what if malaman mo un manliligaw mo is bisexual pala? ano mararamdaman mo???

[Filipinasadhart]

based on my experience medyo inis ako sa totoo lang. bibigay pa ng holand tullips flowers, nagdate pa kame nag effort pa ko to travel, pinakilala pa ko sa puntod ng ina nya and brothers and sisters. Bibigyan ka pa pasalubong at kung ano ano pa care.

sa totoo lang inis ako sobra pinaglaruan ang feelings ko. tapos un nagreto sa akin na friend ko alam nya pala bisexual hindi sinabi. both of them pinaglaruan ang feelings ko.

move on na ko kase alam ko walang mangyayari pero minsan bumabalik ang sakit kapag naaaala ko.

nagmuhka ako s-----. tapos pinalitan ako agad ng kapalit lalake.

 

[hidinginseoul]

Hi girl,

Based dun sa naging situation mo, I too would feel as if I got fooled and played. And siyempre, magkahalong inis, galit at disappointment. Isipin mo na lang, at least you found out bago pa naging kayo. That way, naiwasan iyong mas paglalim ng sakit.

Tsaka kung ganyan na ang bilis niyang nakahanap ng pampalit sayo, hindi iyan worth it.

Pero understandable why you're upset about it. Kaya give yourself some time, pero don't let it eat you for too long.

Flip your hair at them and show them who's boss. Haha! Kidding aside, I'm sure. May darating pang mas okay and iyong perfect match for you.

EDIT

Just to clarify, I have nothing against bisexuals. What I'm not in favor of was more dun sa naging actions nila ni friend.

[Filipinasadhart]

Thank you so much sis.

[shinies]

Walang isyu sa akin basta sabihin agad ano gender preference niya at siguraduhin na pag naging kami eh ako lang talaga.

[lovemeagain30]

Even in homosexual relationships, the word "loyalty" still exists you know. 

Inis ka ba kasi bisexual siya or inis ka dahil hindi agad nasabi sayo? Usually in courting stage (or getting to know each other) you won't divulge immediately this kind of information. napaka personal eto para sa taong kinikilala mo palang. Sabi mo nga he's a Bi. kinikilala karin siguro niya kung magki click kayo, either he's really attracted to you or pedeng bff lang ang hanap niya sayo.By the way, kung prinangka ka ba niya agad, will you accept him as a whole? I assumed hindi mo rin agad masasagot yun.


Kung pinagpalit ka man agad sa lalaki eh BI nga siya di ba? kung ako yun, hindi na ako dapat  magulat pa.

Yung 1st bf ko nung college after many years na hiwalay na kami, nalaman ko sa huli na Bi din pala siya. Sakanya ko unang binigay ang aking 'first S experience'.  nakakaloka lang. Hindi naman ako nagalit. Natawa lang ako ng bongga! pero pagkatapos nun wala naman inis sakin. bakit naman? eh madami din naman ako dark secrets na hindi ko rin masabi agad sa mga naging bf ko unless sure nako sila na talaga makakatuluyan ko. so ganun lang din siguro naramdaman niya kaya siya naglihim sakin.


I assumed gusto mo siya and good catch sana siya for you if only sana 'straight' siya, tama ba? I assumed inis ka kasi you wished na sana hindi nalang siya 'BI'.

I have good looking friends, who are career-oriented, and they're homosexuals.  lapitin kasi ako sa katulad nila, sabi nga ng hubby ko sakin, mga gwapong friends ko-- usually bading. hehe. To be honest, if ever niligawan nila ako nun kasi I've known them as good people-- i might consider it! with the condition he will be loyal to me just like the heterosexual relationships that i had. May maling paniniwala kasi yung iba na porket bakla lalakero na or pakawala which is not always the case.

