Church rule: No custom vows

[Awesomecakes]

Hello mga sis. Can you list down the list of churches na hindi naga-allow ng personal vows? Also, what do you do as a workaround if ever hindi talaga allowed sa church during the ceremony. Thank you!

[Maxim04]

^ minsan kasi depende din sa priest DAW. Hehe. Alternatively sis, you can deliver your vows during the reception. 

[Awesomecakes]

Sad lang kami ni h2b yun gusto naming church ay hindi nagaallow ng personal vows. Hay Btw these are San Agustin and Manila Cathedral Church.

Thanks sis! ^

[simang]

Good thing our church allows personalized vows. Sabi nga din nung videographer namin it depends daw sa priest minsan. Hmm, not sure about sa Manila churches, but I believe in UST chapel they don't allow that too

[reese17]

Also, what do you do as a workaround if ever hindi talaga allowed sa church during the ceremony. Thank you!

Patty Laurel had this great idea of having her and her husband read letters to one another out loud behind a door during her preps. I think you could modify the idea a bit and do the same with your groom if it's really a no-no for the church.

[yannuh]

korek minsan depende din sa priest. Sa Paco Chapel din ganyan, i've heard weddings na di inallow ang personal vows dun pero H2B called last week ata and OK na daw ulit ang personal vows.

[belle_v2g]

I'm glad we don't have this restriction in our church/religion. It's my favorite part of the ceremony kasi.

[marchbridetobe]

Sad lang kami ni h2b yun gusto naming church ay hindi nagaallow ng personal vows. Hay Btw these are San Agustin and Manila Cathedral Church.

Thanks sis! ^

sis, alam ko pwede naman sa San Agustin kaso baka dahil sa time constraints kaya di na din nakakapag personal vows yung iba. Sa Manila Cathedral, di nga daw pero parang may napanuod akong isang SDE na meron, though parang isolated lang yun. Sa tingin ko pag nagdala ka ng sarili mong priest and inaallow naman ng priest ang personal vows eh okay na? O may churches talagang strict kahit sarili mong priest ang dadalhin?

[engr_neechee]

Sa San Sebastian, they don't allow it.  Bukod sa time constraints considering oras-oras ang kasal doon, sabi ng pre-cana seminar, it's meant to be that way - yung mismong words ng vow ang sasabihin mo sa asawa mo.  Sa akin okay lang naman.  At least yun ang pinangako namin sa isa't isa.

[marchbridetobe]

I'm glad we don't have this restriction in our church/religion. It's my favorite part of the ceremony kasi.

oo nga sis, yan din kinaiingitan ko sa mga christian weddings eh!

[belle_v2g]

True sis marchbridetobe, vows make the wedding a bit more personal. Maybe if you get yourown priest sis papayag naman.

[rightback]

our church San Sebastian won't allow nga. But ok lang with me since baka sobrang joke lang kaming 2. Might just put it in a letter and let him read it aloud during preps. Hopefully H2B can read my hand writing.

[120515]

if your church/priest won't allow it then you can just say it to each other before or after the ceremony. i've seen videos by my videographer where the couples said their vows to each other after the ceremony during their post-nup shoot and it was included in their sde so their guests can see them 

[maukris]

Im quite sure that malate church wont allow personal vows kasi nung kinasal yung friend ko, di daw pwede. That was 3yrs ago, di lang ako sure now.
Ours will be in don bosco, and according naman sa naka usap namin sa church office, pwede.

[berryprincessy]

I can relate mga sis. Our church din Shrine of Jesus wont allow personal vows. Looking forward pa naman ako na masabi ko yung vows ko kay H2B. iba pa din kasi pag sa mismong church ceremony niyo naexchange yung vows niyo. Mas okay sana pag personal vows ng couple kasi alam mo nanggaling sa puso ng mapapangasawa mo yung sinabi niya.. hehe! hindi yung binabasa lang yung dapat sabihin. sana all churches will allow personalized vows for weddings.

[bzbee]

ive attended a church wedding where the priest didn't allow personal vows as well. eh mapilit si bride, so nagsulat siya ng "personal message" then she made the MOH read it over the mic before her bridal march. medyo awkward kasi everyone was facing the church entrance, anticipating the bride to come in, then suddenly may tumatawag ng attention dun sa altar. funny din kasi the message was partially comedy pero nasira lang yung bridal moment. kahit yung MOH hesitant sa pagbabasa kasi against din siya sa idea. tuloy everyone was smirking/laughing during the bridal march, im not sure if that was her intention pero hindi maganda kinalabasan for me.

[anneshirley]

I have friends who just read their vows to each other in private shortly before the reception. It was just the two of them but they were shot by the videographer and the vows were included in the SDE. It was a nice surprise for the guests, not a dry eye in the venue

[caleeice]

Just sharing what a priest told us before the wedding. He told us that it is important that the vows should be the one prescribed by the Church because the essence of marriage is contained therein. Hence, what they allow are "personal messages" that couples have for each other, where other promises and/or declarations can be made in addition to the Church vows. So in our misalette, I indicated: "Personal message to the bride" and "Personal message to the groom".

[berryprincessy]

^ super nice sis caleeice you enlighten me.  anyway, pano mo ginawa yung sa misalette na may "Personal message to the bride" and "Personal message to the groom"?? nilagay niyo yung message niyo dun for each other para nababasa na ng guest during ceremony or binasa niyo pa ding dalawa ng husband mo?

[caleeice]

Yes, I placed:

(Personal message to the groom)
(Personal message to the bride)

Didn't print our actual messages. Surprise yun sis. Hehe  We just read our messages during the ceremony.