Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[ikaela]

Random question for Guytalkers: what things about girls that you think they unconsciously do that you find attractive? Or what do girls do that are attractive to you, but they don't know about?

[TomHansen]

1. Hindi makapal magmakeup, subtle/natural lang sana.

2. Marunong mag-thank you especially sa hindi kakilala even if part pa yun ng trabaho nila.. (ex. nag-abot ng pamasahe sa jeep, nagdeliver ng food, sa janitor etc)

3. Magalang sa matatanda at hindi pala-utos sa mas nakababata sa kanya

4. Hindi mapili sa kakainan

*isip pa ako.

[jtansanco]

^^
- Catching them glancing at me then they turn their eyes away.
- During a conversation, they ASK things about me (which shows they are interested in me).
- A simple gesture of saying good morning and good night either in words or text.
- Treats people equally like TomHansen's #2 answer.
- Being "touchy" but not in a sexual way... (like light slapping on the arm or accidental rubbing of elbows)

[dismembered]

^^^

1. Kapag bagong gising pero naka smile kaagad.
2. Kapag nagkikinig sa kwento mo na nakatitig sayo na naka smile
3. Kapag nagsshare ng food
4.

[Girltalker2]

Guys, how do we make a lazy guy work  hard for the money? Not a risktaker at all at hindi madiskarte sa buhay?

Naniniwala kasi ako na pag tamad yung tao, walang makakapag change nun kundi sya lang. 

Kaya iwas ako sa taong tamad. Di uubra iyan sakin, major turn off. Tapos yung mahilig pa uminom at mag good time with the barkada. Not a BF or Husband material. Sasakit lang ulo mo dyan.

[slickchick]

hi mga sis and bros. i have a question especially for the guys, but of course very much welcome yung insights ng mga sis. for the guys, do you (even out of courtesy) inform your gf/wives if you're going on an inuman spree with your friends? kahit hindi yung tipong humihingi ka ng permission ah (parang OA naman pag kailangan ng permission), pero even out of courtesy sa gf/wife and sa relationship nyo? and do you think clingy ba ang dating if a girl requests his guy na magsabi man lang (note ah.. magsabi hindi magpaalam para sa permission) kung pupunta sya sa inuman? thanks in advance!

[dismembered]

^ Not for the sake of siding with you... Pero sis, ikaw na nga ang nagsabi "Out of courtesy". So kung hindi nya gawin yun.. Hindi sya "Courteous".

Kung wife ka nung guy, I think hindi lang sya dapat courtesy, kundi dapat nya lang talaga gawin out of respect. You deserve to know and he should ask your permission!

Pero kung GF ka naman, out of courtesy dapat sabihin nya nga. Better if hihingi ng permission sayo. Pero yung umaalis sya ng hindi mo malalaman... mahirap yun.

[iam_me]

sa akin must yun na ipaalam ng guy ko kung nasaang lupalop sya respect na lang nya sa kin ganun din naman ko sa kanya at if kilala ko yun mga kasama nya ok lang na 'ipaalam' nya sakin but pag di ko kilala mga kasama nya he needs first my approval bago sya pumunta.

[j.adore]

It's a must since I'll be driving him home if he gets really drunk.

And to protect our relationship, we ask permission from each other lalo kung may members of the opposite sex.

Not that we'll do anything but "lasing ako" is not an excuse.

[Girltalker2]

If he is not open to let his gf/wife know his schedule (inuman man or office gathering), dapat di na muna sya nag GF or nag asawa. Letting your partner know your daily sched (meeting friends at night, gym, activity etc) is part of having a relationship.

[argento]

for the guys, do you (even out of courtesy) inform your gf/wives if you're going on an inuman spree with your friends?

no need to inform specially ask permission.

[jtansanco]

hi mga sis and bros. i have a question especially for the guys, but of course very much welcome yung insights ng mga sis. for the guys, do you (even out of courtesy) inform your gf/wives if you're going on an inuman spree with your friends? kahit hindi yung tipong humihingi ka ng permission ah (parang OA naman pag kailangan ng permission), pero even out of courtesy sa gf/wife and sa relationship nyo? and do you think clingy ba ang dating if a girl requests his guy na magsabi man lang (note ah.. magsabi hindi magpaalam para sa permission) kung pupunta sya sa inuman? thanks in advance!

