Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 7)

[caleeice]

I know it's dyahe for you to say that you need them to pay. Maybe you can discuss this with one of your ninongs/ninangs whom you are close to. You can tell them that it will be difficult for you and your fiance to shoulder the costs because of budget constraints. Then they can probably talk to the others. When we had some issues with relatives, we shared it with my tita. She was the one who discussed and explained the situation to other relatives.

[lovemeagain30]

Sis Stylus sorry to be too honest pero yung mga kamag anak na nagpapasabay magpa book ng flights at babayaran nalang kuno sa araw mismo ---sa totoo lang,  hindi magbabayad ang mga yan! 

Bakit ko nasabi? They should have booked by themselves kung gusto talaga nila bumili ng kanilang ticket. If you buy their tickets using your credit card they should know that by the next billing date you have to pay it in full or you have to suffer paying the bank charges. Aber kung next year nila babayaran so sino magbabayad nun?? Imbes na maipon niyo yung extra cash for other miscellaneous eh baka sa credit card palang mabaon. I'm just being truthful here madaming tao ang mandurugas maski na kamag anak/kaibigan mo pa. They will take advantage of the situtation. don't take the risks kasi magastos magpakasal you will need every penny you can save for your wedding. If those 'makikisabay' would really like to attend your wedding? ibigay mo ang Booking code/itinerary ng biyahe ng mga taong gusto nilang sabayan and they go to travel agency and purchase their own tickets. kung wala silang pera eh di saka na sila mag pa book! next year pa naman di ba? so makakapag ipon muna kamo sila. if they really want to attend, they will find ways.

[Reynamargallo]

Problem ko right now? Pushy suppliers!!!! 

[yannuh]

paano sila nagiging pushy to you sis?

[stylus]

thanks much mga sis! noted ang mga advice nyo. at convinced nako na di mali ang nararamdaman ko na wag talaga sila isabay sa booking. na hindi kadamutan ito update ko kayo kung nay progress and i will make it sure na di sila magwawagi!

[lovemeagain30]

^Yup sis wag kang paiisa!  Mga ganyan "nagpapasabay" kuno-- style niyo ah! Walang pinagkaiba yan sa mga kakilala kong mahilig magpa ride sa credit card, babayaran nalang kuno sa sahod.. ayun nawawala sa mismong sahod tapos ang maiiwan magbayad ng full ay yung may ari ng card. kahit alam nilang due date ka na sa billing.

[blackgreen]

^sa amin din may ganyan. Isabay na daw namin sila pagbook sa hotel. Sabi ko ke hubby sabihin niya sa relatives niya na ibibigay ko na lang yun bank account ng hotel sila nag magdeposit. Ako na lang magcocoordinate sa hotel.

[cheezums]

So far ang major problems na na-encounter ko 2 pa lang:

-Wedding gown - I didn't like it at all, sa dami kong "demands daw" they refunded my deposit na lang hahaha.  Actually I was happy about it kasi di ko na talaga gusto yung gown, medyo impulsive yung pagkaka-book ko dun.  I immediately got a new gown that I truly love! So resolved naman and happy outcome   

-Band - backed out for a certain reason even if I have booked them last year pa.  Yes, LAST YEAR PA. I really hate yung mga last minute bookings and cramming kaya maagap ako eh, and to make sure I get the best deal. Kaya I am really pissed off and masama loob. This one i really didn't see coming. But hopefully ma-resolve din and things turn out better.

Kind of stressful lang din AE and Event Planner ng Hizon's na assigned sakin kasi di mahilig mag-reply masyado. Though no major problem naman.
Bumawi naman sa AE ng venue ko (Light of love - Steph) kasi the best sa pag-rereply and support, help, advice lahat na!!!

I will post supplier ratings after the wedding here and in my blog, promise yan!!!
4 mos to go! 

[caleeice]

-Band - backed out for a certain reason even if I have booked them last year pa.  Yes, LAST YEAR PA. I really hate yung mga last minute bookings and cramming kaya maagap ako eh, and to make sure I get the best deal. Kaya I am really pissed off and masama loob. This one i really didn't see coming. But hopefully ma-resolve din and things turn out better.

Think of the mishaps and road bumps as blessings in disguise sis. Hope that you get to find a better alternative soon!

[cheezums]

Think of the mishaps and road bumps as blessings in disguise sis. Hope that you get to find a better alternative soon!

