Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[maedonnas]

^aww yan yung iniiwasan ko kasi ayaw ko ng awkward moments come wedding day. Gusto ko lahat ng kasama ko good vibes lang. Mas mahirap nga sa'yo sis kasi gawa na lahat.

[pinkonearth]

Sis peachlipstick, maybe you can ask h2b to speak firmly with this girl so he can draw the line, especially now that you two are getting married. He needs to address that it's not appropriate for this lady to speak to him in such manner. Especially, that this makes you uncomfortable. Your h2b needs to know how this is making you feel. It doesn't just apply to this wedding but as you said, kay h2b tumatakbo this lady for help. If this isn't addressed at this stage, you have to live up with this even when you're married.

At least if ma-address na ni h2b, and the girl still doesn't stop, that's the time you can probably think about any action.

If it were me and super uncomfortable and this lady doesn't stop, I could care less about the gowns and invitation. You need peace of mind and happy vibes.

[hermione28]

peachlipstick - pwede mainis? Habang binabasa ko yung post mo umiinit yung dugo ko eh. Grrr. 
Naku kung ako di ako papayag na nasa entourage yan!! Kaso nga lang Printed na yung invitation. Hayyyy.

Ganito nalang sis, pupunta ba sya sa hotel? Can you ask your husband na kung pwede wag na sya sa hotel? sa church nalang sya? hahaha. ang sama ko. Isip ka ng nice way to say na sa church na sya dumiretso.

Kasi kapag nasa church na yung entourage mo, hindi mo na sya mafi-feel eh. You're so busy na to feel anything, from your entrance, ceremony, pictorial. Di mo na sya madadama. hehe. 

[exquisitegem]

omg nakakainis nga ang ganyan sis! Excuse me, konting respeto naman diba?
Anyway, tama yung sabi nila dito, talk to your h2b na lang. Big day nyo yun so dapat, walang nega vibes! ☺️
Anyway, yung set-up naman namin ni h2b, sakin lahat ng decision kung sino ang female entourage, sa kanya lahat ng male. hehe

[meixin]

Dahil sa mga stories na ganyan kaya nagiging masama ang dating ng magbestfriend na babae at lalaki e... Ako rin kasi bestfriend ko lalaki pero di kami ganyan kumilos sa isa't isa. parang turing kapatid lang, ni hindi pumasok sa isip namin na parang magflirt flirt. Kaya walang issue yung fiance ko sa best friend ko e..

[Nikky27]

nakaka aliw ang usapan dito ah, makatambay muna.hahahahahah! buti nalang walang ganito sa wedding ko

[MS_JanDel]

OMG sis peachlipstick nakaka bridezilla naman ang kwento mo. You are nice to agree to have her on the entourage. Sis you to seriously talk to h2b and tell him your sentiments, that your not comfortable dun sa bestfriend niya. And watch her sis, closely. Grabe nakakinis yung ganyang girls, sarap batukan.
 

[Cheroppy]

Nastress naman ako bigla sa situation mo sis peachlipstick, ang bait mo naman.
Kung ako yan, hindi lang hindi kasama sa entourage... baka di ko pa yan pinasama kay h2b sa wedding namin.
Better tell your h2b your sentiments, if ayaw niya sabihan si girl, confront mo na lang mismo yung girl. Baka nakalimutan niyang ikakasal na h2b mo.
Mas okay nang maging oa kesa naman magsisi ka sa huli.
Ako mga lalake din friends ko, super close kami, pero hindi ako ganyan. 

[peachlipstick]

Thanks for the advices mga sis. H2b and I actually talked about this and sinabi niya naman sa akin na kahit nasukatan na and printed na ang invitations, willing siya to take her out of the entourage kasi priority niya ang feelings ko and ayaw niya naman na kasal namin tapos may negative feelings ako dahil sa kaibigan niya. h2b actually stopped chatting naman na with her as of the moment but I am still confused if papatanggal ko na lang siya sa abay. Kaya lang ayoko din naman to come out as rude dahil baka kung ano ang sabihin ng friend niya.

Sabi ko nga din kay h2b I have very close guy friends and even a guy bestfriend pero hindi ako ganyan umarte sa kanila - I've never asked them for gifts or anything. Samantalang etong friend niya kung makahingi ng regalo akala mo boyfriend niya si h2b.

