Ano ang kwento ng LOVELIFE mo ngayon? Part 4 :)

[cybelekronos]

simple lang, wala ko lovelife, pero pina feel ko sa sarili ko in love pa rin ako like, i'm falling in love with myself.

si myself muna unahin ko, ilan years ko na kasi sya hindi pinapansin, puro happiness na lang ng iba, and nakalimutan ko na sya. kaya nung mawala na lahat sila, si myself na lang naiwan, sya lang ang loyal. so unahin ko muna sya, prio ko muna sya, time na para mag relax naman sya..

may times na naguguluhan parin, at least in love pa rin lol 

[momentum]

kung wala kayong pinag-awayan TomHansen then I think her reason would be masyado kang naging clingy sa kanya na nasakal na siya sayo..hindi na siya masaya kasi siguro lagi kang available, parang wala ng spice..parang your all over her, you know what I mean? parang siguro it came to a point that it was too much na and she wanted to be "freed" kumabaga. Or maybe she got attracted to somebody else?

what did she tell you, if it's okay to share, when she was breaking up with you ba?
is it because about your being a freelancer? (you mentioned this before)..na parang she sees wala siyang future sayo?

I'm just trying to figure it out eh, kasi now lang ako naka encounter dito ng lalake na super heartbroken...I'm sure it is painful..pero bro wala ka na talaga magagawa eh. the more mo habulin, mas lalayo yan..iisipin niya napaka psychotic mong ex...kahit ako siguro kung ganun gagawin sakin ng isang ex ko na hindi ko na mahal, mejo matatakot na ako...kasi it's unlikely for a guy to beg and cry..although touching yun at respectable na some of us napagdaanan talaga yun at some point of our life, pero if yung receiving end is someone who has zero feelings na, iba na kasi impression nun sa kanila sadly compared to someone who still loves you..syempre ibang iba ang magiging reaction ng dalawang taong un...

and how can you heal and move on (if yun talaga gusto mo mangyari) if pati sa signature mo eh tungkol parin kay EX at reminder parin ng heartache mo hehe..di ako nakikialam pero lagi ko rin napapansin eh whenever I come across your username hehe

matatapos rin yang phase na yan bro....nasa in denial stage ka pa...at bargaining stage...pretty soon matatanggap mo na yan..and then the healing starts...siguro next time bro, huwag mo ibigay ng todo lahat..save some for yourself..para hindi na ito maulit na ganyan ka kadurog. I'm not saying na magmatigas ka. pero i-balance mo kahit papano - loving someone and loving yourself..

 

[TomHansen]

@momentum, siguro nga clingy ako pero once a week lang kasi kami nagkikita kaya sobra pagkamiss ko sa kanya nung time na yun.. Before kahit sandali lang gumagawa pa kami ng paraan para lang magkasama kami.

Yes malaking bagay yung pagiging freelancer ko nuon, bumagsak kasi yung company na pinapasukan ko pero imbes na lumipat agad nagstick ako to at least try to save it which means lumiit sahod for a few months, nagalaw ko savings ko but that is because i know kaya naming buhayin ang company(which we did) pero hiniwalayan niya pa rin ako.. Imagine after ng sacrifices naging ok na company kaso siya naman ang nawala.. She said wala daw akong diskarte, wala daw akong ambisyon which is hindi totoo, sinabi niya yun nung hiwalay na kami and nabreak ko yung no-contact..

Haha oo sige papalitan ko na yang sig ko madrama nga siya. I'm not sure kung kaya kong magmove on basta ngayon gising-trabaho-tulog-repeat lang ginagawa ko, walang buhay, walang spark, walang saya so yes sobrang heartbroken nga ako.. Parang ang hirap na ring magtiwala.

Buti nga napipigilan ko yung sarili na kontakin siya kaso ang hirap, palagi ko siyang naiisip, na sino na kaya ang nagpapasaya sa kanya, na sana pwede akong bumalik sa past at ayusin ko relasyon namin. Mahirap nga kapag masyado mong minahal yung tao sobrang sakit kapag iniwan ka sa ere.
Grabe sobra nga pagka-durog ko sis..

[killbill]

Kilig lang ako kasi suot nya yung tshirt na bigay ko sa kanya last time. 😊

[momentum]

TomHansen I know exactly how "grabe pagkadurog" means... I know because I went through it and I cant say I'm totally "fixed" yet. Buti nga kayo gf/bf palang... What more kung mag-asawa kayo? What more if the person you gave your everything, even your self-worth and identity, is the same person who crushed all of that into pieces and pamuka sayo how small and worthless you are to them...

If it's any consolation bro.. You are still lucky.. At least she has some respect left for you... Not everyone gets treated that way in a breakup sometimes..

