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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #540 on: December 05, 2018, 07:59:18 am »
Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.

Paano ka magugustuhan bilang ikaw if there?s no getting-to-know-you stage? Feeling ko lahat ng genuine relationships go through this. Nagkataon lang siguro you haven?t met the person interesting enough for you to have that patience.

And if you expect a guy to confess agad na he likes you (without really knowing you and your personality), parang malamang gamble sya na hoping magkatugma kayo ng ugali..

What?s worse is ikaw narin nagsabi before bakit Panay sex lang habol ng guys that are after you. Eh Kasi nga if you prefer Yung gusto ka agad,  regardless of your personality, most likely sex ang habol nyan.

I?m not saying naman na you wont find him yung gusto ka agad Pero sincere. Kaso Feeling ko slim ang chances. Kaya mas lalong nakaka frustrate na di mo sya mahanap.

These are just my thoughts.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #541 on: December 05, 2018, 09:52:05 am »
^^Apir sis.  We are both the same.  We don't want to waste time getting to know a guy via chat which means we prefer knowing the guy minus all the pacute and chat about nonsense.  We can't just reserve ourselves to a single guy without any assurance that he CAN be the one. 

But I think just try to talk to him AS a friend and not yet as a special one.  You can still enjoy his company through chat without the pacute or paasa sweetness.  But at the back of your mind, you are single and still ready to meet others.

I think if he's really the one for you, even if you don't "reserve" yourself to him, the stars will still align even when he's back from his seaman assignment.

Sa mga bros and sis natin dito na nagpayo re doon sa seaman na nagpaparamdam sa akin, heto update.

I decided to ghost him na lang. Paulit-ulit ko siya niseenzoned hanggang sa tumigil na lang siya sa pangungulit sa akin.

Wala ako patience sa puro chats lang. Hindi ko kaya magtiis ng puro chats lang until July 2019. Mas gusto ko pa rin yung magdidiskarte sa personal.

Dami ko din kasing what ifs. What if we met someone new and more interesting bago siya umuwi? What if yun nga bored lang siya? Ayoko na ng uncertainties. Wala ako tyaga sa getting to know stage.

It's either he likes/loves me or not. Gusto ko black and white. Ayoko ng pakiramdaman,

Mas prefer ko pa rin yung love stories na mabilis nag confess si guy at bahala na si girl kung accept o reject niya.

I just hope makahanap ako ng guy na kapareho ko mag-isip.
« Last Edit: December 05, 2018, 10:14:20 am by xtine_orig »

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #542 on: December 05, 2018, 01:19:30 pm »
@kvan, thank you sa advice.

@girltalker 2: what i mean is wala akong tyaga sa getting to know you stage through chats lang. kung gusto niya ako kilalanin, dapat sa personal. yayain niya ako mag lunch, dinner o kape. kahit kanyang-kanyang bayad pa kami. basta gusto ko kaharap ko siya.

prefer ko din iyong directly sasabihin na may feelings. ayoko na pakiramdaman. ayoko yung idadaan sa jokes na hindi ko matantya kung half-meant o joke lang talaga. i hate uncertainties.

@xtine, thanks a lot. may point ka rin sa payo mo.

sa ngayon, 2 days na kami hindi nag-uusap eh. ang plano ko if mag-usap man kami ulit, siguro after a few small talks, seenzoned ko na ulit siya. ganyan ako sa mga guy friends ko eh. hindi na tulad dati na several hours kami magkachat o text.

i agree na if he is really into me, he will make a move pag-uwi niya sa July 2019. Unfortunately for him, I cannot wait that long. If single pa rin ako by that time, good for him. pwede ko siya kilalanin. if taken na ako, sorry na lang siya.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #543 on: December 05, 2018, 02:54:17 pm »
^ I see. Kala ko naman instant relationship gusto mo. Pero I Super agree with you on getting to know on a personal level, iba kasi ang text or chat lang.

Ang Hirap lang dyan satin how often kaya puede magmeet if magkalayo office/tirahan. Dahil sa traffic, parang mahirap makarami ng date. Mas mabagal ang progression ng relationship if sya na ba o hindi pa.

During our courtship days, my current bf and I met 3-4x a week. Siguro andun narin motivation to get to know each other. And yes nagustuhan ko sa kanya yung honesty na lets get to know muna, then let?s date exclusively, etc.

