Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 7)

[tiffany24]

Sis lueeeesa, naisip ko lang mahirap magphotoshoot pag umaga yung prep although pwede na after na wedding siguro yung photoshoot and big factor yung ang aga mo gigising talaga and yes tendency to be late. Our sissies are right, follow your heart. No one has the right to dictate you lalo at yung desisyon niyo naman won't really hurt anyone. Uso kasi sa ibang mga matatanda ang tantrums attack pag hindi sila nasunod gosh haha

sis twinxz yeah learn the art of deadma, maybe you can also let them know na you want to keep your wedding private although you don't really owe them an explanation. Anyway wala din akong invited sa current office ko, just friends from my previous company 

sis dr.thereal.joy follow your heart din, kung sino talaga gusto mo 

[lueeeesa]

^ hi sis thanks sa advice.. yes deadmahin ko na lang kung ano man sasabihin nila... besides its just a pamahiin and ang dami dami namang nakapagpatunay na hindi naman totoo yung sinasabi nilang pamahiin diba. kaya sabi na lang namin ni h2b huwag na lang daw akong magsasabi ng kung anong oras basta ipaschedule ko na at wag ng magpaabiso dahil gugulo lang ang lahat. naaawa na nga sa akin at lagi na lang akong nagcocompromise sa gusto nila paano naman ang gusto ko pati suot ng mga lalaking abay gusto pa ipagbarong eh wala sa choices ko yan dahil una sa lahat gagastos pa mga abay ko, my choice kasi is just to wear long sleeves with slacks and ako na bahala sa suspenders and bowtie. mas mura naman ang bowtie at suspenders sa divi kaysa sa barong diba hay nako they're not helping feeling niya kasi yung pinledge ng anak niya na 50k eh macocover na lahat ng expense kaya kung makarequest ng changes eh basta basta na lang siya.

[stylus]

sis tubby! so true! let us go for escort cards! naisip ko din yan. para din sa mga hindi nagconfirm tapos biglang dadating sa wedding day. para maramdaman nila na seryoso tayo sa event natin kung sila hindi nila sineryoso ang rsvp. hindi sila nagconfirm kaya wag mag expect ng seat kahit nakatanggap ng invitation!

[kisses1417]

Wahhhhhhh i just got our invitations and its pretty!!! Love the foil stamping but to my horror, 2 of my entourage has the wrong surname!!! Namali ako! Instead of revising just the initials, namali ako sa surnames. Naging midlle name ang nailgay ko. Pwede naman ako magpareprint ng konti kaso it will take time pa, wedding is next month na! Halaaaa!!! Papatungan na lang daw ni fiance. Naiinis ako sa sarili ko! Huhuhu nasstress ako tuloy thinking na madami pang magiging mali. We overlooked it, to think na nasa mock printing mali na pala, di namin napansin. Huhuhuhuhuhuhuhuhu ganito ba talaga?!!!!

[bzbee]

^ omg super hassle nito kisses! just got our invites also and im still on a high kasi super kilig with the outcome. napatingin tuloy ako agad to check for any typo. maybe you can reprint just a few invites? kahit para lang dun sa 2 entourage mo and the people who know them also. problem lang if everyone knows them. pero i think they would understand naman because these things do happen. some of them might not even notice anyway hope everything works out!

[kisses1417]

Thanks bzbee. Yeah ganun nga ang gagawin namin, buti na lang mga bata lang yung namali na names kasi kung mga principal sponsors at kung sa may foil stamp page baka himatayin ako.
The invitation supplier will get back to us on Monday na lang daw if they can still accomocate, im just ordering 20 nung page lang na yun. Actually the parents nung dalawang bata doesnt mind naman, kasi apekido naman ng mom yung nailgay ko, its just that dapat sympre apelido nung husband or yung surname nila talaga. I can give out invites tom with the other relatives na kaso alam mo yun di ako masyado masaya kasi nastress ako dun sa isang problem na yun huhuhuhu
Relative pa ng hubby ko. Kung relative ko yun ok lang, kaso sa side pa nyaaaa. At hindi nya nadouble check din hallaaaaaaaaaa huhuhuhuhuhuhu

