Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[kvandenhaak]

^Men can be aroused even by simple things. Minsan "mmmm" pa lang sa text natu-turn on na eh di lalo na kapag me physical contact....LOL! If you're already flirting and he doesn't respond that much baka me problema.

[patchuchai]

Ah ganun ba, akala ko kasi wala lang, sa [textspeak!] he would reply mwahh tsup tsup and when were talking on the phone he would ask can i kiss you, and i say yes. He would respond naman when I flirt pero sasabihin niya, naku tama na iyan. So na turn on na siya but he is trying to control. Sobrang respect siguro saken kaya hindi niya maituloy.

[kvandenhaak]

Try mong landiin ng todo kung magre-respond...LOL! Parang off yung sasabihan ka ng "naku, tama na yan" when you're initiating. I heart to heart talk mo na yan!

[TomHansen]

^^ baka nga nasa age na rin nahihiya na lang siyang sabihin. Maybe pumasok siya sa relationship di para sa sex kung hindi sa company which is sad kasi bata ka pa at may needs pa. Biglain mo na lang sis para malaman mo kung ano reaction, tama na teasing di naman umeeffect sa kanya and adults na naman kayo kaya ok lang ikaw na mauna magda-moves.. Kapag ayaw pa rin then nasa iyo na yan if kaya mo walang action sa relationship.

[Girltalker2]

@patchuchai, he is as old as your lolo?
Are you serious that you want a relationship with him?  Sorry just asking, ako ang natakot for you.

Ang alam ko kasi older men are more swabe haha compared to younger men. Younger men more atat since their hormones rule over their brains. For older men, they have more wisdom and control. I'm sure there are a lot of things going on in his mind. Before you sleep together, malamang iniisip nya if you can be a long term companion for him, at mukhang Hindi sya yun tipong hit and run. If he is your first Bf, he would likewise want to be careful.

[patchuchai]

@girltalker bakit naman natakot ka for me?
Bakit naging kami, iba kasi ang feeling namin sa isat isa i know gasgas na itong line pero we are soulmates, problem lang our age differences at ang naging buhay niya. I have this medical condition na rin na aware naman siya. Actually he would ask ok lang kiss kita sa ganito, sobrang respect nga noon, naawa din naman ako kasi pigil talaga siya, pero sa ngayon nagsasabi nako ok its ok to kiss me sa neck, hanggang doon pa lang.

[jtansanco]

@Girltalker2 - I got slightly confused with your comment - "He is as old as your lolo". LOL. You probably misread the post like I had initially. TS is not 18 years old, FYI. Haha. 

[young_maiden]

18 years age gap ni sis at ng bf niya. 60 years old bf niya at 42 si sis. Parang magkapatid na age gap lang. Pwede din mag-ama kaso bihira lang naman mga guys na tatay na sa edad na 18 years old.

@patchuchai: Sis, baka may factor iyong age niya. I agree with TomHansen na baka nakipagrelasyon siya mainly for companionship and not necessarily for intimacy. Sa age ng bf mo, I think bihira na lang siya makakaramdam ng sexual urge. I suggest pag-usapan nyo yan o idaan mo siya sa tamang landi. Malay mo bumigay.

[Girltalker2]

@Girltalker2 - I got slightly confused with your comment - "He is as old as your lolo". LOL. You probably misread the post like I had initially. TS is not 18 years old, FYI. Haha. 

Oo nga! Sorry patchuchai

[patchuchai]

@tom. Good question, gusto ko lang kasi dahan dahan iyong level up. We started in kissing kaso saglit lang and i told him if tagalan naman natin. I asked him last night if may na feel siya when his caressing my leg tapos bigla niyang tatanggalin, eh meron daw. Ayaw din niya munang mag all the way, may time nasabi niya if may mangyari sa atin tapos maiiwan kita mas lalo kang masasaktan.

[kvandenhaak]

^Sunggaban mo and see what happens....LOL! Ako ang nababagalan sa kanya! 

[Girltalker2]

^^ sis patchuchai, mali nga read ko ng msg mo, sorry! But 18 yrs gap shouldn't really be bad at all

May friend ako 12 yrs gap. I suppose you're also looking for companionship rin? Are you thinking long term as well? Are you decided he is the guy for you and you are 100% sure you want to be intimate with him?

If lahat iyan yes, para sakin ha, you can always hold hands and kiss. Hindi ba everything starts with a kiss? Then as I've mentioned before, a guy his age has more wisdom. They won't sleep around (in general ha Pero syempre may loko parin) for the sake. I'm sure he has his own reservations - yun nga if pang long term ang relasyon ninyo, tanggap nyo ba ang isa't isa, have you met both sides families and friends, etc. Feeling ko making love should be something spontaneous and should just flow naturally. Hayaan mo to take its own course. He would make advances if he is ready. For the meantime, enjoy his company and flirting.

Teka, gaano katagal na ba kayo? Baka over ka na sa waiting siguro pero sya bume-bwelo pa, kayo na ba officially? Note he is already 60, so he must be born around 1956? His teen years and early 20s were in the 70s, di pa uso that time ang sex outside of marriage. So malamang he also has his own beliefs that gets in the way.

