Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[j.adore]

Sorry pero bat ganun pang sex lang mag date? Wag na lang kung wala?

This guy is bad news. Doesn't sound like a good long term partner.

[kvandenhaak]

Eh bakit kelangan kapag safe ka? Bakit di ba sya marunong gumamit ng condom? Nalalabuan ako sa kanya.

[TomHansen]

@patchuchai, hmmm what if kahit gumaling na UTI mo wag mo parin sabihin sa kanya? Pahabain mo pa para malaman mo kung yun lang talaga habol niya para sayo. Pakiramdaman mo kung manlalamig siya. Sa ngayon naiisip mo yan kasi di niyo magawa pero once gumaling ka na maiisip mo pa ba yan or tuloy ang ligaya? Mas mabuti ngayon pa lang alamin mo na ano habol niya sayo sis..

[patchuchai]

Hi!kakausap lang namin, alam niyang magaling na UTI ko. Usap kami at naayos naman. Una hindi daw iyon ang habol niya kasi kung iyon lang at hindi niya inisip ang health ko baka wala na siyang pakialam kung mabuntis ako. Hindi lang kami nagkaintindihan kanina. Alam niyang complicated and he loves me more kasi im trying to understand him. Ang dami lang niyang problema and sana huwag ko naman daw siyang iwan.

[Girltalker2]

Ang dami lang niyang problema and sana huwag ko naman daw siyang iwan.

Parang teenager ba ang dating?

Idk, pag mga bata pa, this line is acceptable. Pero once we are approaching middle age, parang di ko ma appreciate iyang line na iyan.

Feeling ko ang tatanda na natin, ang dami mo pang problema at mandadamay ka pa.

In your case, you were fine without a partner before.  Tapos ngayon papasok ka sa isang relationship na ganyan. Hindi ka nanga nya kaya pakasalan, may mga issues pa. parang at this point in your life, the last thing you need is pang pagulo ng buhay mo. Kaya ka pumapasok sa relationship to make life more meaningful and happy. Not like this - puro nakaka worry ng future. parang wala kasi akong nakikitang concrete na future sa inyo eh, sorry.

[junetwentythree]

^^ I'm with sis Girltalker2 on this one. Based on your previous posts, your relationship with this guy seems touch and go. And for a guy to be his age and not have his sh*t together? I mean, c'mon. It's alright if he has a the baggage of having a family already but to not have his finances in order as well? What are you gonna be? A caregiver of sorts?

You're still young-ish compared to him. Think about how far you think this relationship can possibly go and if it's worth it.

[young_maiden]

Question ulit mga guys. I know may thread na ito pero kasi luma na iyon at bihira lang may sumagot. Kaya dito ko na lang ipopost. Saka madami guytalkers dito na gusto malaman ang opinion.

Paano niyo masabi na ang isang guy at girl ay dating or just hanging out? IMO, pag KKB, syempre hanging out lang iyan. Bukod pa doon, may other signs pa ba?

Ako kasi when a guy asks me out tapos kaming 2 lang I don't assume na date agad. Iniisip ko hanging out lang lalo na kung after school o work magyayaya ng snack o dinner dyan sa tabi-tabi.

Magkaiba kami ng definition ng guy friend ko. I told him na I went out for dinner with  a guy kahit may girlfriend ang latter. For me, hanging out lang iyon kasi nga may gf siya at saka gusto lang namin mag catch up sa mga nangyayari sa aming life. Sabi naman ng friend ko date daw iyon at bad ko daw kasi pumayag ako eh may gf daw iyong tao.

Sa akin naman masasabi ko lang siguro na date kung ang guy ang nagbayad at alam kong may feelings siya sa akin. Masyado ba limited ang definition ko? Thanks in advance.

[patchuchai]

Thanks for the advice, im thinking about it na. Hindi naman siya manggagamit kaso financially messed up siya ngayon. He came in when i was so alone, since i live alone and parang nakalimutan nako ng sister at kamag anak ko that i exist, i have this medical condition na rin, life was sooo sad, iyon nga until he came. Na i exist for someone.  Haaay..thanks guys.

[ohcmon]

^^ Not a GuyTalker but your definition is pretty accurate, IMO. A male and a female can still go out without malice naman, regardless if taken or hindi. Kung alam mo namang tropa lang talaga kayo ni guy, syempre hindi talaga date.

I only classify it a date if the guy has been showing romantic interest in me prior his asking me out.

'Yung sa KKB part, I always offer to go dutch kasi kahit dates so I'm not sure how to go about that haha

[young_maiden]

^ Di ba sis? Buti nagkasundo tayo. Itong guy friend ko mas malawak definition ng date eh. Basta lumabas ka with a guy na kayong 2 lang date na agad.

I also consider it a date kung iyon nga the guy ( who has feelings for the girl) offers to pay pero nagdecline si girl at KKB na lang daw. Pero pag wala naman offer at talagang KKB ang set up, IMO, hanging out lang iyon.

[ohcmon]

^ Naku sis wag ka sasama lumabas pala diyan sa guy friend mo kung hindi mo naman siya type. Para sayo hanging out lang tapos sa kanya biglang may malisya.

'Yung sa KKB kasi I've heard of stories na dates talaga pero the guy doesn't offer to pay for some reason. No problem naman kung dutch but I'm just wondering kung indirectly may kinalaman ba 'yun whether they like the girl enough or not.

