Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[Miss.Pancake]

may question ako.

ang closure ba sa isang relationship, is it as important to guys as it is for girls? or a guy can move on kahit walang formal breakup and he wouldnt care less kung formal nga yung hiwalayan or not so long as wala ng contact sa girl.

Sis, i think sa case mo he clearly told you na parang gusto na niya ng break up So i don't think it's him not having closure. Baka sis umaasa ka lang. Sabi sayo pahamak yang hope na yan e. hehe.

Pero not sure with the boys in general. Sa boylet ko ganun siya, kaya niya mag move on ng walang closure. Sa boys kasi ayaw nila ng paligoy ligoy din. Sabi nga nila dalawa lang ang switch ng boys. So pag di na nag uusap, wala na. Experience ko lang yun. Iba iba din e. Di ba sa isang post may nagsabi na 3 weeks silang hindi nag uusap pero sila parin naman.

[Miss.Pancake]

^ sis clarify ko lang. so you're presently engaged now to your fiance? and you also have a boylet? or are they the same person? 

^ sis pancake di lang ako yung naguluhan oh.. look! hehe

Yup may EX fiance ako and may boylet ako. Two different persons. I used to be engaged pero after he found out i'm cheating on him, he broke up with me.

[nixiquita]

^Onga mukhang ako lang ang hopia. Naku. Pero sabagay kinaya ko naman ng walang communication ng 3wks, push ko pa to hanggang di ko na siya maaalala pa

[simang]

May mga times kasi talaga na hindi ko mapigilan yun tantrums ko. Maybe because it's hormonal. Part na ng system ng PMS ko. hehe

well ako siguro nga motto ko na sa buhay na I am/I should be stronger than my hormones. Or pag naiinis ako on small things just because i'm on PMS mode, sinasabi ko "hormones ka lang! i'm <insertmynamehere>" hahaha it works for me, i don't get bitchy (a lot) even if it's my time of the month. siguro part na din na di talaga masyado mabarkada bf ko (sa aming dalawa ako yung mas mabarkada) kaya whenever he's out with his friends, i just let him be since di din naman nya ako binabawalan pag ako ang lumalabas, and believe ako ang mas madalas lumabas without him

1. if you like a girl, how long does it usually take for you to tell the girl? aabot ba na 3-6 months? lets say, you're texting everyday and hanging out on a regular basis.

i learned that a guy who genuinely likes a girl will not take long to let the girl know. no one is too torpe if he's really really attracted to you. kaya yung mga lalaking nagaantay ng ganyan katagal bago magparamdam, sila yung hindi pa decided whether they really want to pursue you.

with my bf and i, unang araw na nagkakilala he was sending clear signals that he likes me, and i was reciprocating since gusto ko din naman sya. one week of constant texting and flirting it was clear to us that we were exclusive. not that we imposed that we should stop seeing other people, it's just that the attraction is so strong that we had to stop seeing other people to see if the thing we have will work.

I think ako yung may problem kasi before naman hindi naman ako ganun na praning, nag iinarte sa kanya. Kaso siguro nung naging busy sya with racing, yung usual fridate namin practice niya sa track. Tapos I had a minor operation kelangan muna ako mag rest from aerial silk and pole dancing classes so nabawasan ako ng pagkaka abalahan.

Noong isang gabi nag backread ako ng mga conversations namin i realized na ako nga tong umaarte ng sobra and nagiging needy tapos since Monday super busy naman ako sa work and nafefeel ko na siya naman tong palagi nagsasabi ng i miss you.

Sis killbill, just focus on the good stuff. Buti nga passionate sa hobby nya ang bf mo, mas gugustuhin mo ba to be with someone who doesn't have anything else to get busy with? Ako I don't. Gusto ko may sarili kaming buhay outside of the relationship. Live you own din, while he's living his. Mas mag eexpand ang experiences nyo both, then mas marami kayo mapapagusapan, mas magiging malalim ang relattionship. Everything will be okay

[jtansanco]

Got a couple of questions for the men (pero girls, do feel free to comment)  :

1. if you like a girl, how long does it usually take for you to tell the girl? aabot ba na 3-6 months? lets say, you're texting everyday and hanging out on a regular basis.

2. yung age ba na 25-30 for guys, settling down stage na ba yan or parang exploring stage pa lang?

1 - I think 3-6 months should be right. That way, guy could "reflect" if it's infatuation or not. Guys have a bad habit of telling their feelings to early. That was my worst habit.

2 - I once thought 27-30 is the best time but now that i'm 26, i don't think so. We're about 300 in my HS batch and I think only less than 5 of us have gotten married. I guess we're more concerned about enjoying our lives now until we sacrifice our personal happiness for the sake of our potential mate and kids. Settling probably starts at 30 in my opinion.

[simang]

I guess we're more concerned about enjoying our lives now until we sacrifice our personal happiness for the sake of our potential mate and kids. Settling probably starts at 30 in my opinion.

So do really guys think that settling down is 'sacrificing their own happiness'? Is there ever a married man who's genuinely happy about being married? Kadalasan kase what I hear pag ikakasal na, especially ang lalaki, is that magbabago na totally ang buhay nya, at wala ng atrasan as if being married is actually a trap. Does it really feel that way for guys?

