Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[pretty_B]

^^my cousin's second wedding will push through this september. papatapusin lang nila 40days (that's a week before the wedding) ng tita ko (mom nya). same reason sa friend ni sis ohyey, her mom knew and approved about the wedding naman na. hindi nalang talaga nasurvive ni tita si big C. huhuhu. so itutuloy nila ang kasal this year. pati elders namin approved naman na. kasi plano na din naman nila yun noon pa. yun nga lang, nakakalungkot pa din syempre. sana lang walang maging masamang curse or what sa family namin.

[MS_JanDel]

That is so sad sis lots-o. It's the saddest reason for a wedding postponement. I am very sorry to hear that. I hope all of your plans push through next year though. God's timing is always perfect sis, I pray for healing for you and your h2b. God bless..

[lots-o]

Hindi ko rin sure as for my family hindi kami traditional so ok lang, even my tita tell my bakit hindi itutuloy medyo nalungkot sila kaso hindi ko narin pinilit because i feel that hubby is grieving and he is not ready as well. He is very affected. We even had our honeymoon nalang muna kasi nagcivil wedding na kmi so i feel that we need to have space, ang hirap kasi minsan you all have the means to have that wedding and you worked hard for it in end its not yet time. So planning again the wedding medyo mabigat para bang natatakot nako at some point baka may mangyari ulit pero gaya nga ng sabi nila dont stop chasing your dream. Thanks sis MS_JanDel,pretty_B, ohyey.

[peachlipstick]

Hi sis lots-o, sorry for your h2b's loss and the postponement of your wedding. My FMIL also passed away last June and out wedding in October will still push through, isa nga ang wedding namin sa una nilang binanggit sa akin when we went to the wake. I think good thing na both our families don't believe in sukob.

One of my Chinese friends told me that sa kanila daw if a family member dies, you need to get married in 100 days or you need to wait for 3 years.

Prayers for you sis

[febbie07]

may isa akong bridesmaid na paimportante. til now hindi ko makuha measurements for the gown kahit pinadalhan na ng guidelines. hindi rin naman sya willing to go to the shop of the designer. worse, i can't just drop her kasi sya lang ang female na representative sa side ng groom sa mga abay. makes me think kelangan ba talaga may representative sa side nya lalo na kung parang di naman eager. kakainis.

[rowan]

^Give her a deadline. If she still doesnt comply, take her out. Talk to your groom rin if okay lang tanggalin siya dahil hassle siya. If someone asks why theres no one from groom's side in the entourage, let your groom tell the truth or come up with an excuse.

[exquisitegem]

may isa akong bridesmaid na paimportante. til now hindi ko makuha measurements for the gown kahit pinadalhan na ng guidelines. hindi rin naman sya willing to go to the shop of the designer. worse, i can't just drop her kasi sya lang ang female na representative sa side ng groom sa mga abay. makes me think kelangan ba talaga may representative sa side nya lalo na kung parang di naman eager. kakainis.

Actually depende sa agreement nyo ni h2b yan sis. Super close ba nya yung girl? Kasi in our case, ang usapan namin is ako bahala sa female ento, sya sa male. He has a sister and I included her sa female ento kasi close kami. Perhaps you can ask the girl din kung gusto ba nya mag-abay o hindi. Hindi naman talaga rule na may representative each. Kasi adviseable na yung mga ento nyo are the ones who are dear to the both of you.

[prettylove]

^i think sis if mga 2 hrs to 1 day delay ang pagreply sa message mo is acceptable. Make sure to follow up na lang tapos kapag di pa din nagreply, yous should brought this up to them at kapag wala pa din changes, direct your complain to the management already. Remember this is our wedding kaya dapat tayo ang iniintindi at hindi tayo ang umuunawa sa kanila.

[shopaholic]

My grandfather is dying.  He's in pallative care but it will happen sooner rather than later.  My wedding is last week of November.

I was raised by my grandfather and lived with him for a good part of my life.  No one is asking me to postpone my wedding.  But I'm just sad.  For those that went through with their wedding, how did you do it?

[lots-o]

sis shopaholic sad to hear about your grandfather,  i also have my aunt who has kidney failure and im not sure if she will be deteriorating anytime soon specially i considered her as my second mom, pero if i were to be asked if i will move the wedding just in case, i will still push through and commemorate her in any part of my wedding, i'm always praying na sana she will get better pa and hoping miracles will happen. You can also ask him for some blessing and talk to him on your plans or visit him often as you can. Also prayers do help.

[shopaholic]

Thanks sis lots-o, he's in a coma na and we were told to expect him to go in the next 2 weeks.  I can't pray that he'll get better because he's already 103 years old, so maybe his time has really come.

The engagement ring he gave to my grandmother was melted down to form part of our wedding rings, and the diamond is embedded in my fiancee's ring, so they're already a part, not just of our wedding, but of our marriage.

[lots-o]

Thanks sis lots-o, he's in a coma na and we were told to expect him to go in the next 2 weeks.  I can't pray that he'll get better because he's already 103 years old, so maybe his time has really come.

The engagement ring he gave to my grandmother was melted down to form part of our wedding rings, and the diamond is embedded in my fiancee's ring, so they're already a part, not just of our wedding, but of our marriage.

True sis shopaholic, he will always be part of you two, that is so nice of you to put it in details of your wedding. Im sure if ever mangayari yun he will be happy for you, he might not physically be there pero he is at ease na someone will be taking care of you na. 

