Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[kvandenhaak]

eh pano kung in return kinukulit ka ni guy tapos nalaman mo may kalandian pala siyang iba, nalaman mo isang araw na may gf pala siya. would you still think na mas gusto ka niya kesa sa isa? haha curious lang

Happened to me. It only means, he is an idiot. Run, don't walk.

[dismembered]

bottomline is, know your value/worth .. kung lahat ng babae nag-iisip ng tama, walang lalaking makakapanloko. 

Usapang value, I've noticed to some girls na, the more the guy shows he likes her, the more she'll think she's too good for him. Or kapag may naachieve na something, like tumaas ang career or nanalo sa beauty pageant, ma feel nya na ang taas ng value nya at super swerte ng partner nya sa kanya kaya magbabago ang treatment. So itong si guy, mas mag reach out pero in the end mapapagod din. What can you say about that? Ibig sabihin ba hindi talaga deserve ni guy si girl? Or si guy ang hindi deserve ni girl kasi feelingera na.

[red_yesha]

^parang di naman compatible yan, parang di nila deserve ang isa't isa hehe. Chos!

[kwang sun]

Kasalanan ba ng lalaki na babaero siya? O kasalanan ng babae na t**** siya?

[Girltalker2]

Usapang value, I've noticed to some girls na, the more the guy shows he likes her, the more she'll think she's too good for him. Or kapag may naachieve na something, like tumaas ang career or nanalo sa beauty pageant, ma feel nya na ang taas ng value nya at super swerte ng partner nya sa kanya kaya magbabago ang treatment. So itong si guy, mas mag reach out pero in the end mapapagod din. What can you say about that? Ibig sabihin ba hindi talaga deserve ni guy si girl? Or si guy ang hindi deserve ni girl kasi feelingera na.

This is true regardless of gender. Kahit guys, kapag may na achieve na, some lookfor flings, mistresses, girlie bars to feel more powerful.

sa BF/gf,  kahit papaano dapat magka level kayo di ba? Puede sa start magka level kayo then one can outgrow the other if the other cannot cope. So alangan naman pilitin ang relationship if you know it can't work.

[badw33d]

Kasalanan ba ng lalaki na babaero siya? O kasalanan ng babae na t**** siya?

kasalanan ng babae na t**** siya 

if you switch the positions, kasalanan ng lalaki na t**** siya 

[kvandenhaak]

Kasalanan ba ng lalaki na babaero siya? O kasalanan ng babae na t**** siya?

If the girl doesn't know, kasalanan ng guy yun. Otherwise, t**** si girl. Unless you are married to the guy, dinidispacha agad ang mga babaero!

[dismembered]

sa BF/gf,  kahit papaano dapat magka level kayo di ba? Puede sa start magka level kayo then one can outgrow the other if the other cannot cope. So alangan naman pilitin ang relationship if you know it can't work.

Sad truth. 

[minatay91]

^ so ano na kung married, lalo na sa pinas?
katangahan til death do us part, or exhaust all of what's left sa sanity?

or wa pake lang talaga in the end.? Pwede din yung boundless and inexhaustible forgiveness, parang Diyos lang haha

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Usapang value, I've noticed to some girls na, the more the guy shows he likes her, the more she'll think she's too good for him. Or kapag may naachieve na something, like tumaas ang career or nanalo sa beauty pageant, ma feel nya na ang taas ng value nya at super swerte ng partner nya sa kanya kaya magbabago ang treatment. So itong si guy, mas mag reach out pero in the end mapapagod din. What can you say about that? Ibig sabihin ba hindi talaga deserve ni guy si girl? Or si guy ang hindi deserve ni girl kasi feelingera na.

It is kinda true na tumaas naman talaga ang worth ni girl. Though if nagmamahalan sila ng tunay, that shouldnt matter at all.

[dismembered]

^ That's what I don't understand.

