Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[mysterioza_me]

^True sis masyadong mabigat yung 3 days na leave just to attend a wedding unless talagang feel mo ituloy na as bakasyon.

[mariamanolo]

Hi lonely_dad, I dont think na maling pagtitipid ang weekday sa kasal.
Pros: discounted rates on most venues (Mon-Thurs); large possibility na available ang venue, and suppliers na mapipili mo; less traffic
Cons: lesser guests will attend (hehe wala na ako maisip pang iba)
Its your wedding naman eh, when ever date you choose your family, relatives and friends will understand it.

[kdramaholic]

^OO nga sis eh.. Super thanks

[shinies]

Naku sis deluxeshopper bridezilla in the making 

Parte ng destination wedding expenses ang airfare at acommodation ng FAMILY at entourage. Di porke may pera ang mga tao eh oobligahin sila na magbayad para sa dream wedding. Kung di kaya gastusan kasal , baka dapat idelay muna hanggang may budget na?

Saka thank you gift din kasi yung ishoulder yang expenses ng family at entourage di lang dahil sa time and effort sa kasal kundi para din sa mga nagawa nila sa tanang buhay mo.

Yung hindi kaclose na kadugo mo, out of respect and love for your father dapat isali pa din sila.

Early preps pa lang pero ang dami nang expectation (at hinihingi) sa mga tao. Please don't be a brat and do it right by your family.

P.S
TIP: piso fares

[plumpolka]

^korek! ngayon nga lang ako nakarinig ng destination wedding na di mo sasagutin yung fare/accom ng family mo! HAHAHA! tapos sasama loob mo pag si sila nagpunta.


kung destination wedding na pwede na isasakyan lang, why not. pero nakakahiya parin irequire na sila ang sumagot ng lahat. yes it's your wedding at ikaw ang masusunod, pero baka mamaya kayo na lang ng fiance mo ang nasa wedding mo at ibang friends mo na kumukunsinti sayo. hehe. no hard feelings sis pero mas masaya ang wedding na walang masama ang loob, no negativity, and lahat happy. mahirap maging masaya sa wedding mo na alam mong ikaw lang ang masaya. you cant please them all pero you can please most of them lalo na yung family mo. compromise. mag-budget, kung wala, wag ipilit. 

[mysterioza_me]

^I think the real issue sis is not the airfare but bec she has a complicated family. At the back of her head she's afraid na maging issue ang complicated family niya sa family and relatives ni fiance that's what she said. Naawa ako sa family niya, parang ikinahihiya niya kaya talagang ayaw niyang makapunta unless sila magshoulder ng expenses nila.

Personally ako I will never expect anything from my parents kung mag-offer sila ok kung hindi no problem. Gift ko na sa parents ko and ni bf ang free airfare, accomodation and may tour pa sila. Siblings ko naman since they are base overseas sabi sa akin pag-ikinasal ako uuwi sila pero wala ng gift kasi mahal airfare pauwi ng pinas, ok lang naman sa akin haha.

[plumpolka]

^ ohh parang nadagdagan yung post nya since nung last ako nagreply kaya parang d ko nabasa na may issue sya. nevertheless, they are still considered as your family. close man o hindi. nasa sa kanila na yun kung gusto nila pumunta but mas maganda if you still invite them dahil after all, family mo parin sila. and mahirap din na magtatanong mga guests bat wala si ano, tapos may chismis pa. in the end, kasal mo nga, ikaw pa masama. although para sakin, ok lang, kasi kung ako ikakasal sa bf ko, di ko invite yung sis in law nya. LOL. but then, d ko naman sya kaano ano, so ok lang kahit di ko siya invite and i think expected naman na nya din yun. hahaha!

[mysterioza_me]

^Nabanggit niya sa unang post niya yun (sept12 ata yun). I think nasa bandang gitna. Sana wag maging ganyan anak ko sa akin kapag ikinasal siya. I hope he won't treat me like an additional expenses lang sa kasal niya. Or ikahiya ako bec I am an unwed mom and in a complicated relationship. Ansaket sa magulang nito 😭😭😭

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

Kaya kami sinagot namin lahat ng pwedeng sagutin, ininvite lahat ng pwedeng imabitahin, (ke may issue kami sa tao na yun or what we forgot about it and moved on) iniwasan namin meron sumama loob, at kami mismo iniwasan namin sumama loob namin over petty things, may di makapunta no hard feelings, may gusto pumunta na wala sa guest list ginawa namin lahat para mainsgit, ginawa naming super comfortable sa family, relatives and entourage sa abot sa makakaya namin as well as sa mga guests yung wedding namin, sila talaga isa sa pinaka priority, ayaw namin kami lang masaya, we made sure na magenjoy lahat at maging memorable ang event. Wala din kami ginambala maski OFW kami, I personally handled everything, aside sa iilang docs. na mga kapatid naman namin ang nagayos for us. Ayaw namin makakita ng nakasimangot sa videos and photos, and we succeeded haha! I can't imagine getting married na may tinge of sama ng loob or issue with anyone, this is a momentous event an a very important milestone, we should celebrate it with overflowing love not only for the couple but for all the people around you. Ayoko mag reminisce and maalala na may nega vibes sa kasal ko, or magupload ng photos and videos, and alam ko may mga tao na may masasabi na masama at masakit or who will wish us ill. After all pera lang yan, kikitain ulit yan. Our wedding day is by far the happiest day of our lives, and everyone  who attended felt it, and shared the happiness and love too.

