Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[junetwentythree]

^^^ Uber seloso boyfriends are a no-go, super turn-off for me. No one is anyone's possession therefore no one should be dictating what you should or shouldn't do. The more forcefully you hold something tightly towards you, the more it'll want to break away. Give them a bit of wiggle room and they'll be happy to run towards you.

With you being in an LDR... that's more of a test of trust. So your man needs to learn just that.

@TomHansen -- Bro, easy lang when it comes to jealousy. It's not a good trait. At least in my opinion. I used to think it was cute to have someone get jealous and that it was a sign of their love for me. But then I realized that it was just a display of sheer insecurity that I'm not sure I want to see in a man. I want to know that my man trusts that I won't make stupid decisions.

[snowhite_12]

Yes he doesn't trust me and wala naman akong ginawang masama. Hindi naman ako nag memesage sa hulk guy na yun. He thinks Im playing games and I hate being judge ina-add lang as a friend. Maging boyfriend na agad. Kaya right now hindi ko nalang siya kinausap.Im tired of explaining him.

[dismembered]

^ Minsan you have to understand na kaming mga lalake, we trust our girls, we really do. Yung mga lalakeng umaaligid sa girls namin ang hindi namin pinagkakatiwalaan. Something like, alam namin na lalake to at alam namin ang nasa isip nito so stay away...

Seloso ako dati. But I learned na... kung ang tao ay mawawala sa buhay mo, mawawala at mawawala yan kahit ano pang gawin mo, if hindi naman talaga kayo para sa isa't isa. It's not something you really have control. Just do what you can do, appreciate and cherish mo every moment mo with her thinking na hindi mo sya hawak lagi at anytime pwede sya mawala. If she is really yours, sya mismo mag stay.

[TomHansen]

^ Parang tips kay momentum to ah. Haha

hahaha hindi naman sini-share ko lang..

@TomHansen -- Bro, easy lang when it comes to jealousy. It's not a good trait. At least in my opinion. I used to think it was cute to have someone get jealous and that it was a sign of their love for me. But then I realized that it was just a display of sheer insecurity that I'm not sure I want to see in a man. I want to know that my man trusts that I won't make stupid decisions.

Thanks sis, yes mag-easy lang ako pagdating sa selos pangit nga kapag sobra..

[kwang sun]

Ano po ba yung point bakit nag paparamdam ulit ang taong nanloko sayo before? After a year he tried to make kamusta to me through our common friend. Note* it was not a good ending for the both of us. Gusto ko lang malaman MALE p.o.v on this lol .. He tried messaging me sa fb as another person (I think it was him pretending to be someone else) lol. I need MALE p.o.v on this please thanks

[jtansanco]

^ That's easy. He probably realized his mistake. He cheated on you but things didn't turn out well with him and the other girl. Now that he's all alone, memories of both of you come up from his mind. "WHAT IF I hadn't cheated? Things could have been better for both of us." That's a reason why he's checking out how you are right now and if you're still single and etc.

[TomHansen]

^^ kung nangumusta lang ok lang sana pero messaging you on fb as another person parang ang labo na nun ha hahaha.. mahirap sabihin unless kinausap mo siya. malamang sa alamang kasi if nakipag-usap ka mag-aask na yun na makipagkita sayo. pwedeng gusto niyang  (1) maging good friends kayo, (2) maging FWB kayo, (3) makipagbalikan,(4) maging FWB kayo.

Ikaw ba sis ano ba gusto mong mangyari? Bakit kayo nagbreak nagcheat ba siya sayo? If oo then sana ituloy mo na lang yung ginagawa mong hindi pamamansin sa kanya. If seryoso kasi siyang maging friend mo ulit dapat kausapin ka niya gamit legit account or new account using real name niya di yung gumagawa ng dummy.

[kwang sun]

^I forgot the most important detail sis hahaha ..I blocked him in my fb account kasi that's why lol...yung common friend namin was " suddenly" so curious bout me ... Lol .binabara ko lang at never ako nangamusta sa kanya (the guy)..I was just curious why he wants to make kamusta all of a sudden lol.. Pero now no communication kami but our common friends are starting to ask me things which is annoying na ... Di sila maka move on hahaah

[TomHansen]

^yeah kaya nga dapat gumawa siya ng bagong account but still using his real name kung talagang seryoso siya. huwag mo na lang sagutin or patulan mga common friends niyo change topic agad siguro naman magegets na nila na ayaw mong pag-usapan.. si ex mo naman siguro wala lang "malandi" yun ngayon kaya ikaw pinagdidiskitahan - hayaan mo na lang magsawa sa kade-deadma mo.

[superfaith]

sa mga guys question, ok lang ba sa inyo yung gf nyo close or may communication pa rin sa mga ex bf

nila?

[Girltalker2]

^ no, I don't think so

[TomHansen]

^^ no please palaging pagsisimulan lang ng selosan at away..

[superfaith]

^^ no please palaging pagsisimulan lang ng selosan at away..

^ no, I don't think so

yes yan din sabi ko sa brother ko, pero ok lang talaga sa kanya,,, tiwala naman daw siya...

[piatos]

hi guys

meron isang guy na lagi kong nahuhuli nakatingin sakin tapos basta my mga signs na he's into me kaso i'm not sure kung gusto niya ba talaga ako kasi 2x ko na siya nakita na kasama ang ex sa SM.    Anong tingin niyo bakit sa lalaki parang okay makipagkita sa mga ex.. Ganun din kasi ang ex ko, lagi nagaaya magkita kami lol.  Tingin ko itong si girl e umaasa pa na makapagbalikan sila ayon din sa kwento ng tita ni crushie

[jtansanco]

^ That's normal. I would assume that the guy broke up with the girl while you broke up with your bf. Those who were on the receiving end of the bad news tend to not move on easily which is why they try to salvage the friendship and still hope to rekindle the "flame" in the future. In my opinion, you will do your ex a big favor by letting go of them instead of keeping them as friends. They can never move on if they still hangout with the ex who broke up with them unless they found someone else already.

