Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[mysterioza_me]

^Like mo ba si guy kaya parang bothered ka sa actions niya? Kasi kung hindi mo naman siya like dedmahin mo na lang kung anong gingawa niya at kung anuman ang ibinubulong or parinig sa iyo ng iba.

Territorial ang lalake kung gusto ka niyan gumawa na ng paraan yan para makalapit sayo, imagine 3yrs tapos wala man lang linaw na action na ginawa. Nagawa nga niyang makalapit sa ibang girl so bakit sa iyo hindi kung talagang type ka niya?!

[shiny]

to mysterioza -- oo, may feelings ako. as in,dami aligid, pero sya lang talaga. weird. pero it's real.

parang nasisisi ko sarili ko. maybe i was not friendly to him at all.  sobrang naiilang ako. sa kanya lang. sa iba hindi.   Like Im blaming myself.

[kutitapkiss]

^^ the guy has a LIP and he?s flirty with you acting sweet like a bf and all? Girl, alam na. I don?t think you?re confused, you?re just in denial. But by all means, YES go and ask him. For the sake of your sanity. Ask him kung ano ba kayo, and bat sha sweet. Benefit of the doubt baka nature nya lang yun. But yeah most likely not, baka sadyang malandi lang talaga sha.

^ well sis, ang labo nung puro tingin lang. So hindi nag effort at all si guy, tama? Pero you know na gusto ka nya and gusto mo din sha all along... ayun nga lang walang nag initiate. Alam ko yang mga ganyang galawan ng lalake e. Ipagkakalat sa lahat na gusto ka nya, hahayaan nyang makarating sayo, pero he won?t do anything. Usually, nag aantay yan sila. Either for you to 1. Tell the common friends na gusto mo din sha, or 2. For you to make the first move. Err. Girl, don?t blame yourself. Para sa akin, yung mga ganung lalaki, not worth it. Lol. They simply got no balls. Hindi sa nagpapaka dalagang pilipina ko, im not. Pero ayok ng ganung galawan. Again, walang balls. Or di ka lang talaga super gusto. Cos i agree with sis @mysterioza_me, mga lalake highly territorial. Pag sobrang gusto ka talaga nila, babakuran ka nyan, or at least gagawa naman ng move kahit papano. So yep. Dami pang lalaki jan girl.

[mysterioza_me]

^Ganyan nga. Naghihintay si guy na si girl unang magbigay ng motibo. May guys kasi na takot mabasted so aalamin muna kung may pag-asa siya bago didiskarte LOL.

[shiny]

i think he was too gentle to me siguro dahil we meet sa church.  he attempted several times, yung try to be near and then i will move away.  nahihiya ako sa kanya.  sa kanya lang ako lumalayo.  napagod siguro.

if he has shown that public display, that means wala na.  and he has decided to take that course - yung girl na?

grabe, now ko lang naramadaman yung ganito.  It's usually the guys who couldn't get over me.   ang sakit sobra.   ngayon lang ako umiyak ng husto.  it's been 4 days, hard to sleep. hirapan ako kumain.  i couldn't get it off my mind yung nakita kong hug nya girl while walking under the rain.

Is it worth to ask someone close to him?   o baka mapahiya lang ako?   

aminin ko Im still hoping one month lang lumipas when he waited for me, unfortunately, I left.  Di ko kasi alam na he'll wait to talk to me.  When I saw him last wk, galit sya sa kin.  Dahil lang wala ako?  Kaya ayun, napuno na siguro and finally decided to find someone else.

 Im still hoping kasi for 4 years, walang iba.  Suddenly biglang may girl, 1 month lang.  binigay nya kaya totally yung heart and decision nya dun sa girl?   wala na agad yung 4 yrs na ligaw tingin?  (sorry, napakaconservative ko. )     naghanap sya agad dahil galit sya?

bakit ako hanging on?  dahil in a dream, God told me I will get married to him. it was years ago...

thank you sa pagtyaga to read my mesg...

[kvandenhaak]

@shiny: Guys sometimes has this insecurities. Pareho ba kayo ng social status? Kung mas nakakaangat ka then he is intimidated. Now if he tried to be near to you tapos ikaw ang lumalayo then girl, it's your fault. Kasi kahit ako ang maging lalake, why would I waste my time kung wala namang pag-asa? Nagtyaga pa nga sya ng 3 years. That's three years wasted for him. Maghanap ka na lang ng iba. It's too late!

