Kailangan ba talaga Binyagan si Baby kaagad? Hindi ba pwede sa 1 year old niya?

[iska-hazel]

^Partida nung nagpunta ako sa house nitong weekend walang wala akong na brought up about plans of baptismal kundi ang concern ko matulungan niya ako sa panganganak ko. Tapos biglang yan naging topic niya  na siya mag offer kailangan raw pabinyagan agad. Convince ko raw asawa ko na ganun ang gawin. Huwag na raw hintayin yung Nanay ng asawa ko. Sinabi ko lang na plano namin next year sa 1 year old tapos ayun hindi nga raw maganda na patagalin pa. Hindi na muna ako nakipag argue dahil ayoko muna humaba ang usapan. Gusto ko mag-usap muna kami ng hubby ko kung paano namin maconvince na plano na lang namin ang masunod. Mas gusto ko pa nga na yung binyag ng bata decision namin dahil siempre sa Godparents na ayaw namin ma-question pa na bakit si ganito kukunin namin tapos si ganito hindi. Masaklap yung two of the most important Godparents hindi pa makakadalo kasi nasa ibang bansa gusto ko nga pauwiin next year para siya mismo ang naandun rather than proxy lang. Ayoko talaga sa binyag na maging pilitan. Di bale na yung bday party.

sorry if i missed out on anything, but the solution here would be you talking it all out to your mom, explain the situation na manganganak ka pa and iyon sana ang gusto mong unahin at para matulungan ka nya. Mahirap kasi sis na kumilos kayo mag-asawa on your own like your hands are tied at this point kung ang mom mo nagvolunteer pabinyagan panganay mo moreso sumagot ng binyag dahil sya sumagot sa kasal nun at sa future panganganak mo soon,

mommy mo yan kaya i believe she just wants the best for you... ganun talaga ang magulang natin, kausapin mo lang im sure you would meet halfway.

[BDJ]

^Hindi siya sumagot sa kasal namin, we still did it on our own saka we never ask anything during that time since Civil wedding yun. Naiplano namin sana yung Church wedding pero nagkaproblema si hubby si certificate. Bonus part lang naman na nagbigay siya ng cash as gift to us, but of course we still put that as part of our savings. Kapag event na ang usapan like kung mag Catholic wedding, una it is our call kung kailan namin gagawin, pangalawa we still want to plan and do that on our own without asking help from others lalo na in terms of finances. Kasi no. 1 na iniiwasan namin ay yung parating may makikialam sa plano tapos in the end sa amin magsuffer.

Panganganak lang talaga naging usapan namin though willing siya tumulong run ang sabi niya basta bayaran muna namin lahat ni hubby then saka siya tutulong. Pinagpaplanuhan rin namin siempre kung paano kami mag explain sa kanya. I understand the point about the kid na dapat binyagan agad pero ayoko naman kasing maging sobrang dragging. Ayoko naman na for the sake of mabinyagan lang. Gusto namin mapagplanuhan mabuti kung sino ang dapat na invited kahit na yung iba hindi sila ang Godparents. Isa pang gusto kong organize mabuti yung invitation rin, in a sense na lalagyan ko talaga ng reservation seats parang sa kasal. This is to avoid the fact na magdala pa ng mga hindi naman invited. Again both of us ni hubby are particular in guests list. Gusto naman namin na yung event may halong respeto man lang. Hindi naman maiiwasan sa ganitong klaseng event na ma-involve ang budget.

Nag-usap nga rin kami ulit ni hubby kagabi masaklap rin na may aalis pa na isa pang gusto niyang maging Ninong  Yung mga pinakaimportanteng Godparents na gusto namin 4 pa na silang wala. We give much importance kasi siempre sila nga yung pangalawang magulang na pipiliin namin.

[sparklingjewel]

I personally feel that parents should have the right to decide what they want to do. Not grandparents, not the priest nor anyone else. And we need not judge them based on that decision.

It all depends on your beliefs din, there are plenty of Catholics who do not feel the urgency to do the baptism in the first few weeks/months and it does not make them any less who they are. Usually it's just the grandparents or other elders in the family (and of course church community) who have this traditional paniniwala and who place judgement on them because it's not what they're used to or prefer.

Practicality is a big deal for parents who know they want to make the 1st birthday celebration for their baby a bigger and memorable one, instead of spending for two separate occasions. It's not a sin to want to do one big celebration. All parents want the best they can afford for their child. We should respect every parent's decision regardless of whatever people around them think.

[April30]

^Agree with you Sis. Though my previous 3 children used to have their baptism earlier than their birthday, I didn't really feel the urgency to do so. The rule "your child, your rule" still applies. It wouldn't make you less Catholic or less Christian. BTW, Baptism at an early age used to be a Catholic tradition. Other religions or sect, like example, Born Again Christians, prefer to baptize an adult one who really would understand the purpose of being Baptized. They only dedicate their young children. Iba-iba naman tayo ng paniniwala.