[prickyslime]

Hi. Bago lang akong napadpad sa section na 'to. Hahaha

I am with an uber seloso guy too!!!! We already have a 2 yr old son pero di parin yun naging assurance sakanya na wala akong ginagawang masama.

Anghirap nga kasi we're both artists (so syempre you need alot of connections, friends, socializing with other people who shares the same interest with you) ayan tuloy naaapektuhan pati yung art ko kasi naman, pati ba naman pagpunta ng mga event hirap ako kumilos kasi ayaw nya nakikipag-usap ako sa iba at lalo na kung kakilala nya. One time we were at an exhibit tapos his former classmates were there at nasalubong namin, maya maya nakasimangot na at tinanong ba naman ako ''Nag-smile ka sakanya?'' Hahahaha. Kaka-stress..

[TomHansen]

^ hahaha uber seloso nga bf mo sis.. Hmmmm di kaya dahil  you're uber attractive na ina-assume ni bf na lahat ng lalaki mag crush/magkakagusto sayo? Kailan siya nagstart naging ganyan or may nangyari ba dati na nagtrigger? If wala then wala ka na namang magagawa kung hindi kausapin mo na lang siya, i-assure mo na hindi siya dapat mag-alala sa iyo (bolahin mo if you have to) at ipaalala mo na may anak na kayo para mag-inarte pa siya. Ipaliwanag mo rin na naaapektuhan ang work mo at part ng work mo ang pakikihalubilo sa lalake.

Dapat timing-an mo rin kung kailan siya kakausapin kung kailan siya masaya, hindi siya pagod/stressed tapos simulan mo with something like "Mahal pwede ba kitang makausap.." with a serious tone para maisip niya na ("lagot may nagawa ata akong kasalanan..").

*kasalanan mo sis bakit ka kasi nag-smile dapat kinindatan mo lang tapos kagat labi lol.. welcome dito.

EDIT: Also emotional cheating, baka dahil lang dun sa pagsmile mo naisip na niya na crush mo yung guy?

@piatos, kahit naman magpakita siya ng napakaraming signs kapag wala siyang sinabing gusto ka niya ibig sabihin wala sis, wag mong masyadong isipin baka magkagusto ka sa kanya kakaisip mo hehe. baka type niya lang lipstick mo or curious saan mo nabili make-up mo.   Ex niya ba talaga baka hindi naman or ex pero inaayos na nila relationship nila. Ok lang namang makipagkita sa ex basta maayos ang breakup niyo and both of you are still not in a new relationship. Excuse me pero may nangyayari ba kapag nagkikita kayo ni ex mo?

[prickyslime]

May trust issue kasi yun.. sa mga EXes nya. Yan tuloy ako sumasalo haha pero nakakaya naman at super ok naman kami kung di lang nag-aaway. OA na minsan yung ganon at nakakasakal. Wala akong pwedeng maging friends
;( Also thank you sa pag-welcome mapapadalas ako dito hahaha!

[budgetchic]

I have a few questions po..

- What is the meaning of "medyo. wag mo masamain" when you answered the question "Do you like me"?
- Kapag sinabi ng guy na "wala namang malisya". Do you really mean it? This is about you guys (girl and boy) will stay in one room, overnight. Kasi mas tipid.
- Kelan magiging malisya ang malisya?
- Niyaya mo lumabas si girl, pero marami siyang reasons. You said to her na, "kaya ko naman magtiyaga. Single nga kinaya ko." (7 years na single) Does this mean, he's really interested sa girl?

- May nakwento si girl sa guy about sa classmate nyo nung high school (J). Nagtanong kung nagbabar ka, tamang shot daw. Tinanong ni guy "O anong sabi mo?" Sabi ni girl, hindi siya nag-iinom. Tapos nakwento pa na hinihingi ni J yung cp # nya. Tanong ni guy, "binigay mo ba?" Hindi binigay ni girl, si J ang nagbigay nagbigay instead. LOL. Then may pinakita si girl na screenshot about sa convo. Nagtanong si guy "sino namang magagalit ___?" kasi dun sa screenshot nag ask si J r nung hinihingi number ni girl, kung may magagalit raw ba. Sabi kasi ni girl dun sa convo nya w/ J... "meron siguro lol" Bale sagot nya kay guy, "kaya nga kung meron lol" . Tapos kinonfirm ni guy "hahaha at sino naman?" Sabi ni girl, "wala haha kunware lang"

Why do you think kelangan din nya itanong yun? Is he kinda bit jealous?

[j.adore]

- What is the meaning of "medyo. wag mo masamain" when you answered the question "Do you like her"?

Is the "her" a famous person like celebrity or normal person? Ok lang famous person pero normal person, he is just trying to avoid a fight by saying that.

- Kapag sinabi ng guy na "wala namang malisya". Do you really mean it? This is about you guys (girl and boy) will stay in one room, overnight. Kasi mas tipid.

This is hilarious. Kung sobrang bata pa sila, pwedeng wala ngang malisya Otherwise, alam na...

- Kelan magiging malisya ang malisya?

I don't know how to answer this. It depends on the situation.

- Niyaya mo lumabas si girl, pero marami siyang reasons. You said to her na, "kaya ko naman magtiyaga. Single nga kinaya ko." (7 years na single) Does this mean, he's really interested sa girl?

Yes, because men wouldn't waste time, effort and money if they are not interested.