[mysterioza_me]

Muntik na Kitang Minahal

May sikreto akong sasabihin sa 'yo
Mayroong nangyaring hindi mo alam
Ito'y isang lihim itinagong kay tagal
Muntik na kitang minahal
'Di ko noon nakayang ipadama sa 'yo
Ang nararamdaman ng pusong ito
At hanggang ngayon ay naaalala pa
Muntik na kitang minahal

REFRAIN:
Ngayon ay aaminin ko na
Na sana nga ay tayong dalawa
Bawat tanong mo'y iniwasan ko
Akala ang pag-ibig mo'y 'di totoo
'Di ko alam kung ano ang nangyari
Damdamin ko sa 'yo'y hindi ko masabi
Hanggang ang puso mo'y mapagod
Sa paghihintay kay tagal
Saka ko lang naisip muntik na kitang minahal

'Di ko noon nakayang ipadama sa 'yo
Ang nararamdaman ng pusong ito
At hanggang ngayon ay naaalala pa
Muntik na kitang minahal

REFRAIN:
Ngayon ay aaminin ko na
Na sana nga'y tayong dalawa
Bawat tanong mo'y iniwasan ko
Akala ang pag-ibig mo'y 'di totoo
'Di ko alam kung ano ang nangyari
Damdamin ko sa 'yo'y hindi ko nasabi
Hanggang ang puso mo'y mapagod
Sa paghihintay kay tagal
Saka ko lang naisip
Muntik na kitang minahal
Hanggang ang puso mo'y mapagod
Sa paghihintay kay tagal
Saka ko lang naisip
Muntik na kitang minahal

****Wala lang. Gusto ko lang kumanta.

[shiny]

:-(

[shiny]

he's actually rich. Im not.  Pero he seemed to admire that I am from tech background may brains kahit pano...  Yup, sayang. Thing is, di muntik e... mahal ko sya.  now ko narealize, how much. he's gone, i guess.

[Bridgette*]

:-(

Tsk tsk, that's why regrets is your biggest enemy at the end of the day. So while you're on the process, do your part! We never give up easily on what we want, right. But maybe it's too late.

Kaya kung ako sayo, mag move on ka na Ate  Saka if it is God's will for you to have him, everything will work together for good, isn't it?

[shiny]

yes, my fault. yung iniponn nyang lakas ng loob, naubos.  maybe the girl can give what i didn't.    I rest it to God's hands

[mysterioza_me]

^No. Not totally your fault. If gustong-gusto ka niya gagawa siya ng mas malinaw na way para i-express ang sarili niya at hindi puro paramdam at tingin lang. Mas easy nga for him na gumawa ng way para makalapit sayo since same church kayo. Most likely may common friends kayo na pwedeng hingan niya ng tulong para maintroduce kayo ng formal. Pero sa 3yrs wala siyang malinaw na action. Pwedeng assuming ka lang na gusto ka niya base sa actions niya. Alam mo naman tayong girls may ugaling ganyan.

[kutitapkiss]

^^ i agree with you completely.

^ sadly, may mga lalakeng ganyan. malandi talaga. may partner na, gusto pa may kalandian on the side. go ahead and ask him. para hindi ka na nagtatanong what is... mas mahirap yang ganyan sis. yes masakit pero right now nasasaktan ka rin naman. same lang.

i think he was too gentle to me siguro dahil we meet sa church.  he attempted several times, yung try to be near and then i will move away.  nahihiya ako sa kanya.  sa kanya lang ako lumalayo.  napagod siguro.

if he has shown that public display, that means wala na.  and he has decided to take that course - yung girl na?

grabe, now ko lang naramadaman yung ganito.  It's usually the guys who couldn't get over me.   ang sakit sobra.   ngayon lang ako umiyak ng husto.  it's been 4 days, hard to sleep. hirapan ako kumain.  i couldn't get it off my mind yung nakita kong hug nya girl while walking under the rain.