[Filipinasadhart]

i admit i like him. 4 yrs wala ako bf so ang tahimik ng buhay ko tapos one time may isang taong nagmessage sa akin kinamusta at lage nagcare sa akin. ano mafeel ko... inaamin ko sumaya talaga ako un nanjan sya pinapakita nya nagcare sya. nakita ko talaga un sarili ko nagsmile again. Yun 1st time meet namin nagduda na ko kase parang ang lambot nya habang nageat kame sa isang restaurant. Late nga sya un nagmeet kame halos 2 hours ako nag-intay sa mall. Pero nagsorry naman sya. Then i ask my friend un nagpakilala sa amin, since friend ko un nagpakilala sa amin may tiwala ako. Sabi ko Bakla ba yun bakit ganun muhkang malambot my friend told me hindi. ok since sai nya naniwala ako. Tuloy tuloy ang pagdate namin and texting and chatting. halos sinasabi nya nga lahat ng stress nya sa akin.

Tapos one time nahuli ko sya sa facebook na gumimik through common friend dahil sa tag. hindi nya sinabi sa akin eh halos lahat ng ginagawa nya sinasabi nya sa akin. Kaya nagtataka ako bakit hindi sya nag paalam. Sa Valkyrie tapos nadiscover ko mga bisexual ang mga kasama nya i know hindi kame official kase wala naman sya sinasabi sa akin na he would like to court me or anything hirap maging assumera pero kase un way of communication namin halos kame na papaalam pa bago magtulog etc. tapos bibigay pa ng holland tullips flowers.

Until dumating yun time na nawala ang trust ko sa kanya. hindi ko matanggap na hindi sya nagsasabi ng totoo. Hanggang sa nalaman ko sa b-day ng friend namin na nagpakilala sa amin dalawa. May mga invited dun 2 guys akala ko guys kase nakikita ko na yun sa fb mga kasama nila aba bisexual pala. Nagulat ako mabait naman sila pero nagulat lang ako sobra. Hanggang kwentuhan na kame at dun ako nag-ask kung bisexual ba si  .... sabi nila Yes. Kase magkakatropa sila lahat so bisexual pala. sabi ko nga s friend ko na nagreto sa amin i ask you kung bisexual ba si .... sabi nya thru chat naniniwala sya straight.  Kung straight bakit ganun kaarte. Hanggang naunfold na lahat ng totoo. Yun isa pala guy dun na kasama namin sa bday naging sila pala. kaya nag joke na mas una naging akin si ..... bago ikaw. Taob ang pag kababae ko. Till sa friend ko na din lumabas ang totoo na un iniiyakan ko bisexual eh may naging karelasyon na professor noon. marami bisexual din ang lumalapit etc. sa totoo lang un andun ako sa bday ng friend ko ang sakit ha para ako napaglaruan. 3 sila bisexual tapos ako iisang babae wala naman sa akin un pero syempre napakasakit kase niloko ako eh para ako t****. sana sinabi ng nagreto sa amin na ganun un guy na pinakilala nya sa akin hindi denied. Friend ko sya db di nya ko ipapahamak. kahit na wala naman ginawa masama sa akin ang point dun loyalty and trust na gave ko. sana inisip nya un feelings ko both of them db.

ilan beses ko sya ask todo denied. minsan nga pakiramdam ko pinagtatawanan kame. kase ako wala kamalay malay ganun pala. Thankful ako kase wala naman nangyari sa amin at hindi lumalim pa. Pero naiinis ako sa ginawa nila kase ginamit nila ako to escape db kaso wala eh nalaman ko.

naiinis ako kase 4yrs hindi ako naglove life tapos may dumating ganyan pala. Nakakainis kase di naman talaga biro un feelings. sabi nga ng isang sis dito wala na ko mapapala move on na lang. kapag naalala ko naiinis ako sa totoo lang.

Totoo un i like the guy nanghinayang din ako bakit sya ganun sana hindi sya bisexual. pero ang mas masakit un pinaglaruan nila ang feelings ko wala naman ako ginawa sa kanila masama tapos ganun. unfair talaga.

[sarsingkit]

I understand your frustration kasi you like the guy pero wala naman kayong commitment. And besides he is gay. Sorry, pero hindi mo mabibigay yung gusto nya diba. Do you feel that he deliberately fooled you? Baka naman he is still exploring. Maybe he really wants to try to work things with you kaso mas malakas ang tawag ng mga beki. Lol.

[lovemeagain30]

Honestly based on your kwento I don't think he fooled you.  You know what went wrong? You had expectations. 


