Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[Bridgette*]

Ako din, issue ba sa mga inyong guys halimbawa nakikipag jerjer on broad daylight tapos maitim ang singit nung girl?

Bigla kong naalala kasi tong friend ko na worried. She's getting married next month and nagwoworry daw sya sa honeymoon pag magdo-do na sila, maitim daw kasi singit nya lol.

[kutitapkiss]

i'm not  a guy, pero my past bfs, wala naman nakapansin ng stretchmarks ko. i think mas nagmamatter sa kanila talaga if they find you sexy or not. my singit is not maitim pero mejo discolored and yep, napansin nila yun hehe tho it didn't matter naman in the end, as long as malinis ka and you don't smell down there.

ok sorry na sa kaepalan ko, girltalker here hahaha pasok mga bro! lol

[TomHansen]

Guys, issue ba sa inyo kung may stretchmarks??? ano anong body issues nyo sa babae?? hahaha curious lang.

No, di siya issue kasi sino ba namang babae gusto magkastretch mark hehe. Para siyang battle scar di siya nakakahiya nakakaproud pa nga dapat. Kababawan lang kung mag-inarte ang lalaki pagdating sa stretchmarks kasi kung dun pa lang magiinarte na sila pano pa kaya kapag nagkawrinkles na. Ang mahalaga lang is malinis, at hindi burara yung babae(at lalake) sa hygiene niya.. Body issue, siguro kapag masyadong maraming/malalaking tattoo yung babae..

[kvandenhaak]

Guys, issue ba sa inyo kung may stretchmarks??? ano anong body issues nyo sa babae?? hahaha curious lang.

My own experience. They don't even notice yung mga kinaka-insecure-an ng mga babae. They find you sexy in a lot of different ways. Wag lang tayo masyadong pabaya. Still strive to be pleasant to look at, practice good hygiene...you know, the basics.

[mysterioza_me]

^Same with my boyfie haha. May weird fetish pa nga yun e. Gusto niya may konting smell down there, kasi mas nakaka-L daw para sa kanya.

[kvandenhaak]

^I remember yung BF ng co-worker ko dati. Mas type daw hindi naghuhugas kasi daw lasang balut...lol! Naloka ako kasi I was in my 20s at neneng nene pa.

[mysterioza_me]

^Haha grabe yung lasang balut. Ako ayaw ko ng di ako nagwash, nakakailang. Di feeling confident e. Pero minsan pinagbibigyan ko siya or papaamoy ko muna bago ako magwash. Nakakagana daw hahaha.

[Bridgette*]

i'm not  a guy, pero my past bfs, wala naman nakapansin ng stretchmarks ko. i think mas nagmamatter sa kanila talaga if they find you sexy or not. my singit is not maitim pero mejo discolored and yep, napansin nila yun hehe tho it didn't matter naman in the end, as long as malinis ka and you don't smell down there.

ok sorry na sa kaepalan ko, girltalker here hahaha pasok mga bro! lol

Oh, I see TY sa reply haha.

Makes sense, napapansin nga nila, but don't mind siguro.

[Evolet027]

^Haha grabe yung lasang balut. Ako ayaw ko ng di ako nagwash, nakakailang. Di feeling confident e. Pero minsan pinagbibigyan ko siya or papaamoy ko muna bago ako magwash. Nakakagana daw hahaha.

Baka iniisip na lang nya balut kinakain nya. 

Not a guy here pero sa experience ko, yung X ko di naman pinansin stretchmarks ko nun. Hindi din naman maitim ang kili kili at singit ko, well hindi parang tulad sa mga artista, pero carry lang din, di naman nya pinansin. Baka siguro for them, mahalaga malinis. 

[moonandstars]

So exactly 3 months na since we cancelled the wedding. I am trying not to dwell in the past anymore. I tried tinder. And agreed to meet with one of the guys there. We had some drinks. I enjoyed talking to him. I shared to him my story. Not so serious talk naman with some humor pa din. By the end of the night, he asked me if I have kissed a guy on a first date. Sabi ko no. Haha. Im not really ready for it. I think Im ready na for fling fling lang pero not that fast na kiss agad and Im not into hookups din. NOw yung question ko is should I wait for the guy to ask me out again or ok lang ba to ask him out parang friendly date lang naman.

[moonandstars]

And since he was medyo flirty flirty and touchy does that mean that he was expecting to have sex? So parang if I?ll ask him out that would mean something like Im leading him on?

[kvandenhaak]

My concern is that you are still in a very vulnerable stage. Rebound relationship might not exactly be the best option. Depende sa personality mo din. Sabi ng co-worker ko, the best way to get over a guy is to get under another...lol! But that's not for everyone. Assess mo rin sarili mo.

[TomHansen]

@moonandstars, sorry sis pero most of the guys sa tinder sex/fubu lang ang habol gaya nung nameet mo na yes he is goody goody sa umpisa pero at the end of the night lumabas din ang kulay. Kung flirty at touchy siya kailangan mo lalong mag-ingat sa kanya veteran yan at sigurado gawain niya rin yan sa iba. Ingatan mo ang sarili mo at hindi lahat ng willing makinig sayo ay sincere, some have other motives gaya niyan.. Hayaan mo na lang siya if magmessage uli sa iyo magswipe swipe ka na lang ulit para may mameet ka pang iba. And sa second question mo - YES at YES!

