Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[junetwentythree]

Nag admit naman siya sa mistake niya that it was his fault noong nakita niya yung screen shot. Kulang nalang sabihan ko na mag memo plus siya para di niya malimutan  conversation namin.baka ma highblood pag sabihan ko hehe. anyway i told him about my concern and he said he is having a hard time with my gimmick dito and lakwatcha doon sa kabila. He is scared i might meet someone else which i always explain its not going to happen.he wants me to save also para sa future which is my point naman pero mai times talaga i want to go out and experience new activities.

Do you always go out? Do you spend money frivolously on these nights out? I have my doubts that you actually do. I call bluff on his "saving" reasons. That's to plant guilt in you. I'm sure you're probably going to ignore my advice anyway but I'll just put it out there -- if you don't tell your dude to man up and trust you, then your relationship will only continue to get worse from here on out. If you continue to indulge him on his every whim, then you're just feeding into his insecurity.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Tama si sis junetwentythree, plus kahit di na siguro about your relationship, kasi for his own character development na lang. If you'll keep on giving in, he'll think it's okay. Na all he has to do is to throw a tantrum then he'll get what he wants. And mas maganda mas malawak ang mundo niyo, hindi yung sa isa't isa lang umiikot. Tell him that you're a social person talaga, part of the package, so he has got to deal with it. Maybe you can invite him, if he refuse then again he needs to deal with his decision.

[badw33d]

Sa totoo lang, I-cacancel ko na sana yung plan namin na ito, kaso baka magalit nanaman siya kasi pinapaasa ko daw lagi sya sa mga lakad namin. Di naman natutuloy.

Any advice or comment?

i think nag reply ako nun about this? :-) hmmm.. or i'm getting old which is good

For me, if nag aya ng girl na mag outing etc... even punta sa place ko, i expect something to happen pagka sumama siya. So, it applies to you :-) c'mon, you two are alone in one room, so many things can happen, from bad to good .

May attitude nga lang siya, so, I think this will not work out. I see something like pilita.

Just some reality to think about from your part ms. budgetchi.

[NeilRudecat]

Hi budgetchic,

If he's a real gentleman and is sincerely interested in you as a person, then he himself would not allow you to share the same room.  If you are concerned about budget...well, if I were him I would offer you that I would pay half of your room rate.  Then I would pay for an entire room for myself, preferably next to yours so I could still help ensure your safety.

You're a decent woman and deserve to be respected and honored.  At this point pa lang, clear na ang intentions niya sa pagiisip ng ganun.  Itong pag-agree mo na one room lang kayo would send signals na okay lang sa iyo ang ganung set-up.

Hindi mo pa siya completely kilala talaga.  At siya mismo, baka hindi pa niya kilala ang sarili niya.  What if na-tempt siya sa iyo and he tries something while you are occupying the same room?  Di ba awkward moment at baka hindi ka mag-resist dahil matatakot kang maapektuhan ang kung anong healthy relationship ang meron na kayo.

Pag na-tempt to engage in sex, paano na ang dine-develop ninyong relationship...masisira yan.  Sex can ruin everything.

Maraming lalaki ang hindi pa rin fully matured about having relationships.  Sobrang distracted, if not, totally derailed ang focus nila kapag may sex nang involved. 

Let us guys learn from you about real loving...about knowing how beautiful you are as a person.  Let us discover beauty that lasts...by helping us "see" your light.  Let us completely experience you as woman...delighting in everything you say...engaging in all the things about you...desiring to hear you speak more about yourself and knowing how people, your family and friends have loved you all these years.

There's a lot of opportunity to get to know you...during the long ride/travel to the destination...relaxing at the porch of the cottage...while swimming or sitting at the beach.

Yung moment mo alone inside the room...that's your personal time...your time to think...your time to assess yourself and your situation.

Please take care of yourself.  You deserve real love and nothing less.

[TomHansen]

^ ganun ba yun bro?
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Papaano siya aamin baka kasi hindi naman at ilusyon lang ang lahat ng ito lol. Alam na niya sigurong type mo siya based sa mga pag-uusap niyo kaya mas maganda kumalma ka at wag mong ipakitang affected ka sa pag-iinarte niya. Hindi mo pa siya gaanong kilala papaano ka nakakasiguradong ikaw lang ang kinakausap niya? and inaayang lumabas? Kaw bahala sis kung ano plan mo basta pag-isipan mo muna lahat bago ka gumawa ng bold moves para sa inyo.