[Purple_Power]

I also hate the idea na papakialaman ng parents or future in laws na porket ito ang supplier ng kasal ng siblings mo eh dapat lahat ganun rin sayo. They thought na ang laki agad ng naitulong nila pero in fact they won't ever think na at times nakakainsulto pa rin yun sa pride ng taong inooferan nila. One more thing dyan magsisimula yung comparison. Kung nakipagsabayan rin ako for Church wedding yung the usual set up malamang my mom will do the same thing and ang basis yung sa wedding ng bro ko. Ako pa man din super lakas ng pride ko sa ganyang bagay.

[dr.thereal.joy]

@purple_power same tayo ng situation, kakasal lang ng kapatid ko (more than a year a part from our wedding) and kapatid niya (6months apart) Yung una tinanggap na namin na same supplier kami ng kapatid niya pero upon the wedding itself there are suppliers that we don't like. Not because they're not presentable pero hindi "kami" yung ganun. I think they wanted elegant talaga pero kami kasi simple lang. Thankful naman kami from what the parents want pero kinausap ko yung h2b ko na don't let them steal the "excitement" na magprepare tayo sa kasal natin, yung first decisions in life talaga natin as a couple. Luckily naman naglie-low naman sila. Though pagmagsasabi kami na ganitong supplier andun pa rin yung compare sa supplier nila.

[Purple_Power]

^In my case kasi maraming aberya kung bakit hindi kami nakapag Church wedding. Though aaminin ko na more on practical ang naging focus namin. Preggy kasi ako nun na naghahabol pa for the benefits agad, kailangan kong maging dependent kay hubby. Kung mag Church wedding kasi kami aabutin pa ng 6 mos. dahil sa requirement ang masaklap pa nun hindi pa mahanap yung baptismal certificate ni hubby. Iniinsist ng mother ko yung Church wedding gusto pa nga re-baptize si hubby. Ang demand pa nga yung binyag ng baby namin isabay na Church wedding namin. Buti na lang nahinto rin at hindi na rin na-oopen yung topic about Church wedding. Advantage lang rin na 2004 pa kinasal bro ko, kami naman 2014 sa Civil wedding. Alam na rin ng Nanay ko kung anong set up ang gusto namin kapag mag Church wedding. Kung maisipan pa namin ang Church wedding we are too old para pakialaman pa sa plans namin. Saka siguro naman hindi na dapat compare yung wedding ko sa wedding ng bro ko. Yung sa bro ko madalian ang preparation nun, hay nako ha! my mom participated much. Sa bro ko na lang yung maging ganun siya kaya ayos lang to me labas na ako run pero kung sa akin gagawin yun to be honest NO WAY ANO!  I have my pride to arrange what I want. Ni design nga ng gowns nun sa wedding ng bro ko my mom decide it too. Ni food tasting nga Nanay ko kasama pa rin eh!  Which is hindi rin niya magagawa sa akin ito. Sila mahilig sa Chinese food ako more on Italian. Another thing is nagbago na perspective ko about Church wedding ayoko yung nagfofocus sa preparation gusto ko sa celebration ng marriage itself.

[mikky21]

Panira na wedding sis. May mga ibang guests pa man din na parang mauubusan lagi ng pagkain. Haha

[Tubby]

sis tubby! so true! let us go for escort cards! naisip ko din yan. para din sa mga hindi nagconfirm tapos biglang dadating sa wedding day. para maramdaman nila na seryoso tayo sa event natin kung sila hindi nila sineryoso ang rsvp. hindi sila nagconfirm kaya wag mag expect ng seat kahit nakatanggap ng invitation!

So agree! Game!!!

Btw sisters nakakaloka mag address ng invites. I am now in the middle of addressing ours. Ang hassle i-address yung mga Mr. & Mrs but separated. Or Mr. with a new common law wife. Stresssss!

Another watch-out is if Mr & Mrs and we have reserved 2 seats for you. IF let's say Mr. or Mrs will not go they MIGHT insist on asking if their son/daughter/sibling can replace na lang. I asked my fiance if we can't be firm about it then at least get the names of the new +1.