Is it worth to ask someone close to him?   o baka mapahiya lang ako?   

aminin ko Im still hoping one month lang lumipas when he waited for me, unfortunately, I left.  Di ko kasi alam na he'll wait to talk to me.  When I saw him last wk, galit sya sa kin.  Dahil lang wala ako?  Kaya ayun, napuno na siguro and finally decided to find someone else.

 Im still hoping kasi for 4 years, walang iba.  Suddenly biglang may girl, 1 month lang.  binigay nya kaya totally yung heart and decision nya dun sa girl?   wala na agad yung 4 yrs na ligaw tingin?  (sorry, napakaconservative ko. )     naghanap sya agad dahil galit sya?

bakit ako hanging on?  dahil in a dream, God told me I will get married to him. it was years ago...

thank you sa pagtyaga to read my mesg...

what do you mean lalapit sayo? as in tatabi lang ganun? walang hi? kasi if that's the case then no, he's not being gentle. kapos na kapos sa effort at balls. and daming paraan sis. facebook, ig, twitter, kung hirap sha kausapin ka sa personal, pwedeng dun muna sana sha magumpisa? kung nabasa mo yung previous message ko, feeling ko talaga ganun yung gusto nya mangyari. i think you're making excuses for him. why are you being so hard on yourself? i've seen a lot of guys in action, isa lang ang masasabi ko. kung gustong gusto ka talaga, gagawin lahat and will exhaust all the options just to reach out and talk to you. pag ganyang nakikiramdam lang, meh.

asan na ba yung mga guytalker haha i'd love to hear their thoughts on this lol.

[Bridgette*]

^^ Ikaw kasi marupok ka. Don't let yourself be taken for granted. Why don't you ask him and see for yourself para di ka nagkakaganyan? Kung ayaw mo magtanong, then don't act like that because it implies na okay lang sayo na ganyan LANG ang status nyo. Sweet sweet sya and all tapos ikaw aasa naman. Kairita yang mga ganyang lalaki, gustong namamangka sa dalawang ilog. Sarap lunurin.

[Girltalker2]

^ walang balls din yung lalaki kasi.
Natural wala kayong label at May live in partner sya.

He is just using you. Yes Puede naman magdrama na nahihirapan sya. At the end of the day, Yung lip nya ang Kinikilalang partner at ikaw ang dakilang kabit or 3rd party.

To hell with them, just move on and learn from this lesson. Madali naman iwasan if sa umpisa palang, guarded ka na. Don?t allow your feelings to develop to an assh&le. You will definitely end up broken hearted.

@shiny, sorry sis but I find your story sobrang Oa. Nagtitinginan lang kayo, in love na agad? Parang you are just imagining things. Parang movie lang ang peg. For god?s sakes, you don?t even know the guy, how is he like, what?s his personality. Then iiyakan mo na?

Is it worth to ask someone close to him?   o baka mapahiya lang ako?   

Malamang mapapahiya ka lang. para sakin, kahit anong gawin mo, if gusto ka nya, he will pursue you. Ano ba naman Yung tawagan ka, mag hi sayo. Kahit pa tutukan mo iyan ng baril, he will call you if may gusto sya sayo.
Siguro feeling Lang nya he was initially interested to get to know you. Eh iwas ka ng iwas, so he finally got to know someone who is more straightforward at walang arte. Baka yun ang type nya.
Just move on and have some self respect. Di purkit tinititigan ka ng guy eh patay na patay na sya sayo or mag imagine ka na sya na Prince Charming mo. And payag ka ba sa label na ?nakuha lang sa tingin??  Titigan ka lang, payag ka na maging gf?

Sorry medyo off, pero feeling ko talaga oa. But that?s just my opinion. 

[kvandenhaak]

@Gabby11: May live-in-partner? What's to be confused about that?

[shiny]

he actually asked 2 persons to be introduced. hay...

[Girltalker2]

^ how old are you?
Baka kasi high school palang kayo, kaya ka nagkakaganyan?
Kaya ganun din sya?

He asked 2 people to introduce him to you? Eh bakit Di sya mag approach sayo?  Kung gusto ka talaga nya?

[shiny]

above 30s, maybe both cowards

[mysterioza_me]

^Girl sa age ninyo na yan hindi coward si Guy kundi sadyang hindi ka niya type kaya hindi siya nag-da-moves (Sorry for being blunt)