Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[kvandenhaak]

^^Because I am dating a guy 4 years younger. It's not much of a difference, I know, but I am still way more mature than him. First time to be with a guy younger than me.

[shiraya]

@badw33d I believe none of your guess was the problem. Hehe. Actually during the time na nanaliligaw pa lang siya, i was the one having most of the reservations and doing the silent thing. Mahirap basahin ika nga nya. Kaya nun naging kami, i became open with him. Now, siya naman ang nagiging ganun. Im not sure if one thr screenshot i recently saved on my phone is the reason. The title, "Some facts on Emotional Manipulators"

[mooncake and leaves]

^ i hate silent treatment. i don't tolerate it and i'm happy that i don't have to. but it takes maturity to get that practice out of one's system. just be open to him about how that makes you feel. reassure him that whenever he needs space, he can have it. sabihin lang niya. people thrive in relationships where they can be themselves and if you are bent on making this relationship work, both of you need to feel respected and accepted by one another.

[jtansanco]

^^Because I am dating a guy 4 years younger. It's not much of a difference, I know, but I am still way more mature than him. First time to be with a guy younger than me.

4 years lang naman pala! I thought it's like 7 years or more. Haha. You're fine... Just don't act like his mom. Guys don't like it if you treat him as a "kid" instead of an equal partner.

[junetwentythree]

^^Because I am dating a guy 4 years younger. It's not much of a difference, I know, but I am still way more mature than him. First time to be with a guy younger than me.

Nah... I think cougar status is like 10 years older or more. 

My man is 4 years younger than me. I used to think I was more mature than him but when difficult situations came up, he actually dealt with them a lot more pragmatically than I did. I think we balance each other out, he still loves to play his video games and we game together all the time but we also have serious, intellectual conversations about anything and everything. I also contend that dating a younger man ... keeps you younger 

[kvandenhaak]

Borderline cougar then...LOL! No, I don't plan to be his second mom. I already have an 11-year old. We're doing fine so far naman. Masaya ang kwentuhan, actually, like last night. Maybe because bago pa lang kami so, di pa masyadong malalim ang pinag-uusapan. I kinda managed to make him open up a bit last night. Kaya siguro kami inumaga sa kwentuhan. Usually kasi one liner lang mga sagot nya sa tanong ko. Sabi ko, kung me physical sex there's also sex of the mind.

[huggykaye]

what's your impression when you learn that the girl/guy you are dating had less than a year relationships before? yes, all of his/her relationships were less than a year... is it a bad sign? o sadyang minalas lang siguro siya...?

[TomHansen]

^ red flag, ilang taon na ba siya? baka yung mga exs niya ang minalas.

[j.adore]

Could be both.. Had several less than a year relationships before I met my husband.

[huggykaye]

^^sis j.adore, pero on your part, hindi naman ibig sabihin diba na hindi ka seryoso sa iilang months na yun diba..?

^30yrs old and never had relationships longer than a year...

[dismembered]

^ You should know the reason kung bakit sila nag breakup ng exes nya. Though hindi mo naman maveverify... pero at least you know. Kung sila exes naman ang nakipaghiwalay, eh malas lang talaga sya. Pero hindi naman basehan ito ng pagkatao nya unless talagang babaero talaga sya na tipong sandalian lang ang past relationship para makatikim then alis na ulit.

[huggykaye]

^oo di naman talaga dapat gawing basehan yun, may isang guy friend lang ako who was teasing na kapag daw ganun kaiikli ang relationships eh parang fubus lang..

[j.adore]

No, I never played with love. Starting those relationships eh talagang may strong feelings ako for them pero the breakups were because the feelings faded, not compatible, someone cheated on me etc.

Pag FUBU di ba walang relationship? This also depends on the personality of the girl/guy kung sexually inclined ba siya.

In my case, no sex with those exes feeling ko bata pa ako nun. I only started with my husband as I felt mature enough (age-wise) to have sex by then.

[badw33d]

^^Because I am dating a guy 4 years younger. It's not much of a difference, I know, but I am still way more mature than him. First time to be with a guy younger than me.

not a cougar yet :-) if you consider that a cougar, i may be considered DOM for my wife anyhow, you're all good. how's the stories going/?? :-)

@badw33d I believe none of your guess was the problem. Hehe. Actually during the time na nanaliligaw pa lang siya, i was the one having most of the reservations and doing the silent thing. Mahirap basahin ika nga nya. Kaya nun naging kami, i became open with him. Now, siya naman ang nagiging ganun. Im not sure if one thr screenshot i recently saved on my phone is the reason. The title, "Some facts on Emotional Manipulators"

that's great! seems like you guys are okay. but a silent treatment is different from "quiet type". this is a mind game :-)

what's your impression when you learn that the girl/guy you are dating had less than a year relationships before? yes, all of his/her relationships were less than a year... is it a bad sign? o sadyang minalas lang siguro siya...?

you can't tell unless you ask and see in the eyes if telling the truth or not. Remember, the eyes never lie. maybe try to get intel from the person's friends why the relationships are always less than a year :-)

[kvandenhaak]

^Thanks! We are doing quite well so far! I met the guy in Tinder...LOL!

[kvandenhaak]

what's your impression when you learn that the girl/guy you are dating had less than a year relationships before? yes, all of his/her relationships were less than a year... is it a bad sign? o sadyang minalas lang siguro siya...?

You can't judge a person by the length of his past relationships. Ano ang dahilan, yun ang tanungin mo.

[badw33d]

^Thanks! We are doing quite well so far! I met the guy in Tinder...LOL!

great. keep it up :-) and by mean up, you up hehe

[patchuchai]

Hi! My boyfie is 60 yrs old and im 18 yrs younger. Kapag nasa car kami he would hold my hand and then he would caress my leg, pero hindi nya pinapaabot dun, then after ilang minutes he wud say "naku tama na iyan" and when we kiss he wud not make it longer, no torrid yet, sasabihi  na naman niya naku tama na nga iyan. I admit minsan flirt ako, i wud say bakit left side ko lang kinacaress mo dapat pantay..lol. sabi ng ka close ko so far ganyan pa lang kayo,
? naku grabe mag control siya ah. Now my question, what action can a guy be aroused? Sabi nila a simple touch sa legs na aarouse na rin, im sorry im just clueless.

[badw33d]

^seems like he's already ON. but controlling? hmmm...  hard to say for 60yo, this is a thinker hehe.

maybe his brain is already there but physically can't bring it up? check medical history? or, try and do it, and you can see where he's up to.

[patchuchai]

Our subject dis morning was viagra, i teased him, do you need it? And he said NO NEED I dont need that. And i was just laughing. So may I ask does a simple caressing can turn the guy on, regardless of age.