[amethyst028]

@moonandstars kung nakwento mo sa guy then he knows that you are not ready for something serious. Kung ok lang sayo na fling lang and may sex involved then go for it. But do not expect much. Let him contact you first that way you are sure that he is really interested.

I think he is flirty and touchy that night coz he is hoping to get lucky and just being in the moment. He has nothing to lose with you kasi alam niya you are not yet ready to get serious anyway. Now if you ask him out he will expect that you are ok with having casual sex. Sa guys there are no such thing as a friendly date when he has been flirting and touching you all night.

[AprilGal26]

Hi sis!
Been in that same exact situation that you're going through  When me and my bf broke up, naisip ko din talaga na makipag-flirt agad. Para kasing it's easier to move on kapag meron kang kaharutan
So, I joined this dating site I discovered here, haha
I met a guy na ganyan din. Super touchy din nya and at the end of the night, he tried his luck if he can take me home (food lang?), hahaha
I said, no.
What's sad about dating sites is, sobrang bilis ng mga pangyayari. Kachat mo ngayon, then after 2 to 3 days, wala na. Ang pinakamatagal ko, 2 weeks na kachat, but I'm not saying that you can't find real love there. I'm saying, dating sites can really be a big help when moving on  Just enjoy your freedom for now, pero wag kang papadala agad agad 
just like one of our sisses just mentioned, men or that guy has an idea that you're vulnerable right now and he might take advantage of that.
You just gone through something really really painful, sabi ko after my experience, I will be wiser this time pero not to the point that I'm depriving myself from things that could make me happy.
Good luck sayo sis!
Hayaan mo na na sya ang unang mag-reach out sayo, ok?

[moonandstars]

Thanks sa advice guys. Yes tama kayo lahat. Ngayon sobrang vulnerable talaga ako. Onting attention lang kilig na agad. Haha. Kaya extra careful din ako. At least nakahanap lang din ako ng distraction to get my mind off my ex. Di ko na sya masyadong naiisip dahil sa mga kachat ko.

[amethyst028]

^na try ko din yan dati sis, after a break up nag try ako online sa una nakaka aliw and makakalimutan mo ex mo pero temporary lang. kasi pag nag fail yung mga ka online mo you can't help but compare them to your ex. How he made you feel.

Best talaga is to get strong from within. Focus on yourself. Get to know yourself all over again. Maybe it's not yet your time to get married kasi may mga kailangan ka pa gawin.

Get better. Magpa beauty ka, magpa sexy, magpayaman, mag travel etc. if you feel good about yourself quality guys will be attracted to you. Don't get me wrong maybe you are already those things but believe me meron pa talaga tayo kailangan improve. Maybe not physically baka emotionally or spiritually. Anything. Good luck sis.

[moonandstars]

Yes I agree with you sis. Right now, ang daming nagbago sa buhay ko after the incident. I applied for a new job. I?ve been wanting to quit my job since before pa. Been in the same job for 10 years. Ngayon Finally I found the courage to shift career. So far naman im adjusting here and nageenjoy ako cause I get to learn new things. I?ve also been traveling the past few months. Trying out new things like boxing and yoga. Ngayon medyo nakakagetover na ako from what happened. And sana magtuloy tuloy na. I know God has a special plan for me.  😊

[Girltalker2]

NOw yung question ko is should I wait for the guy to ask me out again or ok lang ba to ask him out parang friendly date lang naman.

I think you should wait.
Pero medyo conservative kasi ako and I believe ladies should never ever ask. You can hint, but not ask. Especially sa stage na getting to know palang naman.

Tsaka by all means, meet other people din. Maraming lalaki naman. And have some criteria. If flirty and touchy sa first date palang, di ba dapat bagsak na iyan?

Get better. Magpa beauty ka, magpa sexy, magpayaman, mag travel etc. if you feel good about yourself quality guys will be attracted to you. Don't get me wrong maybe you are already those things but believe me meron pa talaga tayo kailangan improve. Maybe not physically baka emotionally or spiritually. Anything. Good luck sis.

I like this. My favourite advice for the day. If need be, take a course, pick up a fruitful hobby. And yes, yoga and boxing definitely can help! Continue mo lang. if ayaw mo na later, ok lang, dami pa iba things to try!

Not only may distraction, Di ka nagsasayang ng oras sa twitter or internet. And most important of it all, this is the best revenge - mag emerge ka as the best version of yourself. Prove to yourself na you?re better off talaga without him.

Quality guys will eventually come. And make sure whoever mapili mo, should be an upgrade from your ex.

[shiny]

Question lang sa guys.  Di ko maintindihan,puro tingin lang. walang salita. Then pag tumingin naman sa kanya, tingin din lang. Tapos, sasama loob nya kapag di natingnan. Been like this for 3 yrs, sa isang church. we just see each other 1 or 2x a month.  nainis ako, di ko na tiningnan. then this month, meron na siyang sinamang girl.  at for all he cares, niyakap nya talaga. Ang weird kc, di naman nagsasabi. Is it final na he has gotten this girl na? Everyone knows, bago lang sya. and a lot of people knew he was trying to get to me. Waala kasing nagsasabi sa kin pero may nagpaparinig.  Decided na siguro sya sa girl for him to bring one after 3 yrs?