Are there still relationships out there that lasts without sex?

[Msorchid]

deleted this post guys for privacy reasons.. thank you for responding.

[reann787]

yes i understand what you feel sis, we are in the exact same boat.. me and my ex met in a christian ministry, we are both born again Christians..  he was my first bf, first everything, we go to each other's houses and i met his relatives and same thing with him.. ayun nga hanggang sa umabot sa puntong we did have sex.. theres this really bothering guilt thats bugging me, and same din sa bf mo,  after nung nangyare samen hinahanap hanap nya.. and hindi rin ako makatanggi because i had this blinding belief na sya na talaga for me.. but now we broke up, we talked about what we were doing and we faced up to the fact na mali nga ginagawa namin (this was right after we had another sack session)
sa totoo lang ngayon nagsisisi ako sa    lahat ng nangyare samen i began to see things in him na hindi ko nakikita before.. the rose colored glasses i was looking through before was gone, and i began to see the reality..nakaka guilty lang because my eyes were wide open to the fact na mali nga yung ginagawa namen but we still went at it.. im trying to recover right now, seeking my way back to God.. i hope the same for you sis..

[17glut]

tbh, wala. There will always be intimacy involved. Iba na kasi ang panahon ngayon so iba na rin ang paniniwala ng mga magulang natin sa mga nasasaksihan ng mga kabataan ngayon kahit gaano pa ka-conservative ang upbringing ng bawat isa.

It's part of life and there's no stopping it. Magkakatalo na lang on how the couple would do it responsibly.

[kutitapkiss]

it all boils down to having the same moral and values. Is it possible to have a relationship w/o having sex? yes. i still believe na meron paring mga ganung klase ng relationships. the challenge there is again,  reaching a mutual decision on how far can you both go. personally, mahirap yung walang intimacy completely. for me there has to be some sort of release pero kaya ko yung walang sex (meaning the very act of it ha).

it's hard kung hindi bukal sa loob mo yung ginagawa mo to pleasure your bf. talk to him. compromise. don't let yourself feel demoralized, kasi baka dumating yung time na pagsisihan mo. love yourself 

[AVIDGOLFER]

21st Century is the age of technology and Pre-Marital sex is often and prevalent. Never a relationship  whether they turned out to be couple or not that did not experience having sexual encounters during their heydays but that's not absolute there are still some exceptions of a few that really swears not to have sex until they are married.

[sugardrop]

I know of a guy who waited until they got married to have sex. A common friend tested and tried to seduce him but rejected her. Said he really loves her and would rather pleasure himself for years than cheat on her. Napabilin ako nun. KUNG totoo nga.

[mooncake and leaves]

The way I see it, even if you have a gajillion examples and testimonies of people who have successfully abstained until marriage, none of that will have an effect on you and your relationship. What you guys need to do is reflect on why you feel guilty about having sex and how seriously you guys really feel about abstaining. I think this matters more to you than it does to your boyfriend. You guys have already done it so in his head, it's like, why stop now? And you can't blame him. You have to be realistic. You can't set all these conditions in your relationship and expect not to have any repercussions.

My advice to you, if I'm being blunt is, magsex na lang kayo para hindi kayo stressed. Stop complicating things. Just be safe.

[17glut]

Come to think of it, the only time you'll feel guilty after sex is if both of you don't know what you're doing. Kung pareho kayo nag enjoy lalo na sa part ng girl, as in, no holding back (and nag orgasm talaga si girl) then definitely walang guilt feeling afterwards..a second round will most likely follow next. 

When me and my first gf did it for the first time, may fear sya na baka mabuntis (buti na lang di nangyari) pero she assured me na definitely no guilt feelings on her part kasi she did enjoyed it. 2 days later, we were at it again.

Food for thought lang. 

[ajang]

@topic: real talk, wala kung meron man may third party involved.

i don't want to explain about it basta. 

[minatay91]

I'll tell you about ours if we do make it without sex. haha

but I'll tell you, we fought COUNTLESS&major fights just because of this.. and it kinda wears you out to be honest ..

[Girltalker2]

I think depende sa couple talaga. During the old days, pre marital sex was a taboo. At that time, para sa girls, kung mahal ka ng guy, igagalang nya ang reputation mo and would not want to insist on intimacy until you get married.

Pero ngayon ang bagong peg - kung mahal enough ng girl si guy, papayag sya sa sex. I find this argument flawed. Sex commands mutual respect, in order for it to enhance any relationship, not destroy it.

Oo I agree, konti nalang ang bf/gf relationship these days na walang sex, if ever meron pa. But TS should put sex in the right perspective.
Una una, are you both ready for it? Committed and long term relationship? If alam mo hindi kayo ang magkakatuluyan, would you do the same?

Let's face it, sex is the natural progression of any loving couple. It is an important ingredient in married couples. Kaso if done haphazardly, or kung di pa kayo handa, parang nawawala ang saysay nito sa isang relationship.

[simang]

If you don't want to do it, avoid being alone together. Alam kong alam nyo naman ang dapat gawin, nahihirapan lang kayo iresist kase may chance. But then again, not wanting (or wanting) to have sex should be mutual between you too. Kung magkaiba kayo ng thoughts about that, magiging source lang yan ng away.

[huggykaye]

sex could strengthen or weaken your relationship sis.. napagusapan nyo na ba huwag muna gawin ito? ano naging reaction nya?  iilan na lang ang relationships ngayon na walang sex involved...

dapat handa kang maunawaan sya kung hindi sya sasang ayon na wala munang sex hanggat hindi pa kayo kasal... kasi naranasan na nya eh, hahanap hanapin na nya yan... kung mahal ka din nya talaga, mauunawaan ka din dapat nya at hindi nya ito hahanapin sa ibang babae... hindi din kasi tama na napagbibigyan mo nga sya kaso ikaw naman nagui-guilty... medyo malungkot yata yun sa part mo...

[ajang]

I'll tell you about ours if we do make it without sex. haha

but I'll tell you, we fought COUNTLESS&major fights just because of this.. and it kinda wears you out to be honest ..

^ same and not just that im to the point that i'm looking for someone who's willing to be my victim 

[minatay91]

If you don't want to do it, avoid being alone together. Alam kong alam nyo naman ang dapat gawin, nahihirapan lang kayo iresist kase may chance. But then again, not wanting (or wanting) to have sex should be mutual between you too. Kung magkaiba kayo ng thoughts about that, magiging source lang yan ng away.

so true 😍👍👍

[17glut]

...well, you know what they say - when there's a will, there's always a way  - atleast for us guys 

[ajang]

^ are there any reason why guys don't wanna do it? what if there's no other girl involved?

[17glut]

^ prolly out of tremendous respect that the guy feels for the girl. Bihira lang pero it does happen.

Just to reiterate, there are relationships that DOES last without sex but it does not last for long, sooner or later, either one is about to give. That's nature and it's part of life. 

[dismembered]

^ are there any reason why guys don't wanna do it? what if there's no other girl involved?

^ reason? Parang katulad lang pag xmas. Days before xmas meron ng mga gifts sa ilalim ng xmas tree. As a kid gusto mo sympre buksan yung mga gifts na yun tutal sayo din naman yun. Pero bakit kadalasan hinihintay pa yung xmas eve bago buksan?

[ajang]

^ reason? Parang katulad lang pag xmas. Days before xmas meron ng mga gifts sa ilalim ng xmas tree. As a kid gusto mo sympre buksan yung mga gifts na yun tutal sayo din naman yun. Pero bakit kadalasan hinihintay pa yung xmas eve bago buksan?

please explain  nasa work ako medyo may latency ang utak ko. sorry