Tama ka dyan!  Sabi ko sa sarili ko everything happens naman for a reason, I am sure better things are bound to happen. Just like sa gown ko, I just had to learn the lesson muna and to make me realize kung ano ba talaga yung style that I want in my gown. If I haven't booked that chaka gown last year, I wouldn't have found the gown I got now and really love.  So believe lang mga kapatid! Hehe. I also always pray din kasi na i-lead kami sa right path ng wedding planning, and we make the right decisions. Kaya so far ok naman.  Pag-pray din natin.

[Reynamargallo]

paano sila nagiging pushy to you sis?

Hi sis! push-y kasi pilit ng pilit yung photographer namin mag out of town na photoshoot. e sa manila lang gusto namin. i know gusto niya na maganda ang photos. nature-nature-an. pero that is not us (as a couple) e. masama ata loob kasi di makapag out of town.    kaloka!

yung make up artist ko naman, too ranty sa fb at feeling entitled porket marami siya bookings. e pano nalang kung biglang may di siya magustuhan sa kasal ko? ibo-broadcast niya sa fb? tapos when i ask something sa fb, ang sunget!shoulld i just fire her or take the risk na kunin pa rin siya kasi sayang ang 2500 na na-reserve ko sa kanya?

hay! sorry my fellow brides to be.

[shygirlme]

^oh i remember my photog shes suggesting din out of town places. Pero ayaw namin lumayo parang na feel ko tuloy di nya bet prenup namin haha!

[sparklingjewel]

^May mga ganyan talaga na P/V, mahilig sa outdoors. Kung yun ang style nila kasi or they think it would be a good addition to their portfolio, they'll encourage it. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but siguro i-align mo nalang sa kanila what type of couple you guys are so they get it. Baka kasi kala nila nakakatulong pa, naiinis ka na pala.

[kayekayelovesA]

hi! new here... my problem is my future MIL may kilala daw sya mananahi ng gown ko na pinsan nya.. Ayoko sana kaso di ko alam panu itturrn down yung suggestion niya.. nakakalungkot..

[shygirlme]

^^we told her naman hindi namin priority prenup and gusto namin kung ano yung bonding namin. Shes nice naman nung nag suggests sya ng places pero on the day mafifeel mo talaga na hindi nya bet.

[j.adore]

Awww ang choosy naman the suppliers!

But yes, they would suggest what they think would be beautiful but you just have to tell them what you want. In our case, from the start sinabi ko saan yung place. There were some suggestions and I'd comment like "wow ganda" but I'll go back to the original plan tapos ayun. Ok din naman on the day.

[bonzaigirl]

hi! new here... my problem is my future MIL may kilala daw sya mananahi ng gown ko na pinsan nya.. Ayoko sana kaso di ko alam panu itturrn down yung suggestion niya.. nakakalungkot..

Hi sis, i was in your shoes many months ago. My MIL was also "suggesting" this designer, but when I checked his FB page, only to find out that he wasn't a designer but a tailor as he only copies gowns. And the gowns that he sold were of supbar quality dun sa magaganda sa 168. So imagine my horror. I told her I have designers in mind already but she was pushing, I told her I will think about it. A  few weeks after, I went to David's Bridal and saw "my wedding dress".  Then I found out that she told the guy I will get him when I never did agreed, so I had to tell her I already had a dress. I apologize if this is long already, but the moral of the story, if you really want a certain designer, go for that person and say it upfront but in a nice way hehe.

[cheezums]

Oh no buti na lang di  ko naeexperience ang mga "future MIL pamimilit" na ganap. Nasa USA pa kasi mga future in-laws ko haha. And muka naman hindi ganun si future MIL din. Just tell them na meron na kayong nakuha, para wala ng pangungulit na magaganap! Oldies kasi tend to be so kulit and matampuhin na.

[corpse_bride]

I have a question. How do you shut down people who have too many "opinions"? I'm one kasi to take offense if I feel that I've made great effort then people would butt in just coz. More like I need a nicer way to say shut the f* up.

This is seriously stressing my cycle big time.

[kayekayelovesA]

Hi mga sis! thanks for your advice.. I will tell her nalang in a nice way na may nakuha na gagawa ng gown sana di ko siya maoffend.. anyway H2B naman is very supportive he's in abroad kaya talagang I'm having a hard time turning their suggestions down..