Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[patchuchai]

@tom. Oo nga eh baka sa second night ako na ang hindi makatiis..lol. 5 years kasi siyang hiwalay as in no sex, kaya pigil talaga siya, iyong lowerbody niya naka slant para hindi ako ma touch.

[badw33d]

^sounds like its okay... a lot of foreplay then a lot of positions, unless its done in 2mins then it is fast. but all those are done in say 15-25mins, I think that's all good.

May we please know your expectations by "matagal"?? ano duration dapat for you? only then we can get at least two sides. :-)

for the next round issue, it depends on a lot of factors, maybe his genes, diet, condition (tired or not), or others, hmmmm... one of the the bad reason I think you don't want to know is that the guy is not into you, and that happens, if he's not satisfied or into it or into the person, parang makatapos lang ba. or, hindi niya dig ang sex? again para lang makatapos or mailabas? But the best move for this is you both have to talk about it, and it can always be resolved.

[TomHansen]

@pachuchai, haha tama naman take it slow sa una. Sa 2nd date na ulitin niya yun turndown mo ulit tapos magpretend kang galit tapos gawin mo magpakuha ka ng something sa cr, paglabas niya boom naka-birthday suit ka na..

@bea31, merong mabilis merong matagal iba iba kada lalaki. Normal naman sa ginawa niyo na nagstart sa foreplay->wot-> cum sa missionary unless mabilisan niyo lang lahat ginawa ang mga yun. Ilang taon na ba siya and how experienced na? kasi  kung bata pa or inexperience mabilis pa talagang magcum yun. Iba iba rin lalaki merong after magcum pahinga na meron namang ready to fight pa. Ikaw ba nagcum ka ba or iniwan ka na lang niya pagkatapos niya? Kasi kung iniwan ka kausapin mo siya para alam niya na badtrip ka, kapag hindi nagbago dump him - dapat ikaw muna bago siya.. Palagi ba siyang ganyan or first time niyo pa lang?

Para mas matagal? hmm nasa isip niya rin kasi yun e, baka kasi ang iniisip niya lang is mag-cum as soon as possible, sabihin mo paunahin ka muna bago siya para ang focus niya lang is to maintain his erection and not coming.

Meron ding nabibiling mga desensitizing cream/spray na nilalagay sa pototoy para tumagal, research mo yun sis..

[TomHansen]

^ you mean last month hindi siya ganyan? Mas ok na kausapin mo muna siya baka ang iniisip niya nasasatisfy ka niya, di niya malalaman na may problema kung di mo sasabihin. Gapangin at i-bj mo 15-20mins after niya magcum di na makakapalag yun.. Itapon mo yung cp baka nagc-coc din yang bf mo nakakasira sa relasyon yun. Yung desensitizing cream pinapahid lang yun to lessen the feeling ng pototoy niya para mas matagal siyang magcum, try sis walang mawawala and wala namang sideeffect yun maliban sa h.p. mo.. Since sa foreplay ka nagccum tell him to continue pleasuring you after niyang mag-cum, o kaya kunin mo kamay niya at ilagay mo sa vaj mo, hopefully ma-gets niya agad ang gusto mo.

Matagal na ba kayo?

Nako isipin mo lang wag mong gagawin, mas masarap pa rin ang sex kung mahal mo.

Sabihin mo lang "Later na mahal, ang sarap mo kasing magkiss e.."(yup bolahin mo). You're the one with the vagina, you should be the one whose in control.


Again talk to him muna, baka sa usap niyo lang ma-solve na lahat yan..

[badw33d]

I'm thinking tuloy what if iba yung kas*x ko, ano kaya feeling? He's my first kasi.

Tsaka how to tell him na hayaan niya na ako mag initiate ng b*j*? He always ask to b*j* him agad e, nagppetting kasi muna ko, darating at gagawin ko naman un, kasi gusto ko rin naman kaso lagi niya ko pinapangunahan or laging excited? Hay. Yung in a good way na hindi siya maoofend? Tia. Sorry ang haba, i'm not over it kahit last week pa yun.

oh thinking na iba ka sex mo is already a foul. something is really wrong and it's very bad.

When you two talk about it, make sure that the agenda is only a bout this subject. And tell him, be straight forward, and explain why like how you want it. Don't you worry about the feelings na ma offend, the truth will always hurt and your partner will get over it, if he can't then its another issue to settle. plus, you will not get over it anyway until you tell him hehe.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

@sis bea31, he's your hubby/boyfriend of 3 years? sorry i didn't read your other too detailed posts but i dont think you shouldbe shy to talk about your bed problems with your significant other most especially if it seemed to be bothering you. just figure out the way how to correctly approach him or the right things to say. i think you can ask the guytalkers here and fit it to his personality.