Para sa guys naman na dinadaan sa pakiramdam or joke, I? Super agree na di dapat sila pinapansin. Kasi Feeling ko , if convenient, GO, if not, ok lang.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #544 on: December 05, 2018, 03:00:52 pm »
Sis young_maiden, good for you na alam mo ang gusto mo. I see it as a growth mula sa dating misadventures mo with pakmen.

For some straight-forward kind of women, meron talagang lalaki who will leave question marks on their heads, like "is this guy pursuing me or not?" And then meron ding lalaking who will be clear in their intentions of committing to get to know you and see if there's a possibility of relationship. I remember having experiences with both types of guys/men when I was single.

Yeah, you can wait for someone who will exert an effort to pursue you or at least get to know you. Not necessarily they will be verbal with their intentions, but their consistent actions will not leave you doubting about what it is they want. But it's up to you.

For example, with my first bf in college, lagi ako hatid and stay sa bahay namin, that was the getting to know part. With my second bf-now husband (met online), he clearly asked kung pwede ba kami every Thursday magkita, apart pa sa Sunday na simba, again getting to know part yan. May commitment na sa getting to know you.

Kahit nga siguro sa long-distance, committed getting to know is possible, it's about openness, consistency and time. Pag whenever convenient lang or optional sa side ng guy, nasa girl na lang kung trip nya magrespond or to see kung may kapupuntahan, especially if time is not an issue.

And then meron ding lalaking pabugso-bugso ang text, yet sweet magtext. Miss you, wish you were here, thinking about you, etc. LOLs. Parang nag-iiwan sila ng trails na ewan. Confusing because words and actions don't match.

Anyway, good luck and hopefully dumating na yung para sayo and sayo din xtine :)

« Last Edit: December 05, 2018, 03:04:42 pm by glamorosa_09 »

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #545 on: December 06, 2018, 06:58:37 am »
^ thanks a lot, sis. :-)

super high na yata ng walls ko when it comes to men. i am too guarded now because of so many jerks i encountered in the past.

sabi sa akin ni seaman (through chat) na pag napasagot na daw niya ako, ako na daw forever. nagjoke pa siya na manghuhula daw siya at feeling niya magiging kami next year.

hindi ko talaga dama ang sincerity dahil through online lang eh. i do not consider chats as consistent efforts. pipindot-pindot lang naman mga guys dyan.

kung sincere man siya, sorry for him. i cannot settle sa diskarteng online lang.

move to the next guy na lang ako kung may darating. :-)
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #546 on: December 28, 2018, 09:52:24 am »
Anong naiisip nyo pag yung dati nyong nagustuhan eh nakita nyo ulit pero mas gumanda na?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #547 on: January 23, 2019, 12:58:25 pm »
^ "kung free pa siya popormahan ko na talaga siya ngayon". mga tipong ganun po.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #548 on: January 24, 2019, 08:36:35 am »
may update lang ako kay seaman.

nagkaprangkahan na kami thru messenger last weekend. napuno na ako sa pangungulit niya. kahit paulit-ulit ko na pinaramdam na di ako interesado, nandyan pa din. so tinanong ko na siya ano pakay niya at baka naman pinagtitripan lang niya ako.

he said he wanted me at sana daw kilalanin ko muna siya. wag ko daw siya i-judge. ramdam daw niya na di ako interested pero sinusubukan niya pa rin daw i-pursue ako.

i said saka na natin kilalanin isa't isa pag-uwi mo sa July 2019 dahil ayoko na puro chats lang tayo. i told him na friendship lang kaya ko offer now.

he understands naman. sabi pa niya kung pwede lang daw dalawin niya ako sa bahay, ginawa na niya. sana daw single pa rin ako pag-uwi niya. i said "we will see."
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #549 on: February 09, 2019, 05:01:20 am »
I don't know if this is a lame question or what, just want to know as well and would really appreciate an answer.

Here's the thing, Nakipag hiwalay ako kay LIP (live in partner) for 11 years now dahil hindi ko na kinaya ang magpanggap, pagod na ang puso kong palaging sawi.. anyways, kinausap ko naman sya and sinabi ko na wala na talagang pag-asa and I am already decided to move on to another chapter of my life--which is maging single muna, wala na din po kasi akong love for him to continue the relationship..

Ang tanong ko po is, Do guys really mean what they say? such as, they will commit suicide once ma pushed yung separation? Would you really do that? I know its 2019 already but would like to take your points.

