Facebook and your ex

[Girltalker2]

Did you unfriend your ex sa fb?

If wala pa FB nung naging kayo, ininvite ka ba nya or ininvite mo sya as friend sa fb?

How about in laws like sil and bil? Ni retain nyo ba friendship with them o hindi narin?

Pa share lang how people generally dealt with their exes and exes family and friends pag dating sa cyberspace.

Thanks!

[Queen Chokolah]

I did not unfriend. It's nice to have something to look at (or laugh at lol) pag walang magawa. Though friends pa rin kami, I do not feel anything. I do not feel anything for any of my exes so it's okay na maging fb friends kami. Some exes add me, I accept it lang naman. Sometimes I check their profiles for fun pero I don't feel anything. Siguro pag di pa naka move on wag na lang i add. unfriend na lang. block mas maganda. And don't make dummy accounts to check their profiles. lol.

[purple.strawberry]

I used to unfriend my first ex-bf whenever we had a fight tapos nagkatamaran na magbalik as friends, so nung nagbreak finally e hindi na kami talaga friends nun sa fb. Haha. Very immature back then. I was close to his family and unfriended them all -- this is a decision that I do not regret because the breakup was very difficult for me at that time and it helped me stop thinking of him. Pag nakikita ko older sis niya nagbabatian kami like the old times and wala naman nababanggit about dun sa pag-unfriend.

If maayos naman ang breakup, like no cheating involved, probably I will retain the guy as an fb friend pero iuunfollow ko so I wouldn't have to see his posts muna.

Nakakatagal lang ng pagmove on kasi pag meron ka pang constant updates on your ex-bf's life.

[Girltalker2]

Mga sis, I believe kasi I have moved on na. Kaso regarding his friends na nag a-ask na maging friend ko, also his relatives, parang di ko kasi feel. Ninang namin sa kasal, up until now iniignore ko. Parang Medyo disrespectful lang on my part pero kasi if possible talaga, I don't want to have anything to do with them sana. Hays, not sure what to do.

[Queen Chokolah]

If you want, you can accept the friend request sis, then add her sa "restricted" list mo. That way, she still cannot see your profile (only the public updates), but this is tricky because if your profile is too private, meaning lahat ng details naka "friends only", medyo halata. Pero well, malay ba nya kung hindi ka lang talaga mahilig mag post. And then unfollow her-hindi rin sya lalabas sa newsfeed mo unless sasadyain mong i visit ang profile nya. But of course may catch-she can always message you. If you don't respond, ma ooffend din.

[purple.strawberry]

Ang mahirap kasi is if inaccept mo and then nagmessage sa'yo, dapat sagutin mo otherwise magiguilty ka lang din na iseenzone messages nila. IMO you have the right to choose who you're going to let in your life - whether in real life or your life in fb. If I were in your shoes and di ako comfortable hindi ko iaaccept and then let the matter rest.

[ilovejdy]

sis Queen Chokolah you are right, its the exact same thing I would usually do, exes man yan or people that you just don't want seeing your posts - i would be restricting them. when i post friendly0general quotes, i put them as public para hindi halata na nakarestrict sila.  And I do unfollow people that are just too annoying to see sa fb, yung tipong bawat minuto may post ng pagmumukha nila and all other toxic people na hindi mo ma-unfriend kasi people will think of you as the "bitter one" kapag inunfriend mo, like an ex... so just do that.

[pret_ty68]

Mga sis, I believe kasi I have moved on na. Kaso regarding his friends na nag a-ask na maging friend ko, also his relatives, parang di ko kasi feel. Ninang namin sa kasal, up until now iniignore ko. Parang Medyo disrespectful lang on my part pero kasi if possible talaga, I don't want to have anything to do with them sana. Hays, not sure what to do.

Just Add and unfollow in that way you will not appear rude but will keep you from being annoyed by people you don't like to see in your newsfeed. Minsan ang iba nag pa pa add lang naman dahil kilala ka nila wala namang balak makipag communicate.

[laidbacklei]

I didn't unfriend nor block my ex, it's the other way around. Our 7-year relationship ended up badly. After a few months, di ko na sya mahanap sa fb and restricted nako magreply sa previous messages namin. In-unfriend din ako ng ibang kapatid nya. It's been 4 yrs since our break-up and 3yrs na sila ng bago nya. 2 months ago, nagulat ako kasi biglang nag appear sa news feed ko ang post nya tagging a common friend. Meaning, in-unblock nya nko after 4yrs pero di kami naging friends ulit sa fb.

For me, kung okay naman ang naging break-up nyo, it's okay to remain friends on fb. Unfriending or blocking your ex will give him/her a notion that you have bitterness over the break-up. But if the relationship ended up badly, it's fine to remove your ex from your friends' list.