Hindi ba pwedeng magmahalan lang tayo. Walang value value value. Kasi kung may tumataas ang value, matatanggap nyo din ba na on the other hand, nag dedepreciate din? Like kapag tumatanda, nababawasan ang beauty or what? Di ba ayaw natin maging ganung ang "view"? Kung ayaw makita in a way na parang nag dedepreciate, I think dapat hindi rin i-treat or mag feeling na nag aappreciate ang value. Wala lang..

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^Wow parang may hugot ah!

[young_maiden]

^^ Bro, #hugot. Hehe.

[Girltalker2]

^ That's what I don't understand.

Hindi ba pwedeng magmahalan lang tayo. Walang value value value. Kasi kung may tumataas ang value, matatanggap nyo din ba na on the other hand, nag dedepreciate din? Like kapag tumatanda, nababawasan ang beauty or what? Di ba ayaw natin maging ganung ang "view"? Kung ayaw makita in a way na parang nag dedepreciate, I think dapat hindi rin i-treat or mag feeling na nag aappreciate ang value. Wala lang..

In life, you cannot stop improving yourself. Not for the relationship but for yourself. Pag nagmamahalan kayo, mag uusap kayo. If Ikaw ang unang umangat, you will try to pull up your partner din di ba? At Kita mo rin dapat na he/she is also doing something about it. If not, kausapin mo para same pace kayo of growing and towards the same direction.

Ngayon Kung Ikaw naman yung napag iwanan at mahal mo Talaga sya, Hindi ba magtry ka mag cope to keep up with her?

Kasi dapat nag hihilahan kayo pataas, Hindi pababa.

[dismembered]

^ That's not what I actually meant.

Tama lang na in life you cannot stop improving yourself, not for the relationship but for yourself. Pero since, for "yourself" nga yun, hindi ba pwedeng sa "self" na lang ilagay yun at wag na sa relationship? Good pag si partner ay humahabol sayo, pero pag hindi, magbabago ba ang tingin sa kanya at magbabago ba ang treatment dahil nga, tumaas ang value mo at sya hindi?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ magiiba ang tingin ko if he's not even trying, and admittedly i'll be wondering WHY he's not improving despite giving his hardest. Siyempre it says something din about him. Feeling ko lahat naman would want someone who can catch up with their pacing. Kahit sa paglalakad sa mall di ba. Sure it's infinitely more fun to walk leisurely with someone holding your hand but if the time would come na you need to "hurry", nakakapagpabagal yung mabagal maglakad na kahawak kamay mo.

*Sometimes i wonder (in life in general, not sa relationship perse) which is worse, failing despite doing your very best or failing without doing anything at all.

[littlekinselle]

Curious lang ako.. gaano katagal kaya ng isang guy married or not.. na walang sex?

[Girltalker2]

Good pag si partner ay humahabol sayo, pero pag hindi, magbabago ba ang tingin sa kanya at magbabago ba ang treatment dahil nga, tumaas ang value mo at sya hindi?

Puede magbago ang tingin nyo sa isa't Isa kasi one of you have lost interest. Dahil na nga you grew apart. Nag iba na yung pinagkakaabalahan ninyo or mga hilig nyo, iba yung mga friends na kasama nyo.

So I Guess it is not because tumaas ang value mo, mag iiba tingin mo sa partner mo. Nag iba lang ang gusto mo (puede tumaas din standards mo for yourself?) kaya puede mawalan ka ng gana sa partner mo.

[kvandenhaak]

^ so ano na kung married, lalo na sa pinas?
katangahan til death do us part, or exhaust all of what's left sa sanity?

or wa pake lang talaga in the end.? Pwede din yung boundless and inexhaustible forgiveness, parang Diyos lang haha

Is that suppose to be for me? LOL..what I meant to say is that if you're married, give the guy a second chance KUNG nagsisi. I am openly pro-divorce and I know philandering is a ground for it. But marriage is a covenant so I would still try to find a venue to reconcile. But I am definitely not advocating women to tolerate abuse. NO WAY! 

[badw33d]

Curious lang ako.. gaano katagal kaya ng isang guy married or not.. na walang sex?

the max ata na try namin ng wife ko was... 8 months  that was tough