[mikky21]

Sissies. Kindly elaborat more about place and escort cards. At pakisama na rin yung ibang cards. Ano mga pinagkaiba? And usually ilan ang reserved seats niyo for 1 PS?

[meixin]

place cards for me sa PS table nalang yun.. escort card probably will not use, di uso sa chinese wedding, and medyo default talagang madaming di nag RSVP...

[bzbee]

my mother asked for 1 table at our wedding and offered to pay for it. my fiance and i agreed to just grant her request without accepting their money. since my mom is inviting her friends, we were kinda forced to let my future MIL invite her guests as well. so now we have an additional 20 people that we're not even close or related to. 20 people who could be pasaway in rsvp, attire and program, and could also just eat & run. i tried to avoid this all this time because i know its just gonna be an additional stress on my part but we eventually gave in 2 months before the wedding. i guess there's just a limit on how many times you can say no to your parents.

[stylus]

^true sis!! In our case nag allot talaga kami ng isang table para sa friends ng parents kahit di sila nagrequest. Nung nalaman nila na kasama sa guest list yung friends nila nakita ko naman na sumaya yung mukha nila

[mikky21]

Now i know. Thank you. I might use place cards and escort cards during our 1st reception kasi kami talaga ni h2b ang pipili ng bisita. no visitors from our parents or siblings, etc.  na hindi namin close ang makakapunta. We have 2 receptions pa kasi pero simple na lang. During the 2nd and 3rd ones they have all the right to invite whoever they want.

[missmac]

Why o Why some people volunteer themselves or their love ones to participate in the wedding. bakit ang daming nag aasume? nakakaloka lang. Never in my entire life that I assumed or volunteered to be one of the entourage. Ang hirap kaya magsabi ng "No" and those people you actually invited to become PS requested to include people to become PS as well that "us" the couple never knew personally. Tapos yung mga kamag anak nyo na dapat may "role" talaga sa kasal para pumunta??? Hindi ba pwedeng pumunta nalang sila to celebrate with us? Juice colored!

[mikky21]

^ganun ata talaga sis. Kasi kami wala pa mang wedding plans e ang dami na nagvovolunteer na abay sila, flower girl anak ni ganito ganyan. Okay lang sana yung kung close ka sa mga nagvovolunteer. Like i have a friend wala pa kami wedding plans ni h2b e sa candle daw siya and siya namili ng partner niya who is also a friend of mine. I didnt mind naman na nagvolunteer siya since whether or not sinabi niya i'd definitely get them. Hehe

[lueeeesa]

^ as for the principal sponsors volunteers namin we dont mind naman since they are really helping on our preps and even before we announce the wedding talagang mapupuntahan mo sila pag may problema kami ni h2b kaya nung nagvolunteer sila maging ninong at ninang its okay lang. yun nga lang ang mga bridesmaids ko dumami dahil bukod sa mga girlfriends ko dinagdag pa pati pinsan ni h2b at hindi pwedeng hindi isama si isa pang pinsan at isa pang pinsan. ayun boom sabi ko na lang bahala sila sa dress at medyo labag sa loob ko na magsama ng bridesmaids who ages 15,14,13 yrs old. my goodness.

[missmac]

@mikky21 actually wala talaga kaming mga secondary sponsor. gusto kasi ni H2B na very intimate wedding. buti nga na work out ko pa na magka bearers and 1 FG kami haha. Nakakawindang lang kasi [textspeak!] mga nagvolunteer eh unexpected kunsabaga out of the blue nalang.

@lueeeesa [textspeak!] sa additional PS, sa araw na iyon palang namin sila makikilala. lols. even my parents don't know these people. Di ba sila naweweirduhan kapag ganon? becoming a sponsor or going to a wedding na ang kakilala lang nila eh [textspeak!] original na invited. haha Yan din ang reason kung bakit mas ok na walang secondary sponsors. I appreciate its bright side kasi less sakit sa ulo ng mga measurements and less gastos.