Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[j.adore]

Don't deny and don't delay.. If you know there's an issue, face it head on.


We celebrate monthsaries and anniversaries just because we like to set some special time for ourselves.

[batangpasaway]

^sis kame we celebrate monthsary before. walang palitan ng gift pero moviedate, dinner or bowling tsaka batian lang or may letters dati. gawain ni hubby pagpatak na pagpatak ng 12am grinigreet nya ko agad. inaabangan ko nga this month kung ganun padin sya e...

sis bf palang. hubby lang tawag ko sa kanya. yan pa yung isa lage nya ko sinasabihang puntahan sya tapos pacivil kame dun. ayoko naman ng ganun. gusto ko isahan nalang tsaka dipako ready mangibang bayan pero sa mga nangyayare diko na alam sis. matipid sya sumagot kase pag kausap e. pag tinatanong ko kung may problema kame di nya sinasagot or iniiba nya yung topic. tapos may mga plan sya na diko alam. yung tipong ikakasal sya next year at alam ng friends nya pero ako hindi. hindi ko nga alam kung kame ba yun or may iba kase wala naman syang nabanggit saken tsaka kung may plans sya dapat alam ko na or nagpreprepare nakame. ayoko naman magtanong kase malalaman nyang binabasa ko messages nya sa fb...pero pansin ko he doesn't care na kung magalet ako or magtampo ko or kung di kame magkausap. hinahayaan nya lang ako. tapos tinatanong ko sya kung kelan sya nakaleave next year ayaw nya sabihin saken. nalaman ko lang kakakalkal ng email nya... ewan ko na sis.

[mindiegirl]

pretty_b, kakakilig naman! mas appreciated talaga if we don't have expectations. I agree, so long that you bith know what each party wants, you adjust/compromise accordingly.

I agree with j.adore, it's also good to celebrate milestones based on what both of you want and enjoy as a couple.

[simang]

batangpasaway, so what really is your issue? is it really the nonpersonalized/cheap/worthless gift? kasi parang dahil dun sa gift na yun, biglang ang dami palang issues... his being galante to his family, his shopping for himself, your couple skype schedule. could it have been better kung di ka na lang nya binigyan ng material gift, and maybe ginreet ka na lang nya ng happy birthday? siguro kung di ka nya pinadalahan ng anything baka hindi mo naisip yung ibang issues? so ano talagang problema nyo?

pretty_B, it really depends on the couple. monthsaries (i hate this word, haha sorry) may be a milestone for some, while for others naman wala lang yun, it's just another day of the month. it's not that they don't regard the day as special, pero maybe iniisip nila na the bigger milestones are more worthy of a celebration. i read somewhere na monthsaries are invented daw for couples who are not confident na they'd reach their anniversaries. lol.

anyway, for us kasi, we don't celebrate monthsaries because of one thing -- we don't have an exact date really to celebrate. hanggang ngayon na ikakaasal na kami (in 3 weeks time, whew), hindi pa din namin alam kung kelan ba naging kami. and really, it never mattered. what we do celebrate though, is the day we met. annual thing yan, so siguro that's more like our 'anniversary' only we call it 'kilalaversary' lol.

just enjoy your new relationship, nevermind the rules. there are no rules as long as you two are both happy and you build a healthy relationship. good luck!

[pretty_B]

We celebrate monthsaries and anniversaries just because we like to set some special time for ourselves.

agree!

^sis kame we celebrate monthsary before. walang palitan ng gift pero moviedate, dinner or bowling tsaka batian lang or may letters dati. gawain ni hubby pagpatak na pagpatak ng 12am grinigreet nya ko agad. inaabangan ko nga this month kung ganun padin sya e...

ganitong ganito din kami ni ex before. mejo hinanap hanap ko yung ganitong eksena kahit simple lang na pagcelebrate nung naghiwalay kami. kaya siguro ang mindset ko ngayon with my current bf is wag na masyado maging like before. -.-

pretty_b, kakakilig naman! mas appreciated talaga if we don't have expectations. I agree, so long that you bith know what each party wants, you adjust/compromise accordingly.

aminado ako sis, mejo kilig nga ako. haha. pero hindi naman nya pinupush na magkamonthsary kami. gusto ko nalang din kasi talaga na yearly magcelebrate.

pretty_B,  ...  i read somewhere na monthsaries are invented daw for couples who are not confident na they'd reach their anniversaries. lol.
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just enjoy your new relationship, nevermind the rules. there are no rules as long as you two are both happy and you build a healthy relationship. good luck!

apir sis! hahaha. goodluck on your wedding. so happy for you! 

[dismembered]

Sis batangpasaway...