[OtherBoleynGirl]

Hmm.. hindi ako sigurado kung lovelife nga itong maituturing. Yung kaibigan ko kase... ( i chose the word kaibigan kasi parang mas deeper ang meaning than friend hehe )

--Last year umalis yung gf niya to study abroad. Lahat na ata nang pwedeng gawin ng magkaibigan at magkarelasyon, nagawa na namin. wholesome man o hindi   Last week while drinking, humuhugot siya kasi napanood niya yung OTWOL at nasapul daw siya sa mga lines nung friend ni Jigs. Tapos tinatry kong palabasin yung nararamdaman niya. Sabi niya: "Meron akong ka-something, actually nagsabihan na nga kami ng feelings. Kaso mas pinili na lang namin na huwag pansinin yung nararamdaman namin dahil kay <gf niya>." While i was telling him advice blahblahblah, napaisip ako, sino kaya yun? Edi tinanong ko siya. Sabi niya "kilala mo pero di mo pa nakakausap". Napaisip ako ulet, e most of the time kami magkasama and kung di naman, iuupdate niya ko sa whereabouts niya. Labo lang. Which had me thinking again, ako kaya yun? Or nagfifeeling lang ako? 

Tingin niyo po?

[momentum]

Lahat na ata nang pwedeng gawin ng magkaibigan at magkarelasyon, nagawa na namin. wholesome man o hindi

Sorry, but did you mean here that Friends with Benefits kayo? If yes, and since wala naman nakarugtong na "ex" sa gf niya, then that just plainly means your just his meantime, friend with benefits.. Nothing more. Kung tama nga akong friends with benefits kayo then girl, huwag ka ng umasa you will be more than that, unless hiwalayan niya ng TUTUO yung ldr gf niya. Kung nakukuha ka na niya (friendship and a warm body in times of need) at pumapayag ka naman kahit alam mong may gf siya, then alam niyang okay lang yun sayo at pinapaasa ka lang siguro niya para hindi ka parin bumitiw.. Para may ldr gf na siya, meron pa siyang in the flesh na friends with benefits.. Saya ni kuya lol best of both worlds lol... For free.. For his satisfaction

[TomHansen]

OtherBoleynGirl rejoice, ikaw nga yung tinutukoy niya.. Now grab him by the balls at wag mong papakawalan bihira ang ganyang lalaki. hehe joke..

[slickchick]

Sorry, but did you mean here that Friends with Benefits kayo? If yes, and since wala naman nakarugtong na "ex" sa gf niya, then that just plainly means your just his meantime, friend with benefits.. Nothing more. Kung tama nga akong friends with benefits kayo then girl, huwag ka ng umasa you will be more than that, unless hiwalayan niya ng TUTUO yung ldr gf niya. Kung nakukuha ka na niya (friendship and a warm body in times of need) at pumapayag ka naman kahit alam mong may gf siya, then alam niyang okay lang yun sayo at pinapaasa ka lang siguro niya para hindi ka parin bumitiw.. Para may ldr gf na siya, meron pa siyang in the flesh na friends with benefits.. Saya ni kuya lol best of both worlds lol... For free.. For his satisfaction

i agree to this sis momentum.. sis otherboleyngirl, medyo isip isip sis.. based sa kwento mo, mukhang yung guy friend mo lang ang may advantage dyan sa situation.. siguro if you're not after a serious and committed relationship (tipong pang parausan nyo lang ang isa't isa, pardon the word ahh..) sige lang sis.. but if you're expecting a serious and committed relationship to blossom from what you and your guy friend is doing, don't keep your hopes high... nakukuha nyang lokohin ang gf nya na nasa abroad, what makes you think hindi nya yun kayang gawin kapag naging kayo (considering the way you two started)? just my two cents worth ahh..

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on the topic:

steady lang... may mga rough patches na pinagdadaanan paminsan-minsan, but at least we are able to resolve those conflicts right away.. hindi kailangan patagalin, pag tulog sa gabi tapos na rin ang away, di na pinapaabot kinabukasan...

[mooncake and leaves]

Woke up today with the biggest smile on my face. Can't stop smiling. 😍

[junetwentythree]

^ Read your story! What a refreshing change of pace to see someone who refuses to stay in a bad relationship! Good for you, sis! Keep it up. Love yourself first.

[reighnyielle]

^^ Good for you sis!  Kudos to you for not settling for something that you don't deserve

[OtherBoleynGirl]

TomHansen hehe *apir*

Sis SlickChick and momentum salamat sa inyo. Ang totoo niyan, sinasabi din yan ng mga kaibigan ko sa akin. Parang hindi lang ako nakikinig. Tigas ng ulo. Pero ngayon, wala na kaming extra curricular ni friend. Yun lang, everytime na nagcchat kami ng gf niya, naiirita na ko kay girl 
Ngayon, tinatry ko na wag maging always available for him. Sa texts and sa tweets na lang kami naguusap. Parati na ako sumasama sa mga officemates ko mag dinner/inom after work. Nagstart ako this week ng "project better-ing myself" (if there's ever such a word). Nag nonovena ako, nagbabasa ng purpose driven life, nagpapaka alone. Sana makahanap na ako ng totoong boyfriend. Sana din marealize niya kung sino/ano talaga yung gusto niya sa buhay niya.

