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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #280 on: July 30, 2014, 09:04:14 am »
^true sis. I realized kase na the more i let him have his time by himself (matulog maaga, spend time with his friends, maglaro ng clash of clans), the more na gusto nya ko makita sooner, as in bawing bawi talaga. So i'd rather have that kesa naman magtantrums ako at makuha ko ng gusto ko right then and there (e.g. mag usap kami ng matagal) pero in his head he resents me naman for being pushy and childish. I might push him away more if i do that. It makes him more appreciative of what I do. And when he's happy, the more na gusto nya akong pasayahin and spend more time with me. Siguro depende din sa guy pero that works for us. We seldom argue, as in. Siguro partly because i just let the small things go. Never ko ginawang issue ang di pagtext ng good morning, ang pag inom nya with friends, etc. i let him do his thing, then i'll find stuff to do as well on my own. That way parehas kaming busy with our own lives so when we see each other, mas intense yung pagkamiss namin sa isat isa.

killbill

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #281 on: July 30, 2014, 10:08:32 am »
^ ganyan ako before sis pero this past few weeks hindi ko alam kung bakit inarte mode ako. Thanks again

Miss.Pancake

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #282 on: July 30, 2014, 11:16:23 am »
^true sis. I realized kase na the more i let him have his time by himself (matulog maaga, spend time with his friends, maglaro ng clash of clans), the more na gusto nya ko makita sooner, as in bawing bawi talaga. So i'd rather have that kesa naman magtantrums ako at makuha ko ng gusto ko right then and there (e.g. mag usap kami ng matagal) pero in his head he resents me naman for being pushy and childish. I might push him away more if i do that. It makes him more appreciative of what I do. And when he's happy, the more na gusto nya akong pasayahin and spend more time with me. Siguro depende din sa guy pero that works for us. We seldom argue, as in. Siguro partly because i just let the small things go. Never ko ginawang issue ang di pagtext ng good morning, ang pag inom nya with friends, etc. i let him do his thing, then i'll find stuff to do as well on my own. That way parehas kaming busy with our own lives so when we see each other, mas intense yung pagkamiss namin sa isat isa.

this is so true. this also happens to me. Pag nasa boys night out si boylet tapos hindi ko siya ginugulo, mas may initiative siyang mag update sakin kung nasan siya or ano na ginagawa niya tapos kinabukasan super bait niya sakin. Kesa yun tanong ako ng tanong kung nasan siya, minsan hindi nya ko nirereplyan. haha.

Guys get burnedout talaga pag clingy tayong girls. hehe. Tsaka ayaw na ayaw talaga nila ng tantrums. Well, ako i'm working on my tantrums. May mga times kasi talaga na hindi ko mapigilan yun tantrums ko. Maybe because it's hormonal. Part na ng system ng PMS ko. hehe
« Last Edit: July 30, 2014, 11:59:43 am by Miss.Pancake »

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #283 on: July 30, 2014, 11:26:04 am »
^ako din, mas oa ang pagiging clingy ko pag nagppms. Tas ang sobrang sensitive ko, pati small issues eh dinadramahan ko. Kaya noon ang joke lagi ng mga friends ko, basta red flag ako, break kami. hehe

Miss.Pancake

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #284 on: July 30, 2014, 12:00:59 pm »
^Ganyan din kami. Pag malapit na ko magkaron o pag meron ako, War talaga kami. Pero super make up naman after that tapos safe pa. Kaya bawing bawi rin. hehe

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #285 on: July 30, 2014, 12:44:39 pm »
@elliekylie69

what I mean is, wag na dapat mafeel ng mga babae na unfair... na ang mga babae willing tanggapin ang mga lalake despite physical flaws basta they get along well or mabuti ang character ng lalake pero ang guys hindi, kasi may mga lalake rin na willing tanggapin ang character flaws ng babae basta maganda itsura ni girlaloo. attraction is noy a choice, iba lang ang attractive sa girls and guys..the sooner we accept this, the easier our lives would be :)
malas mo na lang kung ang bait bait mong girl pero hindi lang type ng guys ang beauty mo :p

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #286 on: July 30, 2014, 12:53:17 pm »
pero mas madalas talaga sa couple yung pretty si girl, si guy so-so lang pero bawing bawi sa personality.

sa guys mostly, makikita kung di pretty si girl, atleast sexy. hehe

observation ko lang! peace. hehe

Girltalker2

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #287 on: July 30, 2014, 01:01:42 pm »
this is so true. this also happens to me. Pag nasa boys night out si boylet tapos hindi ko siya ginugulo, mas may initiative siyang mag update sakin kung nasan siya or ano na ginagawa niya tapos kinabukasan super bait niya sakin. Kesa yun tanong ako ng tanong kung nasan siya, minsan hindi nya ko nirereplyan. haha.

Guys get burnedout talaga pag clingy tayong girls. hehe. Tsaka ayaw na ayaw talaga nila ng tantrums. Well, ako i'm working on my tantrums. May mga times kasi talaga na hindi ko mapigilan yun tantrums ko. Maybe because it's hormonal. Part na ng system ng PMS ko. hehe

When you say tantrums?  Like what?