[TomHansen]

@patchuhai, wait what? anong maiiwan sinasabi niya? parang masyado naman niyang ginagawang complicated yung situation niyo. Kung kissing pa lang binibitin ka na baka abutin pa kayo ng pasko bago mag all the way-joke.. Seriously if you love him then wait hanggang sa kaya mo if hindi then move on, intimacy is important in a relationship and if hindi na niya kaya then magsabi siya so you guys can focus on finding solutions/alternatives..

[patchuchai]

May nangyari kasi po sa baler, nasa isang room lang kami mga 2 months na kami noon. Nasa bed kami he started caressing me then i said you are making me scared. Tapos sabi niya dont be afraid I'll respect you, just kiss and hug. Yakap niya ako habang may unan in between and he kisses me sa forehead. Hindi ko naramdaman lower part niya kasi naka slanting position siya. Then nung mag uumaga na tinanggal ko  na and unan and i embraced him, magkaharap na kami, muntik na kaso he controlled sabi lang niya i love you. But before nangyari iyon we havent kissed yet so sabi niya nabigla at napabilis lang. Ngayon nag ki kiss na kami pero hndi naman matagal. Ako i want more na, 3 months na eh.

[j.adore]

Rape-in mo na lang

[Girltalker2]

^^ start the conversation about sex. Like what does he think about it. History (if open kayo sa isa't Isa), and all things like that. Para at least you also understand his views on sex. Baka marriage muna gusto nya bago sex.

[Evolet027]

Matagal po ba talaga mag move on ang mga lalake?

Kasi I have this ex na 6 years ago na yung rel nami. Both of us are already married pero walang kids. Tapos, ganun sya, pasulpot sulpot. I have already cut our all our communication channels nung naghiwalay kame, fb, ym, changed my mobile no. Pero yun nga, palage sya gagawa ng bagong FB para makamusta ako. Then, 1 year ago, pinayuhan ko sya na mag start na sya ng family nya, na gumawa na sila ng kids ng misis nya para maiba na focus nya. So ngayon, nag start ulit 3 weeks ago. New FB na naman, may message na naman ako galing sa kanya. He is always like that, aya ng aya to see me, pero ako naman palage din tanggi ng tanggi hindi na sya nagsawa na alam naman nya ang isasagot ko na i rereject ko ang pang aaya nya. Tapos, alam pa nya na I'm into photography ngayon. Nagulat ako na alam nya na Im into photography. So alam nya yung mga pinosts ko na mga photos sa mga sinalihan ko. Then, merong photowalk yung brand ng SLR ko which sabe nya sama sya saken, sabi ko di pede kasi iba ang brand ng SLR nya. That was 3 weeks ago, ni block ko yung FB na ginamit nya. NGayon eto na naman, new FB, told me na binenta nya SLR nya, bumili sya ng SLR brand ko at nag litanya ng "nagpalit na ko ng brand makasama lang kita".

Naiisip ko tuloy baka di pa to naka move on, totoo po ba? Wala kame closure nun. I just found out na his parents made him date a girl with the same religion. Nung nalaman ko, I immediately cut all our communication channels. So ni Ha ni Ho, bigla akong nawala sa sistema nya. He tried to reach out pero yun nga iniwasan ko ng iniwasan until nakapangasawa na ko and yun nalaman ko na lang din na nakapangasawa na din pala sya yung girl na ni date nya.

So ngayon, di ko pa ulit ni block yung bagong FB na gamit nya. Naka lock naman FB ko, so yung message lang ang nagagawa nya.

[dismembered]

^ Scary yung katulad nya. May tendency maging stalker. Kahit sinong ex, kapag married na, ang general rule dapat, alisin na sa isipan na may chance pa. Maaring gusto nya lang ng friendship pero dahil nga married ka na, hindi na rin pwede yun. Stay away. Baka maging problema mo pa yan with your husband pag lumala.

[TomHansen]

@evolet027, madali lang ang solusyon diyan - sabihin mo sa asawa mo then he'll do the rest for you. Mapababae or lalake as long as you're not helping yourself hindi ka talaga makakamove on. And in your case it doesn't matter you're both married na at masaya ka na sa buhay mo. Gusto niya lang makipagkita because you know, sex.. Payo pa sis, wag ka nang magreply kahit sa anong message niya kasi lalong di titigil yan kung kinakausap mo pa..

[patchuchai]

@girltalker. Thanks sis. Naku complicated buhay niya kasi, married to his first wife, then may nakasama for 15 years at iniwan siya. So for 5 years wala siya naging gf or nakasama sexually. Ako ang GF niya after five years, alam ko kasi theres something in him that i have fallen for. Tapos he didnt want to have a child na. Ngayon ko nakikita the big picture, sabi ko nga ako ang masasaktan in the end. But for now i cherish kapag magkasama kami. Nextweek he and his son will be in bicol to attend graduation ng youngest son niya, its a family affair so magkikita sila ng wife niya. Sabi ko i-smooch mo siya ha. Nagtatawanan kami pero may kirot. Sabi ko sa kanya, kung magkakabalikan kayo mas maganda kasi iyon ang tama.