Are there still relationships out there that lasts without sex?

[huggykaye]

^^ to make it special?

[dismembered]

^yup

please explain  nasa work ako medyo may latency ang utak ko. sorry

Some guys can do it. Kaya nila gawin but chose not to do it. Why? Out of respect, commitment etc. Yung ibang guys kaya naman maghintay wag lang magbigay ng motive at opportunity si partner! Lalake pa rin kasi syempre, mahina pa rin sa tukso.

Parang bata na pwede naman buksan na ang gifts under the xmas tree pero mas gusto buksan sa xmas eve dahil mas exciting at mas masaya! May something to look forward para sa special moment.

[ajang]

^ ah eh what if wala talaga? i mean not waiting for the special moment? let's say once in a month or sometimes once in every 3-4 mos? 

[dismembered]

^ eh ibang usapan na yun! Mahirap nga yan at mukhang jan din talaga ang bagsak. At bakit pa kailangan once a mont or once in a quarter. Eh di araw arawin na!

[ajang]

^ kaya ko nga ask kasi di ko alam eh hahaha

[huggykaye]

Lol onga naman... Ano pinagkaiba nun kung ginawa nyo din before marriage... Makakabawas ba sa guilt mo kung very rare nyo lang gawin yun? Hhmmm still you did it before marriage... Why not enjoy it na din :-)  hala gatong pa.... Sorry sis not much of a help :-)

[ajang]

we're not married yet, living in together. the only thing lang na pinagtataka ko is before we're so active pero after how many years di na. i tried to check if may other girl involved wala naman. the only thing ang na nakikita ko is stress sya sa work , i dunno if that's the reason why we seldom/never do it.

@back to topic: as i've said it might last but there are things na hahanapin mo to the point na hahanapin mo sa iba. one of the basix needs kasi to.

[dismembered]

^ posible nga na dahil sa stress at work. Ang hirap din maging active kapag stressed at pagod. Some kahit stressed eh active pa din, pero hindi din katulad dati na 5 rounds or 2hours nagagawa yun. In the end, bitin pa din si girlalu. Nasa pag uusap at pang unawa na lang siguro maayos iyan.

Yup basic need ito. Pero doesn't mean na yun lang ang point ng buhay. Sabi nga sa ANIMAL PLANET, there are more to animals than just mating. ;p

[ajang]

^ agree naman ako dito. though sabi nga nila part daw. depende rin siguro sa tao kung pano i-hahandle ang ganitong situation.

[argento]

this is funny..

after TS and her bf ask forgiveness nakahirit pa uli ng bj si guy 

then guilt sets in again, ask forgiveness uli

its a cycle.

[thisxx]

Ako din nung mga unang months na ginawa na namin yun, I feel guilty all the time, pati sya kasi sabi nya di man lang daw nya nakeep yung promise nya sakin. Pero I always tell him that its ok and its both our choice, hanggang sa we just kept open about how we felt, ano bang gusto namin mangyari and all that. long talks ba. tas yun, ngayon ok na.

kasi sabi sakin ni bf, if i dont want to do it anymore, its fine din daw. sex is not the reason naman daw why he loves me so he can live without it. meho sad nga lang daw hahaha.

[lovemeagain30]

My two cents on this.. Keeping a lasting relationship (frienship, partnership or ,marriage) requires more than Sex. Sex is only a part of it but not everything about it. Hindi porket virgin ka kinasal ay long lasting and smooth na ang marriage niyo. No - it's not a guarantee. Both of you still have to work hard for the relationship to work. Hindi pwede sex lang din ang dahilan kaya kailangan mag stay sa relationship.  It's a choice of a couple to abstain either for self preservation or because of religion. Because it's a choice -- it also comes with consequence. Hindi naman sex per se kaya tayo nag guguilty after doing the act, it's about being not able to restrain yourself is what makes you feel guilty. It could be also you are half hearted to the person you gave yourself into (hindi mo mahal), you didn't use protection (worry na baka mabuntis ka) or lastly, hindi ka nag enjoy sa sex mismo. 

[argento]

some women stays in a relationship because of sex. kahit niloloko na.

[Miss Taken]

My ex and I have been together for 7 years with no sex pero ayun the problem is ako yung na fall out of love. My current bf and I naman, mag 2 years kami this year.

If you're not ready to do it, then don't. Be firm lang talaga sis when you say no and ako naman sa start pa lang sinasabi ko na para wala siyang reason na isumbat saken yun. Respect is a must.

[Pink_Sugar]

Applicable pa ba ito sa mga may experience?