Sometimes I will, sometimes I won't. It doesn't matter as long as I know she trusts me and I trust her the same way. There's a reason why she's the gf/wife in the first place since I'm already committed to her.

[simang]

Sis slickchick, sa amin, he always informs me. Mas madalas in advance. Hindi sa nagpapaalam, but he just lets me know. Sa aming dalawa, ako yung mas madalas last minute magsabi if may lakad ako. Minsan nakakalimutan ko din magsabi, to be honest. This was before nung hindi pa kami magkasama sa house. Since we started living together, mas nasanay na ko magsabi sa kanya. My point is, I guess, depende talaga sa nakasanayan ng couple. I think relationships shouldn't be bounded by rules. But if you feel like the hindi pagsasabi gesture is hurting the relationship, then just be open about it.

[RoadrunnerXCX]

and to add to what simang said, usually telling what excites you or makes you happy when you  have a forthcoming  gimmick with friends comes naturally when you are in a serious relationship. walang effort na  may need kang ipaalam o i inform kay partner. you simply want to share simple joys ganoon lang yon.

[snowhite_12]

Bakit ang dami ng non commited guy nag exist ngayon? they have options. if the other one hindi mag work out doon sila sa iba.I have option too. but why guys are different now a days compared dati. Paki explain 😊

[jtansanco]

^ Maybe you're looking at the wrong guys? So many guys are willing to commit but girls tend to not give them a CHANCE.

[Girltalker2]

^^ sis, true sinabi mo. But it is for everyone's benefit din naman in the long run. I think guys and gals these days mature later in life compared sa mga naunang generations.

So for men, the less mature they are, the better for them not to commit and be true to themselves. Dami din available and interesting chicks for them to get to know, bakit naman nila gugustuhin magcommit?

^ @jtanseco - marami minsan atat magcommit at magpakasal, only to realise later na they just can't be faithful to one - iyan ang very dangerous.

Bottom line, kanya kanyang time iyan, when one is ready to commit. You cannot dictate or force it. Hayaan mo makilala ang sarili nang mas mabuti, the opposite gender, then if you think you have found the partner you want, just be cool and get to know him/her first. Huwag atat, make sure BOTH of you are ready to commit at di Ikaw lang or sya lang.

[jtansanco]

^ Yeah, what you said it's true. Some guys commit for the sake of having a girlfriend. A friend used to tell me back then to find a girlfriend so I can "play around" and get experience in having a relationship. My answer to him was "why the hell am I going to get a girlfriend if the point is not marrying her?". And that's why I'm a hopeless romantic. Hahaha. But anyway, it should be a two-way street. If only one person is truly committed, then the relationship is doomed even before it started. That is the problem because we'll never know if both parties are indeed committed and that's why there are tons of relationship issues.

[TomHansen]

^ yup yun din sinasabi ko dati sa mga kaibigan ko, bakit ka mag-gf kung wala ka namang balak pakasalan? Kasi kung sex lang ang habol kaya ka mag-gf e di dun na lang din sa gusto mong pakasalan..
@snowhite, ang mga tinutukoy mo ba dito yung mga namemeet mo online? Maybe they're just not really into you or they're just there to bang? Because if a guy really likes you babakuran ka agad niyan and he will let you know and feel na lakas-tama siya sayo.. Iwas ka na lang sa mga loko..

[simang]

Bakit ang dami ng non commited guy nag exist ngayon? they have options. if the other one hindi mag work out doon sila sa iba.I have option too. but why guys are different now a days compared dati. Paki explain 😊

If they don't want to commit, it means they don't want to commit to you. Commitment i believe comes naturally to anyone given the right circumstance at the right time with the right person. So kung hindi ka pinapanindigan ng lalaki, it means he doesn't see you as worthy of his commitment yet. So yes, you might be looking for commitment from the wrong person din, as what jtansanco said.