[Queen Chokolah]

sis Queen Chokolah you are right, its the exact same thing I would usually do, exes man yan or people that you just don't want seeing your posts - i would be restricting them. when i post friendly0general quotes, i put them as public para hindi halata na nakarestrict sila.  And I do unfollow people that are just too annoying to see sa fb, yung tipong bawat minuto may post ng pagmumukha nila and all other toxic people na hindi mo ma-unfriend kasi people will think of you as the "bitter one" kapag inunfriend mo, like an ex... so just do that.

Relate! haha Actually mas madami pa naka hide sa news feed ko kaysa sa nka show Then madami din ang nasa restricted list ko. Pero pina-public ko din yung iba para di mahalata lol.

Anyway, you can always "inbox" zone. Haha para at least di makita na "seen" yung message. May excuse na never mo talaga nabasa. Pero if you are really uncomfortable, I think maiintindihan naman nila sis na ayaw mo sila accept. What do they expect? I have read some of your posts so I know a little

[trizh]

Yes I unfriend him. Then, nagtry siyang i-add ako. Pero hindi ko na inaccept. Makakagulo lanh kasi sa buhay ko dahil hindi good ang ending and hindi rin kami friends in real life.

[pretty_B]

Did you unfriend your ex sa fb?
--NO. not yet? haha. nope. wala akong balak iunfriend sya.

How about in laws like sil and bil? Ni retain nyo ba friendship with them o hindi narin?
--YES. his little sister is still close to me. wala din akong balak putulin friendship with his family. they are all good to me so im just returning the good deeds.

[Jamann]

NO. He did. Hahaha my two ex unfriend me on facebook. Bitter!

[_AiaH_]

friends kami ng ex ko sa fb. walang nag unfriend. pero di kami naguusap. pero we've moved on na pareho. he's pursuing his passion in life and ako naman, married and having a baby next week

[ieiky]

^ FB friends kami ng ex ko.. facebook friends NA LANG. hahaha! Tinanggal ko na siya sa CLOSE FRIENDS para hindi ko na nakikita na nilalike niya lahat ng post ng ex of 5 years bago naging kami me at ganon din si girl sa kanya.. sakit eh! edi sila na close ulit after naming mag break (bitter!)

[itsnikimendoza]

my most recent ex hindi kami fb friends. hehe. medyo traumatic yung break up kasi we broke up because of infidelity issues. Although wala narin naman sakin, I'm already married and expecting a baby narin.

My ex before him, we're fb friends. nagbabatian pag birthday. ganun lang, civil.

[donzski_doinks]

Wala pa akong FB nung naghiwalay kami kaya never ko sya na-unfriend. Hehe. Pero nung nagka FB ako, maramjng times ako na-tempt na i-add sya pero pinipigilan ko sarili ko. I remember I tried to message him once kasi hindi naman restricted to friends inbox nya, but there was no reply. Di pa uso seenzone noon kaya di ko din sure kung nabasa nya o basta dinelete lang. Pero yung relatives nya (cousins, uncles and aunts) fb friends ko. Pero [textspeak!] kuya nya, hindi ko friend. In-add ako nun tapos ni-accept ko. Pero ni-unfriend din ako. Parang timang lang. Anyway, ala na ako pakialam sa kanila. I'm happily married. Ang huli kong balita, nag propose na sya sa gf nya. Tinanggap nung girl yung proposal kaso a month ago, nakipaghiwalay si girl. I got that news from his cousin.

[sugardrop]

I have 2 exes sa FB. One - we're good and even met up for coffee a couple of years ago. Yung isa, keber lang. And hindi naman ako updated sa kanila kasi over a year nang naka-deactivate fb ko.

[lovely_carrot]

I have 2 FB accounts before, 1 is for my personal use talaga, the other was for work. When we broke up, di ko pa sya binlock pero naka receive ako ng friend request from a girl na si ex lang ang mutual friend, this happened 3 weeks after we broke up so ang ending I deactivated my personal FB, blocked him from my daughter's FB and my work FB. Inalis ko yung mga former colleagues namin na may communication pa din sa kanya.

There were times na gusto ko sumilip to see how he's doing, lately I've been thing if I should unblock him na lang pero napipigilan ko pa sarili ko. I'm not sure if I'm ready to hear/confirm if may iba na sya.

Yung isang ex ko naman, (my daughter's dad) we're friends sa work FB ko pero I muted him conversation, pwede naman kami magtext if needed.

[jasmine18]

I stalk my ex(es) in fb! hahaha

ex #1 - can't find him
ex #2 - not friends with him but I found that he's living in with his gf and have 2 daughters
ex #3 - not friends with him and his fb profile is private (damot! haha)
ex #4 - friends with him, he's got a new gf and she seems nice
ex #5 - used to be friends with him, he unfriended me and got married (I rejected his marriage proposal  )
ex #6 - used to be friends with him, I unfriended him because he's too manyak 
ex #7 - friends with him, he's married with 2 sons