Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[whereissasha]

Big deal ba talaga yung big boobs at maputi? Offensive na kasi guys! ( HAHAHA!!!

[IamMarieLove]

Big deal ba talaga yung big boobs at maputi? Offensive na kasi guys! ( HAHAHA!!!

Hindi naman sobrang big deal but it's a factor. May mga guys din kasi mas prefer nila yong malaking boobs at maputi but it's not universal naman kasi iba-iba yong gusto ng iba't-ibang lalaki.

[simang]

^eh di tiisin mo. :-) Kung hindi ka suyuin, hanap ka ng iba na marunong manuyo kung talagang big deal yun for you.

[TomHansen]

Big deal ba talaga yung big boobs at maputi? Offensive na kasi guys! ( HAHAHA!!!

Hindi big deal, maraming babaeng maboobs, mapuputi pero niloloko pa rin sila ng bf nila.. Ang mas mahalaga is kung yung partner mo tama para sayo at hindi yung pinaparamdam niya sayo na may kulang ka.

[kvandenhaak]

Merong mahilig sa boobs, merong sa pwet, merong mahilig sa maputi. Iba-iba trip ng mga lalake. Ang solution dyan, humanap ka ng gusto ng meron ka....lol!

[patchuchai]

Guys ask ko, do u also like ur breast to be kissed and caressed during sex?

[patchuchai]

Hindi big deal, maraming babaeng maboobs, mapuputi pero niloloko pa rin sila ng bf nila.. Ang mas mahalaga is kung yung partner mo tama para sayo at hindi yung pinaparamdam niya sayo na may kulang ka.

Merong mahilig sa boobs, merong sa pwet, merong mahilig sa maputi. Iba-iba trip ng mga lalake. Ang solution dyan, humanap ka ng gusto ng meron ka....lol!

korek! its finding the person that will like you kahit anong meron ka, hindi ako maputi, morena ako, hindi malaki boobs ko at hindi ganun kakinis ang skin ko pero tanggap naman ni partner, may partner is maputi naman at makinis, he is chinese btw. hindi rin ako ma make-up at tama lang mag ayos pero ok lang sa kanya. one time i ask him, ok lang ba sayo hindi nako nag lipstick sabi naman niya hindi big deal sa kanya iyong makolorete, yes he got attracted to beautiful women pero hanggang doon lang. iyong ugali big factor sa kanya to have a relationship.

[jtansanco]

^^ Haha, no. I'm ticklish in that area so it's not for me.

[kvandenhaak]

The guy I am currently seeing suddenly called me "Babe". We're just seeing each other for about 4 months now. We're getting along despite of being different people. But I don't consider it serious. Just enjoying each other's company. Does it mean anything or it's just that? I never call him anything something similar. Hindi ako mahilig sa pet names. I actually call him "buddy" most of the time or by his last name...LOL!

[NeilRudecat]

Guys ask ko, do u also like ur breast to be kissed and caressed during sex?

She teases me by pinching my nipples.  I pinch back and she blocks my hand using her arms.

During sex, she would suck my nipples or pinch them while I'm on top.

Well, there are times I like it.  In some instances, I would prefer that she lighten up a bit.  There are moments when my nipples are very sensitive and I don't like them to be touched.

[commish]

The guy I am currently seeing suddenly called me "Babe". We're just seeing each other for about 4 months now. We're getting along despite of being different people. But I don't consider it serious. Just enjoying each other's company. Does it mean anything or it's just that? I never call him anything something similar. Hindi ako mahilig sa pet names. I actually call him "buddy" most of the time or by his last name...LOL!

alangan din naman kasing tawagin ka nyang "buddy" lol

IMO, hes just comfortable with you, with the hope of somehow hed get a glimpse of how far he is na ba in terms of your relationship. kung irereciprocate mo ba at yung "buddy" eh magiging "babe" na din. mga simpleng sundot na ganun hehe.

ikaw na rin naman nagsabi that you dont consider it serious, im just wondering why you bothered? is it becoming serious na ba? haha

[kvandenhaak]

^LOL! I obviously like the guy. Sometimes, I wonder if I like him more than I should. I don't want to take it too seriously because I know for a fact he is not really ready to make it a serious commitment. At least, that's what I know. I like him, he likes me. We enjoy each other company. Simple math lang muna. No overanalyzing, no overthinking. That's why I am wondering if him calling me Babe means anything at all. Nagulat lang ako kasi he out of the blue lang. At hindi yun during intimate moments.

