is it really possible for a girl and a guy to be best friends?

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, parang my best friend's wedding ba ang set up?

IMO, friends from the opposite sex siguro ok lang. Pero best friends?  Parang hindi ko matanggap especially if we have our SO's na. Mahirap din siguro for me to imagine it kasi mga close ko lagi babae lang.

Though I'm curious, how come you never hung out kung best friend siya ng fiance mo?

Ito pa.  Kung mag best friends sila and they are not of the same gender, hindi ba mas madali dapat maging close ka sa best friend ng h2b mo kasi pareho kayong girl? Mas marami kayong things in common etc?

may isa akong friend na nakilala ko yung wife (then gf) niya nung kinasal sila. at after getting married at nag-aral yung wife sa school namin doon na nagstart ang pangaaway niya sa akin at iba kong friends.

sis, ito talagang praning lang talaga yung wife. kawawa naman yung friend mo, at the same time, naiisip ko ano kaya ginagawa ng friend mo such that sobrang insecure wife nya?

though he tells me about his issues sa wife niya at ako rin kinukwento ko about sa hubby ko sa kanya.

Ito yung dangerous for me.  Once one start pouring out feelings about their SO's to their best friend (opposite sex), dito nag-s-start ang mga affairs sa office.  Ano pa kaya kung kilalang kilala mo na yung tao?  Kaya hindi ko mapicture na may mas close ka na opposite sex kesa sa partner mo.

[la_pinay]

yun lang. yes di talaga natin ma ppredict ang pwede mangyari. i mean even if married na kami, hindi ko naman maalis un fact na sila ang bestfriends. so [textspeak!] pag confide, sa isa't isa, sana talaga on that level lang. recently nga nagkwento c girl best friend k h2b about sa "first time" nya, i mean, she's a "V" kasi and recently lang nagkaroon ng experience. dedma lang ako, siguro ganun lang talaga sila ka close.

[aquacharly]

Yes, very possible.
IMO, much is dependent on the girl -- she sets the tone of the relationship.
I have quite a number of male friends; a few BFFs. 
Claro ng claro sa amin we are just friends, or like magkapatid. 

[quinone]

sis, ito talagang praning lang talaga yung wife. kawawa naman yung friend mo, at the same time, naiisip ko ano kaya ginagawa ng friend mo such that sobrang insecure wife nya?

lampas na ata kaming mga friends niya sa awa stage. si hubby nga sabi sa akin, mahal niya talaga yan chaka baka may 'high' daw sila sa away-bati relationship. tingin ko kasi si guy, tulad ng ibang lalake, tamad mag explain ng side niya so tingin ko may miscommunication sila.

Ito yung dangerous for me.  Once one start pouring out feelings about their SO's to their best friend (opposite sex), dito nag-s-start ang mga affairs sa office.  Ano pa kaya kung kilalang kilala mo na yung tao?  Kaya hindi ko mapicture na may mas close ka na opposite sex kesa sa partner mo.

ako nakikinig lang, hindi yung tipo na ico-console mo. kapag babae nagkwento ng troubles ang tendecy bigyan ko ng advice, pero pag lalake, pinapakinggan ko lang.

ewan ko ba, i've never ever been attracted to my guy friends.

[simang]

This makes so much sense, so let me share...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOYLIdyoF6Y&list=UU9HGzFGt7BLmWDqooUbWGBg

[insanelypurpleprincess]

Based on experience, having had a handful of guy bestfriends, here are some stuff I did in the past:
1. Whenever my guy bestfriend is in a relationship and I am not, I automatically take the backseat. I make my bestie make sure that gf feels secure about their relationship.
2. I make sure to make friends with the gf and make her understand that she may wonder at times why willing mag buwis buhay si guy bestie for me.. she needs to know that I will do the same kasi kaya ganun.
3. I make sure that I never meddle with their issues. I will never defend my guy bestie or speak on his behalf nor will I allow myself to be caught in between as mediator. Kung may away sila, bahala sila sa buhay nila.
4. When bestie and I are both in a relationship, we make it a point to introduce each other's boo.
5. Bestie and I will never go off and do activities on our own when either one of us is in a relationship with someone.
Works for us. Not a generic rule, but this is how I managed to remain besties with them all throughout.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ Never had that feeling eh. Selos has never been an emotion I felt towards a  guy bestie whenever may nililigawan siya. Supportive ako sa mga ganyan eh, so I play an active role in helping my friend plan out what to do to make the girl say yes! Pag di ko naman type yung girl, I'd usually be deadma or hostile.. towards my guy bestie to let him know na di ko feel ang choice niya.