True nga, mas gusto syempre nila na naeenjoy din nila labas with friends.  Though I am happy to say sobrang madalang nga lumabas ang BF ko with friends these days. Dati madalas sya when we were just dating. 
Ang gawa ko nalang if ever he meets his friends, may sched din ako or I usually divert my attention to my things to do - ang dami kaya. Kapag may kelangan sya gawin, then I go for my things to do. Minsan di pako tapos, nakauwi na agad sya looking for me na.  :D


nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #288 on: July 30, 2014, 01:06:36 pm »
napansin ko rin yan, pag hindi ko siya kinukulit mas naguupdate siya at nageeffort bumawi. kaya lang talagang oa levels pagiging clingy ko, kinukulit ko pa rin. lalo if wala ako ginagawa. hehe

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may question ako.

ang closure ba sa isang relationship, is it as important to guys as it is for girls? or a guy can move on kahit walang formal breakup and he wouldnt care less kung formal nga yung hiwalayan or not so long as wala ng contact sa girl.

Miss.Pancake

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #289 on: July 30, 2014, 01:16:50 pm »
pero mas madalas talaga sa couple yung pretty si girl, si guy so-so lang pero bawing bawi sa personality.

sa guys mostly, makikita kung di pretty si girl, atleast sexy. hehe

observation ko lang! peace. hehe

Agree. samin ni fiance ganyan kami. Ask nga ng friends ko tsaka family and relatives ko kung bakit siya pinili ko. And nakita naman nila na mabait talaga yun fiance ko.  :)

Pero ngayon with my boylet, fair lang. kaso feeling ko mas pogi siya. hahaha. Nakaka insecure tuloy kasi girls do stare talaga sa kanya.

jtansanco

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #290 on: July 30, 2014, 01:21:47 pm »
Ano ba pwede naming gawin mga girls pag ang significant other eh nababawasan na ang effort / sweetness kasi busy sa work / hobby na hindi kami nagmumukhang nagger?

When he gets home, maghubad ka sa harap niya. Tell him: "Can't touch this until you become sweet again". That's all. XD Anyway, too sleepy.. Just go flirt with him again in your own way.

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #291 on: July 30, 2014, 02:17:05 pm »
^ sis pancake di lang ako yung naguluhan oh.. look! hehe

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #292 on: July 30, 2014, 02:34:53 pm »
@elliekylie

hahaha..yeah mas mareklamo nga ang girls. pero I don't blame girls (mostly average to below average ang looks) to complain kasi guys with average to below average looks really have it easier than them in the dating game. mas madali nga namang maging mabait or succesful kesa sa magmaintain ng figure at magpaganda :)
if it were the other way around, ewan ko lang [textspeak!] dumami pa ang human race :))

Girltalker2

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #293 on: July 30, 2014, 02:46:24 pm »

mas madali nga namang maging mabait or succesful kesa sa magmaintain ng figure at magpaganda :)


thanks bro for recognizing how difficult it is for women!


^ ganyan ako before sis pero this past few weeks hindi ko alam kung bakit inarte mode ako. Thanks again

Sometimes one can't help if you are expecting tapos only to end up disappointed.   Pinaka maganda kasi not to expect muna, then just let him call or ask you.  Of course iba na ang usapang kung "kayo" na talaga. Pero bago pa naging "kayo" make sure napag usapan na rin ninyo how often does he want to see you, or bahala na?  hehe

I understand wala pa kayong 1 yr ng BF mo, but I think it helps to think back again, why you look for his attention more than he is providing. Dahil nasanay ka sa first few months ninyo yung attention then biglang nagfade? Maybe it's time to talk it out with him - nicely.

In my case naman kasi when we started, baliktad. I did not set any expectations. So whenever he invites me, masaya ako.  Pero may times talaga na napapadalas na sobra ang yaya nya lumabas na meron nakong gagawin until one time he told me, ganito ba gusto mo kung tayo na?  Magkikita tayo minsan lang pag weekdays, tapos on a Saturday night, hindi tayo magkikita?  So there. I realized non negotiable pala for him na Fri night and Sat night kelangan kami magkita.  That is galing na sa kanya. Of course, I was happy to comply.






Girltalker2

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #294 on: July 30, 2014, 03:15:35 pm »

^ hi sis, ako muna sasagot ha... SHE SAYS hehe....

Got a couple of questions for the men (pero girls, do feel free to comment)  :D:

1. if you like a girl, how long does it usually take for you to tell the girl? aabot ba na 3-6 months? lets say, you're texting everyday and hanging out on a regular basis.

No, I don't think na kelangan umabot ng 3-6 months for the guy to figure it out to let the girl know. Kung umabot ganun katagal, ibig sabihin the guy cannot make up his mind, so may hesitation.

