Facebook and your ex

[chinablue]

^siguro sis dahil unti unti ko na din natanggap na i'm better off without him. lalo na ngayon na i'm pursuing my passion to travel, narealize ko na kung nagkatuluyan pala kami eh di sobrang limited na ng buhay ko. saka naadik na din ako sa On The Wings Of Love kaya di ko na siya masyado naiisip haha. siguro ginawa lang niya kung ano ang tingin niya ay makakabuti sa kanya. kasi naman magkaibang mundo kami, different nationality at religion, different culture. naguguilty nga din ako at times kasi alam ko naman na minahal niya ako, di lang siguro talaga meant to be. minsan nga gusto ko siya kumustahin for old time's sake kaso naiisip ko wag na lang. para matuloy na talaga ang kasal niya, hehe.

for me, nakakacurious naman talaga kung ano na nangyayari sa buhay ng mga past loves natin eh. kung happy ba siya na wala ka na sa buhay niya or he's wallowing in depression. i admit kaya ko madalas check ang fb niya dati eh para makita if he changed his relationship status. nung after 4 months of being engaged and he's still single sa profile niya, i started to wonder kung proud ba talaga siya sa fiancee niya. bakit di man lang siya mag upload ng mga photos nila together eh samantalang yung fiancee eh nag uupload. sa tingin ko sis matatahimik lang din siguro ako pag pinalitan na niya ng married ang status niya at nagpost siya ng happy pics nila. at least i will be relieved na truly moved on na siya.

sis, kung every time you visit his fb eh naiiyak ka at puro negative feelings, medyo idiscipline mo yourself. di ko naman sinasabing agad agad stop ka. mahirap yun eh. siguro ilimit mo na lang. like tell yourself once a week mo na lang visit profile niya and then magiging once a month hanggang sa maging sobrang dalang na lang. wag din masyado babad sa social media. tempting talaga na mangstalk pag lagi ka online eh. hanap ka ng pagkakabusyhan. discover your passion. effective siya promise. remember sis, this too shall pass. it will get better in time. cheers sis! :-)

[cybelekronos]

^sis almost one year na kami wala, as in NC, sa one year, once ko lang ginawa i check fb nya, birthday nya, since non wala na, never ko na ni check or kahit nakaka gigil super pigil talaga ako kasi ayaw ko na masaktan o ma feel yung pain like last time na may makita ako. naka block pati gf nya and family nya, saka gumawa ko new account, naka block na rin sya dun.

yes, sis, this too shall pass! keri lang lahat yan! goodluck sis!

[mooncake and leaves]

Didn't unfriend or unfollow anyone. And out of respect na din, I never post anything that could truly give away my current dating situation. Anyway, I also decided that I will never, ever put anything personal on my accounts and that I will never add anyone I'm dating on Facebook. The only time I'll consider it is if I'm marrying someone and even then, posts will be a bare minimum. Tipong, uy, I married this guy. Lol. Until then, I'm keeping my personal life off social media.

[cheloucustodio]

It would good kung magiging friends kayo after the breakup kasi dagdag issue at iisipin lang kung babalikan yung past

[csj]

I don't think it's healthy for you to add her pa sa FB. Makakasagabal lang yon sa moving on process mo Try not to think about it. I know it's easier said than done pero once you try to make yourself busy with other things (like getting on a new hobby, trying out new sports, catching up with friends) you'll realize that there are far better things to do than lurking in the past

[najine]

He unfriended me.  he changed his password kase my tinatago na pala ang hinayupak.

tama nga ang kasabihan, what you dont know wont hurt you. kase nung nalaman ko na lahat ng tinatago nya. PAK!

[purple.strawberry]

Sis @chinablue meron lang talagang mga lalakeng hindi mapost. Actually isa ata yun sa differences ng men and women. Women kasi talaga tend to flaunt and display ang current boylet nila and we often see it as a sign na proud tayo sa partners natin. With men, not always.

[Pink_Sugar]

^Agree. Yung nga lalaki na kakilala ko na mahilig mag post eh puro silahis or bading.

[TomHansen]

Ex blocked me a week after our breakup, then just last week(after 2months) nakita ko unblocked niya na pala ako.. I have no plan of messaging her nacurious lang ako bakit niya ako in-unblock.