[young_maiden]

Posible ba talaga na kahit madalas nyo kasama ang isang girl at kayong dalawa lang, wala talaga feelings involved? Platonic lang o kahit papano may konting attraction?

May guy friend kasi ako na parang ang clingy masyado sa common friend namin na girl. Isang barkada kami pero many times sila lumalabas na silang dalawa lang. They watch movies, eat outside and tour museums everywhere. Nag movie marathon pa sila sa bahay nung guy. Basta madalas lang sila lumabas na sila lang. They play badminton together pa. Uploaded pa sa fb mga pictures nila na magkasama. Pero I am sure na kkb ang set-up nila. Hehe. Si guy kasi kilalang kuripot sa barkada namin. Either kkb o aasarin niya kasama niya na i-libre siya.

Mga friends namin inaasar at pinapa-amin sila kung sila na daw ba. Hindi naman sila umaamin. Tatawanan o sasakyan lang nila ang asaran sa kanila. Pero itong si guy mahilig magsabi sa amin na zero lovelife siya o single. Nagjojoke pa na naghahanap daw siya ng pagmamahal.

Sa times na magkasama sila, wala naman signs of intimacy. Kahit holding hands wala.

Heto pa, mga guys, he calls her Ate kahit one year ahead lang si girl sa kanya. May guy ba na tatawaging ate ang girl na type niya? Hehe. For me, I don't think so. Saka he teases her taba and baboy kasi fat siya. Siguro naman di nyo masasabi iyon sa babaeng gusto nyo di ba?

Kung ako mag assess sa kanila, sa tingin ko friends lang talaga sila. Pero di lang ako makapaniwala na sa ilang years na magkasama sila, platonic lang. Hindi pa rin nag level up. Kung wala lang yung ate factor at kung may konting intimacy kahit holding hands lang, iisipin ko may something talaga. Saka assuming na sila nga, grabe naman kung di pa nila ma-amin sa amin. Di na sila bata o di sila artista para maglihim. Nasa late twenties na sila.

So going back sa mga questions ko sa una, posible ba talaga na kahit madalas nyo kasama ang isang girl, platonic lang talaga o meron konting attraction?

[Girltalker2]

^curious din ako on this. If a guy's answer here can refute what I think.

Kasi tingin ko for guys, Hindi ganun kadali ma-develop. In fact if a guy and a girl lagi nagkikita, the girl has a tendency pa ma in love sa guy. But for the guy, I don't think so, kung meron man siguro bihira, like 1%?

Related to this topic is also sis vandehaak's situation. ^^ sis, as you mentioned, 'you're not sure if you're liking him more than you should'. If kayo lagi magkasama, imo lang naman, this is likely to happen. But hey, you guys enjoy the moments muna as youve said. Though caution is very important, especially you mentioned about intimacy. For us girls, anything with intimacy, in general, may emotions involved iyan, 99% of the time. Best of luck to the 2 of you.

[commish]

That's why I am wondering if him calling me Babe means anything at all. Nagulat lang ako kasi he out of the blue lang. At hindi yun during intimate moments.

yup it does mean something. hes trying to generate exclusivity but that doesnt mean certainty that hes ready for a monogamous commitment. let him call you that, masarap naman pakinggan that you're someones "babe" di ba? hehe its right youre thinking things through but on the side note, wag mo na rin masyado patagalin, again its a journey not a destination. masarap din naman yung journey na "kayo na" wahehe.

Posible ba talaga na kahit madalas nyo kasama ang isang girl at kayong dalawa lang, wala talaga feelings involved? Platonic lang o kahit papano may konting attraction?

So going back sa mga questions ko sa una, posible ba talaga na kahit madalas nyo kasama ang isang girl, platonic lang talaga o meron konting attraction?

yup its possible. simple lang kaming mga lalaki especially on things that we want at lalo na on the things we need.

di ba mga lalaking aso lang yung nagmamarka ng boundaries? so parang ganun lang, that guy not showing physical intimacy ie holding hands etc is a sign he's respecting the limits of the friendship. di namin mamarkahan yan or di namin gagalawin yan kung hindi namin gusto. sensya wala akong maisip na analogy, kakain ko lang, karamihan ng dugo ko nasa tyan ko lol

on a different perspective, pwede ba magbago yung relationship from platonic to romantic? pwede if the girl would intend to.