[TomHansen]

.... Tinanong ko siya, "baka may iba ka na kaya nawawalan ka na ng gana sakin?" wala naman daw, natatae daw kasi siya pero ayaw lumabas.

Saging lang pala sagot sa prob mo sis..

Di ko sure kung totoo na di mageerect kung pagod, there are some kasi na kahit pagod erect pa rin. Mas nakakaaffect sa erection yung iniisip ng guy at that moment. Mukhang mareresolve naman lahat yan sa usap lang, kausapin mo na lang bf mo(that lucky bastard!)..

[misty_green27]

For the guytalkers, what do you mean when the guys say "settle down"? Ibig sabihin ba niyan is marriage or close that but no legal commitment or  "live in".

The guy always say settle down pero no mention of the marriage word. Is it a red flag na takot sa commitment?

Hirap idecode! Thanks sa mga replies

[argento]

^your bf has ED. palitan na. 

[badw33d]

@bea

If a man is tired, he's tired hehe. Or he might have a problem he's keeping from you. better talk, everything can be resolved through proper communication. It could be bad or good results yet still, the pain subsides.

[misty_green27]

@argento what is ED? :p

[jtansanco]

For the guytalkers, what do you mean when the guys say "settle down"? Ibig sabihin ba niyan is marriage or close that but no legal commitment or  "live in".

The guy always say settle down pero no mention of the marriage word. Is it a red flag na takot sa commitment?

Hirap idecode! Thanks sa mga replies

Settle down... Could be marriage... Could also mean to live in one place permanently (like to retire in one area)... And could also mean both.

What's the sentence that he uses? Or better yet, why don't you ask him directly? If you're ready to get married yourself, this is an easy topic to discuss for you.

[misty_green27]

@jtansanco the usual lines na pag nag settle down na tayo. Something like that. Medyo or should i say complicated kasi they are living in the same house with the ex annulled wife with the kid and his father (lolo ng child). Well he is saying that long term hindi magwowork yung living arrangements nila but keeps on telling me na we (as in kami) needs to settle down soon.

Kaya magulo na again mahirap idecode. Or ayoko lang intindihin

[badw33d]

^ask him, settle down soon like when? provide a timeline, and evaluate. "soon" can be next month, next 5yrs next 10yrs and so on.

Still living with the ex? this is not a complicated situation, it's ridiculous! I usually suggest to calm things down and stop, then start over when the other party is free hehe.

[misty_green27]

@badw33d settle down when our house is ready (actively searching). Kaya most of the time feeling ko out of his convenience ang setup nila. He pays for the monthly amort of the house since part of the financial support of the annulment so "sabi nya" bahay nya pa rin yun.

Must agree its ridiculous. Ako nga kasama buong araw iba naman ang inuuwian sa gabi.

[jtansanco]

^^ Still living with the ex-wife?! Haha crazy... I think you're his ticket out of their house which is why he wants to "settle down". Like what badw33d said, ask him his timeline. Start "planning" together about your future. Discuss it thoroughly to appease your mind. That way, you'll know he's actually serious about the things he says.

[Girltalker2]

^ ya, baka same bedroom din sila nagstay?
If annulment is filed na, I don't they why they should stay together.?

[badw33d]

@badw33d settle down when our house is ready (actively searching). Kaya most of the time feeling ko out of his convenience ang setup nila. He pays for the monthly amort of the house since part of the financial support of the annulment so "sabi nya" bahay nya pa rin yun.

Must agree its ridiculous. Ako nga kasama buong araw iba naman ang inuuwian sa gabi.

looks like you're "the other woman". I don't buy this story, either he moves out or all is nothing. so this is up to you :-)

[misty_green27]

@badw33d i often think of my situation same with yours or defending it still na hindi ganon. Im confused at some point kasi his nuclear family (dad sisters relatives) knows about me but knows also na he lives there with the dad. Kaya i think na its out of convenience kasi he and his dad even go to our house, chika with my parents, ganong arrangement. So totally confused ako kung ako ba eh other woman or im just playing blind.

Anyway thanks bro, appreciate your frankness

[snowhite_12]

I don't understand guys. Why do guys ran away or unti unti mag fade away if you talked about marriage? and Why do some other guys make plans to marry this girl then one day pag mai nakita mas attractive sa outside appearance sa new girl then dumps the girl that he was supposed to marry.

Natakot tuloy ako sa experience ng friend ko...