[yasbabyangel]

sisses. kame ni bf. 6.5 years nakame pero never pa kameng nagsex. minsan naiintriga ko kase feeling ko antanda ko na tapos virgin pako. haha. 24 palang naman ako. si bf naman ayaw din. kase nga ayaw nya sirain trust ng family ko sa kanya. minsan naiisip ko nga kung bading ba sya pero kase Christian kame parehas at mas dedicated sya kay Lord kaya siguro kaya nya ng wala but we kiss and hug naman. minsan pag naiisip namen na parang gusto na namen nanghihinayang nalang kame sa ilang taon nameng tiniis ng walang ganon kaya hindi nalang. katwiran nya kase bakit pa kame magpapakasal kung nagawa na namen gawain ng magasawa kaya ako diko nadin pinipilit (ako pa talaga ang namilit. haha)... kaya ang sagot ko ay yes. posible sya. minsan ayaw maniwala samen na tumagal kame ng walang ganun. kahit workmates nya alam na v pa sya. kase nung kinasal yung friend nya ang payo sa kanya "ang t_te daw di lang hinuhugasan ginagamet din" tapos nung nagreunion sila ang tanong kaagad sa kanya ng barkada nya "ano pre nagamet mo na?" imaginein mo andun ako sabay ganun tanong sa kanya tapos sasabihan pa sya na "naku baka maunahan ka". nakakaproud lang na di sya nahihiya na malaman ng iba na v pa sya. kase diba pag boys parang payabangan sa dame ng girls na nagamet. super blessed ako kay bf tlg. feeling ko kase kung iba naging bf ko hala suko na ang bataan. haha. buti sya ang first at hopefully sya narin ang last...

[simang]

^nakakatuwa naman your bf. i have to commend him for standing by his beliefs. yung hindi basta basta nagpapadala sa pressure ng ibang tao.

but i kind of have to question this a little:

katwiran nya kase bakit pa kame magpapakasal kung nagawa na namen gawain ng magasawa

is sex the only thing a married couple does? hindi ba pwedeng maging mag-asawa because of love? or dahil gustong mag-raise ng family? or dahil gusto mong makasamang tumanda yung isang tao? ako hindi ako magpapakasal sa tao para lang makapag sex kami (na gawaing mag-asawa, sabi mo nga). papakasalan ko yung tao kasi mahal ko. parang ang dating kasi is he's saying na if magsex na kayo ngayon, hindi ka na nya papakasalan. parang hindi yata magandang reasoning yun

[yasbabyangel]

^thanks sis. feeling ko sis parang para sa kanya is yung sex is for married couple lang talaga. ganun din naman paniniwala ko pero minsan nacucurious padin ako. hsha. diko rin naman naisip as ganon na di nya nako papakasalan if ever na nakapagsex na. parang ang pagkakaintindi ko lang parang yung pagpapakasal at sex parang they go hand in hand din. diko naman naisip yung naisip mo. haha. oo nga naman. buti nalang pala wala pa nangyare samen. haha. pero I trust bf na he'll still marry me naman if ever na may ganung mangyare parang siguro isa rin sa reasons ng pagpapakasal ay malegalize ang sex. parang ganon pero syempre kasama dun yung pagbuo ng family tsaka yung gusto mong makasama sa lifetime...

[jasmine18]

I have an ex who (although he doesn't admit it) broke up with me because I keep telling him that I'm not ready to have s*x with him yet. Nung una akala ko he'll understand. Hindi naman ako super stuck up, I mean, we kiss, touch and all pero natatakot pa ko dahil pareho pa kaming bata nun. But then he keep insisting everytime, parang wala na kaming ibang pwedeng pag usapan kundi yun.

I guess dun pa lang sa part na he doesn't respect that I'm not ready yet, alam ko ng it's not worth saving the relationship eh. Nakakapraning din that time pag naiisip kong baka hanapin nya sa ibang babae pero pano kung pumayag ako just for the sake of him not breaking up with me tapos pag may nangyari na bigla akong iwan? Or worse, iwanan ako pag nagkabuntisan na?

[dara_01]

If you don't want to do it, avoid being alone together. Alam kong alam nyo naman ang dapat gawin, nahihirapan lang kayo iresist kase may chance. But then again, not wanting (or wanting) to have sex should be mutual between you too. Kung magkaiba kayo ng thoughts about that, magiging source lang yan ng away.

^agree din ako dito.  at naniniwala akong meron pa, if normal people. pero kapag celebrity, hindi masyado.  sorry hindi ko alam kung bakit.

it's a decision that both of you need to make.  if you both decide na abstain until marriage, you need help to avoid temptation na don't go to places na suggesting. nagawa ko ito while i'm in college, takot kase ako baka hindi ako makagraduate ayaw kong disappoint ang parents ko.  pero after college gora na. haha. until now live-in kami ni partner with a daughter and hindi pa nagpapakasal for a reason naman.