[j.adore]

Do you avoid sex if it's too "hot"? Ang alam ko kasi, all the more reason guys want to have sex kasi nga it's hot

[iwannabeasupermodel]

@sis budgetchic

A few months after my ex and i broke up we went out on a "friendly bonding" trip, kaming 2 lang and we just rented 1 room na we shared, we also shared bed and all that. Then again we had sex naman na dati so di ba, ano pa ba ang matatago. Guys always have morning wood, so my ex and i woke up to his morning wood and the rest is history lol.

[jtansanco]

^^ Haha. No reasons to avoid sex.

[Girltalker2]

@ budgetchic, I once dated a guy. We went out of town din. But it was clear to me I want separate rooms.

It was a nice 3day 2 night outing. We will meet for breakfast and go island hopping. End the day with dinner and some drinks, then off to separate rooms. Dapat before ka mag outing clear sayo that you're in control and you know what you want.

Mahirap yung medyo hilaw, you don't want to sleep with him yet but 1 room kayo. Parang high probability something can happen.

[TomHansen]

Do you avoid sex if it's too "hot"? Ang alam ko kasi, all the more reason guys want to have sex kasi nga it's hot

No, maganda nga minsan yung tumatagak tak pawis niyo pareho lol.. Baka wala lang sa mood yun sis nagdadahilan lang.

[Evolet027]

Meron din bang mga lalake na nabibiktima ng mga player na babae?

Kasi palage na lang, babae ang brokenhearted dahil sa player na lalake, dahil sa babaero na lalake. Na curious lang ako.

[dismembered]

^ oo naman. Isa ako sa biktima. Dahil dun natutuhan ko din ang game at hindi na ako papabiktima ulit kahit kelan.

[jtansanco]

^^ Syempre. There was this girl I met online who played me for about 4 months. She pretended to be 4 different women (multiple personalities) and had 3-4 dummy accounts on FB. Basically, she had this account for 5 years and she's been chatting with herself (using the dummy accounts) to make the profile look active. Ibang level of topak nato. Haha

[kvandenhaak]

Meron din bang mga lalake na nabibiktima ng mga player na babae?

Kasi palage na lang, babae ang brokenhearted dahil sa player na lalake, dahil sa babaero na lalake. Na curious lang ako.

Daming ganyan online di ba? Unfortunately, maraming mga Pinay.

[simang]

@jtansanco for real? Wow. Wala akong masabi.

[jtansanco]

^ Yup. I just got lucky because my friend is into solving these kinds of "mysteries". Blocked kasi ako sa real account ni poser eh but my friend wasn't. Apparently, I also have a friend who got tricked by her 2 years ago so I was able to connect the dots. Ibang klase. Haha

[Girltalker2]

Daming ganyan online di ba? Unfortunately, maraming mga Pinay.

I learned about this dito sa GT... Sa domestic helper thread. I can't believe how people creative people can be in inventing personalities. It is a talent kasi ang hirap kaya magsinungaling, what more to lie consistently. Parang wala ata sila ibang ginagawa kundi iyan lang?

[dismembered]

^ I must admit, victim din ako ng ganyan for 2 years dati. Pero medyo nauuso pa lang ang social media nun, friendster pa ang trend. 2 years ako naloko na akala ko sya talaga yung nasa photos nya. Haha. Kapanipaniwala naman kasi dahil ginagastusan ako at binibigyan effort para lang mag reach out sa akin. Oh well. Nagulat na lang ako nung nakita ko in-person yung nasa photo nya. Syempre akala ko sya yun. Tinawagan ko ang cellphone number nya habang nasa likod nya ako. Nung sinagot yung phone, hindi naman yung taong nasa harap ko ang sumagot. Dun ko nalaman ang lahat. Yung photo na ginamit ng poser dati is isang sikat na actress na ngayon. oh well. After nun natuto na ako. Alam ko na mga indicators etc. At least maaga akong natuto bago maging uso ang mga ganito.

@jstansaco buti walang extortion na naganap. I mean, baka expert na mang extort yan sa mga foreigners.

[simang]

^ Yup. I just got lucky because my friend is into solving these kinds of "mysteries". Blocked kasi ako sa real account ni poser eh but my friend wasn't. Apparently, I also have a friend who got tricked by her 2 years ago so I was able to connect the dots. Ibang klase. Haha

Wow, ang dami nyang time. How did your friend find out? sorry OT na yata. Pero kakaiba yang experience mo na yan ah. Solid catfish.

^bro, did she use Ellen Adarna's photo? Haha sya kasi yung sikat na profile photo sa friendster dati. Parang lahat ng babae mukha ni Ellen ang gamit lol

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ lol feeling ko si ellen adarna nga!

^^ what happened after? nakakatuwa naman na you try to meet up/get to know people through the online sources. i mean, you dont have to naman kasi lol, you know what i mean. jejejeje.