Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 7)

[stylus]

^may point naman sis di ba? nako.. kung kami ni h2b yan... honestly, walang invited na bf or gf ng mga kapatid or pinsan namin sa wedding namin. what more sa entourage eh piling pili nga dapat yan.

[mimai1122]

Iba naman yung kwento ko. This didn't happen to me but to my anak-anakan. Former student ko na parang anak ko na. Her wedding was last year pa, May 2014. But, 'di ko talaga makalimutan what happened to her at sa husband niya.

Nag.down sila sa gown and suit na mananahi nila ng mga March. So, pagdating ng First week of May, nag.follow up na sila. Ok yung gown, but wala pang train. Yung suit, wala pa talaga. Nag.promise yung designer/mananahi na matatapos before the wedding (May 21).

Kaya lang, May 20 na at naka-check in na kami sa hotel, wala pa rin yung train atsaka suit. The whole afternoon hanggang early evening, naghintay lang ang couple sa designer para makausap at makuha na yung mga dapat makuha. But, wala talaga. Parang nagtago. Iyak ng iyak yung couple kasi di na nila alam anong gagawin. In the end, ang nangyari, nag-rent nalang sila.

Feeling namin nagamit nung designer yung perang binayad sa kanya. Saka lang kasi din namin nalaman na wala pala siyang sariling mananahi; nagbabayad lang siya ng magtatahi para sa kanya!

This happened in Cagayan de Oro pala. Sana di mangyari 'to sa ibang brides...

[Purple_Power]

^ Scam ang tawag dyan that is a total disaster. Pwede pa nga yan demanda dahil tinakbo ang pera although parang malabo kasi yung case na wala namang witness or madali lang paikutin ang kwento.

[bzbee]

wedding nightmares are getting worse as we get closer to the wedding day. lahat ng naiisip ko that can go wrong happens in my nightmares. like gowns look awful, nauubusan ng food, hindi prepared ang program, kulang kulang ang photos, etc. in these nightmares, im always sad about the outcome of the wedding. i wonder why can't i have good dreams about it.

[missmac]

Curious lang ako bakit ayaw niya ng Civil? Pero at least sa Church wedding niyo your h2b naman is helping you na gawin talagang intimate.

Traditional kasi sila na tao, then isang factor kasi solo child ako, kaya gusto nila ma experience [textspeak!] traditional wedding. Ang gusto nga ni H2B PS, MOH at BM lang maglalakad. lols. grabeng timing at pagkukumbinsi ang ginawa ko sa kanya para lang maging ok [textspeak!] gusto ng parents ko pati sya. Gusto kasi nila kahit bearer at 1 FG nalang daw. Ramdam ko si Zanjoe sa Wedding Tayo Wedding Hindi haha. How to bring them on the same page.

[missmac]

Iba naman yung kwento ko. This didn't happen to me but to my anak-anakan. Former student ko na parang anak ko na. Her wedding was last year pa, May 2014. But, 'di ko talaga makalimutan what happened to her at sa husband niya.

Aww that's scary, Kaya ako i do research talaga. Malaking help yung GT sa akin to find my suppliers. Iba kasi kapag may nababasa kang good reviews or personally kakilala mo yung supplier.

[missmac]

wedding nightmares are getting worse as we get closer to the wedding day.

Aw, sis baka you think too much. relax ka lang and manalig lang na everything will be fine.

[Purple_Power]

wedding nightmares are getting worse as we get closer to the wedding day. lahat ng naiisip ko that can go wrong happens in my nightmares. like gowns look awful, nauubusan ng food, hindi prepared ang program, kulang kulang ang photos, etc. in these nightmares, im always sad about the outcome of the wedding. i wonder why can't i have good dreams about it.

Always think positive, kasi kapag you worried much baka hindi ka maging happy sa event itself or may mga bagay na hindi mo na magagawa ng tama because of being that negative. For your peace of mind of course monitor those things lalo na yung wedding gown. Food naman is you can rely sa headcount ng mga confirm, kayo mismo ang magcontact if they will go or not. From that yung mga maybe isama mo sa headcount and usually naman kapag catering may buffer pa rin yan. Hindi ka magkukulang sa food. Sino ba nai assign mo for the program? Do you have coordinator? I suggest you must have it para the host will take it seriously. Photos just give them instructions at kulitin mo kung kailan mo makukuha kay edited o hindi.