[pretty_B]

hi! i dont know if it's the right thread to post this but... what do you mean by bridezilla? hahaha. it's not my wedding, it's my cousin's and i think nag bbridezilla na sya. kami pang relatives nya ang inaaway nya. yung isa naming pinsan na abay din magbabackout na nga eh. i want to understand my cousin (the bride) pero kahit sya ang mas matanda parang baluktot mga dahilan nya samin. naiisip ko tuloy na wag nalang din umattend. kaso ang sama naman namin. this sunday na ang kasal.

[lots-o]

Why sis pretty_B? what happened? Maybe you can elaborate more why sya nagiging bridezilla so we can understand more.

[pretty_B]

^ lumabas yung issue gawa ng walang communication between bride and groom and suppliers. nacancel kasi yung emcee and yung pinakarecent nga is yung sa makeup artist. both c/o ng isa ko pang cousin yan (yung pinsan na magbabackout, abay sya) kasi friend nya both yung emcee and mua. nacancel 2x yung emcee na kinausap nya. since friend nya, walang dp. sorry sorry lang. ganun lang. kaya mejo imbyerna na si pinsan na abay. nakakahiya naman din yun. kahit ako nahihiya sa friend nya. now, yung about sa mua, cinancel ulit. tipong ginising pa nya ng tawag si mua1 para ibook kami. tapos the next morning cinancel si mua1 ipapalit si mua2 na relative ni groom. mas cheaper kasi. so, si pinsan na abay, nainis na naman. para di kami mapahiya sa mua1, kinausap ni pinsan na abay si mua1 at sinabi na yung 3 abay sya ang magaayos. punta nalang kami sa parlor nya before the wedding. own money din naman ng mga abay (sa side ni bride) yung sa makeup, damit at flowers kaya sabi namin dun na kami sa alam namin na magaling (si mua1 nga). now, nagagalit si bride. huhuhu. kung gusto daw talaga namin kay mua1, okay lang pero babayadan daw namin share namin sa mua2. waaa. ayun nagtalo talo na. hays. i know, maliit na halaga lang yung hair and makeup for 1 pax. pero my cousins are not working. yung iba student pa or kaka grad lang kaya wala talaga maipangsheshare kung tutuusin sa mga nanay pa kukuha ng pambayad. eh hindi naman kami well-off. KKB na nga daw yung kasal eh. haha.

re naman sa abay sa side ni groom, isa lang sya + 3 flower girls sa side din ni groom... sasagutin ng bride and groom yung gown and makeup nila.

ayun po. basta re money lang ito. tapos nagkasalitaan na ng masasama. sa group chat namin. intense hehe.

[lots-o]

Sorry to hear about it sis pretty_B its supposed to be a family affair but things are not going well between two parties. I guess for you to fix this is you need a mediator to fix this issue.Either an elderly which you know who can decide for the benefit of all at the same time the bride respects this person. I dont think both side are willing to negotiate about it. Wala naman rules kung sagot ba ng abay or sagot ng bride as long as everybody should agree to it. Pero if you dont agree to such you can also tell the bride. Kaso she will feel bad about it too. But maybe when you try to explain to her your side, i mean the reason why you cant pay hmua 2 i think she should understand it too. She should have assumed my penalty yung ginagawa niya booking two hmua.

[pretty_B]

^yes sis. naging family matter na. ang totoo wala ako kinakampihan sakanila. parehong may mali kasi yung pananalita nila sa isat isa, mejo hurtful na. and nababasa naming magpipinsan yun.  hinaing ng iba, kung ipapasagot ni bride yung mga gagamitin namin sana naman daw in a polite way. eh wala eh yung tono ng paniningil nya parang di nya kami kapamilya. gets naman daw ni bride na iba ang interpretasyon ng isat isa pag thru text or chat. kaya tinawagan nya kami kanina. ako, nung nakausap ko sya. hindi talaga mahinahon. hindi ako makasingit sakanya. when i got the time, sinabihan ko din sya kahit na mas bata ako. in a good way ko sinabi syempre. pero lagi sya naghahanap na, "eh bakit pag ganito, ganyan, blah blah blah".  sabi naman nila magaayos sila, hindi lang ngayon. eh sana umabot sa linggo. huhuhu.

i really wanted to understand si bride kasi ako na malapit na din ikasal, natatakot ako na mangyari sakin ito. kaya lang baka sa sobrang stressed  ng mga bride, bridezilla na sila. huhuhu.

[MS_JanDel]

^Sis gusto kong intindihin si bride pero kasi for me any expense na ipapasagot mo sa entourage mo, you have to say it in a nice almost apologetic way, kahit mo pa kamaganak yan or what. Kasi diba parang favor din yung maging entourage mo sila. And besides, when you cancel a supplier recommended by a friend, you have to at least let that friend/relative know in a nice way din. Try to talk nalang sa bride sis, or sabi nga ni sis lots-o, have someone older like her mom or aunts to talk to them. A wedding is a very special family affair, it should be filled with love and happiness. Sana maresolve niyo sis

[pretty_B]

^yes sis. we all thought na after a long time kumpleto na sana ulit kaming magpipinsan sa entourage tapos ganun pa. hays. yes, sana nga magbago pa din isip ni cousin na abay. sinabihan na daw sya na pumunta pa din for the sake ng tita namin who recently passed away. eh sana di na magpataasan ng ihi. hay nako. pero kagabi, si bride may mga laman pa din ang mga sinasabi. di nalang namin pinapansin. sana tumigil na sya. nakakadisappoint lang. hays.

[MS_JanDel]

^Haaist. Sana kumalma na din si bride sis para naman hindi na madagdagan ang samaan ng loob. Talk to your pinsan na abay na din sis na pumunta pa din siya. Baka naman on the day mismo magkapatawaran na sila.