Dating: Why some guys won't commit

[17glut]

Naguguluhan na talaga ako sa kanya. Isang araw lang nangyari tong lahat na ikkwento ko.

Una, kinausap nya ko tungkol sa tinext ko sa kanya the other day. Maiksi lang sagot ko kasi isang simple topic lang yun. Hindi na nya pinahaba yung usapan kung gusto nyang makausap pa nga ako..

Then, nakikita kong patingin tingin na lang sya sakin the next couple of hours pero di na nya ako kinakausap. Napatingin din sya sakin nung may guy na kumausap sakin.Nagaabang ako kung magseselos sya kasi may pumansin saking iba pero di sya nagpapansin sakin e.

Nung nagdinner kame, tumabi sya sakin. Then lumingon kunwari sa side ko para tingnan lang ata ako. Nung dumating na order nya pero wala pa yung order ko, inalok nya sakin yung side dish nya. Kumuha naman ako. Di naman nya ako kinausap after.

Nag aabang ako ng moves nya pero wala na hanggang sa naguwian kame.

Natutuwa lang syang tignan ako, ganun ba yun?

syota mo ba to o person of interest (aka: kras)? 

[Tootsie31]

^ yup, he's the guy i like. Pakiramdaman stage pa ata, hindi pa kame. Hehe

[17glut]

^just wait it out teh...pakiramdaman mo muna talaga sya, malalaman mo naman kung may something sya towards you pag nagpakita na ng motibo yan. Ang lalake kahit gaano pa katorpe yan, madaling mahalata pag may natipuhang babae. 

Laging tandaan, nasa huli ang pagsisisi... 

[Tootsie31]

^ok. Thanks sa replies. Ang tagal na kasing pakiramdaman with him. Months na!

[misslovelyjoy]

Same situation. Ayaw pa din magcommit ni guy for now. 😐

[Ms.Cacao70%]

tootsie31, kung months na yan ay nako wag ka nang makipag patintero sa kanya. move on ka na sa iba  kase baka merong mas ok pa sa guy na yan na hindi mo napapansin kase intay ka ng intay na may mangyari sa inyong dalawa or meron syang sabihin.

that strategy always works sa akin noon. kung di mo alam ang pakay ng lalake, make friends with other guys or just go on with your life. don't make yourself available to him all the time para di ka mukang nagiintay or nagpapapansin. tingnan mo, di yan makakatiis at magsasalita. pero pag ayaw pa din that means torpe or talagang kuntento lang sa pasulyap sulyap haha

my husband used to be like that when we were officemates, torpe kaya patingin tingin lang and barkada kami. i knew may gusto sya sa akin pero siguro na-intimidate.  i accepted a job in another department, hindi na kami madalas nagkikita at akala ko wala na hanggang don lang yon. whoala! sa xmas prestentation we were part of the same group at naging partner ko pa sya sa dance. ayun after the xmas party, nagkalakas loob magsalita kung pwede ba syang manligaw. naging kami then i left to migrate abroad. sumunod sya and the rest is history  men love the thrill of chase! kahit na sa modernong mundo, they still enjoy yung mga girls na hindi madaling makuha 

[Tatrix]

This is based on what my guy friend said. Ganito daw kasi siya noon bago niya na meet yung wife niya.

Noong una, mahilig din siya makipagdate. May mga nagugustuhan naman daw siya pero wala yung masasabi niya na mamahalin niya. Kaya hindi makapagcommit kasi he was hoping to find someone better pero ayaw niya paring pakawalan kasi baka nga naman may madevelop. Inamin niya naman a*sh*le talaga siya noon. Wala siyang pakialam kung may nasasaktan siya. Pero nung nameet niya na yung wife niya, siya na daw talaga mismo ang naghabol. Hindi niya alam kung anong meron pero ayaw na ayaw niya na daw pakawalan (he felt that way even before naging officially sila). He was scared to lose her. Anyway, mabait yung girl. First boyfriend niya yung friend ko. Pero siya din yung tipo ng nagpapaligaw talaga. Pero tiniis talaga yun ng friend ko at niligawan niya ng todo todo.

Yung story na ito, hindi naman applicable sa lahat ng lalaki. Meron parin namang mga lalaki na hindi dahil hindi pa sila kuntento sa dinedate nila, baka yung iba hindi pa ready or nasaktan na noon at nagiging careful na. Pero hindi parin maaalis na meron at meron paring lalaki ang katulad ng friend ko. So just be careful I guess. Basta hangga't walang commitment, huwag ibigay lahat. Alagaan at protektahan muna ang sarili para hindi masyadong masakit.

[argento]

do girls commit agad?

[red_yesha]

^katulad nyong mga lalake, Hindi din agad agad.

[Tatrix]

^^depende sa babae. Ako kasi kapag gusto ko, i'll commit. Kapag ayaw ko, sinasabi ko. But considering I'm in an alternative lifestyle, I'm honest naman sa preference ko. Ayoko kasing pinapaasa ako sa wala, kaya ayoko rin gawin sa iba.

[anirazc anasor]

Sis this is my situation..
Ive dated this guy for sometimes. I can feel na gusto nya naman ako, halata naman eh. The way he looks at me, the way he remembers details of a conversation about me, how he tries to get close to me when walking, sitting, etc., how he discuss his future with me, etc. Etc.

Nalaman ko lang later part na nung mga una naming dates na he was on a rocky relationship and they just broke up. The girl broke up with her and now has a new bf. Mga one month pa lang sila break when I ask him about us.

He said, exact words from him "ayaw ko sanang madaliin ang lahat saten kasi ayoko maging rebound kita, kc ayaw ko nmng mawala ka pa."

Should I buy it? Help.

[three8one]

^ uso pa ba yung sinasabi ng iba na 3 months rule after ng breakup?

anyway, para sakin (to poster above me) base sa story mo ayaw ka nya maging rebound pero gusto ka nya maging reserve... yun lang yun sis. kung hindi ka naman nagmamadali at willing to wait pede mo na rin siguro i consider yung sinasabi nya...

[honeybunny]

they wont commit because they are just not that into you.

[argento]

commitment should be mutual.

[misslovelyjoy]

commitment should be mutual.

Agree.

[mindiegirl]

Men love the (right amount of) chase. It's built in.

[snowhite_12]

Ang daming guys na dine date ko na ganito.  Calling all matino and ready to  commit na guys. Asan na kayo?

[im fine!]

Sis this is my situation..
Ive dated this guy for sometimes. I can feel na gusto nya naman ako, halata naman eh. The way he looks at me, the way he remembers details of a conversation about me, how he tries to get close to me when walking, sitting, etc., how he discuss his future with me, etc. Etc.

Nalaman ko lang later part na nung mga una naming dates na he was on a rocky relationship and they just broke up. The girl broke up with her and now has a new bf. Mga one month pa lang sila break when I ask him about us.

He said, exact words from him "ayaw ko sanang madaliin ang lahat saten kasi ayoko maging rebound kita, kc ayaw ko nmng mawala ka pa."

Should I buy it? Help.

1 month break, I think he's being honest to you. Maybe he feels something for you pero may takot na nga. Pigilan mo muna ma fall. Wag na rin munang maging close baka ikaw rin ang umasa sa huli. Be friends muna. And dont assume muna. Magulo pa isip nyan.

[argento]

i hope girls would stop connecting the word commitment to guys. as if girls always commit.

[red_yesha]

^correct