Haist, asar parang ang lungkot tuloy ng buhay ko..

[imprincessfiona]

^Pray hard ka lang sis OtherBoleynGirl. Good things come to those who wait. I am glad that you have decided to let go and move on. Been there sis.

[momentum]

kaya mo yan OtherBoleynGirl  ..one day marerealize mo nalang na bakit nagpaka t@nga ka sa taong yun and tatawanan mo nalang lahat ng nagawa mo pero susumpain mong hindi na mauulit muli..
Ganyan naman napagdadaanan natin when we realized na sakit lang nakuha natin sa ganyang klase ng lalake..na sana we realized it earlier..pero better late than never diba.

iwas iwas nalang..then you'll get used to it na wala na siya sa system mo. just be firm na enough is enough na..you deserve better than what he can offer..you deserve a better guy

[slickchick]

walang anuman sis otherboleyngirl.. i'm glad na nakikita mo na yung reality dyan sa situation nyo ni guy.. well yung pagkainis mo dun sa girl/gf, it just shows na may feelings ka na dun sa guy, na hindi lang simpleng pa-extra extra curricular yung sa inyo.. so it's really good that you're trying to avoid him. nasa atin din naman mga babae yan, kung di tayo magpapakita ng motibo sa guy, they would not make further advances.. sa tingin ko rin sis, wag mo isipin na malungkot ang buhay mo. kasi kapag may ganyan mindset ka, the tendency is you will hook up with the first guy that comes into your life (kahit pa low quality sya). get to know yourself better sis ngayon na single ka. know what you're looking for in a guy, and ano yung mga non-negotiables mo sa guy at sa relationship. para kapag may dumating, you can check whether the guy fits your "standards". again, just my two cents worth ahh..

[OtherBoleynGirl]

sa tingin ko rin sis, wag mo isipin na malungkot ang buhay mo. kasi kapag may ganyan mindset ka, the tendency is you will hook up with the first guy that comes into your life (kahit pa low quality sya). get to know yourself better sis ngayon na single ka. know what you're looking for in a guy, and ano yung mga non-negotiables mo sa guy at sa relationship. para kapag may dumating, you can check whether the guy fits your "standards".

yes, sis slickchick, that's what i'm currently doing right now. yung mga posts ni FN dito regarding knowing and loving thyself helps me a lot!

kaya mo yan OtherBoleynGirl  ..you deserve a better guy

thanks sis momentum. mahanap ko na sana si better guy, or mahanap na sana niya ako, hehe.

^Pray hard ka lang sis OtherBoleynGirl. Good things come to those who wait. I am glad that you have decided to let go and move on. Been there sis.

salamat sis imprincessfiona -- kakabasa ko ng mga advices niyo, nanunumbalik yung nawala kong confidence

[sweet.hann]

nakakatuwa naman ditu.. hehe.. it is better to learn from other's experiences.. para sa iba kasi they learn by experience..

one thing i learned is yung pagiging fubu.. i mean, wala naman ako nun pero weeks ago, meron akong guy friend na naka-flirt (nagsimula sa wholesome flirting na medyo sume-seryoso na). pero with all the stories i've heard and read with regards to the thing, naging aware na din ako. yung last time kasi na nagkasama kami ni guy, may something na.. not emotional.. nung hinawakan nya kasi yung kamay ko, may naramdaman akong weird.. first time ko naramdaman yun with a guy pero alam ko kung ano yun.. alam natin yun.. kaya nagdecide na ko na iwasan na talaga sya.. nung nakita ko sya, binati ko naman sya pero hindi ko na hinayaang hawakan nya ulet yung kamay ko like he used to..

[Girltalker2]

Haist, asar parang ang lungkot tuloy ng buhay ko..

This is a common mistake girls have - no boyfriend means sadness. As a consequence, they put up with sub standard guys just for the sake of having a BF.

You have to learn to be happy on your own first before you can meet the right guy.

[Girltalker2]

kaya nagdecide na ko na iwasan na talaga sya.. nung nakita ko sya, binati ko naman sya pero hindi ko na hinayaang hawakan nya ulet yung kamay ko like he used to..

Kung may like button lang sana

I agree sis. Don't let them, ano sila hilo?

Hindi naman lahat ng lalaki manloloko, but it is best to set your boundaries. Default - protect yourself and unless they have proven otherwise, lahat sila manloloko. Coz it is better this way than be sorry later.