Hindi ako worried sa worth ng gift nya sayo... if nagloloko sya or may third party, I think mas logical na mas magbigay sya ng something expensive out of guilt... I'm not saying na meron syang 3rd party.. pero mas worried ako dun sa sudden change ng communication nyo. I don't know how drastic yung change na talagang felt mo, pero dahil LDR kayo, mas nakakapraning nga yan. Been in that kind of situation. Nakaramdam ako ng pagbabago the way she talked and communicate with me... I shrugged it off. Lumipas ng lumipas... then dumating din sa part na "hindi na sya masaya". Unfair lang kasi parang too late na sabihin sa akin yung naffeel nya at parang wala na akong magagawa. So sa sitwasyon mo, try to reach out. Wag hayaan na too late at wala ka ng magagawa sa decisions nya.

Ang hirap lang kasi minsan kahit ano gawin mo, kung di talaga kayo para sa isa't isa, wala tayong magagawa.

[tomatostellar]

hi guys! do you prefer to celebrate monthsaries? 

minsan nauuna pa boyfriend ko mag greet sakin with the actual number of months together namin. I lost count after ng 2nd year namin haha. pero ever since hindi kami nagcecelebrate monthly. we just greet each other

like the generic answer to most questions here, depends on the guy I guess

[oshiawase]

Hello guys and girls! It's me again! By this time, medyo familiar na kayo sa story ko. I like this co-worker/friend of mine. We have been working for/in the same project for a month now and getting close in the process. This guy, however, has other female/ co-worker friends. However, the same female friends have been teasing us sa office. You know what I mean. Anyway, so I am starting to like the guy. Today however, he told me, almost verbatim "Onga pala. Alam mo madalas kaming mag-usap ngayon ni [female friend/co-worker]. Nababawasan ka na ng importansya!" (Ako kasi madalas niya talaga kausap, text and call) He was smiling/maybe joking. Then his boss called so I walked away.


I don't know what he meant by that. Was that a harmless joke? Or was he flirting with me? Help?

[simang]

^take it as it is. if might mean something, pwede ding hindi. either way don't let it affect you. if this guy likes you, he will let you know.

[TomHansen]

^ even if he's just joking ang sakit nung sinabi niya ha. Parang wala namang hint na nagfflirt siya based sa kwento mo more like nagyayabang pa nga na meron siyang ibang babae na nakakausap.

[Girltalker2]

^ and ^^ kapal

Sagot ko dyan, ok lang, di lang naman ikaw ang kausap ko.

Usual advice ko: hanap ka ng ibang crush para di lumaki ulo.

[oshiawase]

so tama naman palang na-asar ako sa remark niya! Parang ang dating sakin, gusto niyang ipaglaban ko ang kahalagahan ko sa buhay niya XD Na-offend ako dun.

[j.adore]

Gusto na pagagawan siya haha!

[dismembered]

That is not a good joke. Foul sya dun.

Ikaw biglang umiwas. Maghahabol yan for sure!

[pretty_B]

to sisoshiawase: "if you can't beat them, join them." haha. 

[red_yesha]

@oshiawase aba feeling gwapo naman sya.
wag mo ngang bigyan ng atensyon yan, mayabang masyado,makapal pa mukha.
super nakaka turn off yan ah.

[oshiawase]

to sisoshiawase: "if you can't beat them, join them." haha. 

Paano mag-apply ito sa situation na ito?

[oshiawase]

@red_yasha, @dismembered, @Girltalker2

Kung hindi ko man siya pansinin bigla, hindi ba obvious na affected ako sa sinabi nia?

[pretty_B]

Paano mag-apply ito sa situation na ito?

well, kung ako kasi nasa sitwasyon mo sis at ganyan kahangin yang lalaking yan. may tendency kasi ako na pumatol sa kayabangan nya. haha. sa tono ng pananalita ng crush mong yan, ang yabang at kapal ng mukha. dapat tinuturuan ng leksyon yan. be tough. pafall-in mo. paasahin. hehe. ganun. peace yow.  along the process naman, makikita mo kung worth it ba sya. if not...edi atleast, nakabawi ka lang, nagenjoy ka pa. hehe. sorry, natuturnoff kasi ako sa ganyang lalaki. ang lalim ng word na "importansya"  and the fact na sinabihan ako na wala o nabawasan na importansya ko sa taong gusto ko, waley na. FO na yan. hehe. after all, mukha namang flirt si guy. bwahaha. peace again. 

[dismembered]

Kung hindi ko man siya pansinin bigla, hindi ba obvious na affected ako sa sinabi nia?

That's the point! Pakita mong affected ka at dahil dun ayaw mo na sa kanya. Tipong wala ka na ring gana sa kanya. Tignan natin ang kahihinatnan.