[Miss Taken]

^ IMO, it could be any of the following reasons:

1. Your ex has finally, completely moved on from your break up.
2. Your ex thinks that you've finally moved on & that you won't get affected even if you visit her profile (if she's the one who initiated the break up)
3. If she has a new guy and she wants you to see it just in case you check her profile

I also blocked my ex before when we broke up because it will be easier for both of us if there's no communication at all. Our break up wasn't easy for him since there's no third party at all, I just fell out of love..

After six months, I decided to unblocked him. I just feel that I've given him enough time to be okay.

[TomHansen]

^ thanks Miss Taken,

1. yes i'm sure she already moved on.
2. we only broke up 2 months ago and yes she's the one who initiated the breakup..
3. i know she's already in a new relationship(damn it), i can only see public posts in her profile but i dont think their relationship is out yet, i'll let you know after 3 weeks. (3 month rule?)

[kdesigner08]

My ex-boyfriend also blocked me on facebook, 6 mons after our super toxic breakup. Lakas ng loob na magalit kasi naningil ako sa mga pagkaka-utang niya.  Well i don't really care. hehe. He do me some favor na rin para di na rin niya makikita what i'm up to. (vice versa)

[purple.strawberry]

Ginawa ko din yan I blocked yung first ex ko and then later on unblocked him. Why? I just don't want the feeling na parang I still have grudge when in fact I have moved on na. Para kasing pag nakablocked e may issue pa sa'kin, e wala na naman. Kumbaga I want this feeling na I'm free.

[pretty_B]

i was soooo at the cliff ready to jump last night. -.- gusto ko na istalk si ex after monthsss. buti napigilan ko. sayang ang effort ko na wag na makaalam ng anything about sa kanya that i can control (like thru social media). -.-

[najine]

he unfriended me then I blocked him for a while because I dont wanna know anything about him then nung time he was trying to reach out and ask di nya ko mahanap sa FB sabi ko I blocked you. stupid me.. I unblocked. hoping eh. then di ko na blinock ulit but he never add me again kahit we constantly have comm. that time yun pala there's something happening behind me na. never have the gut to block him again for the simplest reason that I dont want to see his page. i unfollow all his siblings and mom para wala akong malaman na anything. we've past the 3 months rule ek ek already so I guess anytime he will flaunt it na. the girl does anyway on her fb. di nga lang tina tag si X.

[Miss Taken]

^ thanks Miss Taken,

1. yes i'm sure she already moved on.
2. we only broke up 2 months ago and yes she's the one who initiated the breakup..
3. i know she's already in a new relationship(damn it), i can only see public posts in her profile but i dont think their relationship is out yet, i'll let you know after 3 weeks. (3 month rule?)

So I think that's the reason why she unblocked you already. Ayaw niya na lumabas na parang ang bitter nung dating niya, na she's still affected sa paghihiwalay niyo.

I don't believe in the 3-month rule eh. We all have different timeline when it comes to moving on. Here's my previous post na related dito http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,290941.msg8126506.html#msg8126506

Blocking your ex on fb if you two just broke is perfectly okay. Iwas temptation na istalk yung profile nila hehe

[TomHansen]

^ siguro nga Miss Taken, overthinking lang siguro ako..

[shanghai baby]

My first boyfriend and I are FB friends. I forgot who invited who but we are friends. He's an only child so walang siblings na naging friends din sa FB. He has a girl cousin though whom he is close with. This cousin and I still go out and still treats me like an Ate. No bad blood. Pareho kaming happy sa mga love life namin ngayon.

With my last 3 exes:

Ex A - He invited me and I accepted his friend request. Kept inviting me to go out, which made Ex C jealous. Unfriended him.

Ex B - Invited me but didnt't accept it. Sent me a message telling me he missed me. Made Ex C jealous. Blocked him.

Ex C - Unfriended. Blocked. Unblocked. Still not friends though.

After Ex C and I broke up 4 years ago, I unblocked Ex B after two years of being on the Block List. Hehe. Just when I thought he had forgotten about me, he sent me a message again asking what happened between us. Why daw. Blocked him again and still on my Block List until now. LOL.

[Miss Taken]

^ siguro nga Miss Taken, overthinking lang siguro ako..

If you're still affected just by seeing her fb then maybe it's better if ikaw na muna mismo ang magblock sa kanya. Mas mahirap makamove on if konting click lang makikita mo na naman siya.

Kaya mo yan bro

[TomHansen]

^ hindi na naman ako masyadong affected Miss Taken hindi ko na rin tinitignan profile niya. Ayoko namang iblock para mafeel niya na nakamove on na ako.