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m_lim

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katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« on: February 16, 2015, 08:39:49 am »
katabi namin siya ni hubby and i think na aapektuhan na ang marriage , tulog at trabaho namin.

we both work so 6am palang dapat mag ready na kami.

our baby is  only 2 so may times na nagwawala pa rin pag madaling araw, may times na ayaw matulog ng maaga. mga 12 or 1 na natutulog, may times na biglang sumusuka.

ang sakit sa ulo kinabukasan. si hubby palaging late sa mga gabi na ganito. wala na rin kami chance para sa amin dalawa kasi nga gising na gising si baby pag gabi. makulit pa sobra.

kung ililipat naman namin ng room para kasama si yaya sa gabi, nakakaguilty naman kasi buong araw na namin hindi kasama. :-(

pinapatulog naman on time pag umaga, ewan ko bakit ganito siya sa gabi.

hakunamatata

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2015, 09:15:37 am »
Yes katabi namin siya matulog at sumasabay din siya sa amin matulog. Baby is 2 mos. old. Wala naman kaming problem, pinaka late nya matulog 10-11 pm yun na yung time na iyak na siya ng iyak at hindi niya makuha ang tulog niya. Pero ang sleeping time namin is 9pm pag pinatay na ni hubby ang ilaw alam na nyang sleeping time na. In terms of feeding naman breast feeding kasi ako so wala ng problem mag timpla. Iiyak siya pag naramdaman niyang wala syang katabi.


As for sexy time naman namin ni hubby, meron pa din pero hindi na katulad before =)

beigh

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2015, 10:23:24 am »
@sis m_lim, 2 mos. na ba siya or 2 years old?

Katabi namin mag sleep si baby.
Sa baby ko kasi nung 2mos. -1year super adjust talaga kasi hindi pa stable ang sched ng tulog ng bata. We both work din at need umalis ng house by 8am so by 7am nag gagayak na kami. Sa gabi till  12mn, si hubby ang bantay, usually nakakatulog na siya ng time na yun, minsan mas maaga, minsan mas late. Then sa umaga, pag nagising siya earlier than 7 am, or kung magising sa madaling araw, ako naman ang bumabangon para bawi sa tulog si hubby. Hindi din to regular, minsan mas maaga matulog, so mas maaga din magigising. Our yaya is stay-out, 7:30 ang dating nya sa house, so hindi naman kami nalelate kasi 30mins. is still enough para gumayak sa work. Sexy time?-nabawasan talaga, pero this was during the first few months, eventually magiging stable na din sked ng tulog ni baby at ganun din kayo =)

My baby is turning 3 this May.Iba na ang eksena.Sa gabi ang tulog nya is 10pm (gising pa kami ni hubby), sa umaga naman 8am ang bangon nya. Natutulog na siya with her ate, Babangon si ate ng 4:30am (for school). By 5:30 am nakaalis na si ate sa house.Kunin ko si tulog na baby sa kwarto nila para itabi sa aming mag-asawa. Minsan, tulog pa baby pag-alis ko,minsan gising na iba iba pa din pero hindi na katulad ng baby siya na sa madaling araw may oras na gising talaga.

Hope this help. Mahirap maging working mom pero worth it. Piece of advice din. My ate do not sleep with her baby in the night.Si yaya ang katabi. Pag may masakit sa baby/pamangkin ko, "yaya" ang unang binabanggit nya. Pag may tantrum siya, si yaya lang din ang nakakapagtahan sa kaniya. Later, narealize ni ate ang mali nya, katabi na din nya matulog ang pamangkin ko. Hindi siguro sa everytime nangyayari to, but this happens =(

princess_angel

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2015, 12:07:49 pm »
katabi namin mag sleep din si baby. he is turning 3 this May din :)

Merong times na super late sya matulog, mag 12MN - 1AM, meron din namang times na 7PM tulog na sya.

Nung nakabukod kami, ang aga nya magising. mga 6 am gising na sya regardless kung anung oras sya matulog. Since ako gusto ko pa matulog, ang ginagawa ko is tinatawg ko yaya nya para ipasyal na si baby.