[p0isonIvy]

yes it is possible. i only have one guy na bff. super buddies kami nito even if we always had our SO. although one time, bigla sya nag initiate ng mga intimate stuff, and we ended up sexting each other for about a week. after that, the sexual tension continued and it came to a point where we actually almost did it (while we both had our SOs). as in andun na yung bed, hihiga na lang kami. pero at the last minute, nahimasmasan kami. actually, sya yung pumigil. kasi ako, go lang ng go eh. hehe

surprisingly, after that incident, we still remained friends. we just laughed it off and charged it to raging hormones. were still very good friends to this date. 

[la_pinay]

^ were you both single when that happened?

[p0isonIvy]

^ nope. we both had our bf/gf. i was in an LDR while he was with a long-time gf. kaso wala na sila ngayon. i was not the reason ha. hehe defensive.and the guy i was with at that time is also now an ex.

btw, we never kissed or touched each other dun sa moment na we "almost" did it. talagang napigilan ng husto  . i guess maybe we were just bored that time haha

[la_pinay]

what made it "almost" kung walang touch or kiss?

sometimes that's the thing about having a bff of the opposite sex. regardless of whether it's lust or love, at one point someone initiates something. too dangerous lang. kahit "wala lang" un, it's still a matter of disrespect if you have your respective partners. just my 2 cents.

[p0isonIvy]

^ hmmmm well, "almost" because we were all alone in my room. tapos i was just wearing a robe. and i just came from the shower. and i was still dripping wet. hehe..so i started insinuating sex, you know how it is. and then he said hes starting to get a hard-on daw. before it got any further, and when we still both had our wits together, he finally got the courage to get out of the room before something happened. hehe..

true about what u said sis. and partly or mainly the reason why we stopped is because of the thought of our bf/gf. that never happened again btw. and we dont engage in sexting anymore after that incident. i still see him as a very good friend. and right now were both very committed to our respective partners/SOs.

pero sis, dont get paranoid ha. i saw from your posts kasi that your h2b has a girl bff and that shes your Maid of Honor. what happened to me and guy bff rarely happens naman. isolated incident lang din yun. its still a case to case basis syempre.

[la_pinay]

good for you sis. sometimes it's hard to resist the urge specially when it comes to physical na. good thing you both had the courage to avoid it when you were in the moment. 

[baliwsayo]

Yes. My best buddy is a guy. Dati sa kwarto niya pa ako natutulog tabi kami sa kama niya. Sobrang gwapo niya take note. Virgin pa ako noon so wala talagang malisya. Ngayon, hindi ko na alam kung ganun pa din. Haha! Madami na nagbago sa akin. Buti na lang nasa States na siya. Hihi! But yes, it's possible, kasi tulad sa akin feel ko parang kapatid ko na siya eh so parang incest kung magpatulan kami.

[j.adore]

Hmmm di ba dito papasok yung fundamental nature na lalaki siya at babae ka? So meron pa din chance, kahit slight.

I still think na pag may SO na, kailangan talaga itone down yung friendship out of respect for the SO. Kahit na sabihin pa na wala talaga, at least dun sa magbestfriend manggagaling na they do something to make sure the SO would never have anything to worry or doubt about.

[la_pinay]

^ true. lucky enough naman that h2b is reassuring. :>

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ la_pinay, it's a rather very good thing that you are facing these challenges NOW rather than later. Hopefully, you are able to put to bed any doubts, concerns or worries you have, so that this is taken out from the menu list of things to take care of once you're already hitched. Keep calm and enjoy preparing for your big day!

[la_pinay]

yes sis thanks!

[purple.strawberry]

I think at one point one will fall for the other, or at least there will be a moment na parang may "something." But what do I know. :p Never had a guy best friend.

[ohcmon]

I admit there are times na napapaisip ako paano kaya kung maging kami na lang ni guy best friend, hehe.

The idea was actually brought up by my mom na super boto kay guy best friend. Tapos sinabi niya kay guy, and apparently he was asking ano daw sinabi ko re the idea.

Pero parang hindi talaga eh. I wouldn't date someone na alam lahat lahat ng baho ko. Hahahaha or at least hindi naman agad-agad.