Traditional kasi sila na tao, then isang factor kasi solo child ako, kaya gusto nila ma experience [textspeak!] traditional wedding. Ang gusto nga ni H2B PS, MOH at BM lang maglalakad. lols. grabeng timing at pagkukumbinsi ang ginawa ko sa kanya para lang maging ok [textspeak!] gusto ng parents ko pati sya. Gusto kasi nila kahit bearer at 1 FG nalang daw. Ramdam ko si Zanjoe sa Wedding Tayo Wedding Hindi haha. How to bring them on the same page.

Buti na lang I have a brother na nauna nang ikasal  Ewan ko lang kung ano ang pressure kung only child rin ako. Though ako lang naman yung daughter since 2 lang kaming siblings. My mom naman understands what I want sa Church wedding alam niyang ayaw ko rin yung may marching pa kapag nataon. Nasabi ko na rin noon yung Church na tumatanggap ng simple wedding. Buti na lang wala sa mentality niya kahit papaano na kesyo only daughter eh dapat hatid ako sa altar lalo na sa Tatay ko. Hindi kami ganun ka good terms ng Tatay ko kaya umabot rin sa point na wala rin siyang pakialam sa kasal ko kay mapa Civil or Church. Mom ko lang may gusto na Church kami.

[mikky21]

^h2b is not in good terms din with the gf of kuya. I might just be firm about not including her sa entourage. Ill figure out some acceptable alibis na lang para lang my kuya wont feel bad about it. Nag-away na kasi kami dati ni kuya because of that girl. Ayoko na ulit mangyari yun. My main purpose of having a destination wedding is para maging intimate and i think when everything else goes wrong ill go back to the very reason why we are choosing this kind of wedding. Thank you for your opinions. i just needed to vent this out. Hahaha.

Anyway any wawies here? Bakit ang hirap iaccess nung group? Kakaapprove lang ng membership ko this morning pero hindi ko maacees yung group. Help please.

[Purple_Power]

^Yun naman pala may matibay naman pala kayong dahilan kung bakit hindi dapat isama sa entou ang gf. Although siempre hindi pwedeng yan yung maging literally reason. Pag-isipan niyo dapat ni h2b yung final decision about entou. Actually para sa akin ha? Ang dali lang mag-alibi sa case mo kasi yung h2b mo pwedeng panindigan na paano naman yung part niya na may gusto rin siyang isama? Ako pa man din natuto na rin akong maging Alibis Queen  and actually kami ni hubby mahaba ang usapan pagdating sa ganyan ultimong yung mga possibilities na sasabihin o itatanong pinag-aaralan pa namin.

[mikky21]

^what im considering sis e one of these 2 options

(1) ill include her sa entourage so id be able to get all my sibs with their partners. Kasi what i really want is to get my sibs and their partners. Super halatang left out kasi si gf if i wont include her sa part ng entourage. Pero pano naman ang feelings ko.

(2)hindi ko kukunin lahat ng sibs ko and their partners.3 sibs with each partner so 6. Will just get siguro 3 or 4 na lang. Parang in that way hindi halatang ayoko kunin si gf.


I guess ill just go with number 2. Sayang lang kasi i want all of my sibs with their partner na may part sana sa wedding ko na nakagown and tux except that girl. Oh well.

[Hevn]

wedding nightmares are getting worse as we get closer to the wedding day. lahat ng naiisip ko that can go wrong happens in my nightmares. like gowns look awful, nauubusan ng food, hindi prepared ang program, kulang kulang ang photos, etc. in these nightmares, im always sad about the outcome of the wedding. i wonder why can't i have good dreams about it.

Ganyan din ako. I had to take some time off, almost 2 months, kasi I was getting stressed sa nightmares and not sa actual planning lol

Thinking about it, ang dami palang nagkaka nightmares talaga. Hinay hinay ako sa planning and nag let go ako sa mga bagay na winoworry ko na wala naman ako magagawa kung hindi mag intay haha

[Purple_Power]

^what im considering sis e one of these 2 options

(1) ill include her sa entourage so id be able to get all my sibs with their partners. Kasi what i really want is to get my sibs and their partners. Super halatang left out kasi si gf if i wont include her sa part ng entourage. Pero pano naman ang feelings ko.

(2)hindi ko kukunin lahat ng sibs ko and their partners.3 sibs with each partner so 6. Will just get siguro 3 or 4 na lang. Parang in that way hindi halatang ayoko kunin si gf.


