreciate a clean house.

[lovemeagain30]

Knows how to do house chores. Not that I will want him to do everything at home, but for we can live better in 1 roof if I'm with a guy who knows how maintain a household. Aside from marunong sya Hindi maging makalat, he definitely can appreciate a clean house.

Eto dealbreaker sakin nung dalaga pa ko! hindi pede sakin ang baboy or tamad sa bahay. karamihan ng pinoy palaasa sa nanay. hindi marunong sa gawain bahay. kaya naisip ko nuon ano ako hilo? mag asawa na tayo ako lang kikilos at pagsisilbihan lang kita?  ayun nakahanap naman ako ng domesticated husband. haha ayun mas magaan ang buhay ko lalo nat we're living abroad. hindi uso katulong or yaya.

[iluvescadasport]

Non-negotiable:
1. Gender. I don't have anything against LGBT. But I'm a straight lady and I prefer straight men.

2. Integrity. Based sa dictionary, integrity is "the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness:" I've witnessed a lot of people who aren't honest, tapos nagcocompromise sa pera sa start with small amount, tapos in the end nagiging corrupt na.

3. Financially literate. If not, willing to be financially literate by attending seminars etc. I've seen people who panic and seems like it's the end of the world when they found out they became poor or when their money became less in amount. But if you are financially literate, even 0 peso won't scare you so much kasi you know there is hope.

4. God-fearing

Deal breaker:
1. Smoker  - i'm allergic to the smell of it
2. metrosexual 
3. drunkard / drug user/ drug dealer/ drug lord
4. government official (no offense to those working in offices)

[plumpolka]

non-negotiable:
no work, no desire to work, tamad, madali mag give-up, in short ayaw lang talaga magtrabaho... gives you a glimpse of what your future will be like with him. ok lang naman walang work for now, baka burnt out na sa work pero walang plano maging tambay forever.


dealbreaker:
physically abusive and serial cheater. basta abusive, whether its physical or emotional. relationship should bring out the best in us not the worst.

[KeyserSoze]

sorry girls just a question. i understand na you girls like religious guys or God fearing etc, and that this is non negotiable. pero what about if the guy is super nice naman and respectful of other beliefs, pero he's an atheist or agnostic? there are atheists/agnostics naman kasi who are very well educated and have done their research. what if for example active pa siya sa mga charity work (which atheists and agnostics do by the way)? what if he promises that he'll make sure to teach your kids to worship God naman if the time comes na magka-anak kayo? does this make the "religion" category a negotiable one? does it change anything?

[kvan]

^I go to church...almost every week. I am seeing a guy who is not a Christian (at least not active) but that's no deal break to me. As long as it doesn't bother him that I am going to church then it's fine. Minsan mas careful pa nga ako sa mga sobrang banal...lol!

[kaythrielle]

^^yes sis, that means "religion" is negotiable. 
It's up to you naman what's non-negotiable & what's negotiable.

[mysterioza_me]

@Keyserzone no offense meant sa INC dito ah but I will never date someone na INC member. Non-negotiable ko yan. Agnostic or atheist ok lang, wag lang nagpapractice ng demonic rituals lol.