Concerrns for Younger Sibling

[loveleah]

Hi Po mga sissies!! I have a concern regarding my younger brother, I need your opinions on this please and thank you in advance.
My mom passed away 2 years ago, I have a brother and a sister (now 14 and 15 years), siblings from a another father ( my dad passed away when I was in highschool and mom remarried). My step dad met a girl that got pregnant a year after my mom passed. And he brought the girl to the house. He relocated to the province for his job and brought my siblings with him. Now, after another year, he got promoted again but he did not accept the offer, instead he asked to be transferred back to our city. He brought his kids again with him. My sister wants to finish her high school in the province, while my brother wants to study back in here. But I notice a big difference in my step dad, or maybe he was like that but because my mom was mature and responsible, this has masked his short comings. He is now more focused on his new family , and does not seem to care for my brother at all anymore. They always lock the door, he never ever asked my brother if he has eaten or invited him to go home, since my brother is always staying at my Aunt's house, with their house just in front. Now, school's approaching and I never heard a word from his dad regarding his enrolment ( I got his report card), so I had to initiate asking him about it.

My question is, I thought about getting my brother under my care, since we have another bedroom here that we are just using as a stock room. But I don't own this house, I am just living with my MIL. But I pay for the utilities, the maid, grocery, etc. Do you guys think it would be okay for me to ask her permission to let my brother stay here so I can guide him through these difficult time in his life? Or to tell my step dad of my plan, since he does not seem to care for my brother anymore, etc. My brother is receiving monthly pension from my Mom, that would be enough for his school, allowance or even have savings for him..

I did not sleep thinking of ways to help my siblings out. I was praying hard for guidance then that thought came to me..

[heartfortress]

sis, if your brother always stays at your aunt's house and he's ok naman why not ask your aunt first if it's ok that he lives with her na lang?  why do you need to bring him at your MIL's house? Is your MIL that kind enough that you thought of having your brother to be under her roof? tsaka sinu sino nakatira sa mil mo? Ewan ko pero sobrang nakakahiya sa MIL mo yun kasi kayo ng hubby mo dapat nga nakabukod na tapos na magdadala ka pa ng isa, no offense sis a opinion ko lang naman. Pero try mo din itanong sa mil mo kung ok lang baka nga pumayag di ba. E di ok kung pumayag.

Kung di naman pala siya matututukan sa city nyo bat di na lang sa province sya mag aral? Explain nyo na lang magiging situation nya if ever ipagpilitan nya na sa manila sya mag aral, maiintindihan nya naman siguro yun.

Kung sa aunt nyo naman sya mag stay, talk to her if it's ok if she can take care of your brother tapos visit him once in a while. Tell your aunt that you will also support your brother for his needs, that she doesn't have to worry sa mga magagastos sa kanya. hindi naman sa nilalahat ko pero kasi sa mga situation na ganyan, isang nagiging issue ang pera.

I feel sorry for your brother kasi ang bata pa nya para mawalan ng permanent na tutuluyan tapos yung father nyo di sya maasikaso.

Maayos mo sana yan sis asap before the enrollment. God bless you sis.

[loveleah]

Tnx po sis.. actually MiL lang mag isa dito tapos kami and maid na dala pa namin. My sariling bahay ako pero decide ni hubby to live with MIL kc [textspeak!] lan ma isa a hindi niya feel [textspeak!] mga relatives ko sa compound. Pinag re rentahan nalang namin yun masyadong bad influence kasi mga tao dun. Step father ko [textspeak!] dad ng brother ko sis . Sa auntie ko kasi marami nang nakitira sa kanya na mga apo although masaya kasi marami sila dun pero hindi maasikaso ang brother ko. Wala namang problem sa finance Sis kasi tutulong ako ay may pension ang brod ko na natatanggap monthly at yung papa nila magbibigay naman pra sa studies although hindi lang niya talaga mabigyan pansin yung bro ko kasi focused siya sa new family niya tapos uing new girl niya hindi naman nakikialam . Ask ko this morning hubby and MIL ko kung okay sa kanila. If not I would have to ask my aunt if my brod can have a room in their place na kahit magbibigay lang for board. Kasi ayaw niya din talaga sa house ng dad niya wih his new family..

[heartfortress]

Given his situation in his father's house, hindi nga malabo na ayaw nya magstay dun at sa kabilang bahay na lang pumunta kasi dun sya nagiging masaya. Since kau kau lang pala ang nakatira sa mil mo, baka nga may chance na pumayag si mil at hubby mo. At kung pumayag man, i just hope that your brother won't be pasaway but be a good boy and know the meaning of  word pakikisama. Para di ka din mapahiya sa mil mo.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

Uu sis kunin muna kung ganyang mejo napapabayaan na pala sya 
Kawawa naman yung bata.

[three8one]

parang lumalabas kasi jan totally stranger na si brother sa family nya.. tama ba pagkaintindi ko? yung step dad nya asawa ng mother nya na step mom mo naman?

papayag siguro si mil kung kakausapin mo sya na parang magiging board and lodging ang style nun kapatid mo. pay lahat. pagkain, tulugan, tubig at kuryente. walang dapat ikahiya kasi may bayad naman ang lahat eh. good deal na din naman siguro yun..