And I thank You :)

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« Reply #550 on: February 09, 2019, 08:22:17 am »
Most of the time hindi naman, guilt trip niya lang siguro at maaaring nadala lang ng matinding pain at shock yung tao kaya niya nasabi yun, mahihimasmasan din yun kaya wag mo nang isipin. Hindi niya siguro maimagine sarili niya na wala ka, dependent ba siya sa iyo? If nagwoworry ka pa rin kausapin mo family/closefriends niya para sila na magbantay sa kanya, ipasa mo sa kanila yung burden tutal hiwalay na kayo at hindi makakatulong sa inyong dalawa kung tuloy pa rin communication niyo.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #551 on: February 09, 2019, 08:49:29 pm »
Question for the guys :)

 Anong pumipigil sa inyo to make a move if you are interested in someone?



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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #552 on: February 10, 2019, 01:12:21 pm »

Ang tanong ko po is, Do guys really mean what they say? such as, they will commit suicide once ma pushed yung separation? Would you really do that? I know its 2019 already but would like to take your points.

And I thank You :)

based sa kwento mo may tendency na tuluyan nya yung sinabi nya. ikaw ba naman ma attached ng 11 years, at halos ginagawa nyo na lahat ng Gawain ng magasawa except kasal. im sure madaming happy moments din yan, hindi lang puro hirap at pasakit. kung tama nga ang mga naiisip ko magpapakamatay nga yan..

di ko lang maintindihan, bakit ka nagpanggap and after 11 years doon mo lang narealized na hindi mo pala kaya? weird... parang , kumbaga sa isang sunog pinatay mo na ng pinatay sa kung ano man klaseng paraan na alam mo, tapos nun kumalat na ang apoy at madami ng apektado tsaka mo iiwan at sasabihin mo hindi ka pala bumbero.. just my 2 cents, di mo need mag paliwanag.  ;D ;D ;D
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #553 on: February 10, 2019, 10:02:32 pm »
Pwedeng manipulation strategy kasi usually ang nagpapakamatay di naman nagpapaalam.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #554 on: February 11, 2019, 03:03:05 am »
Ex-bf ko sinabihan din ako na magsu-suicide siya. Sabi ko sa kanya bahala siya, malaki na siya. Feeling ko kasi that time gusto niya lang ma-guilty ako to think na siya may kasalanan bakit ako nakipaghiwalay. For me emotional blackmail lang yung pagbabanta niya. So yun, after a year kinamusta niya ako. Sabi ko sa kanya akala ko patay na siya.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #555 on: February 11, 2019, 08:26:28 am »
My ex also threatened to commit suicide. As in kumuha sya ng kutsilyo at pumasok sa banyo. He was screaming he would kill himself. Sabi ko sige pero aalis na muna kami ng anak ko kasi ayoko mapagbintangan. This was in 2006 siguro. Buhay pa naman sya hanggang ngayon at nagtatago sa responsibilidad sa anak nya.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #556 on: February 11, 2019, 10:06:05 am »
minsan naman kasi sign of immaturity lang yun... ayaw kayo maghiwalay... pero ang lalaki, in general, tahimik yan. di yan nagvovoice out. malamang sa alamang, pa-effect lang yung pagsasabi ng suicide. matakot kayo kapag di sya nag-sasalita. nagkikimkim. yun ang may tendency...

makikita mo yan pagkatapos magbanta ng suicide kasunod inuman... okay na yun.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #557 on: February 11, 2019, 11:04:53 am »
Anong feeling nyo mga lalaki kapag yung ex nyo ignore na kayo? Yung tipong gusto nyo sya kausapin or batiin pero para samin patay na kayo?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #558 on: February 11, 2019, 11:52:42 am »
kung may feelings pa at gusto makipagbalikan syempre awts yun...

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #559 on: February 11, 2019, 12:51:34 pm »
sobrang weird ng guy na to. di ko alam kung type ba ako o hindi. sinasabihan din ako ng mga friends nya pag kasama ko sa inuman na "oy (guy) si (ako) yung sinasabi mo na..." yung parang nilalaglag nila si guy sakin, pero si guy naman di naman ako masyado pinapansin. tapos nung uuwi na ko, nagpaalam na ko sa kanila, binulungan nya friend nya na wag muna ako pauwiin. pero di naman nya ko pinapansin or kinakausap? lol parang mahiyain masyado so di ko alam kung type ba ko o hindi.
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