Ang Asawa niyo ba ay "Asikasuhin"?

[kvandenhaak]

I hope hindi maging baby ang anak ko when he grows up. He is 12 and assembles the furniture I buy. My laptop got stuck one time in a loop updating the software, he fixed it for me. I suck at looking at the map, sya tagaturo kung saan ang direction kahit first time naming mag-drive sa isang lugar...lol! He prepares his own lunch in school. Mag-isa nyang ginagawa ang assignment nya. After taking a shower, he looks after himself. He cleans the table after we eat and sweeps the floor. He empties the dishwasher. His room is always clean. Laundry at luto lang ang di pa sya pwede. I said, "few years from now, you will be the driver and I'll be the passenger!"

[MoonshineLady]

Yes! kaya may mga tamad at asikasuhin na asawang lalake dahil yun sa kung pano sila pinalaki ng mga magulang. masyadong binababy hangang matatanda na. its a big NO NO! marami akong kilalang ganito at nakakaawa mga asawa nila. kahit pa may kaya kayo at afford mag househelp, still children has to be taught of house chores. especially boys di lang nga dapat house chores alam nila dapat pati carpentry, electricals and the like. yung mga minor fixes sa house hindi na dapat iasa sa ibang tao. pano kung dumating ang time na di na afford maghousehelp, or magasawa na tapos di afford, so pano na sila di ba? mahirapan sila magsurvive and their wives also suffers bcoz of that. 

[yn061515]

I hope hindi maging baby ang anak ko when he grows up. He is 12 and assembles the furniture I buy. My laptop got stuck one time in a loop updating the software, he fixed it for me. I suck at looking at the map, sya tagaturo kung saan ang direction kahit first time naming mag-drive sa isang lugar...lol! He prepares his own lunch in school. Mag-isa nyang ginagawa ang assignment nya. After taking a shower, he looks after himself. He cleans the table after we eat and sweeps the floor. He empties the dishwasher. His room is always clean. Laundry at luto lang ang di pa sya pwede. I said, "few years from now, you will be the driver and I'll be the passenger!"

This is how you raise a man. Good job, momma! Wish I could do the same when I have a son na. Sa ngayon daughter pa lang eh lol.

[kvandenhaak]

^Thank you. Ang katwiran ko kasi I can't be with him forever to take care of whatever he needs. He has to learn to live by himself and do things himself. Mas kawawa kasi sya kung wala alam man lang.

[lovemeagain30]

^ good job sis. tama yan let's teach our children (especially our son's) to be independent. lagi ko sinasabi sa anak ko wag palaasa sa ibang tao lalo na pagdating sa gawaing bahay. kapag hindi maayos ang pagkagawa ng chores niya, pinauulit ko talaga. pinapaliwanag ko sakaya ang ibig sabihin ng 'quality' work. kaya in return, sinisigurado niyang maayos para nga naman di paulit ulit. i would like to think he will bring this attitude as he goes along with his life and eventually in his career.

back to topic, kapag ang adult ay asikasuhin.. well matanda na yan. ang magagawa natin mga misis is to compromise with them.

[yn061515]

^ and ^^ learning from you ladies. Kami kasi we were raised na mommy and daddy namin halos lahat gumagawa, except sa paminsang pinagwawalis kami pero yun na yun. we didn't have to do the laundry, iron and fold clothes or wash the dishes. Natuto na lang ako after college ng nagwowork nako at nakabukod na ko sa parents 'ko. I can say na ngayon, marunong na talaga ko and even though my daughter is just 22months old, I start to teach her na to look after herself. Minsan struggling pa din ako pag inaatake ng katamadan pero waley, kailangan paglabanan. It's always a matter of choice.

[lovemeagain30]

^^sis yn061515 my daughter is 32 months old. ganyang edad din ng baby mo i already started to teach her to bring her clothes inside the hamper before i give her a bath.  sa una ayaw gawin (siyempre kasi baby) but we made it like a game para exciting sakanya! we cheer her like "go! go! go!" then pagkatapos niya i shoot yung damit we do "high five's" and "fist bumps"..  whenever i changed her diapers ganun din ang ginagawa namin (siya tagatapon ng nappy niya sa trash can), pati  narin pag aayos ng toys every after she plays. araw araw ganun we make it a habit., kapag kumakain din siya ng snacks,  she goes to the trash bin to throw the waste. sa ngayon di na siya kailangan sabihan.  pag may times tinatamad siya gawin, inaalalayan ko siya , nasa tabi niya ko (or sinasamahan ko) but still i let her do it. in return, as a toddler makalat siya tuwing naglalaro pero hindi siya madumi sa bahay. less stress samin. 

[yonamarie]

^Thank you. Ang katwiran ko kasi I can't be with him forever to take care of whatever he needs. He has to learn to live by himself and do things himself. Mas kawawa kasi sya kung wala alam man lang.

Good job! Buti na lang nauutusan ko na din yung anak ko. And my son has initiative in some chores at home. Minsan nga lang, lalo na pag nakabukas ang tv hindi mo talaga siya madidistorbo! Which is i think ok lang naman. For his age, (he is just 5 btw)

Tinutulungan na niya ako. And same tayo ng katwiran! 

[kaythrielle]

Sa pinas kasi "status symbol" ata yung may mga yaya, kahit malalaki na ang mga bata and can do things themselves. Lol.
Kaya lumalaking tamad mga bata. Hindi siguro lahat, but i think in general ganun. "Yaya water please" "yaya pakikuha nga this ..or that..." "yaya make sure the room is clean ha" (with matching conyotic voice)

Iba talaga pag lumaki abroad. Mas nagiging independent, self-reliant and more responsible at an early age mga bata. Kasi kung hindi patutulungin ng magulang sa gawaing bahay mga kids eh the house will be a crazy mess lol! Wonder woman talaga ang peg.

[mindiegirl]

Thankful ako hindi asikasuhin ang asawa ko. Eldest child sya at maagang nawala mother nya kaya sanay sya sa gawaing bahay. Hindi kasing pulido ng linis pag babae pero marunong at may kusa. Which for me makes a lot of difference. Ang hirap mag isa kumilos sa bahay. Masarap mag serve sa asawa pero pag ang dami mo nang gagawin laking tulong na hindi tamad ang pinakasalan mo. Isa din yun sa mga tiningnan ko nung bfgf palang kami. Haha. For some ang babaw pero sakin big deal yun. Nung single pa ko ako lahat gumagawa sa bahay kaya alam ko ang hirap. Ayoko na ganun pa din pag nag asawa. Ngayong preggy ako super laking tulong na hindi asikasuhin asawa ko. Maselan ang naging first trimester ko kaya lahat si hubby ang gumagawa. Kahit mag lagay ng natiklop na damit sa cabinet nun di ko magawa. I miss serving my husband though. Para sa mga single pa, good to add sa list ang hindi tamad na asawa.

[kvandenhaak]

^^It's status symbol sa atin but abroad pagtatawanan ka especially if you are a guy.

[Shadow Angel]

^tama ka dyan malaking bagay lalo na hindi mo na need na utusan alam na kung anong dapat gawin. Hindi man ganun kapulido ok na rin hindi ko na stress ko sa mga bagay na ganun ang mahalaga may kusa at tumutulong.

[knohrhyn04]

Oh no. super independent. ayaw na ayaw nya ko istorbohin or gigisingin kasi sabe nya kayang kaya naman nya. But sometimes of course I insist okay din naman sa kanya