[LilaFowler]

^ I think what is important is that di pinapansin ng H2B mo yun girl. Nakakabwiset pero hindi mo naman macocontrol yung ginagawa ng iba. And pag pinatulan mo, ikaw ang kontrabida kasi ikaw ang lalabas na malisyosa or selosa.

Kung di sya pinapansin maybe tumigil na din sya.

[hermione28]

but I am still confused if papatanggal ko na lang siya sa abay. Kaya lang ayoko din naman to come out as rude dahil baka kung ano ang sabihin ng friend niya.

Ang bait mo naman.    My advice? Its your wedding not hers.

You should be the happiest person, the most beautiful person on your day.

Wala dapat nega feelings. Just my two cents. 

[exquisitegem]

i agree! Ang hirap naman if sa mismong wedding mo, you feel uncomfortable. Pero nasa sa iyo din yan sis. Kapag naman maayos yung gusot at medyo maging close na kayo by then, it will be better. Para kahit di mo na sya tanggalin sa entou list.

[ohyey]

Sisses what's your take on guests na nagcoconfirm but with yaya and driver etc? We have principal sponsors kasi na we know would come with their own "entourage" and we just don't have the guts to say no. Ok lang ba to provide them with crew meals? I feel a little uneasy giving them crew meal kasi syempre they should be treated as normal guests but pag sinama namin lahat sa headcount parang medyo mapapa aray kami    What's the best solution ba sa ganitong situation?

[LilaFowler]

Are you going to have them sit with the other guests? If so, awkward naman if they have to eat a different meal from the person next to them.

Just tell him/her the seating capacity is limited and you cannot accommodate their yaya and driver. If there is a separate area for drivers/yaya just say you have made arrangements for them to stay in the staff area and will have food and drinks served to them.

Medyo snobbish pero seriously, unless they have a disability/illness why do they need a yaya? Saka most drivers I know will just go home or sleep in the car and wait. It's not your responsibility to feed other people's staff.

Also be firm with this kasi if other guests hear that you've accommodated so and so they will expect the same. Next thing you know you have an extra 20 people on the guest list.

[ohyey]

Hi LilaFowler, appreciate your insights.

Well, that's what I was thinking nga. If I'll put them in a table with normal guests, of course I'd give them the normal meal. Ayoko din naman kasi sana mag discriminate but I wanted to keep our headcount din.

I like your idea about the staff area but what's the best way to tell them kaya? Shall we tell them beforehand or brief our OTD about this na lang so they can handle it?

If it's any consolation, iniisip ko na lang at least we were informed early kesa mabulaga kami on the day   

[exquisitegem]

hi sis! We have Principal Sponsor din na celebrity. I won't mention na lang who she is. We are expecting din na madami syang kasama (glam team, driver and PA) so we're planning to just indicate in the invitation that we will be reserving two (2) seats for her. And 2 mos. prior to the wedding, we will ask sino yung isasama nya na isa para mailagay sa final names of guests for the table assignments.

[MS_JanDel]

sis ohyey we also have PS na may ganun, malamang may kasama siyang bodyguards. What we plan to do is, sa bandang dulo ng venue, we will provide one table for them and then they will be served a different set of food. 

[ohyey]

Thanks MS_JanDel and exquisitegem for your suggestions. Ganon na nga lang siguro. I'll ask who is their plus one and yun ang ilalagay ko sa normal tables.
Then we'll set up a staff table for the rest na din.

Thanks again!

[lots-o]

our wedding was supposed to be this year April but we postponed it because my mother in law died due to heart attack. Wala na kami magawa kasi hindi talaga namin pwede ituloy and because we are grieving so much, She was so excited to try her gown tapos na kasi and we are supposed to come back on chinese new year for fitting and finalization of details pero she died on Janaury two weeks before kami umuwi it was all sudden. By the way second postponement na pala namin siya and because we are based overseas napostponed yung una due to family matters and my mom cannot come.

[ohyey]

^oh sorry to hear about that sis lots-o  I have a friend her MIL died 2 weeks before the wedding but binilin nya if anything happens, they should go on with the wedding. Ako naman, twice ako napush kasi isang year I lost my brother then the following year H2B's brother had to get married. Inisip ko na lang hindi pa din siguro our time talaga. Trust in God's timing na lang sis. Goodluck and God bless