[simang]

Young_maiden, makikisagot ako ha. For me, walang difference masyado ang 'hang out' sa 'date'. Hindi kasi ako masyadong nagdedwell on labels basta in my head, always always avoid going out with someone who has a girlfriend kung kayong 2 lang. It's not because it's a date, but out of respect na lang for the partner. If you were in the gf's shoes would you want your guy to 'hang out' with another girl na silang dalawa lang? Regardless kung sino nagbayad. Unless close kayo ni girlfriend and she knows 100% what you two are up to. Pero kung hindi alam ni girlfriend na lumabas kayo, or she doesn't have any idea who you are sa life ni guy, whether idefend mo yan as hang out lang or date, the girlfriend will still feel bad.

So to be safe, generally ha, i avoid going out alone with a guy who has a girlfriend, esp kung di naman kami friends ni girl.

[j.adore]

I'm one of those people who think basta 2 lang kayo, it's a date. Meron din "date with my mom" di ba

Why do you need to catch up? Are you long-time friends even longer than his relationship with the GF?
Bakit kailangan kayong 2 lang magkasama?

Dating and hanging out depends on the intention but if one person is in a relationship, it is never a good idea out of respect for the other's partner.

[kvandenhaak]

DO NOT go out with people that are already taken unless it's a group date. Walang malisya sa inyo pero sa mata ng iba meron.

[argento]

type nya din si guy friend kaya she hangs out with him.
hirap kaya mapapayag ang babae na kayo lang dalawa lumabas.

[junetwentythree]

Thanks for the advice, im thinking about it na. Hindi naman siya manggagamit kaso financially messed up siya ngayon. He came in when i was so alone, since i live alone and parang nakalimutan nako ng sister at kamag anak ko that i exist, i have this medical condition na rin, life was sooo sad, iyon nga until he came. Na i exist for someone.  Haaay..thanks guys.

Hiya sis, I'm really sorry to hear that you've been feeling alone and I'm glad he makes you feel better. So long as you feel this balances things out and his personal baggage doesn't outweigh your personal interests in the relationship.

I'm sure your family hasn't forgotten about you, especially with your medical condition. I hope they reach out to you soon. Be well.

[young_maiden]

@simang, j. adore and kvandenhaak:

Salamat sa mga opinions nyo mga sis. I agree na never go out with someone who as a girlfriend bilang respeto sa girl. I guess depende na rin kasi kung saan kayo pupunta nung guy.

Kung ako yayayain ako ng guy to stay with him sa house niya o mag inuman ng one on one, no thanks. I would consider it a date na kasi sign na iyon na may feelings siya sa akin. When I say may feelings, di ko naman agad ibig sabihin na in love siya sa akin. Pwede type o like ako o pwedeng gusto lang niya may mangyari sa amin kaya nagyaya siya ng ganun. Kung taken siya, dapat lang talaga na tumanggi na ako for the sake of the gf.

Pero kung kain o tambay lang malapit sa school o sa workplace or somewhere na hindi naman out of way sa aming inuuwian, regardless kung taken siya o hindi, I don't think may mali doon lalo na kung platonic lang unless nga type niya ako o type ko siya o both o nagkaroon ng physical contacts like holding hands/kissing. Pwede kasing stressed o gutom lang kami after school o work kaya nagkayayaan ng kain/hang out.

Pero salamat sa advice. I'll keep that in mind.

[snowhite_12]

How to deal an uber seloso boyfriend? Inlove ako sa kanya Long distance relationship kami.he was jealous when he found out and check my facebook that i added a friend sa isang good looking hunk guy. he even said baka boyfriend ko na yan. At first natawa ako because hindi ako guilty.malinis ang consensya ko. Now my boyfriend is not replying I said sorry and apologize and explain..even if wala naman akong ginawa masama.para lang matapos ang gulo.

[TomHansen]

^ isa rin akong uber selosong bf and i know mas mahirap ang pinagdadaanan niya dahil ldr kayo. Wala akong maipapayo on how to deal with your bf but i can tell you kung ano ang iniisip niya after seeing na may bago kang fb-friend:

1. who the fuc* is this guy, ex niya ba ito, manliligaw, childhood crush.
2. i think this is normal but we compare ourselves sa lalaki(girls also do this right?), kapag feel naming better kami physically(yes mababaw kami) sa tao then hayaan lang namin but if hunk/pogi/macho/mayaman yung guy then diyan kami magsstart mag-isip ng kung ano-ano..
3. sino nag-add si gf ko ba or si guy
- kung si gf ko ibig sabihin crush niya tong guy (like i said kami kababaw mag-isip)
- kung si guy nag-add ibig sabihin "magpaparamdam" na ito sa gf ko, or crush nito gf ko, magda-themoves na yung guy sa gf ko.
4. bakit in-add/inaccept ni gf na maging friends sila sa fb - hindi ba niya naisip ang mararamdaman ko? or naisip niya pero mas pinili niya pa ring magka-connection sila ng guy imbes na alalahanin yung mararamdaman ko..
5. nandito naman ako bakit nag-aadd/accept pa siya ng ibang lalaki sa buhay niya hindi pa ba ako enough sa attention niya?

the uber seloso bf will always think of the worst scenarios first bago makapag-isip ng matino, kapag di kayo compatible at hindi kayo magkaintidihan tungkol sa pagseselos break up na lang..

[jtansanco]

^ Parang tips kay momentum to ah. Haha

^^ I think what you should do is tag him on his wall/your wall and make lambing. FB is the reason why he's mad at you so use FB to show that you love him and you're his gf and his alone. Try to publicly say your feelings to him so he would accept that his mind is playing jokes on him and the reality is that there is no other guy besides him in your life.