Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 7)

[j.adore]

Say something like "ahh really? Anyway, I'm still going for.." with an excited smile 😁

I have a question. How do you shut down people who have too many "opinions"? I'm one kasi to take offense if I feel that I've made great effort then people would butt in just coz. More like I need a nicer way to say shut the f* up.

This is seriously stressing my cycle big time.

[belle_v2g]

Hi mga sis! thanks for your advice.. I will tell her nalang in a nice way na may nakuha na gagawa ng gown sana di ko siya maoffend.. anyway H2B naman is very supportive he's in abroad kaya talagang I'm having a hard time turning their suggestions down..

..maybe, don't give them na lang too much info sis, provide only very subtle updates about the preps, isang tanong isang sagot hehe. kakatakot kasi like what happened to sis bonzaigirl, what if she's not courageous enough to say what she really wanted diba? it's your wedding, they can give advises, you can listen but only follow what you really wanted. all the best!

[bonzaigirl]

@kayekayelovesA yes tama si sis bellev2g.  You have no idea how many sleepless nights I've had because of that, to the point na umiiyak ako kay hubby kasi hindi ko talaga gusto yung quality. As in kahit sa pic makikita mo na ang panget panget ng quality at cheap tulle yung ginagamit nila. I really learned my lesson, kaya after nung incident hindi na ako nagdidivulge. Pero makulit pa din di mommy kaya si hubby ko na pinakiusap ko hehe

[sparklingjewel]

I have a question. How do you shut down people who have too many "opinions"? I'm one kasi to take offense if I feel that I've made great effort then people would butt in just coz. More like I need a nicer way to say shut the f* up.

This is seriously stressing my cycle big time.

"Thanks for the suggestion! Will check it out." is a quick way to end it. But proceed with booking who you really like hehe

[belle_v2g]

^that must have been really hard for you sis bonzaigirl, buti nalampasan mo ng maayos at di nagtatampo ang MIL.

[bonzaigirl]

^sis bellev2_g hindi na nya ko kinukulit, mum ko na lang hehe

[dr.thereal.joy]

Guest list namin is nasa 200 apparently yung ceremony namin is good for 80 persons lang and reception for 140. =(

[sparklingjewel]

May dropout pa naman yan sis. Especially if your wedding is out of town or if you were forced to invite lang people na friends ng parents pero di nyo close.. And these days not everyone goes to the church na, yung mga tinatamad or elderly nga gusto sa reception nalang hehe. Create a tally in your guestlist to count how many are likely to go, you'll be surprised baka malay mo kasya pa sa 140

[kayekayelovesA]

Thanks sis bonzaigirl and belle_v2g. Actually, pati si tita ni h2b always push us na sa province nalang nila buti nanindigan si h2b na it should be in my province kase ako yung babae. Feeling ko naman excited lang talaga sila pero pagbigyan na nila kami afterall it's our weddding naman.

[dr.thereal.joy]

@sparklingjewel ang problem ko kasi iisang place lang yung ceremony and reception namin. As in kabilang kwarto lang hahaha. Nakakainis kasi yung ibang relatives na "June po yung wedding namin ha" tapos sagot  "ay sus matagal pa naman yun." gusto ko sabihin haler! 10 mons na lang po! di lang naman kasal inaasikaso ko sa buhay ko!

[sparklingjewel]

^Ahh i see. In that case if room lang, shouldn't they have informed you upon inquiry palang on the capacity of each? I guess wala ka na masyadong fall out from the ceremony. Anyway, no other options of adjacent rooms you can move to? Then perhaps after you estimate the 'coming' count you'd need to cut a bit from the 200 just so if ever sobra hindi naman overflowing on the day itself...

[j.adore]

Another bride had the same problem and her solution was to invite close non negotiable people in the ceremony then the rest straight reception na.

Mga di mo close would be relieved to know pwede derecho reception na sila hehe.

[corpse_bride]

Thanks, sis j.adore & sparklingjewel! That's what I do nga but extra pushy. Kala mo naman sila mag bbayad. Yung ang arrogante ng dating. Dun ako pinaka nakakainis.

[kateguerzon08]

kung kelan naman approved na yun date ng wedding namen sa church, nagkaproblem naman sa oras..tapos rescheduling lang ng oras may bayad na agad na 10k sa reception venue, e wala naman nakabook pa ng umaga sa kanila (ililipat lang ang oras from pm to am), haaaay too much stress ito, huhu 

[moizzzelle]

Just want to share an officemate's dilemma. He's getting married this November. Simple wedding (limited budget as well) and it will be held in their province. They booked a resort for the reception and hanggang 150 guests lang ang limit.

His problem is, the bride-to-be doesn't like the idea of having a guests limit. Marami daw kasing gustong pumunta. Idagdag pa natin ang reklamo ng nanay niya, na anong klaseng kasal daw ang nagli-limit ng guests. Halos two weeks na niyang pinapaliwanagan si B2B kung ano magiging consequences sa gusto niya. Pero ayaw pa rin makinig. And groom-to-be wants to backout now!

Nakakaawa lang si G2B because hindi na niya alam kung saan siya lulugar. Tried to convince him to talk with th B2B again. Pero nawawalan na siya ng gana.

[tiffany24]

wow nakakalungkot naman yan sis moizzzelle pero important element in a relationship ang open communication and understanding so if the bride doesn't understand his H2B's situation.. what's the point of getting married? I mean baka maging problema lang nila yan sa future. Nakakaawa naman si G2B but he has to make a decision, they really need to talk about it before they tie the knot.

[Missus O]

^^sis moizelle, I agree with sis Tiffany24. I can't help but understand the side of G2B. Kung ganyan na minor problem pa lang sya kung tutuusin, guestlist, hindi na nila mapagkasunduan, what more in the future years, or even days to come?  Dapat eh mapagusapan na nila yan kagad before the day comes. Pero kung talagang desidido na si groom, dapat sabihin na nya kagad kay bride. Nakakalungkot lang na ang simpleng guestlist ang magiging cause ng breakup, but I suppose this is just the tip of the iceberg. Baka may iba pa din reason.

[yannuh]

^^^korek saka sino ba gagastos ng wedding? si groom to be lang ba? parang ang conceited naman kasi ni bride pag ganyan. dapat pag usapan nila ng maayos yan. if di kayang ipacify si bride to be then pointless tlaga ang marriage kung dun pa lang e di na sila magkakaintindihan. try na lang iexplain mabuti ni groom yung mga probs nila, baka din kasi may miscommunication or mali ang delivery ni groom ke bride.

[stylus]

winner naman yung "anong klaseng kasal ang naglilimit ng guests" ano yun fiesta. kahit sino pwede makikain? free entrance ba sa resort? nov 15 pa naman ang wedding. kaya pa pag usapan nang masinsinan. ilan ba expected additional guests ni b2b? baka konti lang. pero kung wala din sya idea kung ilang bus ng visitors ang dadating, nakakaumay nga yan. baka lahat ng fb friends at ig followers dumating

[gwyne21]

^ I have attended weddings the province and based sa experiences ko, parang fiesta nga ang setting. Open to everybody ang reception. Baka ganun yung expectation ng B2B at mother ng B2B.
Better kausapin ni groom ng seryoso si bride and explain ano mangyayari kapag sobrang daming guest tapos kulang ang upuan at food. Worst case yun na magkakaubusan ng food for the guests na pupunta. Another option is magkaroon ng separate handaan sa bahay ng bride/groom para sa mga guests na di ma-a-accomodate sa resort.