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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #540 on: December 04, 2018, 10:56:13 pm »
^Siguro keep him at arm's reach but don't commit.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #541 on: December 05, 2018, 07:59:18 am »
Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.

Paano ka magugustuhan bilang ikaw if there?s no getting-to-know-you stage? Feeling ko lahat ng genuine relationships go through this. Nagkataon lang siguro you haven?t met the person interesting enough for you to have that patience.

And if you expect a guy to confess agad na he likes you (without really knowing you and your personality), parang malamang gamble sya na hoping magkatugma kayo ng ugali..

What?s worse is ikaw narin nagsabi before bakit Panay sex lang habol ng guys that are after you. Eh Kasi nga if you prefer Yung gusto ka agad,  regardless of your personality, most likely sex ang habol nyan.

I?m not saying naman na you wont find him yung gusto ka agad Pero sincere. Kaso Feeling ko slim ang chances. Kaya mas lalong nakaka frustrate na di mo sya mahanap.

These are just my thoughts.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #542 on: December 05, 2018, 09:52:05 am »
^^Apir sis.  We are both the same.  We don't want to waste time getting to know a guy via chat which means we prefer knowing the guy minus all the pacute and chat about nonsense.  We can't just reserve ourselves to a single guy without any assurance that he CAN be the one. 

But I think just try to talk to him AS a friend and not yet as a special one.  You can still enjoy his company through chat without the pacute or paasa sweetness.  But at the back of your mind, you are single and still ready to meet others.

I think if he's really the one for you, even if you don't "reserve" yourself to him, the stars will still align even when he's back from his seaman assignment.

Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.
« Last Edit: December 05, 2018, 10:14:20 am by xtine_orig »

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #543 on: December 05, 2018, 01:19:30 pm »
@kvan, thank you sa advice.

@girltalker 2: what i mean is wala akong tyaga sa getting to know you stage through chats lang. kung gusto niya ako kilalanin, dapat sa personal. yayain niya ako mag lunch, dinner o kape. kahit kanyang-kanyang bayad pa kami. basta gusto ko kaharap ko siya.

prefer ko din iyong directly sasabihin na may feelings. ayoko na pakiramdaman. ayoko yung idadaan sa jokes na hindi ko matantya kung half-meant o joke lang talaga. i hate uncertainties.

@xtine, thanks a lot. may point ka rin sa payo mo.

sa ngayon, 2 days na kami hindi nag-uusap eh. ang plano ko if mag-usap man kami ulit, siguro after a few small talks, seenzoned ko na ulit siya. ganyan ako sa mga guy friends ko eh. hindi na tulad dati na several hours kami magkachat o text.

i agree na if he is really into me, he will make a move pag-uwi niya sa July 2019. Unfortunately for him, I cannot wait that long. If single pa rin ako by that time, good for him. pwede ko siya kilalanin. if taken na ako, sorry na lang siya.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #544 on: December 05, 2018, 02:54:17 pm »
^ I see. Kala ko naman instant relationship gusto mo. Pero I Super agree with you on getting to know on a personal level, iba kasi ang text or chat lang.

Ang Hirap lang dyan satin how often kaya puede magmeet if magkalayo office/tirahan. Dahil sa traffic, parang mahirap makarami ng date. Mas mabagal ang progression ng relationship if sya na ba o hindi pa.

During our courtship days, my current bf and I met 3-4x a week. Siguro andun narin motivation to get to know each other. And yes nagustuhan ko sa kanya yung honesty na lets get to know muna, then let?s date exclusively, etc.

Para sa guys naman na dinadaan sa pakiramdam or joke, I? Super agree na di dapat sila pinapansin. Kasi Feeling ko , if convenient, GO, if not, ok lang.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #545 on: December 05, 2018, 03:00:52 pm »
Sis young_maiden, good for you na alam mo ang gusto mo. I see it as a growth mula sa dating misadventures mo with pakmen.

For some straight-forward kind of women, meron talagang lalaki who will leave question marks on their heads, like "is this guy pursuing me or not?" And then meron ding lalaking who will be clear in their intentions of committing to get to know you and see if there's a possibility of relationship. I remember having experiences with both types of guys/men when I was single.

Yeah, you can wait for someone who will exert an effort to pursue you or at least get to know you. Not necessarily they will be verbal with their intentions, but their consistent actions will not leave you doubting about what it is they want. But it's up to you.

For example, with my first bf in college, lagi ako hatid and stay sa bahay namin, that was the getting to know part. With my second bf-now husband (met online), he clearly asked kung pwede ba kami every Thursday magkita, apart pa sa Sunday na simba, again getting to know part yan. May commitment na sa getting to know you.

Kahit nga siguro sa long-distance, committed getting to know is possible, it's about openness, consistency and time. Pag whenever convenient lang or optional sa side ng guy, nasa girl na lang kung trip nya magrespond or to see kung may kapupuntahan, especially if time is not an issue.

And then meron ding lalaking pabugso-bugso ang text, yet sweet magtext. Miss you, wish you were here, thinking about you, etc. LOLs. Parang nag-iiwan sila ng trails na ewan. Confusing because words and actions don't match.

Anyway, good luck and hopefully dumating na yung para sayo and sayo din xtine :)

« Last Edit: December 05, 2018, 03:04:42 pm by glamorosa_09 »

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #546 on: December 06, 2018, 06:58:37 am »
^ thanks a lot, sis. :-)

super high na yata ng walls ko when it comes to men. i am too guarded now because of so many jerks i encountered in the past.

sabi sa akin ni seaman (through chat) na pag napasagot na daw niya ako, ako na daw forever. nagjoke pa siya na manghuhula daw siya at feeling niya magiging kami next year.

hindi ko talaga dama ang sincerity dahil through online lang eh. i do not consider chats as consistent efforts. pipindot-pindot lang naman mga guys dyan.

kung sincere man siya, sorry for him. i cannot settle sa diskarteng online lang.

move to the next guy na lang ako kung may darating. :-)
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