Piece of unsolicited advise, i let go lahat ng baggage and issues ikaw pinaka magbebenfit dyan.

[Tincywincy]

sis deluxeshopper, i get that you want an intimate wedding and all. pero about the finances, you know well shang mactan comes with a pretty hefty price tag. and since willing kayo to pay that much, logical lang din siguro to shoulder the travel expenses of your immediate family. parents and siblings (kahit half sibs man yan). you may have a personal reason for not wanting hour half sibs to be there, pero out of respect to your parents eh proper lang naman na mafeel nila na buo kayo on that day as family. and yung walang samaan ng loob. remember families of both sides are the VIPs lagi sa kasal. without them hindi ka din naman magging happy on your wedding day diba.

if fiance will shoulder most of the expenses, edi wag mo nalang isama sa computation nyo yung airfare and accom. magset ka nalang ng own budget for that. besides, i don't think it should come as a surprise or an issue to him naman na ikaw nag shoulder ng travel expenses ng family mo. it's your family so it's just proper regardless kung can afford sila or not. about naman sa issue issue na kinakatakot mo na mangyari, sooner or later they will know the setup of your family dahil you will then become one family din.

if i may suggest din, if you are concerned about expenses you guys should start setting budget in everything bago pa kayo mag book. make sure you can handle the gastos. or else, you maybe creating a recipe for disaster.

[ilevsyou]

Hello po! Newbie here. Ask ko lang if hindi po nagpprovide ng contract si supplier. Okay lang ba na kami nalang magprovide ng contract? Nung nag inquire kasi ako, hindi daw nagpprovide ng contract, receipt lang. Eh gusto ko detailed na documented ang mga napag usapan. So inask ko naman si supplier if okay lang na idocument, okay naman sakanya. Any take on this, mga sis? Thank you!

[plumpolka]

^ mas ok may contract para transparent sa kung ano gusto niyo at kung ano ang promise na ipprovide ng supplier mo. di ko alam bakit ayaw nya magprovide ng contract e protection din naman nya yun. if ayaw nya, ikaw na lang sis mag provide ang importante may panghahawakan ka. sobrang dami na manloloko ngayon kaya d mas maganda na nag-iingat

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^^based on my experience, may Supplier naman na di na kailangan ng Contract, lalo na if di naman major, like yung sa Invitations ko, ok na payment receipt and yung parang quotation prior to the acceptance, and kung meron kayo exchange of emails or chat, i clarify mo nalang na gagawin mo na yun as proof in the event na magkaron ng issue whatsoever. But of course sa major Suppliers, hinde pwedeng walang Contract and receipts. 

[mysterioza_me]

Mas mainam may contract para black and white ang usapan. Yung may contract naloloko pa mas lalo na kapag walang contract.

[mariansmith]

My coordinator not taking notes all my concerns. Yung flowers and arrangement na gusto ko hindi nasunod. Badtrip. When taking photos on the day of my wedding, binigay nila yung bouquet and my reaction is, "Eto yung akin, hindi yan yung arrangement na sinabi ko". Imbis na masira ang araw ko, hinayaan ko nalang. Wala na akong choice. 

[miyuchix]

For us it was our gowns. Mother's gowns, hubby's suit, mine and the children. If your going to divi or magpapatahi ka make sure talaga na may idea na kayo sa gowns/suits na gusto niyo. Sa amin kasi, tumingin na lang kami sa divi and we didnt make proper research only to be discouraged sa ginawang gown and suit ng sastre namin. Nauwi tloy kami sa rtw para sa mother's gowns and ng rent na lang si hubby sa knya. Sayang [textspeak!] naging cost ng pagawa ng suit amd gowns nila.

[mysterioza_me]

Pag sa Divi mas ok talaga na RTW na lang bibilhin dun kasi base sa mga nakita ko sa mga friends ko na nagpatahi dun expectations vs reality talaga ang peg ng finish product nila. Yung friend ko na nagpatahi dun ng bridesmaid gown niya ni hindi siya makapagpost ng pic niya dahil panget talaga ng kinalabasan ng gown.