Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[badw33d]

@misty_green27 ... any time.

@snowhite_12 ... Girls tend to do the same now :-) I guess this is the world we live in now hehe.

[dismembered]

I don't understand guys. Why do guys ran away or unti unti mag fade away if you talked about marriage? and Why do some other guys make plans to marry this girl then one day pag mai nakita mas attractive sa outside appearance sa new girl then dumps the girl that he was supposed to marry.

Natakot tuloy ako sa experience ng friend ko...

If during the 1st year ng relationship nyo ay na bring up na agad ang marriage... Lalo na kung bata pa naman kayo?.. Medyo mahirap nga yan. Marriage is not a simple thing.

Pero kung matagal na kayo at nasa tamang age na at nag fade sya whenever marriage ang topic aba baka need mo na din talaga palitan sya kaso baka wala naman talaga sa plan at timeline nya na ikaw ang pakakasalan nya.

Yung ibang nag talk about marriage then nag quit kapag may nakitang kapalit... It just show their character. Hindi nila value masyado yung marriage at take nila lightly. Mas ok nga na iniwan kayo nun ngayon pa lang kesa iwan ka pag kasal na kayo.

[snowhite_12]

Ok..so another meaning po is the guy is just making pangbobola sa girl na i want to marry you on this date because deep down the guy just wants to get laid with the girl and then pag mai nakita na new one. Moved on na kaagad. Trick din ba ito sa isang lalake?

[jtansanco]

^ Marriage again... First of all, guys aren't scared of marriage. It's the FINANCIAL aspect that makes us guys cringe on the thought of it. Wedding preparations, invitation cards, engagement ring... These include a lot of stress and to think the bulk of these costs are expected to be shouldered by the guy. Have you thought of this? If a girl is willing to shoulder ALL these then I'm sure any guy will marry a girl. Guys having a change of heart after find a new girl? Maybe the current girl has changed and does not love the guy as much as before. These scenario doesn't happen often. What if girl is a gold digger? Are you still going to blame the guy from moving to another girl? Using "marriage" to get laid doesn't happen or should I say, rarely happens.

[argento]

Why do some other guys make plans to marry this girl then one day pag mai nakita mas attractive sa outside appearance sa new girl then dumps the girl that he was supposed to marry.

girls also do this. nothing is certain.

Ok..so another meaning po is the guy is just making pangbobola sa girl na i want to marry you on this date because deep down the guy just wants to get laid with the girl

pag sinabihan ka ba ng guy na pakakasalan ka maniniwala ka agad? the guy must be so desperate to promise marriage just to get laid.

[snowhite_12]

Well yung friend ko umaasa talaga kasi nag inquire na sila ng location,budget and everything until just one day,boom! Nag iba yung guy kasi mai nakita bagong girl. I dont know if mai nangyari or ginalaw ba siya. hindi naman niya na kwento sa akin.

[TomHansen]

^ he's just an aweful human being sis and most men aren't like that, minalas lang si friend mo. 

[Girltalker2]

^^ Mas mabuti nagbago isip ng guy before they got married. Just imagine if married na sila, situation could be worse.

[badw33d]

I don't think it matters of the guy does the marriage trick.... same as a girl does the everything is all good trick. One way or another, one must be out of their mind to believe it. In reality, how can a woman fall that quick sa marriage? and how can a man fall that quick sa "everything is all good"? hehe.

better understand and learn the person more before believing.

[shiraya]

Question, how to react when your partner is giving you the silent treatment and how to stop it from being repeated?

[Ladee_16]

Well yung friend ko umaasa talaga kasi nag inquire na sila ng location,budget and everything until just one day,boom! Nag iba yung guy kasi mai nakita bagong girl. I dont know if mai nangyari or ginalaw ba siya. hindi naman niya na kwento sa akin.

malamang may nangyari sis or nadsicover si guy about sa friend mo... = all these are alibis. bottomline, hindi ready si guy or natakot sya. pero mas mabuti na yung hindi matuloy kesa naman magsisi sa huli.

[badw33d]

Question, how to react when your partner is giving you the silent treatment and how to stop it from being repeated?

why is your partner giving you the silent treatment?

no matter what the reason is, just push for communication, talk about it.

[jtansanco]

Question, how to react when your partner is giving you the silent treatment and how to stop it from being repeated?

A guy doing the silent treatment? That is strange. If you had a quarrel and you were at fault, give him a day to cool off. Guys tend to forgive much faster than women but they never forget. Lambing lang yan.

[kvandenhaak]

May Guytalker ba dito na me GF na cougar?

[shiraya]

@badw33d the problem is i don't even know. I kept asking him before he left pero he just said na wala naman pero obvious naman na he wasn't his usual self na jolly at makwento. We spent the whole day at my place tapos before we had our dinner, he started to become silent. I dont know what have i done wrong.

[shiraya]

@jtansaco strange indeed. Mas mabuti sana if i know its my fault pero dont have an idea what caused a sudden change in his mood. Ok naman kami buong araw. Tinanong ko siya ng lahat ng possibe problem, he kept on answering na theres no problem. My concern now is that this attitude of him is starting to become a habit. He'll give me a cold shoulder, magsosorry ako, susuyuin para maging ok, tapos kapag ready na siya magsalita, he'll turn the situation around. And suddenly, mapapalabas niya na ako ang cause ng problema.

[TomHansen]

@shiraya, im sorry pero yung worst scenario agad ang naiisip ko. Hindi kaya ito yung classic na gagawa yung partner ng problema kahit wala ka namang ginagawa para magkaroon lang siya ng reason makipaghiwalay pagtagal? Somehow kini-condition ka niya na "palagi kayong nag-aaway" para may valid reason siya if ever he get's the courage makipagbreak..

Matagal na ba kayo and gaano na niya katagal ginagawa yan?

[badw33d]

@badw33d the problem is i don't even know. I kept asking him before he left pero he just said na wala naman pero obvious naman na he wasn't his usual self na jolly at makwento. We spent the whole day at my place tapos before we had our dinner, he started to become silent. I dont know what have i done wrong.

your partner is not speaking at all right? then its an issue. push to make him tell you, otherwise, this could blow up. it could be a family problem? his personal problem? cheating? got somebody pregnant? hehe i could guess a few. or maybe just not in the mood, found someone new or anything?

maybe do the silent thing too? hehe.. or leave your partner be.

[badw33d]

May Guytalker ba dito na me GF na cougar?

at least say why... hehe. how about fufu/fling? can do to satisfy your Q? 

[shiraya]

@TomHansen officially, 3 months pa lang kami in a relationship. He's my first boyfriend and siya naman came from a 5 year relationship. Ever since naging kami, yun silent treatment na yan ang worst namin na problema. Based sa mga kwento nya tungkol sa kanila ng ex nya, whenever they had a problem, he was also like that- tahimik. At sa tingin ko nangyayari din sa akin ang nangyari before sa ex nya with his habit. Rejected, frustrated and confused.