Okay you found out he is a Bi. Dear, you and him were just dating at that time. You are in a 'getting to know each other' stage. Anything could happen while you are dating. As I said in my previous post, hindi ganun kadali magpaka totoo while you are on that stage. You don't also expect immediately as well! It's either what you have then will progress to a full blown relationship -- or it will not.

Even in a normal heterosexual relationships, straight guys will suddenly not call after a few dates.  They will suddenly stop texting. Next thing you know may asawa pala dati, or may anak, o madaming girls. They will not be honest to explain to you whatever s*** they have.  It's equally the same with homosexual relationships.   

Based on your kwento, I don't think anyone made fun of you during the party. My thinking your frustrations made you feel that way. Your disappointment over knowing he is not a straight guy you wanted to have made you think pinagtawanan ka ng ibang tao.

If he is a Bi, please know he can also be attracted to women not just men. I just want to clear na hindi porket Bi eh lalake lang ang pede magustuhan. To be fair with him, my assumption is he 'tried' if it will work out with you. For the better term , yes he is exploring his possibilities with you. Just like in a heterosexual relationships, if things go south, then no one else should be blamed. may part ka rin na dapat ikaw mismo tinanong mo dapat siya since you also like him.

Example nalang sakin I told my ex bf na I did really love him kahit ba mga bata pa kami.  Wala kasing manifestations nuon na BI siya (unlike sayo medyo ramdam mo na). If he could have told me before na he was confused, I would have understand pero hindi ko nalang ibibigay pempem ko kasi parang lumabas naging give away! haha.  We both laughed about it. He still invited me to dinner until i got married.

See i just want other GT readers (sisters) here to know that even if the guy is Bi and you like him--it's very much okay to tell them straight about it. Just like what we usually do to a straight guy we want to date.  After all, these Bi people will make decisions if they want to work it out with you or not. Kung sinabi nila na they will go to a homo then let's respect din.

If at dating stage we find out the truth about them, please know also that we also have our own dark secrets we don't usually want to share immediately to anyone -- even to friends. So let's also broaden our understanding. Hay maski ako meron akong hindi kinukwento sa mister ko!  So ganun lang yun.

TS just take everything that happened as a learning experience. Whatever lesson you learned, gamitin mo on your next prospect -- especially on a dating part. 

I'm not a bisexual myself but I've got friends and families who are homosexuals. I understand their struggle and i believe we should not be quick to judge about them. their dating and relationships problems are not far different than heterosexual relationships.

One more thing, ang biruan ng mga salitang beki like 'nauna siyang naging akin', wag seryosohin! haha. Seriously, the guy could have really tried with you -- it's just that it didn't work out. Yun lang yun. 

[Filipinasadhart]

oo nagexpect ako sobra.  hirap kase nagpapakita ng mga pacare care na moves tapos ano un paasahin ako. 
oo charge to experience not trust again... at wala na ko magagawa.

hindi lang naman sa party sis un pakiramdam ko na pinagtatawanan ako maybe un mga nakakakita sa amin na mga friends nya kapag lumalabas kame at un mga pics na nakapost sa fb. syempre sis malay ko ba kung sino mga nakarelasyon nya at mga friends nya na alam na bi pala sya. 

yun friend ko na nagreto sa amin. naglie sa akin. kaya hindi porke reto ng friend mo okay yan kase kilala nya na.. minsan ipapahamak ka pa nya.

sa totoo lang di madali ang pinagdadaan ko nandito pa din un sakit. sakit na niloko ka ng kaibigan, di ka na magtitiwala ulit kahit kanino. yan ang kalaban ko ngayon.

madali magpatawad pero napakahirap un trauma kalimutan.   

[lovemeagain30]

^Sis this is what I just reminded my son this morning about my usual pangaral to him with regards on how he deals with people -- Don't Assumed. Unless you've heard it from the mouth of the person -- Never Assumed. Give someone the benefit of the doubt. You can only assumed if its for the best of the other party.

Yan din siguro masasabi ko sayo. Stop thinking 'for' other people about you. Paranoia na tawag diyan lam mo?  Yung bang feeling mo pinagtatawanan ka ng iba, pinag uusapan ka nila. Unless they tell it to your face straight then that's time to confirm it. Avoid saying to yourself na-- "malay ko baka eto iniisip nila sakin". Duh?  90% of the chances they are not thinking about you! because they have more important things in life to deal about. Kasi ganun ako eh, i don't mind other's people business. In return, my life is more happier and stress free. 