I guess ill just go with number 2. Sayang lang kasi i want all of my sibs with their partner na may part sana sa wedding ko na nakagown and tux except that girl. Oh well.

Tama mag number 2 ka na lang and this is the most safe. Number 1 kasi you can do that if you are up to the point of being the bridezilla highest level 

Ako nga sa lagay ko wala pa ako sa point na naging sobrang garapal ako, lahat dinaan ko sa alibis kahit na naging obvious na sa Nanay ko na hindi naman nangyari yun. Like nung ask ng ask about baptism napalusutan namin na we were waiting friends from abroad, hindi naman nangyari. Nung pinipilit invite yung relatives na ayaw ko panay sabi ko na kinoconfirm pa yung invites sa side ni hubby. Halata na rin na naging garapal ako kasi yung mga tao within the community invited, sila lang hindi. Nalampasan ko na rin so I really need practice pa more.  Siempre kung feelings ko yung concern ko yun at yun lang ang ipaglalaban ko.

[mikky21]

^ive seen those coming sis kaya when h2b and i decided to get married na, ive come up with having a destination wedding agad. Ayoko mastress. And para marami ako mapalusot (hindi lahat mashoulder ko ang accomodation, pano ang transpo, maliit ang venue, tight ang budget dahil sa OOT fee) haha. to achieve that intimate wedding id want to have. Actually my parents and h2b's are undestanding naman (i hope til wedding day) they know and we dont have to tell them that it's OUR wedding and not theirs haha

[Megantaur]

Sa sobrang sama ng loob ko nilagnat ako  . Tama, sinabihan ko na mom ko na wag na ishare, nag-agree sya. Hinde daw sya makapaniwala na ganun daw ang mga kapatid nya. Ewan, basta I am zipping my mouth about my wedding sa family and friends. Although making a blog out of it is a good mood board,Hinde ko rin to plano ipost sa fb para makita ng iba hehe. Nilabas ko sama ng loob ko sa h2b ko at he somehow cheered me up when he said "Just ignore them. I am spending money for our memories, not theirs." 

[Purple_Power]

^Kudos for you, although get well soon. I know nabigla ka sa negative reaction ng Aunts mo. Sino ba naman hindi sasama ang loob na hindi mo akalain magiging ganyan ang reaction nila imbis na matuwa?
Basta we should learn na we can't really please everybody and because of that nagrereflect rin kung anong klaseng tao sila.
Ako I have nega relatives as well kaya ang expectation ko naman hindi sila matutuwa kundi puro kompetensya. Nung nag organize ako ng celebration oh well hindi ko akalain na mabobonggahan sila sa budgeted event kasi photogenic ang venue kaya mukhang class. 

[ece]

Nilabas ko sama ng loob ko sa h2b ko at he somehow cheered me up when he said "Just ignore them. I am spending money for our memories, not theirs." 

sweet naman ni h2b mo sis. nakakatuwa talaga na kahit anong negative na sabihin ng mga relatives naten, or ng ibang tao, ang sarap sa pakiramdam na anjan si h2b naten to comfort us. simpleng words, gestures, pero yung feeling na may kakampi ka. iba eh' hehe..

hugs sisters! buti nalang may GT, nakakarelate tayo sa isat isa. hahaha! 

[rowan]

hi mikky21,

ako rin ayaw ko actually ng pinapakialaman ako sa plans ko, much more if im already emotionally invested on it. alam mo na ba yung reason kung bakit ayaw nila sa baguio? baka naman valid like ayaw nila ng long drive?

[Purple_Power]

Eh diba napagplanuhan niyo naman ni h2b before pa about the Baguio? So paano yung side ni h2b rin? Dapat rin consider yan ng parents mo. Hindi basta basta ang pag change ng plans kung tutuusin nga kapag nagdown ka na you can't even refund it.

The problem with other parents they don't even consider the other side. Maraming madadamay kapag padalos dalos ang decision.

[corpse_bride]

Hugs sis mikky21. I know that feeling. When you've thought of your dream wedding tapos di pala pwede. Like what sis rowan said, bakit kaya ayaw nila sa Baguio? My mom kasi whenever I said before that I wanted to get married sa Boracay (kahit nuong very single ako at akala ng mga tao magiging matandang dalaga) sinasabi niya mahihirapan daw siya mag ayos, magpa ayos etc. But I know in my heart na dahil gusto ko, papayag siya. if parents mo lang yung may ayaw & ok lang with sa side ni groom, they'll eventually understand & give in.