Pero we make it a point na kami palagi kasama ni baby sa gabi. The mabibilang lagn ang times na hindi namin sya katabi, like kung may sakit kami and ayaw namin mahawa sa amin si baby.

As for sexy time, meron pa din pero dapat mahimbing na tulog ni baby  ;D

TysLolakins

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2015, 12:42:59 pm »
well, my babies ain't babies no more.  but when they were, never namin sila kagabi sa bed, kahit newborn.  the crib was inside our room tho until they're about two, then separate bedroom na.  mahirap may katabing baby, pare parehong di makatulog, malikot matulog ang baby plus nakakatakot baka madaganan namin.  anyway whatever works is fine, it's just that co sleeping was never an option for us. 

m_lim

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2015, 03:42:08 pm »
sorry, typo sis. 2yrs old na siya.

crib rin siya noon from newborn til around 1year. takot kasi ako baka madaganan namin or ma suffocate sa beddings.

yun na nga, since whole day kasama niya si yaya. mas malapit nga siya sa yaya. palagi nalang yaya, yaya. pag gabi nagwawal, yaya parin sinisigaw.

masakit talaga saken. para bang sila bonding maghapon tapos saken nagwawala pag gabi at ako nagdudusa. pero what can i do? :-(


Priceless

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #6 on: February 16, 2015, 05:26:51 pm »
^My boy is turning 2 soon. Kami naman, at 5 months, we decided na matulog na sya sa room nya tapos si yaya sleeps sa mattress beside his cot. For the same reasons that you mentioned - hubby and I are both working, and we also want to teach him to be able to sleep in his own bed, be independent and also syempre my husband always says na it's important that we maintain our relationship/marriage/space.

What I do is (and I think I mentioned this to you in another thread), I try to spend a lot of his waking hours doing the things he likes to do, without yaya around. For example, everyday, I go home and give him a bath. It's my ritual with him. Basta I'm not traveling, I arrange my schedule so that I am home by bath time. And my boy LOVES his bath time. So he associates that with me. Kahit may dinner or other event ako at night, uuwi at uuwi muna talaga ako to give him a bath, then saka nalang ako aalis ulit to attend to whatever I have on my diary, which is also rare kasi nga I try to be home before 7pm to spend time with him. After dinner, I take him to our bedroom so he can play, watch tv, sit in our bed, etc with me. Pag time na to go to bed, I take him down to his bedroom, read stories, sing songs, he drinks his milk and pag tulog na sya, saka lang pumapasok si yaya to set up her mattress and beddings.

On weekends my husband and I try to spend as much time as we can, maybe half a day at max (if we're not on holiday, etc) on Saturdays, and full day on Sundays kasi day off ni yaya. We plan around his nap time, for example, kung mag ggrocery kami we leave him with yaya. Sa gabi, pag magddinner or movie date kami (which is almost every weekend), we do it pag tulog na sya, or patulog na like 8:30 or so.

Isa pa palang reason kung bakit hindi namin sya sinanay to sleep in our bedroom kasi we sleep quite late (11PM or so) and we like to have the tv on. So napansin namin na kahit na antok na antok na sya, hindi sya natutulog kaagad kasi he wants to be part of the action. So we were told by our parents rin na we have to set a routine for him and make his space peaceful and quiet para masanay sya sa sleeping routine nya.

princessrio

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #7 on: February 17, 2015, 09:31:30 pm »
my son will be 3 years old next month. been co-sleeping ever since he was born. he sleeps from 10:30pm till 10 am. dinadala lang sya sa cr ni hubby para umihi (he doesn't wear diapers at night na) then he goes back to sleep. pag tulog na sya, yun na ang bonding moment namin like watching movies online, kuwentuhan, sexy time..

big help yung nakapag-establish kami ng routine. nung nag-1 year old sya, he started sleeping through the night, no milk in between.

it also sometimes depend on their activity throughout the day. if hindi sya napapagod or late na ang nap time nya, chances are late din sya matutulog sa gabi.

jenny_syngkit

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #8 on: February 17, 2015, 09:46:29 pm »
kids are now 8yo and 9yo and same room pa din kameng lahat. we have two more spare rooms pero naging stock room and playroom na lang.

pero yung dalawa nasa separate bed/foam na katabi ng bed namen, hindi na kame kasya in one bed lang :)

baka dapat don't let baby sleep too much during the day, para pagdating ng gabi, knock out na sya.

nikki

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #9 on: February 17, 2015, 10:38:35 pm »
I have 2 boys (2yr 3mos and 11mos) and both sleep with me sa bed.. I can say na our situation improved tremendously the past few months. Both sleep around 8pm and super late na pag 9pm. My eldest sometimes inaabot ng 10pm if he takes a long nap in the afternoon.