Eto lang ah kung ako yung beki makakabasa regarding sa mga hinaing mo na BAKA pinag uusapan ka namin , ang malamang sagot ko sayo eh " Ganda mo ah! ganun? ikaw lang ba talaga pedeng maging topic namin?" Haha! Sabi nga ng asawa ko, babaeng beki ako kung mag isip.

FYI, what they think about you is ALSO none of your business.

Anyhow, I know you're hurt just mend your broken heart but avoid being bitter. Scrap the idea that you waited for 4 years before you start dating again. Hmmmm,  and so what? It was your decision after all to stay that way. So stop blaming yourself and stop hating your every wrong decision. Make it right by learning from it.

By the way regarding the "nagpakita pa kasi ng pacare care",, hay Iha ilang beses ko ba sabihin sayo na he was trying it out with you if it will work out, that's it! in tagalog, nanligaw talaga siya. gets? natural mente ang pagbibigay ng bulaklak ay part ng panliligaw/dating stage/getting to know each. ngayon ka lang ba nakaranas nun? 

Yung sa friend mo na feeling mo nag lie sayo, I would say part of moving on is forgiving everyone who hurt you. Unless you want to feel miserable for a long time, eh di sige hold that grudge. 

Haaay, you probably young and still got to learn more about life, love,friendships, dating, etc..

Just move on. If you want to have a better relationship next time, then Stop wallowing yourself now from hurt. Part ng buhay yan.

[sarsingkit]

Agree with sis lovemeagain30. Just move on from it. Sabi mo hindi madali, but at least try. Stop wallowing in self pity. They are probably not thinking about you, so do not spend another second thinking about them.

[Filipinasadhart]

Thank you.. medyo nakamove on na din ako sa kanila. lam mo tama ka sarsingkit at yun iba ko friends na girls and guys. Wag ko na sila isipin. kalimutan na. Oo nag-assumed ako may mali sa part ko.  it started lang naman yun nag-assumed ako un nagbigay kase ng flowers holland tullips at nag effort pa talaga to meet me up lipa, batangas to trinoma para mag meet kame watch movie and dinner. 

Nakakadissapoint talaga pero ano magagawa ko wala na kung di kalimutan yun ginawa nila. pero inis pa din ako kapag naalala ko un sinabi ng friend ko na nagpakilala sa amin. Gusto ka makilala ng boss ko? sabi ko bakit? yun naman pala yun boss nya eh bisexual pala at gusto nya yun bisexual na manliligaw ko. Kaya nga sabi pa nga daw pumatol ka na sa babae wag lang sa kapwa ko bisexual. Gusto mo pa magninong pa ko sa kasal nyo. Nalaman ko lang yun nameet ko yun boss nya sa birthday party at dun ko napatunayan na bisexual nga un manliligaw ko. hahaha

im watching Till i met you. sobra ako natatawa kase feeling ko si Iris ako. nasira ang mga pangarap kasama si Ali. kaso walang Basti na sasagip sa akin hahaha

[luliluli]

advice lang sa mga gustong mag move on, keep yourself busy with hobby like craft or scrapbooking... or yun uso ngayon na planner at isang bawal sa perscription... bawal manood ng romanctic movie, rest assured madali mo siyang makakalimutan.

[Cher_Y]

Kugn bi Sexual ay mahirap yun baka two timmer

[rasee16]

I've experienced this a long long time ago. I'd say stay away. Lol.

[Cher_Y]

Dalikado pa sa AIDS at kung ano anong STD.

[Filipinasadhart]

I've experienced this a long long time ago. I'd say stay away. Lol.

talaga you experienced that kind of situation. Ang sakit sobra sis. Halos tinanggalan ako ng pagkatao sa ginawa nila.  Dumating pa nga yun time na nagalit ako sa lahat ng bisexual. Halos walang tigil yun iyak ko sobrang dissapointment. Honestly, Much more na Nanghihinayang ako sa friendship na natapon. Kase ako nagpakatotoo sa pinakita ko tapos yun pala hindi sya totoo sa akin.  Nasira ang friendship namin.