Is your BF addicted to online gaming too?

[cecilydee]

Bf is a gaming addict din. But he found me first before he became one. He tried to get me into the game..introducing it to me and make me play it along with him. Pero I eventually realized that I really dislike gaming. Waste of time and money. They will tell you all the excuses na stress reliever nila blah but I dont buy it really. Mas madami pang stress reliever na productive. I dont suggest you change for him ie. Become a gamer din especially if hindi mo personality talaga yoon. Ask to compromise. For us, 2 hrs everyday ang time ni bf. You cant tell an addict to change immediately. You just try to let him understand your point of view about gaming without judging him na mali ang ginagawa niya. And in the end understand that he needs this "2 hours" of time for himself. Good luck

[sofistikada_1230]

Thanks sis for sharing your story. I think I have to change I handle the situation too because I easily become agitated if it's our topic of conversation.

Hopefully I can convince him to lessen the time he spent in gaming and encourage him to do more productive activities.

Bf is a gaming addict din. But he found me first before he became one. He tried to get me into the game..introducing it to me and make me play it along with him. Pero I eventually realized that I really dislike gaming. Waste of time and money. They will tell you all the excuses na stress reliever nila blah but I dont buy it really. Mas madami pang stress reliever na productive. I dont suggest you change for him ie. Become a gamer din especially if hindi mo personality talaga yoon. Ask to compromise. For us, 2 hrs everyday ang time ni bf. You cant tell an addict to change immediately. You just try to let him understand your point of view about gaming without judging him na mali ang ginagawa niya. And in the end understand that he needs this "2 hours" of time for himself. Good luck

[Girltalker2]

Thanks sis for sharing your story. I think I have to change I handle the situation too because I easily become agitated if it's our topic of conversation.

Hopefully I can convince him to lessen the time he spent in gaming and encourage him to do more productive activities.

Communication helps a lot. Encouraging words like I like it when you spend more time on this and that... rather than... Huwag ka maglaro etc...

But bottomline, kung maayos naman ang communication ninyo, pero sa loob-loob nya gusto nya maglaro, there is no way that can keep him away from his games. Parang babae lang din iyan, kung nasa loob ang kulo, di mo talaga maiiwasan. Dapat mismo ang guy willing to do the right thing and know how to balance his life with his hobbies.

Siguro it also helps to understand him. What is his definition of a fulfilled life?  24/7 gaming ba?  Kung iyan ang sagot, kelangan siguro iwanan na si guy hehe Joke lang.  Pero know din what's important sa kanya and tugma ba kayo?

[simang]

I feel that online gaming is just like any other hobby... Sometimes I get glued to watching TV series as in isang buong season natatapos ko in one sitting lol. So I don't see anything wrong with spending time for it. My boyfriend plays online games too, he plays minsan kahit magkasama kami, and I just let him. When he's busy, I busy myself too. On a regular weekday na hindi kami magkasama, and we're on facetime, may moments na naka on lang yung facetime, and we do our own thing, naglalaro sya, and nagbabasa ako, or nanunuod ng series. And so far wala naman kaming problema doon. Di pa din naman umabot sa point na magpupuyat sya hanggang madaling araw para lang maglaro.

Hmm I have to agree with sis Girltalker, it's more of reinforcing the positive traits rather than setting rules. Instead of telling him na huwag ka na maglaro since we don't spend quality time together, tell him na you appreciate the time na ibaba nya muna console nya for some [textspeak!] with you.

[Girltalker2]

I guess what if.... wala nanga syang time for you, or hindi na kayo nakakalabas or nakakapag usap tapos malalaman mong napuyat dahil sa games?  Tapos if ever magkikita kayo, pilit na sya, then he shows up with a look na parang drug addict sya? 

Kapag ganyan hindi mo na makakausap nang matino di ba?  Better leave him?

(di naman sakin nangyayari ito, naisip ko lang. ano gagawin ng GF?  pano kung kasal na kayo?)

[sofistikada_1230]

you are right... ganun din naman ako, minsan, I just spend the whole day watching movies and series but this happens prolly one or twice a month. iba kasi yung sa case niya, constant. when he's doing nothing, he's busy playing app games sa phone or sa tablet or sa PC. pag weekend, bago matulog, nasa rest room, while working... alam nio yun? and when I talk to him or ask him to do something, I have to repeat what I said again and again (kinukulit ko siya) para lang gawin niya and to be honest, nakakapagod na. I just don't think na I have to deal with it... I mean come on, he's 37 y/o, marrying or past marrying age na but he doesn't act like it. sorry for venting out...

I tried positive reinforcement for three years but no effect...