[TomHansen]

young_maiden, there's a big chance na nagfriendzoned yung kaibigan mong girl ni lalake. sa tingin ko may gusto si girl sa lalaki pero di kayang ireciprocate ni guy yung feelings though he likes the company or kung ano man ang mga ginagawa nila when they're together alone. Possible ring friends with (some)benefits dahil ayaw ni guy ng serious commitment with her. Ask your female friend kapag kayo lang kung ano bang nafefeel niya sa guy baka umamin sayo.

sa question mo, sa akin kasi i like doing things alone kaya unless gusto ko yung babae hindi ko siya isasama/sasamahan sa mga lakaran or movie marathons.

[young_maiden]

^^ Thanks sa opinion mo bro pero i disagree dun sa last paragraph mo. Kahit gusto ni girl na mag level up from platonic to romantic, kung ayaw ni guy, walang mangyayari. Tulad ni girltalker2, tingin ko din sa inyong mga guys di kayo basta basta nadedevelop eh. Kahit araw-araw nyo kasama isang babae, kung di nyo talaga siya type, wala talaga. Kung guy tuloy ang gusto ng level up, naniniwala pa ako ng posible. Dito kasi sa culture natin lalaki lang pwede gumawa ng first move.

^ Pareho tayo ng iniisip, tom. Tingin ko si girl may gusto kay guy eh kaso friendzoned siya. Sa daming beses na magkasama sila, sana noon pa lang umamin na si guy sa kanya kung may feelings man siya.

Regarding sa sinabi mo na baka friends with benefits sila, somehow i agree. Hehe. Pero i am sure di sexual ang benefits na iyon. They don't hold hands. Saka inaasar ni guy si girl na taba at baboy. I know some guys na kayang kaya makipagsex sa fat girl pero most likely yung fat girl HOT sa paningin niya kaya na-arouse. Sa case ng guy friend ko (na hanggang ngayon virgin pa. Lol), I doubt may nangyari na sa kanila. Sa kaka-asar niya doon ng taba o baboy, obvious na he doesn't find her sexually appealing.

Kung may benefits man, more on companionship siguro o pera. Si guy kasi mahilig asarin si girl na i-libre daw siya. Itong si girl may times na pumapayag manlibre sa kanya.

Kung tama tayo sa theory natin, kawawa naman itong friend ko na girl. Parang meantime girl tingin sa kanya.

[patchuchai]

As long as hindi nagsasabi ang guy ng motibo wala yan, hwag syang mag expect.

[TomHansen]

^^ kaya as a friend kausapin mo na si girl baka magopen up at need niya ng support para kumawala sa pagiging close niya sa guy. or baka need niya ng taong magsasabi sa kanya na maling umasa sa taong nagffriendzone sa kanya(if yun nga nangyayari)..

mas mabuti rin sampalin mo ng malakas yung lalaki kapag tinutukso niyang mataba/baboy yung friend mo para malaman niyang hindi nakakatawa at napaka-immature yung pangungutya niya..

[kvandenhaak]

Thanks to all the replies!

To young_maiden: You know, your friend and I are kinda in the same boat but not quite. However, ako nagtatanong para malinaw. Tinanong ko si Vaughn dati kung bakit ba sya ganyan? Kung di nya ako naman nya ako gusto talaga eh di friends na lang kami. I won't have a grudge on anyone if that's what it is. I mean, hindi naman kako ako sobrang pangit at wala ng makakagustong iba...lol! Ang sabi nya, "I care about you and you mean a lot to me. If not, I won't waste my time spending with you". I don't know kung ilang taon na friend mo but she should make it clear. And I assume, the same with the guy I am seeing, hindi yung mag-aaksaya ng oras sa friend mo kung wala kahit na katiting na pagtingin yun. Considering na walang benefits pa yun ha? It's not possible for two people to keep going out together kung walang napapala ang bawa't isa. Kung okay lang sa friend mo ang ganong set-up at masaya naman sya, then who are we to judge her and tell her what to do? I assume nasa tamang edad na naman sya. Ngayon, kung nagrereklamo sya then that's the time na dapat na kayong ma-involve.  That is if she asks for your opinions. Otherwise, just leave her alone.