My eldest has atopic dermatitis and he used to wake up at night scratching despite all the moisturizers, etc. Minsan pa he would cry so ang ending my bunso will also wake up. Pero he overcame that na,

My bunso naman is breastfed at night and I'm happy kahit pano (im not pumping anymore and he drinks formula during the day) enough pa ang supply to get him through the night. I think he would ask for milk every 2-3hrs or so, frequent pa rin but I'm fine with this than having to prepare formula.

our routine: dinner no later than 6:30pm, bathe about an hour after and wind down before going to bed. According to pedia too, it's more important at their age to sleep early and wake up early than taking long afternoon naps. 30mins is enough na raw. Kesa naman 12hrs nga ang tulog sa gabi pero from 10pm to 10am naman.

Maybe try to lessen nap time sa afternoon and if they do perhaps no later than 2 or 3 pm eh Gising na. Of course establish a routine too :)

FayeP

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #10 on: February 17, 2015, 10:58:39 pm »
katabi namin un anak ko eversince, ako sa gitna at nasa kanan ko usually si junakis at si hubby sa kaliwa. nun baby pa talaga anak ko (3 na cya ngayon), talagang puyat puyat ako, midshift ako sa work nun, uwi ko mga 12 midnight, at gising pa din naman si hubby nun kasi he's waiting for me...kaya pa idlip idlip lang ako pag madaling araw, at nagdederecho lang un tulog ko pag mga 6am na kasi si hubby na nag aalaga (pag madaling araw naman kasi tulog na tulog na cya)...

palitan lang kami, pag kelangan ko matulog, cya ang gising...

up to now, katabi pa din namin pero dahil nga 3 na cya, di naman cya nagigising sa madaling araw...ngayon I work during the night, so pag weekend at mga VLs or absent days ko sila katabi talaga....si hubby at junakis ang magkatabi lagi...


vain_kixie

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #11 on: February 18, 2015, 01:39:44 am »
I dunno what it is like to have a toddler but maybe she's in the terrible twos stage. To answer your question, i do not co sleep with my almost 7 month old son. Nung newborn siya he used to sleep in our room but on his pack n play. Nung 2 months na siya nilapat ko na siya sa nursery. He doesnt have a yaya (yet) so naka video/baby monitor kami. He sleeps 11-12 hours through the night. I have established his bedtime routine since he was a few weeks old and that helped us a lot. Baba ko lang siya sa crib then tulog na siya on his own, no more hele or nursing to sleep. Sleep training really kept me sane.

Wala pa kaming baby, hubby and i discussed na all our babies will have their own room/nursery and marriage comes first talaga. I am a wife before i became a mother.

Do not feel bad na maka yaya si baby mo, makakalimutan din niya si yaya when she resigns and when your daughter is older na mas appreciate ka na. I had several yayas too when i was younger and i was attached to them back then o pero nakalimutan ko din sila eventually hahahah

katrinac

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #12 on: February 18, 2015, 02:35:13 am »
I co sleep with my daughter since birth until now na 7 months na sya. Ang problem lang dito eh pang gabi ako. haha! kaya sa gabi, tatay nya ang katabi nya, then kapag umaga, during siesta time ng daughter ko, tabi ko sya, or minsan sa dibdib ko pa sya natutulog (mas mahimbing tulog nya) tapos super nakayakap sya sakin.
At dahil hindi naman king size ang kama naman, good for 2 lang talaga, we have a separate kutson na we use para kapag rest days e dun natutulog si husband (meaning sa lapag sya) hehe.