I feel that online gaming is just like any other hobby... Sometimes I get glued to watching TV series as in isang buong season natatapos ko in one sitting lol. So I don't see anything wrong with spending time for it. My boyfriend plays online games too, he plays minsan kahit magkasama kami, and I just let him. When he's busy, I busy myself too. On a regular weekday na hindi kami magkasama, and we're on facetime, may moments na naka on lang yung facetime, and we do our own thing, naglalaro sya, and nagbabasa ako, or nanunuod ng series. And so far wala naman kaming problema doon. Di pa din naman umabot sa point na magpupuyat sya hanggang madaling araw para lang maglaro.

Hmm I have to agree with sis Girltalker, it's more of reinforcing the positive traits rather than setting rules. Instead of telling him na huwag ka na maglaro since we don't spend quality time together, tell him na you appreciate the time na ibaba nya muna console nya for some [textspeak!] with you.

[cecilydee]

^sis, I feel you. I know how frustrating your situation is kasi dumating din ako sa point na ganyan. Samut saring away and conversation ang ginawa namin bago magsettle sa 2hrs/day. I guess hindi ako nag full blown "nagging" nung LDR kami but as soon as nagkikita na kami, I tried hard to communicate my frustrations about gaming. In my opinion, better get my message across rather than keep myself in silence. Siyempre pinag aralan ko rin ang ugali niya kung matatanggap ba niya akong ganon or hindi. Kung hindi, eh di goodbye lol. Kung oo naman, I looked into his sincerity. Nasa communication skills ninyong mag bf and gf ito. Sa tingin ko nagkakaproblem lang kapag ang isa nag titimpi lang sa ugali ng isa at kapag ang isa pinagpapatuloy ang ugali na nakakasira sa relationship. Kaya mabuti nang sabihin ng paspasan bago lumaki pa lol

[iamanndee]

Super addict! Dota and Diablo 3. Di ko na lang nga pinapansin kasi wala din e. Para akong may kasama pero wala.

Maski walang tulugan kaya diretso talaga! Di ko na alam gagawin.

[Pink_Sugar]

Baligtad naman sa situation namin ni bf, ako yung gamer. 8-10 hours akong nakaharap sa pc to play my games before nung addict pa ako. Si bf laging tulog lang sa kama, buti na lang mahilig sya matulog. Pero yun pala may sama na sya ng loob sa akin. Natigil lang akong nung na discontinue na yung app. :-(

[saymynameangelica]

He is. Though nung LDR pa kami he still make it a point na when its time of
our skype-ing he's available. Nagbago na lang nung nagkasama na kami. He's always infront of the pc to play not online games but also off line games in case magloko yung net. It's not really a big deal for me pero i prefer sana na bawasan nya yung time nya for that and do something more productive instead.
I do play games too but mostly pag may vacant time lang ako, mostly I prefer to watch movie or read books instead of playing games.
Hopefully di naman kami magkaroon ng malaking away about sa pagiging game addict nya. If ever that happens I'll talk to him and will still try to make agreement to him instead of nagging him.

[sofistikada_1230]

Hi sis, napag-uusapan naman namin kaya lang kasi in denial din siya na he really is addicted to online games... so pag ganun, diba ang hirap kausap? kaya lang nauuwi sa away.

^sis, I feel you. I know how frustrating your situation is kasi dumating din ako sa point na ganyan. Samut saring away and conversation ang ginawa namin bago magsettle sa 2hrs/day. I guess hindi ako nag full blown "nagging" nung LDR kami but as soon as nagkikita na kami, I tried hard to communicate my frustrations about gaming. In my opinion, better get my message across rather than keep myself in silence. Siyempre pinag aralan ko rin ang ugali niya kung matatanggap ba niya akong ganon or hindi. Kung hindi, eh di goodbye lol. Kung oo naman, I looked into his sincerity. Nasa communication skills ninyong mag bf and gf ito. Sa tingin ko nagkakaproblem lang kapag ang isa nag titimpi lang sa ugali ng isa at kapag ang isa pinagpapatuloy ang ugali na nakakasira sa relationship. Kaya mabuti nang sabihin ng paspasan bago lumaki pa lol

[purple.strawberry]

For me, if he enjoys doing that, e di go. Magiging issue lang sa'kin if he spends too much time on playing online games and there are important responsibilities na napapabayaan na niya, or mismong ako feeling neglected. Otherwise, I won't force him to do activities I deem "productive" and instead let him spend his weekend the way he wants to.

I used to be a gamer din and know how addicting it is. Kasabayan ko older brothers ko, all of whom still now e naglalaro pa din ng games, ibang platforms na nga lang kesa before.

[erza0916]

Sobra.

