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Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« on: July 20, 2017, 02:29:18 pm »
I'm a Catholic and He's an INC member. We're dating for almost 3 years. At first okay naman kami ng Family nya lately lang naiinis na talaga ako na gusto ko na talaga sila iconfront ( Malapit na malapit na talaga..), Hindi ko matake yunn sinasabi saken na nagdadala ako ng "MALAS" sa Family nila or "SUMPA". Na parang lahat ng hirap nila or struggles nila ngayon eh sila naman talaga ang kailangan iBlame kasi kasalanan nila yunn parang naghahanap lang sila ng Butas. Hahaha!!

Anyways. Okay lang siguro saken nun una maiintindhan ko kasi Parents sila ng BF ko. Ang ndi ko lang ma accept is meron sya younger sister na nabuntis ng Catholic 7 years bago pa maging kami  then "NATIWALAG" or natanggal sa Religion nila and meron na Kids ngayon. Na parang wala lang nangyare kung kausapin nila ni hindi nga nila pinapangaralan or naguusap about sa Religion nila. Which is kabaliktaran ng ginagawa saken at sa BF ko. Para nako hinaharass and nakakapressure na ng sobra.

Ako i tried to understand them. Tapos nako sa "DOKTRINA" and "SINUSUBOK" portion nila but I think I'm not yet ready to be"BAPTIZED".

Ano kaya maganda gawin sa Parents nya? Naiisip ko tuloy uutang kasi saken that time kaya mabait. Hahahaha!!!!

Pa share naman ako ng mga experience nyo and pahingi naman ako advice. Kung ano maganda gawin kasi ngayon gustung gusto ko na talaga sila sugurin and awayin sa mga masasamang pinagsasabi nila. Grrrrrr

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #1 on: July 20, 2017, 07:49:34 pm »
If I am younger Siguro (thinking my younger version), I would have converted nalang para wala nang issue.

But now that I'm more mature and have experienced life, I wouldn't convert as I've seen how God has taken cared of me all these years.

If I have a bf naman na iba ang religion, sad to say, but I would need to walk away. Alam ko ayaw mo marinig ito, but this is just my opinion. It is best to find a suitable partner kesa naman magkaiba ng religion, not to mention how his family treats you. Paano na mga anak nyo?

Sorry sis ha, I don't think this is the answer you're looking for but I think this is for the best of everyone. You may not see it now, but up to you if you want to hold on to this relationship and just discover later (maybe after getting married and having kids) how doomed this relationship can be. ☹️

« Last Edit: July 22, 2017, 09:14:18 am by Girltalker2 »

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #2 on: July 21, 2017, 06:45:06 am »
Isa ang religion sa non-negotiables ko. Hinding-hindi ako magko-convert dahil lang sa love. Magco-convert ako kasi yun ang nasa puso ko. Hindi ako nag-dare na makipag-date sa INC, nothing against them pero feeling ko kasi hindi sila magbebend ng rules para sa ibang religion dahil feeling nila "superior" sila. Ikaw ang dapat na pasakop and not the other way around. Uso pa naman takwilan ng kapamilya sa kanila kapag tumiwalag.

Current bf ko iba ang religion, nung una inaaya niya ako makinig sa kanila. Pero later on I told him na ayaw ko. Kasi iba yung interpretation ng Pastor nila sa interpretation or turo ng Katoliko. I told him na wag niya ipipilit sa akin yun kasi hindi kami magkakasundo. Dun siya sa relihiyon dun ako sa akin. Kung ayaw niya maghiwalay na kami. So yun kami pa din naman, nagkasundo kami na labas ang religion sa relasyon namin. Kahit anong religion pa tanggap namin ang bawat isa. Saka infairness sa parents niya di ko naman narinig na ako ang malas sa buhay nila, ako pa nga ang swerte sa buhay nila 😂
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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #3 on: July 21, 2017, 08:16:03 am »
what i know about INC is if you convert you can never leave. and also if hindi ka maka attend ng mass a few time may mga pupunta sa house mo para sunduin ka.

anyway ang  religion kasi belief mo yan e. can you let go of your belief and join another kung wala naman dun yung puso mo? 

i have a close friend na iglesia and talagang parang brain washing ang ginagawa sa kanila. we don't talk about religion ever kaya wala naman issue but i can really see na pag may sinabi yung church talagang gagawin nila regardless if they agree with it or not.

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2017, 09:11:43 am »
True yung sinabi mo na dadalawin ka nila sa bahay kapag di ka umattend ng 2 magkasunod na samba. Yung mga dormmates ko nung college kasi nadadalaw sila. Kaya ayun maski wala ng lakas nagsasamba nalang sila.