[jtansanco]

^ I'll never know until I get married but those who are married in the 30-45ish range tell me to always enjoy my single life. But those who are a lot older than that seemed to be happy already. I'm guessing the "hell" part is when you have to take care of the "babies". Expenses, sleepless nights, not enough time with friends are perhaps some reasons. Of course, that's normal because you're so used to being single for 20-30 years that it will take time to adjust once you've begun your commitments.

All guys will be happy in their married life. It's the negative experiences that gets magnified a thousand times because we always talk about "problems" and not the "milestones" in our lives.

[Pink_Sugar]

^hindi ko pa yan na experience na ako mismo ang murahin ni bf sa 11 yrs, baka pag minura ako eh magulat ako at mawala ang love ko bigla. Lol

[Pink_Sugar]

^nung una pa lang kasi sis sinabi ko na sa kanya na ayaw kong mumurahin ako. Kasi hindi ko gagawain mag sabi ng bad words lalo na dito sa bahay namin, nakalakihan ba, kasi pag narinig ni mother na nagmura eh kuyumos ang bibig talaga.

[Pink_Sugar]

Pero pag galit ako, ako yung nakakapag mura basta wala sa bahay namin. Haha

[Pink_Sugar]

Pag like nyo ba ang isang girl eh pinag papantasyahan nyo rin?

[jtansanco]

^ If I'm really 26...? LOL. If it's a 3rd person POV, it's easy to tell how things are. But if it were happen to me, I'll be a wreck just like everyone else. XD But appreciate the compliment though. 

[Girltalker2]

"minumura" nyo ba gf nyo? may mga expression ba kayo gaya ng "*p*t*ng in**" , "sh* naman!" na nasasabi nyo sa gf nyo kahit in a pabiro way lang? and sa mga girls, what if ginaganon kayo ng bf nyo, ok lang sa inyo?

hindi. ayoko ng barumbado. kahit expression lang.
hindi kasi ako palamura kahit sobrang galit ako, so I expect my partner to be the same. Though I must admit, minsan sarcastic ako magsalita lalo na pag galit ako, talagang tatama sayo hehe  Pero hindi mura. Iba yun.

[Miss.Pancake]

^ako namumura ako pag nag aaway kami. Pero expression lang hindi yun talagang directly sakin. Tapos niloloko ko nalang, "Galit ka? Kasi nagmumura ka e." kahit nagsasagutan na kami. Ayon matatawa nalang siya. Minsan kasi napapamura lang sila dahil nacacarried away lang sila sa away pero pag nahimasmasan hindi naman talaga nila yun sinasadya. Mostly kasi ng mga naging boys ko mainitin ulo. Kaya medyo sanay na ko ihandle yun mga ganun.

[Miss.Pancake]

wow sis, how brave of you to admit this. looks like naka-move on ka na. 

Sis, hindi naman sa nakamove on na ko. Syempre ginawa gawa ko yun tapos idedeny ko. Hindi ko ikinakahiya yun mistake ko pero hindi rin naman ako proud. Pag may nagtanong lang. hehe

[VainDoll]

Di pa ko namumura ni bf. Ako pa lang ata once nung nagaway kami.

[sacred cow]

hindi ko minumura gf ko, napagtataasan lang ng boses kapag naiinis or galit. siya namura na ko minsan ng pabiro nung binuhat ko siya sa parking lot..nahihiya kasi siya baka may makakita

[natlevi]

Hi po. May tanong lang po. Ano po ibig sabihin kapag nagppicture taking e yung guy inaakbayan si girl? Yung kamay sa balikat? Ibig sabihin po ba nun gusto ni guy si girl or friendly lang yun?
Salamat.

[sacred cow]

@natlevi

I won't give it any meaning kasi ako kapag nagpapa picture sa babae either nakaakbay ako or malapit talaga, kasi any other way is awkward talaga..search mo sa google images ang 'hovering hand' and tell me na hindi mukhang loser yung guy sa pics. kahit yung tipong naka lean yung upper body pero naiiwan yung lower body, reeks so much of 'beta' body language. tingnan mo mga artista kapag nagpapapicture ang fan na babae, nakaakbay sila pero hindi mo naman iisipin na may gusto sila sa girl diba, same logic din lang

[natlevi]

@natlevi

I won't give it any meaning kasi ako kapag nagpapa picture sa babae either nakaakbay ako or malapit talaga, kasi any other way is awkward talaga..search mo sa google images ang 'hovering hand' and tell me na hindi mukhang loser yung guy sa pics. kahit yung tipong naka lean yung upper body pero naiiwan yung lower body, reeks so much of 'beta' body language. tingnan mo mga artista kapag nagpapapicture ang fan na babae, nakaakbay sila pero hindi mo naman iisipin na may gusto sila sa girl diba, same logic din lang

Thanks sacred crow. Nalalabuan lang kasi ako, hindi naman sya ganun sa ibang babae. Sa iilang friends lang.

May nakita kasi akong pic ng ex ko e tapos naka-akbay sya dun sa girl. Group pic naman po pero hindi ko mapigilang masaktan. Alam kong wala naman na ko karapatan pero hindi talaga maiwasan. Friends kami bago maging kami talaga pero hindi sya ganun saken, ramdam ko na naiilang syang akbayan ako kapag magpapapicture kami.

Mas strong indication ba na may gusto ang isang lalaki kapag medyo nahihiya sya kaysa dun sa hindi naiilang at ma-touchy?