Simula ng nakilala ko sya mahilig na talaga sya sa online games and manuod ng anime. Naglalaro din naman ako dati may time pa nga na tinuro ko sa kanya yung kinakaadikan ko aba mas naging adik pa sya. Highschool pa lang kami nun.

 Ngayon nakapag move on na ako sya naglalaro parin. Clash of clans na lang nilalaro ko ngayon siya kung [textspeak!] ano panh RPG. Ok lang naman sakin kasi naccutean ako sa kanya pag nakikita kong focused sya sarap istorbohin haha

Ang ayoko lang eh lagi syang napupuyat and lumalabo lalo mata nya. Saka ag kumakain kami kailangan nanunuod sya ng anime s phone nya. Pag may kasama naman kaming ibang tao kaya naman nya kumain ng hindi nanunuod. Minsan kailangan ko pang paalala na sumubo sya parang bata. Nako sana hindi mamana ng baby namin yung ganyan.

[IamColleen]

Sakin okay lang na nag gegames sya. Ako din naman ei, pero gusto ko yung mga farms lang..

[huggykaye]

at 33 y/o, i'm glad he's not...

[gabriel kate]

That GUY!!Yeah he is a addicted to onlines games and i really hate it..tsss.feeling ko kasi nahahati yung time nya sakin..sa umaga nagstudy sya then sa gabi maglalaro sya tapos magtetext sya super late na..yung tipong maggoodnight nalang sya sayo,tssssssssss.....hindi ko naman sya kayang pagbawalan kasi baka masakal sya!so hinahayaan ko nalang sya...whoooooooo

[crzysxycl]

hubby is an online game addict too. pag minsan pinupuna ko sya, sasabihin nya, kesa naman daw mag barkada, mag inom at kung ano ano pang bisyo, at least daw yun lang ang kanya haha. eh kasi naman minsan kailangan na kumain, hindi makatayo sa kakapindot! napupuyat din madalas sa kakalaro. pero nagasawa na rin ako sa kakapuna haha. may point naman din sya, wala akong problema pagdating sa mga pagsama sama sa tropa, at hindi rin sya umiinom ng alak. minsan lang pag nakikisama at may okasyon, pero tama na yung isang shot, bilis kasi rin sya mahilo lol! ngayon tinuruan nya ako nung isang game na nilalaro nya, kaya medyo na hook na rin ako. sabi nga nila, if you can't beat them, join them. haha!

[LeallianFaye]

My husband IS a gamer. Like when his sweldo comes unang gagastusin niyan new games etc. He'd sometimes play 9 hours straight, 24hrs even if the game really interests him.

I just let him be naman, paminsan I join him kung gusto ko yung game. I'm a big gamer aswell. I don't know... hindi naman siya big issue sakin. I met him like that and he really enjoys yun. Isip ko nalang why would I take away something that is making him happy, I have a life on my own naman, I do what I do when he's on his "throne". I'm not saying na wala kang life on your own sis ha, just instead of blowing your frustrations at him as to why wala siyang time for you, enjoy mo yung free time mo nalang na yun and you wouldn't even notice na magtext na siya or nanjan na siya or nagsawa na siya sa games niya. Of course, you can make singit in between naman like text him how his game was, is he enjoying itn pag magkasama naman kayo offer him a break like gawa ka ng snacks and stuff.

As to age naman and responsibilities, he can be 18 to 60 if it's his passion keber lang as long as he knows his responsibilities and priorities.

I don't mind naman when we were still together that sometimes in a day I only get an hour with him kasi bawi naman the next day cos he's really really sweet and caring, parang bawi na niya. hehe!

[Jamann]

Maswerte ako kase hindi sya mahilig sa mga game, sa BIR kase no chance sila mag petiks! Unlike sa work ko I am so super duper chillax! After work he has no time to do such things kaya ayun. Buti di ko pa naranasan yung ang pakiramdam eh si 'DOTA O AKO' hehe

[ajang]

kami kasi ni hubby pareho kaming gamer mapa mmorpg man o console o android o lan games. what we did is kapag mmorpg's or yung games na mala-level up ang style palage kami partner and alam ng lahat na mag-asawa kami. despite of being a game addict we still have time for bonding pa like shopping, cooking, etc. and we still have quality time for our furbaby. (since wala pang baby si doggie muna).

just let him play sis but be mindful din kasi iba ang gaming world, di lahat nang nandyan ay lalake may mga babae din na alam mo na. if you want you can also ask him to teach you. pero kung di mo talaga trip ang gaming world pwede siguro kayo magkaroon ng deal like "you'll give gaming a try then he'll give anything you like to do a try". ang importante talaga wag umabot sa point na totally wala na syang oras sayo.

pero breaking up is not a solution, in my pov it's better na ma-hook sa games kesa sa babae o bisyo.