I always look forward during my rest days, kasi makakatabi ko na ulit baby ko. Wish ko lang sana, yung baby ko matuto na matulog sa crib hehe! Problem nga lang, yung anak ko, since nasanay na may katabi, naiiyak sya or nagising kapag naramdaman nya na wala kami sa tabi nya.

vain_kixie

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #13 on: February 18, 2015, 03:32:05 am »
Babies love consistency kasi. So kung pano sila natulog gusto nila ganun din sila gumising.

One time i slept doon sa matress na nasa nursery niya. I took him to sleep beside me. Ako ang hindi nakatulog and vowed never to co sleep again. Grabe ang likot likot niya matulog, ikot ng ikot. Minsan uupo pa tapos naka close eyes naman tapos higa ulit. So hindi ako maka pag deep sleep kasi worry ko baka mahulog kahit na may pillows na siya around him. I need decent sleep to be a decent mother so i chose to let my baby self soothe and to sleep in his own room.

diann28

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #14 on: February 18, 2015, 06:34:49 am »
katabi din namin anak namin matulog. sa gitna pa sya naka pwesto. tulad ng mga iba couples. working parents din kami ng asawa ko. kaya as much as possible gusto namin mag bonding kami tatlo. bago matulog nag kwe-kwentuhan kami ano ginawa nya sa school.  nag kukulitan kami tatlo.tapos pinag pe pray namin sya bago matulog. 4 yr-old palang anak namin. 2 mos palang sya. nakakasabay na sya matulog samin sa gabi. 10pm-7am gising nya.ako nalang yun nag papa dede sakanya nun kaya ako lang puyat nun. sila papa nya masarap tulog. tapos 2yr-old sya nag stop na ng diaper. di rin sya nakaka wiwi sa kama. pag samin naman mag asawa. pag tulog na tulog na sya sa gabi dun na kami mag se-sexy time syempre sa iba room kami pu pwesto. 4 na sya pano kung mahuli nya kami. at mag tanong ano ginagawa namin. kakahiya. kaya sa iba room namin ginagawa yun. pag tapos na babalik ulit kami sa kwarto namin.

m_lim

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #15 on: February 18, 2015, 06:57:44 am »
hay ang hirap talaga!

kasi nagtatalo yung feeling na minsan lang sila magiging ganito kaliit tapos malalampasan mo lang kasi konting oras ko lang makakasama si baby kung di ko pa itatabi sa gabi since buong araw kami pareho wala ni hubby.

:-(

Dacian

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #16 on: February 18, 2015, 07:52:47 am »
yes, katabi namin si baby matulog at night.

ia

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #17 on: February 18, 2015, 09:45:15 am »
Yes, since birth katabi namin siya matulog ni hubby. She's 2 years old now.

Big help that she follows a routine. She plays or watch tv after dinner...  by 9PM kusa na siyang tumatabi sa amin sa bed. I see to it na pag katabi na nmin siya, nasa disney channel na yung tv...

Since me and hubby sleep ng mas maaga (bumabangon kasi kmi ng 2AM for work), most of the time, sumisingit na lang siya sa gitna namin. Or if nakakatulugan niya yung tv sa salas, nililipat ko na lang sa tabi namin.

FayeP

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #18 on: February 19, 2015, 01:40:20 am »
may mga pamahiin about pagtulog with baby eh, pero malamang walang katotohanan to....pag matutulog daw, wag igigitna si baby sa pagitan ng mag-asawa, dapat sa gilid ng nanay or gilid ng tatay...kasi pag sa gitna daw, maghihiwalay ang parents...

eh ako, ginitna daw ako ng madir at fadir noon, kaya naghiwalay sila....kaya nun ako na ang may anak kabilin bilinan ng nanay ko na wag sa gitna si baby kun matutulog sa tabi namin...hence nasa gilid ko cya....

princessrio

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Re: katabi niyo ba si baby matulog at night?
« Reply #19 on: February 19, 2015, 01:12:29 pm »
^wala naman siguro. baka kaya nasasabi yan e kasi lalabas na hindi magkatabi ang mag-asawa sa bed. dami factors or reasons ng paghihiwalay.

kami paiba iba ng pwesto. madalas sa gitna anak namin. pagka-madaling araw na, minsan nasa gitna na si hubby. nililipat nya sa kabilang side yung anak namin. kailangan din naman daw kasi na yakapin ako. :)

 

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