My friend din ako na INC, pero INC lang siya kasi yun na ang nakagisnan niya nung magkaisip siya. And no way out nga ata kasi yung naging gf niya na hindi INC hindi niya malantad kasi di daw INC, magagalit daw family niya. Current gf niya ngayon INC kaya open na sila.

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #5 on: July 21, 2017, 09:59:45 am »
Nasa sa'yo yan sis, alam mo naman ang sagot, isa dapat sa inyo ang magparaya and since if ever hindi naman aalis ang boyfriend mo sa religion and ikaw din if ever ayaw mo mag paconvert. Mas mabuti mag hiwalay na lang kayo, I have a friend na born again christian ayaw naman ng parents sa bf nya na catholic umabot sila 6 years pero dahil mag kaiba sila ng religion at ayaw din mag iba ng religion yung guy naghiwalay sila. Sad to say this is reality, pero meron iba parehas silang naggive up sa mga religion nila. It's up to you.
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« Reply #6 on: July 21, 2017, 11:02:19 am »
^Grabe sayang yung 6yrs. Kaya dapat talaga umpisa pa lang malinaw na talaga ang non-negotiables sa pakikipagrelasyon. Sayang yung feelings, time, effort and money na ininvest sa isa't-isa.
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« Reply #7 on: July 21, 2017, 11:03:00 am »
^Grabe sayang yung 6yrs. Kaya dapat talaga umpisa pa lang malinaw na talaga ang non-negotiables sa pakikipagrelasyon. Sayang yung feelings, time, effort and money na ininvest sa isa't-isa.
If a girl understands your b******t, stick through your mistakes, smiles even when you've done nothing for her , it's obvious she's a keeper. But it's also obVious that you don't deserve her...

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #8 on: July 24, 2017, 09:34:16 pm »
Ts, wag ka magpaconvert kung in doubt ka o gagawin mo lang yan para makeep yung bf mo. Sorry pero kalokohan yung ganyan. In the first place naman kasi, di dapat nakipagrelasyon sayo yang bf mo kung alam naman nyang magiging issue yung religion.

Yung ex ko and family nya, devoted inc member kuno. Nung una, okay lang ako sa kanila then after one month or so, ayan na nagpaparinig na kesyo dapat daw alam ko na yung tamang relihiyon, na kesyo kasalanan ang makipagrelasyon sa sanlibutan, etc. Since bata pa ko nun at madaling mapressure, pinagbigyan ko sila. Nung dinoktrina at sumamba na ko, ay naku laking pagsisisi ko. May something sa teachings nila na di ko masikmura kasi sobrang mali yung interpretation nila. Tinuloy ko pa rin kasi t**** ako sa pagibig nun. Nung nabaptismuhan ako, ang saya-saya ni bf at family nya. Afternun, minomonitor na nila kung sumasamba ba ko, ano daw yung leksyon nung araw na yun. 3 years akong diretso sumamba. Awa ng diyos, di ko talaga nagawang mahalin yung ginagawa ko. Parang gusto nila akong puppet sa mga pinagsasabi nila. Nakipagbreak na lang ako. Mas sumaya pa ko haha.

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #9 on: July 24, 2017, 09:38:04 pm »
Also, ginagawa nila talagang scheme yang manliligaw/makikipagrelasyon ng di kapatid (inc member) tas pag sila na o attached na si partner, magsisimula na yang mampressure na magpaconvert. Yan kasi sinasabi ng mga higher sa members nila. Kainis diba.

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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #10 on: July 24, 2017, 10:58:06 pm »
Religion is something very personal. You can't and you should not be forced to convert to a new religion regardless of the reason. Kelangan bukal sa puso mo to accept the faith. Otherwise, you're just forcing it and anything forced is not good.

At this time, you have still have the liberty to weight things out. You have to ask yourself, kakayanin mo ba to be in this situation once makasal na kayo?
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Re: Has anyone Dated a member of Iglesia ni Cristo member?
« Reply #11 on: October 18, 2017, 05:09:29 pm »
I dated somebody din before na INC. Kakakilala ko pa lang sa kanya, gusto nya na pakasal kame agad or live in.  Although, I was in my 30s then, di ko talaga kaya gusto nya so para kameng on and off.  Actually, walang beginning at end but more or less 3 months lang  ::) Anyway, I learned in time na kaya pala gusto nya mag live-in kase gusto nya magpatiwalag.  His gf before me was non-INC din and it was the reason for their break up.  Then one time, while we were in a mall, may nakasalubong syang 'kapatid'.  Yung tingin sakin was seizing me up and asked, kapatid ba sya?  So ayun, I really can't take it. 

 


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