Looking for real Love

[switmhai21]

Looking for real love.. uso pa ba to ngaun. parang ang dami ngaun looking for fubu lang. Im not into it. simple lang ang gusto ko yong taong maging parat ng buhay q at mmahalin [textspeak!] for the rest of my life.

[simang]

Everybody wants the same thing.

If you're not into casual sex, then don't do it. If you want the 'real' thing, then be deserving of it -- be the right one instead of looking for the one. Ask yourself -- would you date yourself? In all honesty, would you want to love a person like yourself for the rest of your life?

[Girltalker2]

Finding real love is a long process. Hindi ibig sabihin na may nagkagusto sayo, puede na sya. Or kung may chemistry ka with him, kayo na.  May halong discernment din iyan kasi kung sinuman iyan, at balak mo sya makasama habang buhay, maraming factors na kelangan ka iconsider.  Qualities nya, educational attainment, age, etc. Not to mention kelangan na single din or available at walang sabit.

If you stumbled on a guy na FUBU lang ang hanap, then ignore, move on, next.  Yes, mingle and meet more people, but be discerning and wiser to avoid people with bad influence at alam mong hindi ka magiging masaya sa ganun.

I like what I read in the other thread. Never assume.  Kasi sa panahon nga ngayon, feeling ko ha, guys are easily swayed narin kasi maraming girls din na humahabol sa guys, so papatulan nila agad.  So sino nalang ba ang guys na matitira for you if they would prefer women chasing them, younger pa at malalambing.  Well, ang sagot ko dyan, it takes an extraordinary guy to hold ground to his values and sya yung worthy mo makilala. Hindi sya madali hanapin, especially sa Pinas pa na ang daming manloloko.  Pero be respectiable, sabi nga ni sis simang, dapat likeable, dateable, respectable ka rin for someone na eligible din to pursue you.







 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

i still believe na there's someone out there that the universe assigned for you. 

[anonemus]

@switmhai21, real love is perennial as the grass, sabi nga ni Kahlil Gibran. Read the advises of many wise sisters here at GT (like the ones above) and especially the sob stories from the others here so you can learn and get tips from them. 

[tomatostellar]

1. iwas textspeak (charot -- no, seriously )
2. follow other GT'ers advise, but then again experience is the best teacher
3. aim for self-improvement 

[fredprinz]

Again:

1) Get a new hobby
2) Focus on self-improvement
3) Travel
4) Spend time with yourself - go read a good book, eat at fancy restaurants
5) Have FUN
6) Make an effort to meet men - This is VERY important. Hindi ka lalapitan ng sangdamakmak na lalake overnight

[travelchic]

If you stumbled on a guy na FUBU lang ang hanap, then ignore, move on, next.

Hahahaha! AGREE!! My gosh, ang daming lurkers and predators dito sa GT! Kulang na lang reply-an ko ng "di ako sawsawan! Sa iba ka sumawsaw!". Ignore, move on, next!!

[leapilario]

You dont look for it, you wait for it. If you look for it okay lang basta make sure kilalanin muna ng husto yung tao at dapat kung liligawan ka nya nakikita ng lahat hindi yung ikaw lang kasi once infatuated ka sa kanya, blinded by love ka na nun #speaking from experience haha i dont wanna repeat this same mistake again

[argento]

even if the person comes na seryoso at mahal ka kung di mo rin gusto wala rin.

[akosimaiatot]

Sometimes, love isn’t a feeling you force upon yourself; it just happens When you start to spend more time with another human being, you expose yourself to whom he or she is  all the idiosyncrasies, past experiences, what makes him or her happy or sad, dreams and ambitions in life, flaws and the depths of his or her heart and most important is it needs to be RECIPROCATED

[mysterioza_me]

Ang love sa panahon na to trial and error na din. Swerte-swerte na lang.  Que hanapin mo o hintayin mo wala pa ring guaranty na magtatagal maski ikasal pa kayo.

[honeybunny]

in the book i read, the love language, everyone uses the word love, i love cheeseburger, i love shoes, etc etc

what is real love ba? i think it is over used and overrated.

[killbill]

Again:

1) Get a new hobby
2) Focus on self-improvement
3) Travel
4) Spend time with yourself - go read a good book, eat at fancy restaurants
5) Have FUN
6) Make an effort to meet men - This is VERY important. Hindi ka lalapitan ng sangdamakmak na lalake overnight

1. Boxing / gym. Check
2. Already lost 5kg. Maintain ang pagpa derma etc. Working on it
3. Can't travel pa atm
4. Been doing this for so long.
5. Hmmm madalang na maka gimik since laging pagod from gym
6. For me ito pinaka mahirap kasi circle of friends ko puro beki and most guys na nakikilala ko puro for fun lang ang trip eh ngayon ang thinking ko hindi ako nag effort sa gym at mag diet para sa ganun lang. Swerte naman nila kung ganun

[ember_sky]

Don't settle for less than what you deserve.

Sana mahanap ko na rin ang real/true love ko. 

[j.adore]

In my experience, this came when I wasn't looking for it.
But yes, self improvement is key.

[hemelse03]

In my experience, this came when I wasn't looking for it.
But yes, self improvement is key.

i agree sis j.adore... self-improvement...and I also believe that God has a plan for anyone...everyone... noon akala ko yung relationship ko ng 10years real love na... hindi pala.. so i stop believing na may real love talaga....then someone came into my life and prove to me that real love exist.

[anapatootiee]

Dapat complete ka na, di yung maghahanap ka pa ng taong kukumpleto sa'yo. Pag nangyari yun, ibibigay ni God ang best love story for you

[honeybunny]

paano ba maging complete? paano ba hanapin ang sarili?

[anapatootiee]

Actually ikaw lang din makakasagot nyan kung complete ka na or what eh. Siguro kung ide-devote mo yung life mo kay God and ittrust mo sya, magiging bonus na lang yung real love.