Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[nene1117]

^^sis, how would you know na nagsisi o pinagsisihan na nya yung ginawa nya? I mean ano mga ginagawa nya.

^^^bro, ano yung mga usual things na ginagawa ng guy para mabalik ulit tiwala nung girl? Or ano mga ginagawa nya para pagsisihan mga naging kasalanan nya? Or yung pagcheat nya sa gf.

ang hirap sagutin para sa akin, kasi sa case ko, you'll feel na nagsisisi siya.. nag-effort siya to get me back.tsaka you'll see on his face na he's so ashamed on what he did

[jtansanco]

^^ I can't really answer this question since I've never been in this position but let's see... Words can only go so far so a guy needs to show it through his actions. How to bring back the trust? In the movies.... Probably, effort is the only action that he can do. Make her breakfast every day (assuming live-in but doubtful in the PH), give her flowers frequently, write cards to her (as in write), be her "driver", allocates more time for her, set up well-planned lunch/dinner dates, and the likes. Basta mga pang-movie moves. Haha

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ over the top bj might do the trick

[telekikay]

bea31,

sabihin mo umuwi ng maaga or else, papangit ang baby! ewan ko kung hindi mag half day, everyday yan hehe

[jtansanco]

Thanks sa mga sagot. Hehe.

Another question, my tendency ba talaga mangbabae ang hubby pag preggy si wify? Kasi syempre walang s*x nun. And ano yung pwedeng alternative nun para hindi maghanap si hubby sa iba kahit preggy si wify? Yung masasatisfy yung hubby? 9Months yun. Just curious.

I have no idea but that's the worst time for a guy to cheat. I doubt men would cheat during this stage knowing they are already a father-to-be.

[ziontrec]

I have no idea but that's the worst time for a guy to cheat. I doubt men would cheat during this stage knowing they are already a father-to-be.

i agree,

[xxcheiyexx]

I've been making out with this guy several times na, and ewan ko, last night after namin gawin parang naisip ko, ayaw ko na ng ganun. Haha not that gusto ko ilevel up ha. Basta parang ayoko na ng ganun hanggat di nagpoprogress yung relationship namin. How do I tell him no kapag sinabi niya or andun na kami ulit sa same situation?

[jtansanco]

^ So what are you two? Friends, best friends, MU, etc? Before the making out, ask him the dreaded question. Something like.... "(guy's name), we need to talk. What are we?" 

[xxcheiyexx]

Uhm, actually I'm not in a rush naman to know our status or progress the relationship. May mga instances na napag usapan namin yun pero di nya rin madefine (like nung minsan, nagdadrama sya na yung pasalubong ko sa kanya is same lang ng binigay ko sa iba, sabi ko sabi kasi ng friend ko di naman kelangan iba yung pasalubong then sabi ni guy bat daw ako makikinig dun  eh hindi naman daw alam yung status namin. So tanong ko ano ba status natin, sabi nya di naman niya alam na nagkikiss na tayo). He made it clear din na I can't have lunch or dinner with guy friends ko kung 2 lang kami, so exclusively dating kami.
Yun lang talaga, gusto ko stop muna sa making out hanggat di clear ano kami. Not necessarily na idefine right now kasi kahit ako hindi ko pa rin alam in case ibalik nya sakin tanong.

[jtansanco]

^ Then be straightforward with him. If you're uncomfortable making out, then don't do it until you know your status. In your story, you seem to be so under him. He's telling you stuff but then you're not officially his girlfriend. If he makes another comment, then ask him: "Bakit kailangan iba yung pasalubong ko sayo? Boyfriend ba kita?" Or "Kaibigan ko yun e. Bakit bawal makipaglunch sa kanya? Boyfriend ba kita?"

[sugardrop]

^
There you go. You're "exclusive" yet not a a couple. Make it clearer.

[xxcheiyexx]

Ok. I'll try that next time. Baka lang ibalik nya sakin tanong eh..

[telekikay]

^ So what are you two? Friends, best friends, MU, etc? Before the making out, ask him the dreaded question. Something like.... "(guy's name), we need to talk. What are we?" 

lolz! sorry, cant help comment on the dreaded question...guaranteed to make all men tremble! but, i agree, she has to ask. otherwise, she's on the losing end...unless she's enjoying it.

[Pink_Sugar]

Sis cheyee: paano nangyari ang lahat? Biglaan ba yun?

[jtansanco]

lolz! sorry, cant help comment on the dreaded question...guaranteed to make all men tremble! but, i agree, she has to ask. otherwise, she's on the losing end...unless she's enjoying it.

Yeah, I saw it done in the movie. After seeing how the girl said that phrase, it was both funny and really scary at the same time... but it's true that men dread this. Haha

[xxcheiyexx]

^kaya nga parang ayoko rin itanong haha. Gusto ko sya magtanong sakin kung ano na ba kami.

^^ilang beses na rin kasi nangyari. Ngayon, parang nagiging routine na nga eh every time magkita kami parang expectation naming pareho we'll make out. Ayoko maging routine yun kaya gusto ko sana stop ng hindi nya mahahalata. By the way, we do it sa car lang.

[jtansanco]

^ Masyado kang under sa kanya so there's no way he'll ask you unless maybe you stop making out with him. Malay mo, humirit siya: "Bakit ayaw mo magpakiss? Girlfriend naman kita ah.." YIHEEEEE!
But then again, it's better if ikaw magtanong. Haha

[simang]

^hahaha benta. there's really such a thing as too much cheesy movies lol but speaking from experience, ganyan nangyare sa amin ng current partner ko, although clear sa amin na exclusive kami, kinilig pa din ako nung pinapakilala nya ko as girlfriend

^^hmm people are obsessed with labels, based on experience kase when a guy likes you, di ka makoconfuse as to what his motives (eg make you his girlfriend, or purely making out lang). he will let you know one way or another. if you really want to know maybe you can tell him, 'hey i really enjoy our time together, and our making out, so confirm ko lang, boyfriend ba kita?' lol or yeah you can stop giving him the benefits of having a girlfriend if he doesn't affirm you as such. so yes maybe you can stop making out with him.

also, you have to be clear na he's not seeing someone else din. based sa kwento mo kase he made it clear na you can't go out with other guys, so maybe you can require him to not see other girls as well or at least just be clear about it.

[telekikay]

hindi magtatanong ang lalaki about sa status ninyong dalawa specially if the situation is in his favor. imagine, no commitments but he can do anything he wants? being a girl, you will be in the losing end unless, gusto mo ginagawa mo. walang pinagkaiba yan ginagawa nyo sa fubu/fwb set up. yari ang unang ma in love. in most cases, i'll be it's not the guy. 

i agree with them, ASK THE DREADED QUESTION! lolz!

about exclusivity, hindi ko naiintindihan ito. exclusive kayo pero hindi kayo? pero if you ask the guy, sasabihin naman nya na hindi kayo and yet you make out and all.  way back, i was into this "exclusive" deal, and i was asked the dreaded question too. ang hirap sagutin ha! bwahahaha!

tama talaga sila...go ask the dreaded question!!!

[xxcheiyexx]

He's not seeing other girls din naman. Nung minsan naglunch sya with his officemate na girl, sakin ok lang yun. Pero sya sabi nya wag ko raw isipan ng masama kasi wala raw talaga yung iba nilang mga kasabay. Eh kapag tinanong ko nga sya na boyfriend ko ba sya or something baka sabihin niya depende sakin. Gusto ko naman sya maging bf pero di pa siguro ngayon. I enjoy being with him and making out with him pero kasi ayoko nga na parang automatic ganun.