Though I believe there are a few exceptions naman na talagang torpe lang. Kaso kung torpe ang guy, I don't want to be with them. He has to be able to stand up with what he believes in. So kung like ka talaga nya, hindi dapat tumagal ng 1 month, 1 week lang nga dapat eh. hehe



2. yung age ba na 25-30 for guys, settling down stage na ba yan or parang exploring stage pa lang?

I think NO. exploring stage pa lang DAPAT.  If they commit this early on, I believe na puedeng maling partner mapili nila (napasubo nalang kasi) or since andyan na iyan eh, magpakasal nanga.

I would discourage any guy marrying at this age, kasi chances are hindi pa nila naiisip mabuti what marriage is all about.

But then again, there are exceptions parin. Pero I am just speaking generally, sa pov ko.




sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #295 on: July 30, 2014, 03:44:27 pm »
^ I've found success in striking while the iron is hot. this is usually within the first 2 weeks of knowing a girl, she should already know that you are interested in her..that way. 2 bagay kasi tinatandaan ko diyan

a) hesitation leads to masturbation (if you don't ask her out kaagad, somebody else will..and before you know it, they're already dating)
b) rejection is better than regret

some guys still prefer to go the old school route of being friends first, kaso I believe mas mataas chance mo ma friendzone kapag ganun especially kapag wala nang sexual tension (usually experienced kapag bagong kilala) between the two of you.

depende sa guy, kung sa tingin niya ready na niya magsettle down by age 25-30 then ready na siya, lot of factors involved like emotional maturity, financial etc. etc. age is hardly a factor anymore. I personally believe it is not in the best interest of a guy to get married before 35 since mid to late 30's ang peak ng lalake (prime of his life)

killbill

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Re: Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #296 on: July 30, 2014, 05:10:22 pm »
thanks bro for recognizing how difficult it is for women!


Sometimes one can't help if you are expecting tapos only to end up disappointed.   Pinaka maganda kasi not to expect muna, then just let him call or ask you.  Of course iba na ang usapang kung "kayo" na talaga. Pero bago pa naging "kayo" make sure napag usapan na rin ninyo how often does he want to see you, or bahala na?  hehe

I understand wala pa kayong 1 yr ng BF mo, but I think it helps to think back again, why you look for his attention more than he is providing. Dahil nasanay ka sa first few months ninyo yung attention then biglang nagfade? Maybe it's time to talk it out with him - nicely.

In my case naman kasi when we started, baliktad. I did not set any expectations. So whenever he invites me, masaya ako.  Pero may times talaga na napapadalas na sobra ang yaya nya lumabas na meron nakong gagawin until one time he told me, ganito ba gusto mo kung tayo na?  Magkikita tayo minsan lang pag weekdays, tapos on a Saturday night, hindi tayo magkikita?  So there. I realized non negotiable pala for him na Fri night and Sat night kelangan kami magkita.  That is galing na sa kanya. Of course, I was happy to comply.







I think ako yung may problem kasi before naman hindi naman ako ganun na praning, nag iinarte sa kanya. Kaso siguro nung naging busy sya with racing, yung usual fridate namin practice niya sa track. Tapos I had a minor operation kelangan muna ako mag rest from aerial silk and pole dancing classes so nabawasan ako ng pagkaka abalahan.

Noong isang gabi nag backread ako ng mga conversations namin i realized na ako nga tong umaarte ng sobra and nagiging needy tapos since Monday super busy naman ako sa work and nafefeel ko na siya naman tong palagi nagsasabi ng i miss you.

Next time I know na what to do thanks sis

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #297 on: July 30, 2014, 05:12:27 pm »
Hesitation leads to masturbation? HAHAHAHAHA PATOK AH!!!

sorry nakisingit, hahahaha
« Last Edit: July 30, 2014, 05:16:48 pm by nixiquita »

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #298 on: July 30, 2014, 07:59:20 pm »
@elliekylie

prime of his life. at 35++ a guy is old enough to have amassed enough life experience to be mature, establish a good career and had his share of women yet young enough to still be physically fit parang mga age ni piolo pascual or derek ramsay. usually kasi ng mga kilala kong nagpapakasal ng below 30 e either nakabuntis, napressure mag-asawa kasi almost 30 na si gf or mayaman ang pamilya nung guy bihira yung talagang ready na magpamilya or sawa na sa bachelor life kaya andaming cases ng infidelity (siyempre case to case basis parin) wala lang talaga akong makitang advantage para sa guy ng magasawa ng maaga except kung gusto mong medyo bata ka pa pagtanda ng mga anak mo, pero kung hindi mo pa naman kaya bumuhay ng pamilya ng maayos or you still don't have your sh*t together, hindi mo dapat muna iniisip pagpapakasal
« Last Edit: July 31, 2014, 01:01:42 pm by sacred cow »

killbill

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #299 on: July 30, 2014, 08:06:17 pm »


2. yung age ba na 25-30 for guys, settling down stage na ba yan or parang exploring stage pa lang?


Majority ng kakilala ko na kinasal na 30 and below either hiwalay na or kaya na lang nagsasama kasi dahil na lang sa mga anak. Yung iba naman aminado na medyo napapaisip na sana hindi muna nagpakasal.

 

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